My brother just confessed to me that he's in love with me, what do i do? (140)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-01 04:14 ID:v+1s0KIV

My brother confessed to me yesturday that he has been in love with me romantically all throughout highschool (He's a senior right now and i'm a junior). This was a shock to me because, well obviously, he's my brother. It kind of makes me feel all dirty that he loves me in that way even though i never did anything to make him love me except be a really good sister to him. I really love him, as a brother, so i don't know what to do. He's been a really good brother, very protective of me, kind of extremely so (now that i think about it maybe i'm mistaking his protectiveness towards me whenever guys are involved with jealousy). I basically told my brother that i was shocked and that i didn't know what to say to him. He told me i didn't have to say anything and that he doesn't expect me to love him like that in return. So i don't know. What should i do because i don't want things to be awkward for us, even though he reassured me that it wouldn't. It's not like a crush either but he says he's in love with me. He's rejected a lot of girls throughout highschool and now i learn that it's because of me! I dont' know how to act around him now, do i just act like nothing has happened or do i address the issue and tell him nothing can come of this because he's my brother? The thing is, if he wasn't my brother i would date him because he's really handsome and he cares for me a lot and would make the perfect boyfriend i think.

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103 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-19 21:19 ID:3+EHKodM

OP >> i recommend u to see "dreamers" a bernardo bertolucci film about two siblings in love in 1959 Paris, is based in a true story and the end, IMHO is very typical in this type of infatuations.

104 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-21 11:00 ID:Heaven

while we're talking reading material, "flowers in the attic", virginia andrews.

105 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-21 17:36 ID:7DU08zwo

>>104 Is gay.

106 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-03 22:20 ID:4sShKo9s

hey fuck him itl make it all easier trust me

107 Name: Touch of Ink. : 2007-06-03 23:51 ID:AD9jWEtL

Heh. Play some Hentai games where the main character gets to screw his sister. It always has a happy ending.

Seriously speaking, that's just... That's harsh. You got to go with how you feel. I wonder who you are now that I've read your story. Hit me up on AIM Y!M or MSN. --> " rpencounter "

108 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-04 00:27 ID:pieXR2zs

Dear >>1-san,

Their is only one thing to do..... Kill your brother and feed him to the local hobos

109 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-04 15:39 ID:Heaven

stop responding to trolls, this is the cancer that is killing 4-ch

110 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-05 05:01 ID:v+1s0KIV

Hey guys, i'm back. I've just been enjoying summer vacation. It feels so good to not have anything to do! hehe I'm here to update on what's been going on with my brother. We've been hanging out together a LOT, more like all day and every day. Also, we've been more touchy feely with each other lately, and no that doesn't mean we've been kissing or doing anything like that. We've just been more free with each other as far as hugging and holding hands goes. I don't know...do you guys think this is weird? It seems like pretty innocent stuff, but i'm always afraid we might slip and go further than that.

>>98 Ahh, what you say is what i've been worried about. I love spending time with my brother but lately we've been inseparable and like you said, it might not be healthy to do that. We both have our own friends but since school ended we've just been hanging out with each other. It's not like i don't want to hang out with my friends it's just that i prefer to spend time with my brother and i guess it's likewise for him. Plus, like, he just assumes that i'll be spending my day with him. My friends are already thinking something is weird b/c they keep calling me and asking me why i've been avoiding them, when i haven't been, at least not intentionally.

Also, i think our parents suspect something b/c just last night my mom was asking us why we never hang out with our friends anymore.

And yes, i like anime. Could you tell me what anime that is? Maybe it can help me. Omg, turning to anime for advice! That's so pathetic! >_<

>>103 What happens in the end?

111 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-05 11:32 ID:Heaven

>>110 nothing good will come outta this.

112 Name: Touch of Ink. : 2007-06-05 14:42 ID:AD9jWEtL

>>110
Duh, that's what Japanese Manga is for. They have a Manga for EVERY SINGLE RELATIONSHIP SITUATION POSSIBLE.

113 Name: Touch of Ink. : 2007-06-05 14:45 ID:AD9jWEtL

>>112
Your brother is in Love with you? Tons of Manga

You want to sleep with your Father but are afraid of what your Step Mother will think? Several Manga

You want to dress your little cousin in Girl's clothing and have a Lesbionic Relationship with him? Sure.

Your stuffed animal becomes conscious and tells you you have to save the world from some Evil, and this mysterious man who aids you won't even give you a second glance at your workplace at Dennys? You can't walk through a manga aisle without seeing that.

114 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-05 15:17 ID:Heaven

>>110
fucking kill yourself

115 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-05 15:30 ID:Heaven

I don't know if this is all real or not (every time the OP posts, it seems more and more fake...) but I'll tell you a true story, OP.

One of my best friends admitted to me that she and her cousin dated for 4 years secretly, from age 12-15, I think it was. No one suspected them. No one ever caught them. So what went wrong? Guilt. They both felt horrible guilt every time they were together. When their relationship became sexual, the guilt was even worse. They both cared for each other, but eventually the feelings of guilt and dirtyness overtook that. Now they avoid going to family reunions and parties because they don't want to see each other because it reminds them of their "sins".

And that's just her cousin. Imagine how disgusting YOU would eventually feel...with your BROTHER! You're already on a slippery slope just by holding hands at your ages. Don't ruin your life or your brother-sister relationship with your brother. Find a guy OUTSIDE the family.

116 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-05 15:48 ID:feK1TlNc

>>115

Words of wisdom.

>>110

Poop

117 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-05 16:14 ID:RTS66tg2

Lame troll is lame. GTFO.

118 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-05 16:15 ID:RTS66tg2

Lame troll is lame. GTFO.

119 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-05 20:48 ID:v+1s0KIV

What the hell??! I'm not a fuckin troll!! How hard is this to believe?? Do i sound like a troll? If i were a troll, i'd go around posting "eat my poop" or some stupid shit like that. Just because someone has an unusual problem (that is considered taboo) doesn't mean you can just disregard them as a liar and a troll. I knew i should've just disguised this problem as me falling in love with my best friend or something. Whatever. I'm not going to post here anymore b/c i'm sick of being called a troll and someone telling me to fucking kill myself is the last straw. So i will GTFO as you requested.

120 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-05 21:13 ID:v+1s0KIV

>>115 Okay, i know i said i'd GTFO but whatever, I feel like replying to yours.

Yes, what happened to your friend seems like a really realistic ending to these types of situations. These days i feel guilt just for spending time with my brother. We are doing nothing wrong and I STILL feel guilt! It's because i know that i'm falling for him more and more each day. SO i can see your friend's ending as being totally realistic if i do end up pursuing a relationship with my brother.

FInd a guy OUTSIDE the family, haha that's funny. It sounds like you were expecting me to go after my cousins next or something. Yes, i know i should find a guy outside the family but that's a lot easier said than done. Have you ever tried to date someone when you love someone else?? It's not exactly the easiest thing, especially if the person you love freakin lives with you in the same house!! This would be a lot easier if it was one sided, but since my brother loves me too, i have that to think about. I don't want to hurt his feelings. We're not dating right now but there's this tacit agreement between us that whatever the hell we have right now is exclusive. What am i supposed to do, date behind his back?? And if i DO decide to date someone else, wouldn't that be unfair for that guy if i'm just using him? So you see, i have a lot to think about.

Okay...anyways. BYEE

121 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-05 21:16 ID:Heaven

Just be hedonistic, if it feels alright then keep on it.

122 Name: Harry Potter : 2007-06-05 22:02 ID:xOsz85sn

ask if you could give him a blowjob. He will say yes. While your doing it bite off his sexual organs and he will instantly never want to be near you ever again!

worked, i did it.

123 Name: j2sexy : 2007-06-05 22:04 ID:RD4bekBO

LOL

124 Name: Harry Potter : 2007-06-05 22:07 ID:xOsz85sn

what? so i got arrested and raped by a pissed-off father, but oh well.

125 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-05 22:18 ID:Heaven

STOP RESPONDING TO TROLLS

126 Name: j2sexy : 2007-06-05 22:22 ID:RD4bekBO

no, isnt a troll u shitbag. :(

thats right, u get a frowny face

ooooooo the shame

127 Name: Harry Potter : 2007-06-05 22:28 ID:xOsz85sn

125 shut up u stupid retard.

Ontopic..i think you should look at this: http://www.psychnet-uk.com/counselling_psychology/counselling_psychology_sexuality.htm

128 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-05 22:41 ID:xOsz85sn

corke is a nut
he has a rubber butt
every time he turns around
it goes putt-putt

129 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-06 02:53 ID:Heaven

>>127
Where are the L&R police when we need 'em?

130 Name: Mireille Guy : 2007-06-06 04:43 ID:Heaven

I only read the first 2 posts by op, but here I come with a few questions, before I give any advice...
How old are you and what is your age difference? Did you grow up together, or was there a time where you both were separated from each other?
Before addressing any issues with your brother, or trying to fix him, be empathetic and treat the situation with care. A man that rejects other girls for a particular girl really means he's serious. Beyond that... I have no advice. I can relate a little since I've felt feelings for a cousin, but that's a relatively different situation (you are relatively closer).
I'll wait for answers. Blessings to you.
>>115 clearly explains what has happened from second hand experience... I'd listen to him/her. Yes, part of the reason I ask these questions is because most posts like these are fake. There's a scientific explanation for incest, but it'll be cleared up when OP answers my questions.

131 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-06 07:48 ID:zbPDqdeE

I liked a cousin, and in my culture and background relationship with cousins are not considered incest, so even our families wouldn't get mad if we were very serious. Nothing sexual happened between us, I didn't even say anything, but she somehow got my intentions and rejected me before everything. I was 15 at the time and to this day we avoid each other and I have removed myself from the presence of my relatives, which were relatively close. we were playmates when we were kids.
Seriously, I say it again, drop this whole shit.

132 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-06 10:56 ID:Heaven

>>120

Stop whining about what is hard due to your feelings, you need to kill them with fucking fire already, DO YOU KNOW HOW YOU DO THIS?
Doesn't seem like it so I'll tell you. Stop thinking, planning and acting acording to your emotions, and instead start thinking, planning and acting according to your sensibility. If you strive into the direction of the wind long enough it will turn, the resistance is about your feelings lagging where it's most comfortable for you to have them(believe it or not, you need to realize this). That is because we are lazy, habitual bitches, and these facts don't care about right or wrong, they care about easy or hard, more or less. So if it becomes more of a bother for you to have your feelings where you stove them now, you will be able to dislodge them from there, and plant them somewhere else.

So what you have to do is prepare yourself to suffer for a while, and start investing your love somewhere else, even if you don't feel a bit like doing it. This is an excellent oppertunity for you to find a guy according to sensibility and not senses. Senses will only betray you as you can see, so you should start to think of them as a slave to serve your own will insead for them to serve themselves and bend you to their will. Get used to kick yourself around, especially if you define yourself more through how you feel.

133 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-06 19:08 ID:Heaven

this is the same person who created the other incest thread. he is having fun with you, you are a toy to him, stop responding and stop bumping this thread. let it die.

134 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-06 21:01 ID:v+1s0KIV

>>133 OMG, you are such an idiot.

135 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-06 21:36 ID:Heaven

I'd recomend everyone to watch "The Lovers of the Arctic Circle", it is a film about pretty much the same problem, you might find advice on it.

136 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-10 11:12 ID:psqzEllF

no updates?

137 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-11 03:54 ID:Heaven

>>136
No. Stop bumping this shit. LET IT DIE.

138 Name: ~Reila~ : 2007-06-14 10:15 ID:ziV5jDXc

So, what I need to know. Is he adopted? I mean, that would be logical...I'm just wondering.
Hahaha.
Go read a manga called "Hot Gimmick."
Your situation reminds me of Hatsumi's.

139 Name: IKEUCHISAN : 2008-01-04 12:44 ID:D8TV+8Az

Boku wa Imouto ni Koi wo Suru
"IM IN LOVE WITH MY SISTER"
IT TURNED INTO A MOVIE....
WHATCH IT

140 Name: KD : 2008-01-05 23:13 ID:BNSvAlQR

hahaha! omg its an episode of autumn in my heart!!

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