...Also, I only skimmed most of your first post before reading that. I had assumed you were female. Heh.

To answer your question though, I don't think you should tell your family. What good will it do to bring up stuff like that now?

However, I think it is necessary to get away from him. If you're in south America and he's in the US, that's a good thing. What you have to do is figure out how to put it behind you and move on

Sure, it may have been his fault that you turned out this way, but now that you know and have a will of your own you can change, right?