Okay, I'm going to update this. Hopefully I can get some further advice.

I got back to CollegeTown from my hometown. I texted him and set up a date for that weekend. He texted me back the night before saying that his friend's car broke down and needed to be driven home one state over. I told him all right and tried not to take it too personally. This is the kind of thing guys say when they want to cancel, right? He then texted me apologizing and stating that we needed to figure out a time other than one day during the weekend to see each other. I agreed, giving him my AIM name. He then gave me his.

As a grad student, I am ALWAYS online. I'm online in my lab, in my classes, and after school. He hasn't been on IM since... but he has facebooked his exasperation a few times. Turns out he's been mad busy due to an inspection. Still, he had no downtime so we made plans for him to come up to spend the day in CollegeTown (as he is sick of work and MilitaryTown.) He texts me at 7AM day of, saying he needs to work all day. I texted him back telling him it was OK and to do what he needs to do and to text me when he has some free time.

I figured that this would leave the ball in his court, just in case he really isn't interested in me and this is some elaborate ploy to get rid of me. Then again, I might be thinking of this irrationally as I've been burned before. I'm interested in pursuing a relationship with him despite the depth of his commitment to his branch of service and the reality of future deployment. He really is that cool of a guy.

So Anon. Tell me if I should do anything further or I have this set up OK... I am not giving up until it becomes obvious that I'm tilting windmills.