a funny thing i read in the txting section of one of the London papers, some woman text in saying "90% of men mistake friendliness for flirtiness" (obv made up statistic), next day a bloke text in "90% of women mistake flirtiness for friendliness".. i thought it was pretty funny, and quite true. i think its because men arent friendly to each other in the same way that women are friendly. women will compliment their female and male friends as though they were all female. men generally dont compliment other men and only really compliment women as its showing a (sexual/relationship) interest. so when a woman is nice to a man they think of it as being niceness with a flirty agenda because it is an unusual occurance for them. and yeah it works the other way round - women are used to compliments from their friends so may not realise what a big thing it is for a man to compliment a woman.