So basically >>7 comes in making bullshit claims and has nothing to back them up. Then when someone contradicts your ~common sense~ with their real life experiences, you call them gay or impotent because you're fucking stupid and like to run your bitch mouth based on hurr durr stereotypes. Seriously, sit the fuck down and shut up, because you have nothing of value to add to this conversation.
Anyways, op, you're going to have to use your own discretion. If you think making the first move is the only way to get what you want, do it, even if it might be hard because you're shy. If you think dropping hints might prompt him to make the first move, try that. It's a tricky situation, but think about it and hope for the best.