I can't stop thinking about this damn girl. I hardly even talk to her, I mean, I don't go out of my way to do so because I don't want to turn her off of me being potential boyfriend material. She's 19, and out of highschool, while I'm 17 and a Junior. I met her on Myspace originally because she saw me on a mutual friends top 8 or whatever. She noticed that we had similar interests, like the books we read, and that I played World of Warcraft while at my brother's house. Anyway, I hang out with her probably on average of once every week and a half.
She plays a lot of video games, and I used to not, but now, I do all the time. She listens to excellent music and watches awesome movies, most of which I've either seen and enjoyed, or am eagerly looking forward to seeing. And it's not obsessive, it's kind of a casual crush. While I said I can't stop thinking about her, I mean when I'm not thinking about anything else in particular. If that makes sense.
I also recently found out from our mutual friend that she's knitting me and him a scarf, but she hadn't told me about it. So I'm thinking that she wants to be secretive about it, like it's a surprise. I've had these stupid little fantasies that she would pull the scarf out from behind her back, throw it around my neck and, like, pull me in for a kiss or something. I dunno. Just the thoughts I have.
I guess what I'm trying to ask is, do I have a chance? Should I just get it over with and ask her out? And what do we do, should I bring some zombie movies (we both love zombies) to her or my house to set the mood? Or maybe a walk downtown? I feel like I'm being an idiot about the whole thing, mainly because I don't want her to think I'm some immature high schooler with a crush. I really see something in this girl, she's so herself that it took me by surprise when I first met her. I don't know, I guess I just need some level headed ideas here. Thanks.
You can ask her out! I do believe you have a chance! She is knitting you a scarf after all! And it was supposed to be a surprise, right?
You should try asking her out! :)
Go for it!!
Okay, but... Uh... how should I go about doing that? What kind of thing thing would a punk rock listening, zombie movie watching, video game playing girl like to do on a date? A first date in a small town no less.
Go out for dinner, then a walk or movie/video games at your house.
Play video games! Goto an arcade or something (and eat of course). Do something fun that's related to both your interests! Also this way it will be pretty easy to break the ice and whatnot since you will be playing/doing something and it won't get awkward at all. It's almost the perfect situation! You can do it! Keep us updated.
Actually, to come to think about it, every man has a chance with an every woman.
Simply that you are having a greater chance of success :P
>>6 is right!! You both share the same interests too so it probably wont be difficult on both your sides! And by doing so, I guess you can get to know her more~!
That sounds about right. I'd probably do the arcade thing for a bit (similar interests), then do something less casual, more romantic. For example, dinner at a nice restaurant, or you could walk around chatting a bit in the city, then later, arbitraily give her something that catches your eye (that she might like). It's a little odd, and it adds an element of randomness to a date. However, with timing, the date can become more interesting. Just show how much fun you are, and look for the moments you can make a memorable, you know? Also, ask her a few questions about herself. Get to learn more about her interests and maybe her family (though you got to phrase the latter well, or it may come off weird). For example, try something like this:
"Now that we are together like this, (name), I'd like to get to know you better. Do you think you could tell me a little about yourself?"
She then might ask...
"About what?"
And that simply falls into your choice.
"Anything you feel comftorable talking about"
Just let her take that sentence anyway she pleases. If she wants to talk about her family, sure. If she talks about... her favorite childhood hero, uh, fine. Frankly, all you should really be doing is having fun. I think that's the most important thing about dates.
If she asks "About what?" just tell her "Like interest, hobbies, etc."
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he'd feel a bit stupid if she then says "video games and knitting", since he already knew that
He is not suppose to know that she can knit. When she does tell him he could ask, "why did you decide to knit?"
Maybe you can ask her to teach you to knit. That way you can spend some time together and may find a new found love for the craft.
Actually, I had already known that she knitted. She had told me about it one time, I can't remember the exact circumstances. And I already know a little about her family (I met her brother before I met her, he's in my grade), and that she plays a lot of video games. I mean, I guess I had left this out earlier, but I've been to her house a couple times before with our mutual friend (she still lives with her family), and she had gone trick-or-treating with me, Mutual, and a few other friends, We pretty much stayed behind and talked to each other the whole time. And also hanging out on various other occasions, but we were never alone except for one time when I had walked her home from her work, and once when we were just playing video games together. So we're pretty much already friends, and she is such a good friend to everybody that making a scarf for a FRIEND wouldn't be anything new. I think Mutual already knows I like her. And since we're already friends, I mainly don't want to lose that by asking her out.
I dunno, she called last night, but I was out of town at a hockey game and told her I'd call her back. I've tried twice, but she hasn't picked up. Should I have just made a move one of those two times when we had been together with no other friends?
All hope is not lost yet. Next time and I mean next time ask her out. No excuses. If she is with a group of people, pull her to the side and ask her out. If you wait too long you won't have a chance.
> I dunno, she called last night, but I was out of town at a hockey game and told her I'd call her back. I've tried twice, but she hasn't picked up.
Keep trying!