My girlfriend and I have been dating for over a year.
However, I no longer love her. She is boring, vapid, and hardly pretty. Her only redeeming quality is the ability to do what she is told diligently by authority.
However, I still care for her very much. It seems impossible for me to bring this up and hurt her. And yet it seems the only escape is a break up. I don't know what to do. I would be so lonely without her. (Not to mention sex-deprived.)
This paradox makes it so that often, the very sight of her brings pain to me. Of course there are sometimes good days, when I can deal with her and be happy. But then more and more, I just feel depressed whenever I deal with her because she is just so disappointing.
You should break up with her. This isn't a good relationship, and freeing yourself and her from it is the first step towards maybe one day finding the right person for you. Well, in any case, you shouldn't stay in a relationship thats turned so crappy after only a year.
Let her go for her sake. I can think of nothing worse than learning that I've been putting all of my heart and love toward a man that doesn't feel anything for me beyond some loveless care. It will hurt her indelibly, but the sooner you hurt her the sooner she'll heal, so get it done with. Seriously, don't make her waste her effort and stop wasting your own.
i agree, i just got dumped in due to a similar situation, and i am glad she didn't drag it out.