thanks for the advice. so to sum it up

1. Take time and work hard on myself first
2. No more confession and casually ask her out
3. Give her some space

1 more Q

Since shes not telling me whats going on in her life now should i get help from her friend? so far most people in our group don't even know i asked her out or even that i have any interest in her. Just so i don't ask her out again when shes having problem and just end up giving her extra mental burden. I'm not too sure about this idea because its sort of an invasion of privacy and it might cause problem within the group. but hey i'm new in this.