So i just got rejected. She said shes not ready for relationship and want to focus on her career. though the fact that i was an obese,hairy,smelly,basement dwelling geek with lots of personal issues and no job & no qualification probably contribute a little to her decision.

good thing is i care about her enough to change. right now i work out regularly, have a job though it's not glamorous or pay much, keep a good hygene, slowly working out my personal issues and generally being a better person.

So

1. when is a good time to ask her out again? it's not realistic to wait till i'm a hot millionaire because she probably find someone else by then but asking her before i'm good enough will probably just annoy her and make her avoid me.
2. is it okay to tell her i'm changing for her or will that put her in a tough spot?
3. should i give her some space until i'm ready or stick to her and act normally like before? currently we still talking but she does keep some distance.
4. have i fucked up too bad when i confess to early and now have no chance whatever i do? maybe i should just crawl back to my comfy basement.

part of me is afraid because i'm putting an effort and if i fail it will hurt so much more. in fact my sad life was because of a bad relationship that made me lost faith in people and stop caring for myself.

for the record this girl never had a BF and is really just starting her career. and its been 2 months since my first confession.