I'm 24 years old male, graduated college late last year, got a job in marketing. But lately I've been having this feeling that I don't know what to do and where to go with my life. People always told me that that I need to get a steady job, save money, get married, and be happy. But honestly, that sounds stupid. I want to do more with my life but sometimes the people around me just don't understands that and try to dictate yhe choices in my life. It's depressing...
Live in a camper and do the bare minimum to keep from losing your camper to tax collectors. This will provide you with no family, and remove the necessity of a steady job and in all probability saving money and then you can spend the rest of your time being happy.
What did you go to college for anyway?
gaynus
I didn't find my passion until I was nearly 30, OP. Keep trying new things.
What did you find?
Civic activism through my labor union. The job is enjoyable enough (spot repair), but since joining the Civic and Legislative Action committee I regularly meet with elected officials and engage with coworkers on issues that relate to middle class values. Before all of that, I was very much an introvert. Challenging myself to be more social was rewarding, and this past year I ran for and won an executive board position within my local.
It's nice to know that if I were to be laid off next week, I could quickly find work as a community organizer through the many contacts I've made. It would be a significant pay cut, that's why I still have my current job.
It's really the root of every lifestyle change I've made since. Tried several sports, played much less vidya in exchange for other pursuits, etc.
I have a somewhat similar dilemma, OP. No one is trying to dictate anything for me, thankfully, but I still don't know what to do with myself. I'm 25 and have been a shut-in NEET for most of the past 10 years. I've been told that I just need to keep trying, to pursue my dreams and strive for what I want, to go out and 'experience the world' or whatever, but what does any of that even mean? What if you have no achievable dreams? What if the only thing you want 50% of the time is something impossible, and the other 50% of the time you just want to not exist at all? What if you have no strong interests or realistic desires? Nothing in this world is truly enjoyable for me. There are a few things that aren't too painful that I can kind of do for a little while, but the moment I stop doing them I never want to again, as they're too much effort to bother with and not enough reward. Everything is so difficult for me. Even if they require only the tiniest bit of energy to do, that's still too much. I have almost no energy to spend to begin with, and on top of that, the time I would spend doing whatever pseudo-enjoyable thing I might be doing could be spent daydreaming about something I actually want, or escaping reality in some other fashion.
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The "pursue your dreams" stuff sounds inspirational and all, but I think it's bullshit.
Start small. If you can set aside fifteen minutes a day to do accomplish something, that's the best place to begin. Maybe today you finally clean your room. Perhaps tomorrow you can take a fifteen minute walk. The day after write your daydreams in a journal. Keep spending 15 minutes a day for a month doing anything that can give you reprieve from yourself. If after a month you still feel just as deeply troubled, you may want to talk to someone...
Good luck >>1 and >>7. Please come back every so often and tell us how it's going