Hello. I was introduced to japanese porn a few years ago and I can honestly say I am glad I did. In japanese porn, I found people who expressed all the fetishes I like.
One of my absolute favorites though is bukkake.
In porno-movies, my main interest is the last seconds of an act ( the male orgasm ) and something turns me on seeing a woman completely drenched in intriguing liquids.
Me myself, I was teased all through elementary school because of my looks. I got acne real early, so I was very "unique" and i stood ouf of the crowd ( mainly due to other interests, like videogames etc. )
Now, I can honestly say I have never had a real girlfriend.
From my own point of view, my personality is very vulnerable, and I easily cry if offended. I have a big interest in computers, and usually spend most of my time doing nothing except watching porn at this stupid machine.
Now, my self-asteem is not that great, and while I do like people, I usually enjoy being by myself. It's secure and I don't have to handle interactions with people who might not like my existence.
My question is: Do you think my personality and my history can be the reason to why I like love bukkake so much? Am I a weak person who needs control, just because I feel insecure in public? Could this be a reason why I have had no luck with girls?
Also, am I sick for loving bukkake?
Please give good and encouraging answers.
Your not sick for loving bukkake. Your Masturbating which is a completly normal action, just dont let this completly normal action replace your social life. Get out there, if you don't believe in your self, a social life won't happen. There are people just like you out there, who are also looking for friends, go find them!
Some have described bukkake as a fetish culture beyond sex. Since the primary fetish focuses on a passive female humiliated by men, it has been called an expression of male insecurity and fear of loss of control.
-- says wikipedia.
So yes it is because you are insecure that you like bukkake and because of your insecurity it's harder for you to meet girls. Most likely you won't change but it just means that a more strong-minded and determined girl will come your way.
And imho, I don't think it's sick.
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Sick? No.
Should never strive to get to experience bukkake IRL thanks to all of the STDs in the world? Yes.
Fantasies such as that work as a way of acting out emotions and problems inside of yourself. It's not sick, but you do need to do something about your insecurity (yes, I'm being Captain Obvious).
Your existence does not have to be justified, you have every bit as much of a right to exist as anyone else.
Hmm, try getting some help with how to deal with insecurity and the feeling of lack of self-worth (why else would you feel you have to justify your existence?) here for instance:
http://stevepavlina.com/forums/ The forums have a lot of clever, helpful people who often know exactly what they're talking about. Reading random threads probably will prove to be quite beneficial as well.
You probably should look into personal development. Lifehack.org tends to have practical articles. Steve Pavlina's PD blog (one PD blog of many on the vast intarwebs) is quite useful as well, though has gotten a tad hippie-ish lately. That's not a problem though: the archives are filled with useful, practical stuff.
random possibly useful article: "Five Principles for Happiness in 2007"
http://finance.yahoo.com/columnist/article/millionaire/18930
if you read articles anywhere that has comments, don't forget to read them.
You also should consider going to either therapy or similar. It may be useful to have someone professional help you. Do remember that there are many different styles amongst therapists, and that they're essentially human, even if extremely qualified such. So if one doesn't fit you, that doesn't mean that therapy in itself doesn't fit you. I think cognitive therapy might be good for you.
i like to see a woman completely drenched with mens piss. do you think my personality and my history can be the reason to why i love seeing it?
Hello. I am the first poster. Actually I do have a social life. Though since the teasing started really early, I have always despiced the mainstream.
So, while I do have a social life, my ways might not be completely that of a "popular" crowd.
The thing I find the most hard is attracting females to such activities ( not bukkake :) ) but anime, computers etc.
Also in reply to #3
Yes, the quote from wikipedia actually makes sence.
What really turns me on is a female who seduces me.
Therefore I have grown a fetish for teacher/authority kind of. Meaning I feel I have lost the control so much I need someone to take care of me.
Which makes me wonder, is it normal or should I see it as I have totally lost it?
I am a male, 18 years old, but I might not be "male" material if you guys understand. Thanks anyway!
Sorry, one more thing:
Actually, in school I have a lot of homework, just piling up, and it's not getting smaller.
So much homework that I have totally lost it when it comes to actually making the homework.
As I feel lost in school, I find myself doing nothing ( watching porn ) when I should make the homework.
That problem is easily solved, just wank off and get over it fast and then go back to schoolwork.
if u chased girls in the dark and did bukkake then ran away, u r a pervert, but otherwise u a fine
has anyone here bukkaked on ur face??
No! Your being bukkaked by your mom. You are now the Bukkaked From Mom Man!
or u should bukkake on ur own face.
Very interesting. But I hope it's a good thing I don't feel like jumping onto some woman bukakkeing her :)
well this thread went to hell quickly. Shame, it was a good subject.
i dont think you are sick but your should probably broaden your focus
The last thing to do is worry about this and think you're hopeless or definitely lost or something. Everyone has fears and problems and they'll hide and repress them throughout their lives. Then when they're supposedly "adult" and "responsible" persons they'll look down at you and tell you you're sick or that you need help.
Just live with it, I don't know if one can change his fetishes entirely at 18.
As for your homeworks, yeah, do them or you'll become another hikki/wanabe hikki hanging around 4ch desperatly and depending upon relatives to be able to eat. You don't want that, now do you ?
Also shut up fart man
The best solution to this problem is the most obvious one: Get off your computer and go outside! That's the only way you're going to develop a healthy social life and meet girls. Find a hobby or take classes somewhere where there are lots of other people (especially females) your age. Also, make time to study. Don't give in every time you get horny. You've got to make priorities. Good luck!
Wanking off to a fetish isn't that bad, but if it really gets in the way of schoolwork, it's passed the line to unhealthy obsession. I'm not sure how you can, though...I can't masturbate more than once a day, because I feel "masturbated out." If you overdo it it's not healthy.
Oh, also, if you're constantly looking at girls while socializing, and in the back of your mind thinking, "yeah, I could imagine bukkake'ing on her face..." it will color your interactions with them. You won't be able to look at them as a person in the same way, as anything but a fetish receptacle. You should struggle to seperate the girls you meet in real life from the girls you see in your porn.
Wanking off to a fetish isn't that bad, but if it really gets in the way of schoolwork, it's passed the line to unhealthy obsession. I'm not sure how you can, though...I can't masturbate more than once a day, because I feel "masturbated out." If you overdo it it's not healthy.
Oh, also, if you're constantly looking at girls while socializing, and in the back of your mind thinking, "yeah, I could imagine bukkake'ing on her face..." it will color your interactions with them. You won't be able to look at them as a person in the same way, as anything but a fetish receptacle. You should struggle to seperate the girls you meet in real life from the girls you see in your porn.