>Abstinence until marriage doesn't make sense. If you love somebody deep from your heart, you want to give them the greatest pleasure you can.
And yet you wouldn't marry them if you loved them that much?
>Waiting until marriage just makes the tension build up.
Well, if you read my post I said not necessarily after marriage, but at least willing to marry. Like... planning to.
(I wonder if you were talking about sexual tension there, lol)
>Sex is important in a relationship, but it's not the meaning of life.
I didn't say it was the meaning of life. I said (or rather, repeated what I often hear) that it was the highest form of intimacy between two (or more, lol) people. Therefore, the only way you can assume I called sex "the meaning of life" is if you think the meaning of life is to get to the highest form of intimacy with someone else... in which case, I feel sorry for you.
>And sexual incompatibility will often lead to cheating and/or divorce.
I need source information for this statement, from professional sources.
By the way, you said just said sex wasn't "the meaning of life" and, but then you implicate that it's necessary for relationships. I guess this means you're saying that relationships aren't necessarily that important either. In which case, I guess I agree with you. :p
>And nobody suffers more from a divorce than the kid they have.
Red Herringn, irrelevant emotional appeal.
Who here mentioned kids? 1. We would have to assume your prior statement was correct and that "sexual incompatibility" exists to even consider this one. 2. And also that "sexual incompatibility" is enough of a trouble that people have to divorce over it. 3. If that was the case, you don't have to have kids as soon as you have sex... and if you did, seems like "the kid they have" would have more porblems if you wern't married.
>So one should choose their mate very carefully and that involves compatibility in sex too.
HEY MISS, LET'S HAVE SEX. BECAUSE I MUST TRY MY PARTNERS OUT SEXUALLY BEFORE I ACCEPT THEM AS A POSSIBLE PARTNER, BECAUSE IF THEY AREN'T SEXUALLY COMPATIBLE WITH ME IT JUST WON'T WORK OUT. DURR.. DURR..
..Just kidding there.
>Anyway, marriage is not just a question of love.
That's your opinion, but I understand you. I mean what if your parents forced you to marry some random woman you didn't like for business reasons? Or you just needed to quickly become a US citizen? I suppose you would need women on the side.
>(Note: this is just what I believe, though. Some people do it for fun all the time, which is fine for them.)