Put it another way: I'm a male, my preferred sexual partner is other males. I won't try to hide that, but neither is it the ALL ENCOMPASSING CORE of my personality and worldview. It's just one of many things that make me "me", but for some people it feels like that's all there is to them. It feels like that for a lot of straight people too, we just don't think of it in those terms. Being overly obsessed with sex in general, where to have it, who to have it with, etc etc is just another symptom of the poison of modernity.