Need help with sex please (22)

1 Name: unkown : 2007-08-13 21:30 ID:g8D1N7MO

Well I read one of the recent threads about masterbation. it said
"premature ejaculation"
so yeah houston we have a problem.

Even though I had sex with my Girlfriend I still masterbate when she's away. So when we have sex I cum out maybe 5mins.
::::I know sad:::::

is there any techniques or advice can you give me?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-14 04:28 ID:2Bdy71D7

practice when masturbating.

With a bit of practice and proper breathing and relaxation, you can masturbate for as long as you want without building up climax. Then you can "let go" and build up orgasm and cum.

It might help if you think of it as a passive thing. Each stroke/whatever is like the first, or only stroke. Breath with every stroke, you should be able to "recycle" your sexual energy with your breath and make for a continuous, replenishing cycle.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-14 04:28 ID:2Bdy71D7

Yeah, and masturbation won't cause premature cum, if anything, it'll help prevent it.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-14 04:46 ID:HtyHKVth


it depends on the technique, as >>2 said, you can fix your problem by practice long sessions postponing the climax.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-14 08:21 ID:sbhRq/hu

dont masturbate within like 12 hrs before sexing the GF

6 Name: unkown : 2007-08-14 14:28 ID:g8D1N7MO

thanks guys

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-14 14:48 ID:0DrQmBVx

if you use a condom get those ones that kinda prolong ejaculation.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-15 03:10 ID:Heaven

Now when you've penetrated her pussy you need to learn how to penetrate her heart too, if are with her that intimately you can make her come faster than you do. When are you going to learn, it's all about the mind.

Postponing climax is like putting out your own fire so you don't burn out before she gets time to fire up hers, thats not solving the issue thats learning to live with it. For true fullfilment you should figure out how to put her on flames instead. That, so you can have truly hot sex in a way most people never experience it, because they are dumb fucks who fail to get the point about relationships.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-15 18:07 ID:zVIMB74+

Don't LOWER your expectations. Have realistic expectations. Don't go after the girl athlete that's interested in shopping if you're an engineering student who has never even stepped in a sporting goods store.

But I don't think this guy's issue is looking out of his league. I'm guessing it may be more in approach. So yeah. Like, >>3
I'm curious how exactly you did pursue these women.

10 Name: Nibbles : 2007-08-15 21:38 ID:mH+StNZ1

Don't listen to him, you should always masturbate before sex if you have the chance. Think of it as your balls have to recharge before they can cum again thus making it to where you can sex longer.

Also this guy knows what he's talking about, I don't have sex for my enjoyment I have sex for my woman's enjoyment, if she's not enjoying it then I can't enjoy it.

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-15 21:44 ID:QNksCu4G

I dream having hot sex with female anime-characters.

They are just perfect, so beautifull :))!

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-16 04:46 ID:N775n8MI

Here's a trick I learned which works for me: have sex twice in the same session.

The first time I'm like, bam. Gone in 30 seconds and no ability to control it. Wait five minutes and get back up again, and suddenly it's easier to control. I can go for 30 minutes, although my body takes a pretty big hit from all that exercise.

>>10's suggestion of masturbating before sex is a very similar strategy.

I'm not sure whether this works due to desensitisation, or whether it works because having one orgasm has a relaxing effect which reduces pressure.

13 Name: Nibbles : 2007-08-16 08:18 ID:mH+StNZ1

>>12 30 minutes isn't bad.

What you really want to shoot for is at least an hour or two.
One thing I find when I'm sexing and some of my ways of being able to go for hours on end.

  1. Get caught in the moment, don't think about what time it is and worry that your gonna blow your load to early, look into her eyes(if they aren't shut) and pay attention to her, see how she moves, see how she reacts to your movement.
  2. Don't go too fast or too slow for too long, I find if I go too fast for too long then I will cum very quickly, same with the going slow, for me when I go slow I can feel her vagina wrapping around my penis like the hands of a goddess and it makes me want to cum.
  3. Add variety, don't stay in one position too long, move around, try being on top for a bit then let her be on top, try doggy style, try doing it on a desk, try doing it on the floor, counter, bathtub, etc.
  4. Try some foreplay. Before sex or take a break during sex, eat her out, let her give you a blowjob, finger, handjob, etc.
  5. It may sound crazy but its worked for me on numerous occasions. Talk to your penis, tell him to give you some extra time.

The fact your cumming early doesn't necessarily mean your a premature ejaculator, it could just mean she has a very tight vagina and/or is good in bed.

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-17 08:35 ID:Heaven

>What you really want to shoot for is at least an hour or two.

you pumping away at her for an hour or two without climaxing won't make her feel insecure and unsexy at all...

don't worry about it so much. just because you come, doesn't mean the session's over. make out a bit, go down on her, and you'll be back in action before you know it. if she's worth your time at all, she'll feel flattered that she affects you so strongly. if you can't trust her to not judge you negatively for something as irrelevant as this, you've got bigger problems with your relationship than being premature.

15 Name: fartman : 2007-08-24 19:10 ID:ekudAOyT

dont worry about anything. just swing ur dick hard

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-30 20:50 ID:Ge6+bOvt a female, I've got to tell you guys...10 minutes of sex and an hour of foreplay > 10 minutes of foreplay and an hour of sex.

Just so you know. You pump away mindlessly for two hours and it starts to fucking hurt. And get boring. REALLY fucking boring.

17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-31 03:25 ID:kXAsfdGi

I read an article that seemed to suggest making sure she has an orgasm before you even start - i.e., give her oral, or any other trick you have before you have sex. Girls can have multiple orgasms, men can't, so if she has the first one, she's more likely to have a second one after that. PLUS, you can focus on her, which you can't really do if you're having sex because your own feelings may override hers (that awkward position that just sucks for you might be amazing for her)

So, you can start the sex after she has her orgasm (because she KNOWS you haven't come yet, and she wants to return the favour) and apparently she may be more receptive to a second vaginal orgasm (though, as is the case with any vaginal sex, you may have to try other tricks to get her off)

I'm sure she won't mind if you last only 30 seconds if you get her off beforehand :)

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-31 07:34 ID:Heaven

There's worse problems, at least you can orgasm from sex.

19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-31 15:37 ID:jfHlac91


At least he's HAD sex ;_;

20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-02 02:48 ID:HEicSKGk

You have to stage something. Get some bully to go up an threaten her. Then come to her rescue. The bully will flatten you, and she'll be impressed by his Alpha-male status and go off with him. On second thoughts, you better play the bully.

21 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-02 02:49 ID:HEicSKGk

Oops. Meant for other thread. Well you can try this here too!

22 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-04 14:43 ID:EMYjteJ5

You are thinking about it too much. PE is more often than not psychological depending on your age. Relax, don't be nervous, and fuck her slow and steady. Talk to her, let her know that you want to try to make it last. When my girlfriend and I first started fucking it was like that with me too, and she worked with me to make it better. Penetrate her missionary, and then instead of thrusting, lean forward and make out with her, massage/kiss her neck and breasts. Don't thrust at all, or at least as little as possible. It'll get your penis used to the sensation of being inside of her pussy. Just make sure to lean back and rub her clit from time to time, otherwise it'll be nowhere near as enjoyable for her as it is for you :-P.

Then, when you make her cum, and it's time to make yourself cum... do it however you want. I normally wrap my hand around her neck and spit directly down her throat. Then I fuck her pussy mercilessly until I pull out and spray her face with my spunk. Then I throw I call her a filthy cunt and walk away.

Works wonders man.

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