I've been friends with this guy for a while...and yes, I've developed feelings for him. Up until this one instant, whenever I say "I love you, ______" (and usually I say this in a joking manner) he always responds with a smile and says "I know." Well, one time I said my usual and this time he smiled and said "I love you, too." To give you an idea of how unusual this is, everybody in the classroom froze and stared in surprise when he said that. Here's the thing: his friends and my friends say that we've been dancing around each other for way too long but we're not 'forward' enough to get out of friend zone and into relationship zone. So please help me, 4-ch...what does this mean or am I just deluding myself?
Just kiss him.
Umm...okay. But should I? I've never kissed anyone or been kissed; also, I feel like I'd be forcing myself on him.
If you really like him you should just take him aside and talk to him seriously, and ask him how he really feels about you. Or if you are a more active person and know he has no girlfriends or whatever,you should then try kissing him and seeing what happens. I personally, if i liked a girl would tell her and ask her to be my girlfriend or something, but I really would like to know if a girl who was my friend wanted to be my girlfriend(that was lame).
Okay...here's an update. I'm so chicken that I couldn't get into a frank conversation about us, but we did have a serious talk about high school relationships. We were talking about/plotting to help our mutual friends until it led to the topic of our particular situations. I told him that I technically am not allowed to date until I graduate from college, but my mom is more understanding about guy/girl situations in high school. (If you couldn't tell already, I'm Asian.) So, in essence, I can't "date" but my mom would smooth things over with my dad if I "hung out" with a guy friend for prom/homecoming or at a group study date. In his case, he said that he's probably going to have an arranged marriage (he's also Asian but another type) so there is no point in dating during high school. He also said that high school romances are usually just hormonal flings and aren't likely to last (and I agree with him), but he admits that there are some very rare exceptions. Knowing this, there are really no positive points in dating for him; but (and he emphasized this) if he were tempted, he still wouldn't because it would hurt the girl he'd be involved with since they can't be together in the end.
I guess there is no chance, but I wish I knew if he liked me. I'm okay if things won't work between us because of these circumstances, but I would hate to think that my "attraction" radar is non-functioning. I guess I'm just saying that if a relationship can't happen, at least tell me that the attraction is mutual so that I won't feel like such a loser. I would like to think that he was thinking of me when he said that last portion...but since I'm not him and I don't know how guys think, I'm just running on my assumptions.
Well, if you have any closing thoughts, please share 4-ch...and thanks for reading, so far.
Unless he's really shy/conservative or something, I think if he liked you he would make it clear that was the case. In this day and age people aren't shy about these things.
I don't think its a bad idea to date in high school or college. Dating after college is highly likely to end up in your lack of experience being exploited.
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