> wheras i just say no, or even nothing

saying 'even nothing' is not close to being the equivalent 'No.'

> ill cry or hell cry and then hell be sorry

Rapists don't cry and say they're sorry.

> just how uncommon is it for people to ignore when their most loved person in the world rapes them and still be fine every single day.

'most loved' and 'rape' tend to be mutually exclusive, except in rare cases involving BDSM and hybristophilia.

I'd have to say you simply have no self-respect.