Been there, done that; wow the first romance thread I could respond to without being in a relationship hoorah! Talking about it works; personal experience. It will make you feel a helluva lot better, period. As for hooking up with her, that's really unlikely unless the bf she has becomes a total douche and she leaves him. As for not sabotaging the relationship, good boy!!! It doesn't take long for the longing to turn you into an egotistical and ambitious ass. Besides, if she's as great as you think her to be, she won't bitch about it.