I'm pretty much a similar situation, except the gender roles are reversed and he's five years older.

See, pretty much everything you wrote in the 2nd post is relevant to my situation, except we can't communicate effectively without using one of our friends as a medium. Ridiculous right?
And my strange situation has gone into its second year now.

The thing is, although I was driven insane for a good year without seeing him, I still kept my life going. I kept regular things going, uni carried on, I tried dating (even though I wasn't attracted to the guys...and it felt like a waste of time).

I think what helped me most was having good friends to keep life rotating. I haven't forgotten about the guy in China, in fact we still chat online a few times a month and he'll drop me calls to let me know he's missing me.
Even though it can never work between us (unless one of us accelerates in the other's language) we both seemed tied together. He'll still tell me the most romantic things and hurt my heart with how much he still loves me. It's useless though in our situation isn’t it?

And to be honest... I don't think I love him as fervently as I used to.

Hopefully it won't take you two years, but in time... you will find that you’re moving on. And while that moving on part in being put into motion, keep your social life as full as you can too, or just make sure you have someone to turn to in moments of madness or loneliness.

Sorry about the long ass post, hope this helped somewhat :)