Looks like you are doing fine, since you calmed down the horses without hurting her,...

Now just proceed normally, and really get to know her (as far as I understand, you haven't even met her, so there's no way you can be considered a couple).

As for the cigarette, I don't know why you fuss so much about it. I mean, just because it's an important issue for you, it does not mean that it's the same for her, and that's probably why she did not bring up the issue.

Anyway, just like you're not his Mr. Everything, you also need to avoid having unrealistic expectations about her. Meeting her would be an important step.