i'm married with 2 children and the other person is married with 1 child. i'm completely unhappy with my spouse of 15 years. years and years of unhappiness. our children are the only thing that keeps us together. i had an affair 4 years ago but our marriage was on the down slide well before that. intimacy was always an issue - even before my affair, we were intimate once a month or less. after the affair, it is more like once or twice a year. like i said the kids keep us together. frankly, i don't want to be poor and split time with the kids. i live in a nice house on a cul-de-sac in a nice neighborhood. i don't want to sell the house and go back to renting at my age. also, it would disrupt the children's school - and the places each of us would end up renting would be in neighborhoods with violence and gangs and drugs - you get the picture. so i met a woman and i am in love with her. is it really that wrong to love another woman and not get divorced for the reasons stated above? the thing is, i would be depressed without this other woman...very, very depressed. i chose jaded as a name for this thread because i'm not interested in discussing "vows" or "god"...more interested in focusing on love and relationships and if you think it could work....

please be gentle this is my first-time post