Hello people.
I need some help here!

It's quite a long story:

I've got this colleague of mine at college, well, I can call him a friend, since we do spend some time together...
The thing is that I might be interested in him. But I don't have the guts to or the determination to make that clear to him. I'm not the type of girl that makes the first step!
And although we do spend some time together (most of the times alone, because we skip the same classes), we go to the cinema and all...but he either made the first step or anything like that.

I supose we're friends and that's it...Besides he treats me like he treats anyone else...he has equal behaviour towards everyone.
We do have a lot of fun in movies and only chatting and catching some sun etc, but...what if he thinks the same way I do?
What if he's expecting some sign out of me? Because I've never demonstrated anything like that to him, because I'm afraid he'll step away from me because he's not interested...I mean, you get the idea, right?

What should I do?

hmm... try dropping some very subtle hints. dont go too far out though or else it may backfire. like a slight touch on his shoulder or torso or something typical like that. of course dont just do it at random. you gotta time it like after he says a funny joke or something or when you two might be clowning around. then just gauge his reaction.

try changing something, very subtle. your hair style, a new shirt, new makeup or whatever, i dont know lol. just to see if he notices it.

thats all i can think of, im not that great at this stuff either lol.

Yeah I know what you mean. The thing is, I'm not exactly the type of girl who cares about clothing. I don't wear make-up, and honestly, this isn't lack of modesty, I think I'm not bad-looking. I know this might sound a bit egocentric but I don't dress up for guys, I want them to notice me first for my personality (don't we all).
And he does gives me small touches once in a while, like...massaging my shoulders but really quick as in saying: "I'm here."
But he does that to everyone. The massage thing. And the touches. You know what I mean? He's ... "him" ... to everyone. No special touches for me.
But the next time he touches me like I mentioned Ill try to "answer" him equally. And watch his reaction.

Thanks! ^^

>I don't dress up for guys, I want them to notice me first for my personality

You sound like a great chick.

Thank you! ^^

Although the truth is that girls who dress up "hot" and wear make-up and do really care about their appearance, appeal more the guys.
Which is fine for me, I'm not in a hurry and I think it's better to wait to get the guy who's really into the "whole me" than change myself and begin worrying more than I should about my appearance.

The thing is that, I don't get to worry about my appearance, but about my personality. Maybe I'm too hiperactive and that somehow scares people. And sometimes I can be really childish and most guys don't like that.
Oh well, I'm not trying to impress "most guys" anyway -sigh-

It sucks to say, but honestly if you have already notice that he treats you the same as everyone else, he probably doesn't like in that way. From my experience, I treat girls that I am not romantically interested in the same as anyone else.

The best advice I can give is the most terrifying: you have to tell him that you like him and just see what happens.

Yes, I've always considered that he isn't into me because he treats me like everyone else. But the thing is, I treat him as everyone else too, it's not like I've gave him any sign.
Perhaps he's too afraid of a rejection and is waiting for me. That's my positive irrealistic thinking.

The thing is, I would never confess to him. Not that my feelins aren't real. They are, but I guess I?m too afraid of a rejection and that stuff between us get's weird and awkward, and god knows how we enjoy spending time together. I make him laugh, he makes me laugh. But then I supose that's just it right?

I dunno what I'll do....but confessing isn't an option.