Sexually molested by older brother. Should I tell to my family? (176)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-02 20:00 ID:F8NYbquD

I’m 28 now but when I was 9 my older brother started touching me while I was sleeping, masturbated me and rub his penis in my ass.

I suddenly changed personality, from an extroverted kid to a very introverted one, always in my room, no friends, almost all my puberty depressed, I tried to never mention his name again, just call him "the other one" (I have another brother) and trying to keep always an eye on my little sister, worry about he will try the same with her.

I don’t know if it was not obvious for my parents the change in personality and my strong reluctance to be in the same place with him, now I know these and other behaviors I had then, are clearly a sign of child sexual abuse, but my parents are catholic (we live in South America) and they had an excellent relation with their families, so, they would never thought in something like this.

My dad change, for him been a good brother is very important and he never understood why I start hating my older brother. Why always when he talked something about him, I did faces, and why I transformed in a crybaby loner.

My mom for the other side interpreted this as a behavior- adolescence issue and start overprotecting me even more. Cause I didn’t have a social life and was very quit she always put me like an example of discipline, academically and at home, and we - my mom and I- formed a strong relationship that all the others- included my dad and sister- feel alienated from it.

So, this maked even greater the distance between my father and me. For him, I just was a bitter and loner guy that hated my siblings and didn’t have friends.

When I start university I meet many people very similar to me and I try to take command of my life and not be sad anymore. I made friends for the first time, and had a pretty busy social and cultural life in the visual arts faculty.

But also I started my sexual life, and I actually had from the beginning some quite unhealthy patterns: anonymous sex in public places, sex with guys I just met in gay bars, sex in gay saunas, and never getting out of the closed. So I never had an emotional evolved relationship with a partner and I was playing with my life having unsafe sex on this AIDS age. I’m negative but I aware that my unhealthy sexuality had a big deal to do with the sexual abuse I had.

2 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-02 20:00 ID:F8NYbquD

I’m even today very immature emotionally, I still live with my parents - I lived in an apartment alone like 6 months and even lived and worked in Asia for 9 months, but I always return here with them, and I had many periods of half-hikikomori behavior.

Well, finally the reason for this posting: I want to be happy, move on from this issue. Be a grown up, be responsible of my wellbeing, and I think the only way to do this is putting an end to the sexual abuse case, don’t seeing this guy (abuser) again, don’t hear his name again, just delete him of my mind.

I don’t want to see my brother again, to smile to him and his wife, to play like everything is ok or nothing really happens. And to do this I have to cut completely with my family, because or I tell what happened and this is going to be to much (I’m worry mainly of my mom, she lost the "sense of reality" and she was in Prozac for 2 years, after my sister told us she is lesbian, so imagine what could happens to her if she knows that one of his sons molested another one), or I just go away and never see them again.

This guy (my older brother, the abuser) is married with an American, he has the residence there, and this could ruin his life. BUT I really need to leave this behind and try to have a good and productive life myself, try to have a healthy and mature relation with a guy.

So my idea is to accept a job my former employer in Asia is offering me again, and talk with my dad and tell him that I don’t care if he don’t believe me, if he thinks is my fault, and I’m going to tell him everything that happened, and say that this is the reason why I’m cutting the ties with the family, I just want to move on, and try to have a life. I will say to him to don’t say nothing to my mom, cause this will be way TOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO much for her, (they are 60 now), I just will visit her and write to her, but I’m saying this to him because I want him to stop pressuring me to have a good relation with this garbage (my "brother").

Have somebody going to a similar situation?, please advise me.

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6 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-03 03:18 ID:F8NYbquD

both post above- 1 & 2- are part of the same issue, please read them as part1 and part2 respectively.

7 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-03 03:33 ID:F8NYbquD


8 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-03 03:44 ID:bJODNUvZ

It's time to move on, forget your past and start a new life.
Also, date girls instead, just because your brother did those things to you doesn't mean you have to be gay.

9 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-04 00:55 ID:+WLruvm4

im being a bad person telling the true about my older brother?, I mean he is really a fake, and he has mantain this nice guy image all these years

10 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-04 01:01 ID:+WLruvm4

Am I being a bad person for telling my dad the true about my older brother? I mean he has been a complete fake all these years, playing the nice guy part, and I'm reallt worry if he have children anytime in the future, is posible he will not control himself.

11 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-04 01:04 ID:+WLruvm4

mods please delete 6 & 7

12 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-04 01:38 ID:+WLruvm4

and p. 10cs

13 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-04 01:39 ID:+WLruvm4

and 9 and 12. sorry and thanks again.

14 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-04 01:55 ID:bJODNUvZ

You need to forget about your past and stop being gay.

15 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-04 02:20 ID:+WLruvm4


im not gay because the abuse, i was promiscuos because that, and i had a low self steem thinking that older guys just wanted to fuck me.

16 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-04 02:27 ID:+WLruvm4


im not gay because the abuse. i was promiscuos, cocaine addicted, alcoholic because that, but i really want to have a healthy relation with a man.

17 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-04 06:02 ID:UEJ13wMT

your brother is a piece of shit, I feel bad for his children.

18 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-04 06:05 ID:UEJ13wMT

oh , and do fuck up your family, i would do that, then dump that whole shit, and finally get on with your life. revenge us bad , but it serves you so well, i can't describe it.
what perfect family, what perfect bullshit? let them know the fucking lie they live in.

19 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-07 03:01 ID:n5vzFnNG

thanks for your opinions

20 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-07 10:06 ID:bJODNUvZ

You get your brother to come to your house, then get him to have sex with you and film it, you can then show your whole family what a bastard he is.

21 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-07 23:24 ID:+WLruvm4

the problem is that he is totally disgusting, u can tell the type of person he is just looking at him, i mean he is married now but his wife is a 250 pounds girl, he was just her last chance to marry

22 Name: 1's brother : 2007-05-08 00:11 ID:YB0uo4B+

I loved to fuck you and I would love it if you come over to me and we have a nice brotherly fuck. We are both gay, we are family, nobody needs to know. Let's exchanhe our manly fluid.

23 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-08 06:30 ID:MUk4vuri

You're 28 now, but you were 9. old was your brother then?

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25 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-08 18:31 ID:+WLruvm4


he was 16 then

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27 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-09 08:57 ID:MUk4vuri

Ah, okay. If he was like, at most 12 I might've said maybe he didn't know what he was doing was wrong, but 16...

28 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-09 09:07 ID:MUk4vuri

...Also, I only skimmed most of your first post before reading that. I had assumed you were female. Heh.

To answer your question though, I don't think you should tell your family. What good will it do to bring up stuff like that now?

However, I think it is necessary to get away from him. If you're in south America and he's in the US, that's a good thing. What you have to do is figure out how to put it behind you and move on

Sure, it may have been his fault that you turned out this way, but now that you know and have a will of your own you can change, right?

29 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-09 10:39 ID:bJODNUvZ

What is it like living in south america?

30 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-09 14:53 ID:Heaven

I think you should let your family know. they failed as a family to you and instead of providing you with a safe house they abused you, don't take the burden to yourself any more, tell the truth and get rid of them if necessary.

31 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-09 19:12 ID:+WLruvm4


the thing is:
1- my dad always try to make me get a long with him and he is always (all the days, at least one hour) talking of him WITH ME (this is his weird way to make me like him)

2- i dont want to tell my family (this means mom and dad), but...

3- i want my dad to stop talking of him with me, im doing pretty good right now, i try to have a peaceful life and i want a nice relationship with my parents, BUT I DONT WANT TO HEAR ABOUT HIM ANYMORE, thats all i ask

4- and of course my dad not knowing the sexual abuse context just think im a little spoiled boy who is envy of his elder brother for whatever reason he thinks

5- actually he knows im very resentful that he paid him a bachelor and a master in new england, even if he was the worst student of the family (he didnt go to clases for 2 full years, while my parents were paying his full tuition, and he always got the lower grades of all my siblings), this was his "punishment", even my other brother get a master in michigan and my sister did a international high school baccalaureate also in the states, at least this guys are really brilliant and they truely deserved, i got the better grades (after my sister)but my dad just "helped" me to went to the state public college (they are even worst here in latin america), i know one ohe reasons my dad was or is like that with me is because he thinks my mom gives me TOO much attention, so this is his way to balance things, and dad that asomehoe are jealouse of there sons are generally this cruel and inmature.

32 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-09 19:34 ID:+WLruvm4

continuing from the last post, i always had to add to the burden of the sexual abuse by my elder brother, the very negative image my own dad have of me.

i dont care anymore about that, he is too old to change.

but im sure now that im totally entitled to "clean" myself of my dad suppositions, im not hate my brother 'cause i want, i was not bitter 'cause i wanted.

and i really want to heard my dad say, sorry for not protect u, sorry for think you were a bad brother and bad son, sorry for treat you like a "second class" between my children.

or at least he'll say he dont believe me or it was my fault, but i'll know that deep inside him he will start seing my elder brother as the garbage he really is.

one last comment, is weid how my mom never trust him, even when he divorce his first wife, she said must be something he did to her, my dad of course blame the girl.

33 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-09 23:40 ID:UEJ13wMT

beyond my abilities and experience, I wouldn't know what to do. It is great that you have some thoughts organized about this.

34 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-10 11:24 ID:HFWpZ94n

Can I molest you, >>1 ?

35 Name: adiosmommy_c_u_in_a_better_world : 2007-05-11 01:21 ID:+WLruvm4

im prepare to tell my dad tis saturday, maybe this will be the last day i will see them.....i will miss my mom so much, she will never understand why i go away without any explanation to her, i think is better if she hates me than hurt her telling the truth about the piece of shit of my brother! wow is incredible how someone thst is nothing for u, can affect ur life always and only in a bad way, possibly i was a german gestapo guy and he was a jew, and im paying now for what i did to hin in my last life!:(

36 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-11 10:24 ID:bJODNUvZ


Work on your English and then move to the United States, there is a state that you would feel home in it's called "San francisco".

37 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-11 17:40 ID:FiFR5YaM

>>35 Suicide, faggot.

38 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-11 21:46 ID:MG/hzSi/


same happened to me, except it was my stepdad who did it, when i was 11. now i'm a 25 year old virgin loser nerd no job no nothing. i'll probably make a thread for myself here, soon.

and good luck telling your dad.

39 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-11 23:51 ID:bJODNUvZ


Shut up stupid asshole.

40 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-12 05:19 ID:UEJ13wMT

>>39 seconded
please inform how it turned out :/

41 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-12 07:32 ID:6pH/GnAn

>>35 Suicide. What else is there to do?

42 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-13 09:59 ID:MUk4vuri


you people really shouldn't joke like that on this board...

43 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-13 15:02 ID:cvgUceEf

>>41 here. It's not a joke.

44 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-14 22:16 ID:+WLruvm4

hope the karma dont make you do what you encourage others to do... well I can imagine you have such a perfect life that you dont have to worry about it! nice people like u nevr will want to kill themselves

45 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-15 00:33 ID:YKbYFHF4

There is no karma. And my life sucks, too. The next step down would be becoming gay and fucking >>44 in his bubble butt.

46 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-15 15:27 ID:+WLruvm4

thanks for the compliment.

47 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-16 19:18 ID:b0l26Ife

Good luck, OP. Please fill us in on the details, after the meeting. =(

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49 Name: TK : 2007-12-31 17:34 ID:s64MoQD0

Being gay has nothing to do with being sexually abused as a child by a member of the same gender, just like being straight has nothing to do with being sexually abused by a member of the opposite gender. To suggest otherwise is to link heterosexuality to sex abused - that women who are straight but were abused by men owe their sexual orientation to the abuse. It does NOT work like that. It is a sad fact that many thousands of people in our society have been the victims of sex abuse, both male and female, and the vast majority have grown up heterosexual... just like people who have never been sexually abused. Now, I am not suggesting that the abuse you suffered had 'zero' effect on your feelings of sexual identity; clearly they have. But to BLAME the abuse for "making" you gay is extremely troubling. This suggests to the average individual that being gay is an "affliction" that can be "caused" - and this is NOT the case. The same could be said for all sexual orientation. Likewise, one can not "change" their sexual orientation - and there is over a hundred years of detailed psychological data to back that up. Check out my link for some factual information about Sexual Orientation. I feel bad that you were abused, but I am shocked and saddened that you would turn around and 'blame' the abuse for your orientation. I've never been abused and I've known that I liked other guys in a more-than-platonic way since I was a young child, long before puberty and before I knew what sex was. I hope you find a more productive and less socially damaging way of dealing with your situation and personal pain.

50 Name: Anonymous : 2008-01-03 15:18 ID:9LQ1FqH8

So what came out of it?

51 Name: Anonymous : 2008-01-03 18:26 ID:+X66n/MD

I know what you are going through also.
I was also molested when I was younger by a neighbor. I remember he use to brag about it to his sister which he had sex with. I didn't tell my mother until 5 or 6 years after it happened but that was because I had to (I was going into a mental institution at the time for a suicide attempt and it was one of the issues brought up). I also realized recently that my biological father also might have done the same to me. Now, I am 20 and going to college. I'm not gay but have only had sex with 2 women. I have met a lot of other people who have also been molested. One has told me that the others (people who have not been molested) will never understand us. I just don't know and just want to die. Everyday I just want to die. Sorry. To answer your question, I don't think telling anyone will solve anything now. It's better if you learn to live with it and try to make another friend who has had the same thing happen. If you can find a person like that, they will be able to listen to you better then your parents. I hope you can find them. Don't give up on life like me. Eventually I will probably kill myself, I just need to get the strength.

52 Name: Anonymous : 2008-01-04 00:55 ID:AG5ymMBD

Half a year later, would have been nice to hear what happened, oh well.

53 Name: Anonymous : 2008-01-08 04:05 ID:JaBlrQth

wow. i feel really sorry for all the people on this forum who have been molested... i doubt you will ever get over it but i hope that you will still be able to live with it because the world is truely a wonderful place if you can overcome adversity. many of us have to live with some sort of childhood afliction that destroys our confidence... but its not too late to be proactive and change yourself and your surroundings. if you let these things get to you then youve lost the battle. show the molesters that you have a brain and that you have grown up to become better people than them.

54 Name: feet : 2008-01-09 19:13 ID:fGnOuoLR

omg...I'm really sorry OP and also to >>51 and anyone else out there.
I was brought up in a culture where it was ok to abuse kids but I never accepted it. I've been told I'm just disobedient and bratty. And that when I grow up I'll understand but I never did. It disgusts me. I don't believe in this cultural relativism crap
because it fucked me up. It's so not ok to take advantage of kids for your pleasure. And it isn't considered 'abuse' here either because adults seem to have divine rights to kids or something shit like that. I have told no one and I never will because It's gross and no one will believe me or they will blame me for it.
My gawd...I feel like such a pathetic loser because I'm not the only one that went through it and I got it lucky compared to most people..but I can barely function. I can't trust men...or women. Because women do it too. I hate my family and relatives so much. Sick fucks. Anyway I don't have a choice but to move on
and forget anything ever happened.

I was also assaulted in college but I actually reported that except no one believed me, I got called a liar by everyone.
I hate him for assaulting me and then acting cute and innocent.
Developing the courage to speak out and then being called a LIAR is worse than being called a whore. I ended up fucking my exams up and confining myself at home. I've had insomnia and when I do
fall asleep I have nightmares. I have flashbacks but I'm getting better now.
If no one believes that college stuff, then there is no way I'll ever talk about the sexual abuse during my childhood.
I do admire people who have the courage and bravery to speak up.
Don't give up on life!!

55 Name: Anonymous : 2008-01-10 19:57 ID:Heaven

> I do admire people who have the courage and bravery to speak up.


56 Name: Anonymous : 2008-02-16 04:34 ID:Heaven

Where do you live?


57 Name: Man in UK : 2008-06-15 21:52 ID:6Mbj38NA

I'm sorry to hear about your situation that you experienced - It also happened to me - My elder brother is 6 years older than me, he began molesting me when I was only 6 or 7 years old - it went on (most nights) until I was in my early teens making him almost 20. It stopped - I got over it and could have lived with it in silence for the rest of my days. I'm now 45, and a few years back discovered (through talking to my brother's ex girlfriend) that he also had molested her two children) Obviously I could no longer remain in silence - I had to report it to the Police and Social Services - not in an act of revenge, anger and disgust at what he had done and got away with - but in order to protect even more children (especially my niece and 2 nephews my brother no has) falling victim to my brother's sick mind.
After many interviews and discussions the police couldn't guarantee a 'guilty' conviction after this length of time and they didn't want him to be labelled 'inocent' so the case never went to court. Social services were happy that my older brother's children were safe with him and no action was taken there, even though my neice had already moved out to live with one of my sisters.
My niece and nephews hate me thinking that I (and the 2 girls) made it all up, and even my younger brother and his wife think I am lying. I can live with that - what I couldn't live with is if I had done nothing knowing that I was abused, learning that he went on to abuse 2 other children and some harm had come to his own children.
Please, please, if this has happened (or happening) to someone else reading this report it as soon as you can - because he won't stop with just abusing you, he'll move on to others, and others, and others - until stopped.

58 Name: Anonymous : 2008-06-15 22:21 ID:l/+4tWZ3


Kill the bastard. There is no rehab for sex offenders. Gotta put them down. It is the only way to cure them.

59 Name: Anonymous : 2008-06-16 00:28 ID:xo7R00T/

I don't know if you should tell your family...that's up to you. But you do need to find someone, a friend is best, to talk to about it. I have been sexually abused twice, and I can tell you letting it out to someone helps. They may not fully understand, but...

60 Name: a : 2009-03-11 16:57 ID:DPiFejzD

has anyone ever regained their confidence and lived a "not-so-messed up life" after having that incident in the past, older brother molesting you?

61 Name: H-town Stomper : 2009-03-12 01:56 ID:6dL84qEz

I aint never been sexually abused, but I have been phsyically abused. My mom went out with this man for 3 years. He didnt like me very much. Whenever my mom wasnt arount, I would get the shit beat out of me. Eventually, my mom broke up with him. When he finally left, it took me changing everything about me to be able to not be crazy. I used to be a good person, but then I started doing things I promised I wouldnt do since leaving Hopewell. Lately though, I have learned a lot more about being a better person. You should become stronger, realize that it isnt your fault, and strive towards whatever will make it better.

62 Name: Anonymous : 2009-03-12 14:11 ID:gGfOnOAY

I'd give him a good slap.

63 Name: me : 2009-03-17 00:03 ID:6yW+Q7IA

when i was 4 my half brother came to live with us.i didnt think he was doing anything wrong until my dad came in to tuck me in gave me a kiss on my forehead and walked out of the brother touched me for a few minutes and my dad walked in on him doing dad was so angry i thought he was upset at mom freaked out.her first born touching her baby at the parents sent me to counciling for a few months and we just went on about our lives.i never talked about it even when i would go visit my siblings i put it to the back of my mind.its not something you want to remember.when i was 16 i went to visit my siblings for spring break.despite what happened i was always closest to my brother.i was always tomboyish.well this spring break i was only hanging out with my sister for a change.the first night my sister her boyfriend and i took ecstacy and my sister had a heart to heart for the very first time in my existance only to find out it wasnt just me my brother molested or did that kind of stuff to.he also did it to my sister and my girl cousins 22 now but i still think and remember every time he would do things to me and it sounds bad but in a way i felt relieved to know i wasnt the only one.come to find out my brother and sisters dads brother was molesting my brother when he was hasnt been until recently that its on my mind constantly.i dont understand why i spent so many years pretending it didnt happen but i dont know who to talk to about it.

64 Name: Anonymous : 2009-03-17 11:02 ID:caIXMoE9

I had an older brother that passed away when I teenager. I loved him a lot and he was a great older brother to me so I can't even begin to understand what you've been going through...
I think your parents (even if they are shocked and horrified) should know. It won't be easy but Be strong and Be brave.
I know we seem like random voices online but I know there is a lot of people here who support you.

65 Name: Anonymous : 2009-04-04 13:21 ID:ghF18Dmx

tell your father about it
tell your father to not mention it to your mother
just leave immediately

and hope op can report soon

66 Name: Anonymous : 2009-06-06 07:34 ID:UCSOIv22

ok. Honey you need to tell your parents if you havent already. i a 21 year old female who was molested by her brother on several occasions at about the same age you were. A couple of years ago the memories of everything came crashing back to me. My mother and I happened to be watching a movie about this cituation and I ended up spilling everything to her. She is a very insightful woman and told me she didnt know that had happened but there was something weird between us two. He lives in the same town and comes to visit my parents and I every week. Sometimes several times a week. So I have to put on a fake face and pretend like I love him in front of my dad. But anyway...long story short. I felt better that my mom knew about it. My close friends all know. It feels good not to feel alone in the world. Im not gonna lie to you. It still hurts. But I think you need to tell your parents why you arent talking to them or visiting. Do you want them to die thinking their son hated them? Becuz thats what they think. They think its them deep down. In my case. It still hurts everyday. I feel so dirty..and wish I could turn back the clock and stop it from happening. then maybe i would have a chance at being normal. But I cant. I know I need to forgive him at some point in my life. I have tried and tried but i just cant bring myself to do. I think to TRUELY MOVE ON YOU AND i BOTH NEED TO FIND IT IN US SOMEWHERE TO FORGIVE THEM....and then finally move on with our lives. Because no matter what we do it will always be nagging on us. Just be the bigger man and forgive him. Not just for show though. You need to find the power within yourself to do it. Then accomplish it and move on. I truely wish you good luck. I hope my story has somehow helped you in someway. Good Luck!

67 Name: Anonymous : 2009-06-06 18:32 ID:TV61qapK


That sounds hard XD!

68 Name: therapist : 2009-08-06 23:15 ID:o3LXfbFy

You should talk to your family about it. If your brother was molesting you, there is a very strong chance that he himself was sexually abused in some way by other children or by adults. You both need professional help.

69 Name: Anonymous : 2009-08-07 03:04 ID:Heaven

Stop bumping this

70 Name: Feel bad : 2009-12-23 04:48 ID:1hm77oRc

i molested my yunger bro 4 a wile. i hve always felt horrible and wil always for ruining his life

71 Name: Anonymous : 2009-12-29 17:53 ID:Heaven

well you should feel bad
have you considered telling him that you feel bad
ignoring the issue is kind of like running down a pedestrian with your car and driving away. intentions and regrets are meaningless if you just leave him to die.

72 Name: Anonymous : 2010-01-03 07:34 ID:c9+Rc/KN

so what happened in the end? did u tell your family or at least have any steps been taken to rectify the situation.

to every1 else is there a story where the situation gets resolved, where the family talks to the offending sibling in a confrontation. basicly i am looking for a happy ending in this kind of situation

73 Name: Anonymous : 2010-03-03 17:49 ID:tGryoK/c

You need to let the authorities know. If there's a child molester living with you, you need to report them. Doesn't matter what happens next, it is the right thing to do and it is the law.

74 Name: Anonymous : 2010-06-06 14:32 ID:0+N/xWYw

I was molestered when I was 5 at school by other students my age but I gues they didn't really know what they were doing and neither did I but I know it wasn't "normal" as we alway did it in secret.. Thankfully my family never molestered me but my dad did beat me badly and even tried to kill me a couple of times until I left the family house when I was 21.
The sad thing is that when I was around 8 I started to molest my two younger brothers and sister who were younger than me..
This went on until I was 21 (my sister was 13) and now I feel sick to the stomach about what happened! I have tried to discuss it with them and one of my brothers who is 4 years younger than me has forgiven me which means so much! My other brother who is 6 years younger than me won't have anyting to do with me and my sister said she will never speak to me again.
I feel so bad that words can't discribe and even after speaking with my mum about it and having therapy I don't think I will ever get over it as I think about every day and feel extremely depressed!!
I believe I'm a good person and really care about others and to think this happened the shame and guilt I feel will never make up to my sibblings what happened and I wish I could do something for them, not for me but just so they know I do care about them a lot and wish it never had happened..
In a lot of ways I think if I just committed suicide it might help in some way as I'll never get over this and I don't think they ever will!

75 Name: Anonymous : 2010-06-10 21:04 ID:vOXuoink

A suicide is a cowards way out. If you really do care like you say, then a life time of redemption shouldn't be to hard. You would be abnormal if you got over it. Somethings in life stay with you forever.

76 Name: Anonymous : 2010-06-16 06:18 ID:7i9Lsi0g

Didn't read much, but I read suicide somewhere. If don't care to use what life you have for yourself, then dedicate it to helping others. Live to love, you know. Maybe then you'll feel better enough to forgive yourself.

77 Name: Anonymous : 2010-07-27 06:30 ID:b/MF9ypK

I am a mother of a five year old little girl,l recently I have found out that she has been molested by her much older brother (my step son). She had made a comment about the absuse to myself while we were having ice cream, I was in shock!!! To think that this was happening to my sweet little girl and I had no idea. I asked my daughter why she did not tell me and she said because it was a "secret" and that she would be in trouble. I brought her to the hospital to be examined and it was worse than I thought. Her brother was charged with sexual abuse on a minor and was taken from our home and placed in foster care. I am devastated, my heart is broken for my little girl. Will she get through this, will we get through this?? What makes this situation more difficult is that this was my husbands son and he is torn, I can never trust this person again to be around my daughter. How do we get through this???

78 Name: Anonymous : 2010-09-24 23:24 ID:JNUcRDSg

Try not to make a big deal out of it. That's all you can do. Else you're just going to induce extra shame. And shame won't make her hymen grow back.

79 Name: riseabove : 2010-09-26 22:11 ID:MXoJb2xi

Sexual abuse CHANGES your brain chemistry.
Sexual pleasure burns "pleasure" pathways (despite the fact that it was forced, no matter the age)when one feels aroused. Those pathways determine what gives you sexual pleasure from that moment on. You cannot change the fact that shame, humiliation and/or domination now feels good (this is biology, NOT judgement). Sexual "deviance" is not a choice; it is an extension of abuse.
I don't know what to say to the author or to the mother of the five year old above. I can only say that divulging my "secret" at the age of 25 was not really a choice. If I had said something at 12 or 15 or 18 or 21 maybe things would have been different. So, to the mother, I can only say that you did something right. Your daughter felt safe enough to tell you and you protected her. I think your daughter will be okay, and that your actions may have prevented her a lifetime of suffering. To the author: Letting something like this fester within you can cause you much more distress than you already have experienced. SAY SOMETHING. You cannot move on or mature emotionally (or socially) until you acknowledge that you experienced something very terrifying, strange and something that made you different. Feeling alone and different leads to isolating behavior. Spending too much time alone, just thinking and suffering, all the while wishing to be normal, is not a life. It is an existence. Disfunction leads to sibling abuse. Your parents are not innocent, do not protect them. This is your life, and you are responsible for it. You are responsible for making yourself healthy and emotionally sound and stable.Even if that means risking everything.

80 Name: Anonymous : 2010-09-27 00:43 ID:73eb1rTD


[citation needed]

But seriously, where did you come up with that crap?

81 Name: Anonymous : 2010-09-27 23:06 ID:CjMux6ub

Personal experience, obviously.

82 Name: Anonymous : 2010-09-29 19:03 ID:oHSMQKUb

Make sure she knows that it's not her fault, it was her stepbrother's.

83 Name: Anonymous : 2010-10-02 01:03 ID:Heaven


>shame won't make her hymen grow back.

That made me laugh.

84 Name: Anonymous : 2011-01-13 02:59 ID:KASihrEV

Stop bumping this thread everyones obviously lying about being molested. its feeding them SO STOP BUMPING IT!

85 Name: Anonymous : 2011-01-13 08:47 ID:pWcgEjoB


lol what got up your ass? this board is near dead, nothing wrong with continued conversation, some of this shit might even help someone.

86 Name: Anonymous : 2011-01-13 08:48 ID:Heaven

plus you're the one who bumped the thread after two months lool

87 Name: Anonymouse : 2011-02-03 23:54 ID:X7la47/i

Reading through all of these I have seen things mostly from the victim's point of view, which is very important. I would like to give another spin on this though, my point of view.
I am not a victim of sexual child abuse, nor am I close to one. However, my Dad has been convicted with sexual child abuse to my ex-Best friend;s elder brother...
I can't say what he did was not wrong but... I love my Dad. He's a wonderful person with a huge and helpful heart. My Mum's East German and was brought up quite badly, when she and my Dad married my elder half-brother from my Mum was 6. My brother is severely autistic and very temper-mental. He's now 22 and very tall and strong. He often has temper tantrums and the only one who can really calm him down is my Dad, usually through a shouting much. Other than my brother, we were a pretty ordinary family, with supportive and loving Mum (who works 5 nights a week as a Nurse), a kind, fun-loving, funny Dad and me. About a year ago, halfway through my GCSE year 11 the police suddenly came to my house and took my Dad away. I was still at school when this happened and afterwards a social worker (the nosy useless parkers) came to my school called me out in the middle of a a lesson and started questioning me about my family life, asking about my Dad. Of course my Dad has never touched any of us before, which is why it was such a shock. I broke down crying and left school early. After that my life became pretty f**ked up, excuse my language.

88 Name: Anonie : 2011-02-04 00:12 ID:X7la47/i

I have started up a thread going in more detail on this comment, although it was originally meant for here. It's called 'The other side to sexual abuse, there is one'.
I was just trying to give some perspective by showing my experiences. Not that that justifies sex offenders actions or anything...just have a look if you're interested, OK?
Best of luck and love,
Anonie (Anonymous gets pretty boring plus you can't tell who's who) xxx

89 Name: Mazo : 2011-02-20 20:50 ID:Z5LOCFvy

C i am similar to how your elder brother does not mean that he is a fake guy or pretending all the time...some people love their siblings the way they would love their gfs or bfs but that does not mean he is an asshole or a crook, who is useless and worthless. my sisters got over with it i spoke with them i even asked for forgiveness and they did later on in their life. Its a part of life, just think of it as he loved me and still does i am attractive for him

90 Name: RISE above the things you cant change : 2011-05-31 17:48 ID:1f+ivRbZ

It started when I was about 4 years old. My brother told me this 'penis' was from this store similar to spencers, and it was an austin powers brand. they had all types of colors. pink blue green. He tried making it sound appealing to me. I doubted his clever odd lies, so I said '"wheres the blue one?" , but he insisted he only 'bought' the pink one. Obviously you know this wasnt a fake strap on. He then told me that the juice was healthy. 'you want to swallow the juice because it is better for your health' as I believed him, thats what I did. For years I was on my knees all the time giving him oral. I remember gagging. just fucked up shit. My little self was on my knees for this bastard who was a role model to me. I just wanted acceptance, being the only girl and the youngest by 7 years.I was about 10 when I finally found the courage to not engage and give into any sexual or abnormal behavior any longer. Those 6 years left me scarred. He is protective of me towards other guys still to this day. Sick fuck. When he hurt me more than those random guys I'd ever have a fling with. He ruined my innocence. It doesnt help when 4 other family members have also molested me. but he hurt me the most. Being bullied throughout school doesnt help either. If my best friends only knew why I really am still abstinent at 18. I feel ive been taken advantage of all my life that I fear giving up all I feel that I have left. Ive attempted suicide twice. hospitalized once. I was in silence all these years . I've coped the only ways I knew how. Now here I am, stuck. I can't seem to decide if I want to tell my mom and ruin his life. I don't want to ruin his life. I know he hurt me but I cant risk anything like that. but my depression is severe. As it always has been, before I was in pre school. Should I continue to suffer in silence. I do not know. I dont want to tear apart my family tthat is already torn apart. :l. Make sure, if youve been abused, to atleast tell one person. It helps so much. I wish you all the best.

91 Name: SHY : 2011-06-01 16:27 ID:YBNf3kKy

i am 35 years old , my all life i have been inside a shell afraid , dirty and ashame. I was molasted from my older brother when i was 10 , and i alwasys have put a fake face , pretend to love him like nothing had ever happen . But in reality , he has ruined my life , i am emotionally destroyed . I really want to tell my parents for many reason , and i know i will will better . i need to tell , i hate pretending we are the perfect family when in reality its not....I HATE HIM FOR DOING THIS TO ME.....

92 Name: Anonymous : 2011-06-02 17:13 ID:3VqnZWOR

You'd be amazed what kinds of people wind up on 4-ch.
So, once you start thinking with your brain and not your dick, try actually <b>reading the thread.</b>

93 Name: Anysia : 2011-07-30 18:53 ID:ZpkuZaMU

I hope its four years later that you have told and told again. Not only for your sake but for your sister (it might have happened to her with all your careful watching), and your mother (who definitely if not knew suspected) we do know our children either near or far. Communication will also help you forgive yourself because you keep taking in all the responsibility when in fact you were a victim of someone who chose the selfishness of his lust upon a defenseless little person. Don't go away. Make sure your brother's wife knows so she can police him.

94 Name: Anysia : 2011-07-30 18:54 ID:ZpkuZaMU

I hope its four years later that you have told and told again. Not only for your sake but for your sister (it might have happened to her with all your careful watching), and your mother (who definitely if not knew suspected) we do know our children either near or far. Communication will also help you forgive yourself because you keep taking in all the responsibility when in fact you were a victim of someone who chose the selfishness of his lust upon a defenseless little person. Don't go away. Make sure your brother's wife knows so she can police him.

95 Name: zoomba : 2011-08-03 13:40 ID:6yzmRh9P

What a surprise I'm not alone, I'm sure people suspected that I was molested, but I will never comfirm this. It is just to much shame and embarrasment, especially since I'am a male and was molested by males. I was molested multiple times by different relatives. I plan on taking this painful secrete to my grave.

96 Name: Abused, Molested & Raped : 2011-08-03 21:06 ID:6R6L1kt5

I am terribly sorry this seems to be such a burden for you to bear. I am only responding to your post to let you know you can put this behind you, live a productive life, and above all, be happy without guilt. I am male, and my abuse was committed by older males. From my first remembrances of my childhood, probably 3 or 4, I can remember "penis play sex-games," which I was too young to think were wrong, being played, with me being the one used by older relatives, mostly cousins. They considered themselves to be normal and ALL of these young men grew up to marry, live bisexual or totally hetrosexual lives but over my young childhood freely had sex with me in every way possible. From a very young age I was intrigued and almost welcomed this sex play. Though I knew it was something that should be kept from the eyes and knowledge of adults, I never considered it to be something really wrong. Around puberty I was physically raped by a cousin 7 years older than I. This mann had served 4 years in the military and was an adult. He penetrated me, initially with a great deal of pain, and initially I was very frightened when it happened. We kept an on/off relationsihp going until he married possibly 10 or so years later. I accepted the fact that I was gay. I am a very masculine man and just kept hoping something would change. This cousin married and fathered 7 children, and still on every occasion when he and I would meet at family gatherings and such, he would, without variation, make an excuse to somehow be alone with me for sex. Eventually, I began to avoid situations where he would be involved to avoid sex with him. Again, not because I felt guilty about it, but because I felt sorry for his spouse and children and I had developed other friendships and relationships. My parents and other family members never knew and I never saw any reason to tell them. I have never regretted not telling. I would suggest to you not to tell your family, and if necessary, just avoid your brother. My advise would also be to start a slow relationship with your father it will build and grow if nurtured a bit, even now. I have lived a happy, productive life, and have been with partner now for over 30 years. I make no excuses for anyone, including myself. We cannot make up for the past, mistakes or otherwise. Try to be positive, put a positive twist on you and start being happy. I believe we are responsible for our happiness. Best of luck to you.

97 Name: anonymous : 2011-08-07 07:40 ID:st8gARdJ

Please guys,it doest matter if you are 10 or 50,you need to tell someone. You are not responsible for the mistakes someone makes. You already have a great burden to bear,it time for you to claim back your life and start to work on your happiness. It was never your fault,reclaim what's yours (the innocence in all this). You have so much power at this moment,and not for bad but good. Abusers never stop,if they have done it to you,they are probably doing it to someone close to you,or them. Their sons,daughter,neiices and nephews,your children. Please don't let their innocence be taken too. The abusers also need help,this,what they did is not normal,they need help,to determine what went wrong. Release them too. Last words is please get some professional help,this is not something you can move on from like some people are advising you too,you can't forget. So do it right for your futures sake,you don't want to become or continue being the abuser. Be brave okay. Good luck.

98 Name: bobby : 2011-09-20 04:29 ID:79l0qVjI

You are allowing him to get away with what he did to you. He is. Just living life and you are the one suffering fro his actions. Set yourself free already and tell your family. Good luck.

99 Name: noname : 2011-09-26 15:05 ID:8pEr1IGY

I need an email to get help for my little brother whos being sexually abused by my younger sister. He told me and we told my mom and she doesn't believe its happening but he now sleeps on my floor because they both slept with my mom and now that he's told someone he doesn't want it happening anymore. I love him to death and don't want this happening. Idk if theres a place she could go to get rehab for doing things like that, or a therapist or something but my mom is of no help and I need something to be done. Please send me a link or email me at PLEASEEEE

100 Name: Anonymous : 2011-09-26 23:45 ID:kcX+KzKR

Put a stop to it yourself, why don't you.

101 Name: Anonymous : 2011-10-23 03:17 ID:+SYNYGNk

I was just sleeping and i woke up and someone was feeling me up i thought it was my boyfrined as he was sleeping next to me but it wasnt. It was my older brother. I could feel him touching me everywhere and he tried to go down there but i was shutting my legs. I was pretending to sleep hoping he will go away but he wouldnt so i told him to go, i begged him to go, i cant stop cring now as it happened about 20 minutes ago, what do i do ? please help me someone, please !

102 Name: Anonymous : 2011-10-23 03:27 ID:UGLmUBQn

In the morning, it's probably best to tell someone. That sounds terrible.

103 Name: Anonymous : 2011-10-23 21:13 ID:RQOjFGP7

>>101 I would just use a time when everyone is around to explain that you have been "touched" by your brother in an improper way.

Don't feel guilty about it, push all the guilt on him, and let your family support you.

104 Name: Anonymous : 2011-10-24 12:30 ID:kcX+KzKR

Why didn't you wake your boyfriend up? What the fuck?

105 Name: Anonymous : 2011-11-03 04:50 ID:POfNsazF

I am a male, now 23, married with a kid. When I was 4, I had a babysitter,a guy, who when everyone left for one and it's just us he would call me into the room look the door and give me his penis to play with it. He told me to play with it till the 'white milk' comes out and that was what I did. After that I end up feeling different from other kids. I am over conscious of myself, and ashamed to engage with other guys and talk with them. I have never told anyone, but I am a complete introvert now. I only talk and engage in conversations with others when I am drunk. I read this posting I know it has to do with what happened that time. I am big now and if I see that baby sitter again, I will cut off his penis.

106 Name: werya : 2011-11-07 16:04 ID:PnazRCmW

hi my name is werya im 28 years old i want see you .

107 Name: Anonymous : 2011-11-08 11:36 ID:OgfA8XEv

Oh, yeah? Well, at least
I don't touch Freddy.
Yeah, he touches my little brother. He takes
him behind the furnace and touches him.
He..He... He fingers him.

You hear that, Dad? You're gonna pay!

He's a molester. He's a child molester!

108 Name: Anonymous : 2011-11-12 09:31 ID:fnHxxlsR

Only a couple friends and my mom know these things about me but here we go I did alot of rotten things when I was younger like experimenting with my cousins (guys) more than once, doing stuff to animals, molesting my little cousin when I was 14 and also my step brother at tht same age.Im 20 now and too this day I still regret all the things I did when I was younger. I was shown porn when I was only 8 and my uncle and dad pretty much taught me things about sex tht a normal kid dnt learn till there about twelve and Im not saying its there fault its completely mine but I just wanted to explain these situations more detailed... Im a good person now and I would do anything to change all the things I did when I was a rotten teen but I cnt I just try to move on with my life.. the question is how old was ur brother?

109 Name: disguisted : 2011-11-21 03:53 ID:2kQqHgHq

i have been molested. and my mom is feeling guilty and pushes me away. she even said its to late to do something about it. (depression) im homeless and still
hurting as of now

110 Name: andrea : 2011-11-21 20:33 ID:6yO/TGwJ

I was molested when I was 13 by my dad. He would bribe me with stuff just so he could feel my breasts. One time he gave me $100 just to let him stick his hand down my pants for 5 minutes. I finally told my mom and it was a good thing because it turns out he was bribing my younger sister as well. Please tell!!!

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112 Name: Anonymous : 2011-11-26 17:33 ID:maP8hsm5

oh my god how did i get here from hockey hits to pparents molesting kids

113 Name: bbgunn34 : 2011-11-28 04:50 ID:/FRw7UPC

my brother molested me too. u have to tell someone... at first i didnt want to ruin the family.. but its not ur fault he ruined the family.. and ur parents and rest of ur family will forgive him wether you forgive him is you choice but do tell someone or you will never be right... and also go see a counciler at first i thought i was going to hate it but in the end it really helped me relize it wasnt my fault... im not gay. but im not against gays in fact i think its shit tht its a LAW tht gay men cant get married.. but tell your family and maybe oneday ull relize ut was the right decision

114 Name: Angel143 :P : 2011-11-30 02:28 ID:RXjXIzuA

I need help idk if I was raped or not when I was mom had recently told me that she was when she was 8 and her dad had phisicaly abused her and my grandma all the time..I don't kno who had raped my mom she never had Told me..but she is kind of a trashy person now I used to live with her for awhile but now I live with my gma my mom never did tell her that she was raped but I'm not sure if I was or not I just got the thought that I might have bin at a really younger age because I have always bin terrified at night, I am a cruel person and emo -_-, plus it might explain y I am so messed up in a lot of different ways..there's more reasons then that that I don't want to say..I wish I could remember if I had bin or not it make angry >:(

115 Name: Anonymous : 2011-11-30 12:04 ID:3VLRoc4n

>>114 If you can't remember being raped, then forget about it. Better to address the problems you can see, and really must deal with, rather than look for "fashionable" problems you would like to have had to explain your current misery.

116 Name: tenaciouslydriven : 2011-12-02 09:36 ID:HGQp9NQ6

when I was 6 I was sexually molested by my biological father. He was drunk at the time and if my mom hadn't pulled up, he wouldve penetrated me. Welllater that year, I was molested/raped by an older cousin, he was like 14 at the time. I never said a word. I always kept to myself. Well growing up, I've always been a little effeminate so when those things started happening to me at such an early age, I blamed myself. Well when I was 11, my older brother, 15 held me down and penetrated me, then proceeded to release ( as in urinate ) himself inside of me! I was horrified, but once again, I didn't say anything. I kept to myself.. . . .years went by, me living in hurt, shame, and with no self esteem, I was weighing a whopping 275lbs by the age of 15, I had attempted suicide twice and was on my way to the grave! I was diagnosed with diabetes, high bloop pressure, high cholesterol and all. When I was 16 I had a light stroke at work. And that's when I woke up! And started doing bedda, eating healthier, whatever! Needless to say I lost over 120 lbs. Unfortunately when I was 18 I was raped by this 46 year old an, but by this time I had had enough! I tried to kill his azz! I got tired of being the fuqn victim. . . .god that bothers me! But I'm still here. You have to learn to forgive but you will never forget. Pray and ask God to have mercy on them and to help you ease your mind enuff to the point where you're able to have a conversation without being uncomfortable. You are an adult now, you have control over you, you know what is right and what is wrong. It's what it is, take it or leave it

117 Name: Anonymous : 2011-12-03 21:50 ID:E1VTfhDi

^jesus FUCKIN' christ!!!^
what fucking country does this chick live in??
hhhhhhooooly fuck! that is just about the most FUCKED UP story i've EVER, EVER heard in my entire life!! jesus, jesus, jesus!
i mean wutkinda?

118 Name: Anonymous : 2011-12-03 22:57 ID:o2GHkYe9

>>117 sad to say, could have been any country at all. This is why people should receive early sex education, and be informed on where they can get help if they have this kind of trouble.

119 Name: Chloe : 2011-12-04 06:18 ID:Kkc4oEz2

Okay soo all I wanted to say is that I'm a 14 year old girl who is sexually harrassed by my much older couisn it started out when I was 12 he made me hold hands with him under the blanket while watching a movie when the movie got to a part with sex he put his hand on my inner thigh and squeezed till it bruised then he grab my had and put it to where it was sitting on his erection and forced me to rub it for him well a while after that we went to our beach house and he tried to until my bathing suit and when I was walking pass him to go out side with everyone else he pulled me down on him and started to push his erection into my ass and everytime I tried to get up he would grab my hips rather hard and dig his nails into me to the point I was bleeding and I had to stay there till he jizzed in his pants he is really good friends with my step dad so when I stayed the night at our house when we got back from our beach house well as I was changing he came into my room and bite my neck leaving a mark and he made me suck him off to the point where I was choking on his dick and he keep going and slapped me cause i didn't swallow well it cme back to our next beach trip which was this year and I'm fourteen now and then and he is 31 while we where there he would grab my boobs and pussy and bruise them and he would pull my hair so he can bite my neck and he is always graving my ass and tryin to make me kiss him I really wish I could tell but he just got married and his wife is having a baby and I don't want to ruin his friendship with my dad

120 Name: anonymous : 2011-12-06 01:31 ID:RiTy+r/i


121 Name: Anonymous : 2011-12-06 08:40 ID:3VLRoc4n

>I don't want to ruin his friendship with my dad

What twisted line of thought is that? He is the one ruining the friendship by abusing his friend's daughter. He is an adult and fully responsible for his actions AND their consequences, not you.

It's good that you can speak of it in an anonymous board, but if you don't want this to poison your life, you should reach for psychological help. I suggest you call a help hotline specialized in sexual abuse, they will be able to tell you where to go for help in your region. There is much suffering you can avoid if you do that.

Don't worry about what happens to that guy, that's way down the line. For now just take care of yourself. But one thing is certain: never let that guy come into contact with you. And in order for you to manage that, you must get external help so that you know how to proceed in a sane manner. You don't have to solve this problem alone.

122 Name: sum1smom : 2011-12-10 01:47 ID:fhFdyGkv

People who have never been sexually abused cannot understand how it makes a victim of it feel. It makes even intelligent, rational people do things they wouldn't otherwise. I was molested by an older brother when I was 9 and he was 19. I blocked it out for a very long time, but when I was 21, that all changed. I finally told everyone what he had done. You cannot control how other people will react to finding something like this out. My father couldn't believe it. My mother felt guilty and didn't want to believe it. Neither of them ever turned away from my brother. In fact, even after all the other things he has done over the years, my mother lets him live with her because he is such a loser and cannot support himself. He has been to jail a couple of times because he stalks his ex-wife and my mother still looks the other way. It is a "good Christian thing" for her, I think.
I joined the military and got away from that area an now live 1000 miles away from my family. I had 10 brothers and sisters and I only keep in touch with a couple of them on a regular basis. None of my siblings will have anything to do with this brother after all the crap he has done. I just can't be near him in any way.
I have no regrets in ever telling what happened. It is good to tell someone and get it out of your head. That kind of thing eats you up and makes you angry and makes you feel like you are less a person than you are. You have to purge yourself of the secret and move on with you life.
It doesn't matter if you are gay or straight, this is ugly, painful and it can ruin your life to carry it around. There are NO extra points in life for being a martyr. You need to take care of yourself and find the help you need to face overcoming this violation you have gone through.
I have a son who is 13 who is harassed at school and on the bus, and today it turned to sexual harassment. I will not stand for it. No good parent should, but sometimes parents are haunted by their own demons and don't know how to handle a monster like this for their child, so they hide their heads in the sand and hope it will go away.
If you parent loves you, they will fight for you. If they can't, find someone who will. Go tell your teacher, a friend's parent, a police officer, whoever you can get to listen so it can end if it is happening now. And if it happened in the past, talk to a healthcare person and get the help you need to recover. There is hope for you to be the person you deserve to be, but holding it in will not let you do that.
"The truth shall set you free" and I know from experience, this is truth in itself.

123 Name: action now : 2011-12-18 00:40 ID:cIsJ23ti

Right! There are 7 BILLION people on this planet. All of them had a mother and a father, whether they know them or not. Abuse comes in many shapes and sizes and order of severity, when you are faced with incestual abuse, you are made to suffer in the same way as a political prisoner or a citizen of a corrupt regime: you live in constant fear and self doubt. I know as for me my incest story is 30 years old and only in the last 2yrs have I forced a situation whereby my abuser and I do not see each other, for the sake of my mental health. We have talked on the subject, I know his grief and guilt is true and I still care for him. However, and this is my advice: I am not that badly off: there are people who suffer much greater extremes of abuse, those poor street kids in India, Congo, Sierra Leone, poor women in Afghanistan, I could go on for pages but I am lucky to be able to walk away from the past. I feel for all those people who have suffered or are still suffering at the hands of the lies abusers use to manipulate. I understand. It is only 30yrs after the fact that I am strong enough to rationalise. Yet I have met children with much stronger convictions than myself, because they learnt one thing earlier than I did: there is nothing you can do to change the past, but your present is yours as is the future. If you are still being abused, talk to someone trustworthy: there are plenty of confidential ways of doing this. Do not confront your abuser directly, abuse can
get worse! If it is ritual abuse then you may have to involve the authorities as any abuser who repeats the abuse is not just a danger to you but others also, but most importantly do not suffer in silence - it WILL scar you for life if you cannot write it off and move on. Be brave, you will be amazed at what you are capable of. It is very hard on loved ones, if it is a close family situation. I have hurt my mother a great deal by telling her last year, in many ways I wish I hadn't. I know I did it to feel vindicated, but it just hurt her and causes more awkwardness: I still get asked why I don't want to go to family occassions - so am painted as an outcast, obviously my
mother and I don't want to make a bad situation worse. The abuse was 30yrs ago between children, it is over and not worth the aggro: friends and family have been born and died in that time. Just because I have deep seated resentment/envy/vengefulness doesn't mean I need be a prick and pathetic by tearing people's lives apart now. So! What I'm saying is get some
perspective, if it's serious get help, if you are locked in a family situation, tell someone outside the family. Build up YOUR support network and be prepared to cut off your family. It IS hard, but you only have one life - don't spend 1/2 of it being bitter as I have, deal with it, move on, don't do it others. Lastly, to those detailing their experiences on this page, remember abusers may read this as well as victims / survivors, don't give them the fuel they require to continue, be vague about details and concise about your problem. To all fellow survivors, my love and hope, you CAN be happy I promise. To all those abusers and abusive posters, fuck you and die, make some space for nicer people on or little planet.

124 Name: patrick : 2011-12-20 13:10 ID:FbtZ/8JO

Hello my friend, I just wanted to say that my story is exactly the same as yours. The only difference is I am 44 years old, and I have managed to find a way to move on with my life. I was 11 when this started happening, and my brother is two years old me. I am a gay man, and I'm sure that this has nothing to do with my brother. My reckless behavior, I now realize has little to do with what happened when I was 11. And my hatred for my older brother has subsided a little bit, but I realize it is mostly because he is a jerk. It has very little to do with being masturbated and come upon when I was a kid. I was a rather horny kid, and while what happened freaked me out, I found out that sexual experimentation was going down among my friends in a very similar fashion. I have little doubt that you were traumatized, but I suspect that your problems that are much larger, and also stemmed from societal intolerance of people of our type. I have been seeing a psychiatrist, which is not cheap. But it has proved helpful. And I see now that my brother has problems of his own. I don't know if he remembers what happened, but I forgive him for it. The problems I had had in my life, can not even nearly be blamed on him. I spoke with my psychologist about saying something, and I realized that not only would it not help me, but it would hurt so many other people. But I'm not going to tell you that you should not pursue whatever roads bring you to good mental health. Perhaps a confrontation just between you and your brother would help, but I'm guessing it would bring you more pain, because I doubt he will understand why you were digging up something from so far in the past. He will likely only see it as an attack on him. I can almost guarantee you that your parents will not see this in the same light that you do. Because they love both of you and cannot be expected to change because of what you tell them. Is this fair? You know it is not. I think that if you look at your history of insecurity, you may find that there's a lot more to this than just those childhood events. We are made up of all the things that happened to us in our lives, the good and the bad. Much of your behavior reflects poor self esteem, I am the king of that behavior, I am lucky that I do not have AIDS. I went through many years of very reckless sexual behavior, as well as drinking and drug abuse, trying to escape who it is that I am. But no matter how hard you try, you are still you. And it is my opinion that you are a valid and beautiful person. It is your actions from this day forth that will help determine the kind of person that you are, and the kind of person that you want to be.... If acceptance from the people around you is what you desire, then you must be accepting of the people around you for who and what they are, and I know that is a big pill to swallow, a really big pill to swallow! (continued next post)

125 Name: patrick : 2011-12-20 13:13 ID:FbtZ/8JO

(continued) But I suspect that you will find your true character, when you start to think outside yourself, and it starts to see how much beauty is around us if we choose to see it. I have been able to deal with my family, by learning to understand their own pain and their shortfalls, which are many. Has this brought me solace? Yes, to some degree. You are at a very transitional age right now, no longer a child, you are entering the crux of your manhood. I know one important thing for me, was to reach out to people in the gay community and hear their stories. Some were abused by others, some were terribly abused by their own insecurity. Our own insecurity leads to actions that we often regret later in life, you are very fortunate to still have your health despite your behaviors. You will find many in the gay community would do not have that luxury. Be kind, and thoughtful, when you tell your story to these people because many of them have been through much worse, and yet they are much stronger people because of it, even those who live with disease consider themselves much stronger as human beings. Draw your strength from sharing and communicating, and loving these people..... They are reflections of you and me. I hope what I have said can be of some help to you, I still have times of loneliness and pain, but I do not linger in them, I get up and I go out and I have contact with other people, sometimes in a 12 step group(and I know that probably sounds corny to you, but it's a great place to share your problems, and in sharing your problems you would help other people.... And what a fantastic healing feeling, that comes to ...) Sometimes I go to the local LGBT community center, and I asked what I can do to help. Sometimes they make me clean the, but I'm so glad to do it, they have given the love whether they know it or not. The best healing I have found, is in helping to heal others... Sometimes that happens with just a few kind words, more often it happens by listening to the pain and joys of others.... It may sound corny but trust me on this, it took awhile but it has been my miracle. And this is what I wish for you... if you need to contact me i have created a new email addy so you can contact me, i will use my middle name, as i do in Group setting. so here it is- if you need to chat ok bro?

126 Name: anon : 2011-12-20 22:39 ID:vF4GGV7F

I had been through the same things you've been through from the ages of 4-12. I am now 17 and you need to tell your parents. You have it bottled up inside of you and you don't know it but it is eating at you everyday. You need to let someone know, they will understand you over anything. My mom also went through the same situations and she's in therapy for it right now. Dealing with it is so hard, but it will pay off in the end, I promise.

127 Name: anonymous : 2012-01-09 16:24 ID:qSWQcwy6

Listen I was recently sexually molested by my brother i am now in counseling for bout 3 weeks now and have forgiven my brother maybe you should try to do the same. i was 12 he was 17 . i know its hard i've had expierence but it does get better some take more time to heal then others do

128 Name: Bob : 2012-01-13 17:52 ID:EIChJDNd

Maybe he thought you where a girl? Use both where young and people do stupid things when they are young, When young animals are born brother or sisters they will try the same...We are actually animals until we grow a few brain cells.

129 Name: Cinthya : 2012-01-15 01:15 ID:jj20yCC1

What happened to you was tragic. No matter how difficult it may be, the first thing you must do is expose your brother's true colors. Tell them the TRUTH. Why should people think of you negatively when it was your brother who was doing you wrong? Tell your family what he did and keep in mind that they may not believe you.

They will deny it. Your family will not believe you (at first). They may even hate you, believing that you will go so far as to "invent" such a horrible lie about your own brother.

But you know the truth. Tell them that you are worried about your little sister. Tell them that if she starts acting the same way as you did when you were a child than they probably know why. They can't say you didn't warn them. They will have no one to blame but themselves. You will feel more guilty if you don't say anything.

I feel strongly about this because it is often someone in your family who ends up sexually harassing your loved ones.

After you have said all that needed to be said, move on. The beautiful thing about life is that the world keeps turning, the clock keeps ticking and life goes on. Your past doesn't define who you are, it is your future that counts. Who are you now? Who will you be? Whom will you become?

Stay positive and I give you my best wishes.

130 Name: Anonymous : 2012-01-17 15:31 ID:HMlhdJt2

Never let anyone abuse anyone and just get away with it! That's not right man! I was abused when I was 12 and my brother-in-law was 23. I said something the next year and found out he had raped my sister too...luckily because I said something it stopped. Don't worry about if it will mess his life up, it's his fault! Your parents would probably rather that you do tell them! I'm a 21 year old guy and I am straight as a board and free of sexual abuse!

131 Name: Ur_a_fag : 2012-01-22 00:52 ID:F7oZEbQS

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132 Name: Warfare : 2012-01-30 16:27 ID:XbKXPCjY

Hey...Today I Discovered That My Girlfiend's Brother Molested And Raped Her Since She Was 8 Up Until She Was 14... I'm Really Worried About Her Because She Told Me Today And She Claims To Be Okay but I Can Tell She's Lying...And After Reading Your Guys' Posts I Know That She's Not Okay...Her Dad Asked Her Whats Going On And She Told Him About Everything...She Was Also Raped Repeatedly By Her BRother's Friends...I Know It's Not The Right Path To Follow But I'm Hunting Them Down And Beating Them Savegely For Each Second That Hurt Her... Her Brother Is Next On The List And I Think That He Deserves It... Everybody That Does This Kind Of Shit Should Go Straight To Hell! I Belong There Aswell, I Used To Do It And I Can Tell You Guys...I've Never Forgiven Myelf For Screwing Up Those Poor Girls' Lives, I Probally Never Will And I Deserve That. Im 18 Now, My Girlfriend Is 16 And I Dont Know...I Want To Take Her Away And Keep Her Safe, But First Im Going To Kill Her Brother... thanx For Starting This Amazing Chat Room♥♥

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134 Name: trust123 : 2012-01-31 22:37 ID:FRjnNsGO

I cant stop crying reeding this post. my heart goes out to all of you who have suffered through this. I have never been molested but i just found out that my boyfriend of 3 years was molested by a teacher when he was only 5 years old. at 28 y/o he is unable to speak about. The worse part is that he then molested and raped his own sister when he was 13 y/o and until 17.... His sister was only 8 and abuse stopped when she was 12 (so when on for 4 long painful years). i am ignorant about this topic but i think a 13y/o and i know a 17 y/o knows what the fuck he is doing? sorry i am so angry, so disappointed, literally my stomach turns.
He said it started like a game, like sexual exploration and gradually turned into imitating porn and eventually rape because she would cry and ask him to stop =.( He then moved out to go to college and came back to asked for her forgiveness at age 18 after lots of prayer, remorse, guilt, and what appears to be a period of depression he asked for her forgiveness. he claim to me that his sister forgave him years ago, when she was 13 and they moved on. they seam so "normal" and healthy. i have gone on vacations with them and family reunions and would not imagine in a million years anything. aside from birthday cards, normal communication in facebook. last week she send him a msg saying "God loves you and i do too big bro". i don't understand... is it even possible? He did not have to tell me, i would have never found out but he wants to marry me and wanted to be honest with me. as victims do you think he can he still be a normal person and have done such horrible thing? I immediately got him a therapist and he stated weekly sessions. but i am afraid of him and what he could do to me or to our unborn children one day. am i asking for it if i don't run from him as fast as possible? this person i loved turned into a monster in front of my eyes. do people like that do it again and again? are there any books that can help me cope with this? thanks....

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136 Name: very sad : 2012-02-03 02:15 ID:oj7Gz8Zq

I molested my 5 year old sister when I was 15 (no penetration and she was not sad at that time, she wanted it when I was sober, but I did not) She has now told both my parents(3 months agoe), wich I think is good. It happened 2-3 times when I was taking strong drugs like amfetamin and cocain.. She is now 18 and is not speaking with me and dosent want to meet me. But for 13 years we had a really good relationship. But now its lost. I have been there for all of them and made my best to support them in this disaster. Every time my mother is talking to me she mentions how bad my sister feels. What can I do? I just cant sleep, think and just laying and shaking and sweating and feeling so bad. I would like to die but dont have the courage. I have stopt with drugs for 10 years, but now i smoke weed again just to keep me alive. Not to think of the pain I caused here. Why the hell did I do it?! I have been sexually ofended by a 3 year older boy when I was 7 and I had a really messed up life from start. But Its not an excuse for what I did. I want to suffer and I just want to leave everything in scandinavia. Leave my fiance who I told what I did. She wants a baby, but I cant do it... not that Im afraid that I would molest it but just that I dont deserve it and what others might think of me....

137 Name: Anonymous : 2012-02-03 15:29 ID:3VLRoc4n

>>136 you should seek counseling, so that you can start to deal with your traumas in a responsible manner. When you have cancer, you go to a doctor to fix you up, you do not stay at home wailing about how unfair life is. It is the same in this case: be responsible and seriously take care of the problems that plague you. You cannot expect your sister to forgive you if you do not take concrete steps to fix yourself, instead of just "feeling sorry". Also, it is not fair to your partner that you "punish" yourself as some kind of "pay back". Nobody needs payback, what everybody needs is some real therapy.

What happened is sad, and you are a victim and an aggressor. But what matters now is how you deal with the fallout. Will you keep weeping in an apathetic and childish way, or will you seriously address your problems by requesting professional help?

138 Name: Lynnea Mae McConnell : 2012-02-08 19:49 ID:bm/gjxx4

I am a 27 white female-
My older brother from the age of me 6 to 14 he sexually tortured and molested me.
To this day it haunts me- it kills my smile when he comes around-BUT I had to forgive him- he took from me that was not for his taking-for years I was scared and felt like it was my fault- IT is NOT- Counseling helps-but you need to sit down with your brother and have some kind of peace about it.
My brother is sick and I knew this- I knew then and know now that he needs help always so this does not happen again-
You are 28- don't be scared anymore- I know home is comfort zone..but he is no longer able to hurt you and that is where you need to move on...and Emotionally- you became mature at age 9 when he started...our emotional levels go up when molested by a family member for years- I'm not a Dr and did not read that anywhere-but it is true .
Good Luck in Life- it has more to offer than looking back and reopening that "box"

139 Name: Stopitsicko : 2012-02-09 18:19 ID:2ELnShlf

you should definitely tell your family! all of you people telling him to just move on have no idea how easier said than done that is, not to mention, ignorant. There is foregiveness of yourself,accepting reality of all things,NEVER forgetting(not by choice, but by persistant trauma),dealing with sexual,emotional confusion beccause your entire perception of two is completely destorted and missplaced cuz u learn each role differentlyand earlier in life tha. Most. Also, there is the facts. Abusers repeat patterns, either on themselves with self abuse or too others, enabling the sickness. It is completely irresponsible and destructive to let even the possibility of this behavior to repeat itself, and keepibg silent about it, is only enabling it. Sexuality is learned behavior. sexual abuse or incestual sexual abuse is NOT OK. Abuse is not invited, wht are u telling him to get passed it as if its a roadblock that somehow just shows you a detour to a path you dont get to choose! I belive you should blow the lid off that bucket of denial and lies. Free yourself, soeak out for justice, u didnt have a choice of control then but you do now! Stop THE CIRCLE,BREAK THE PATTERN AND GET YOUR JUSTICE!!!

140 Name: Stopitsicko : 2012-02-09 18:26 ID:2ELnShlf

you should definitely tell your family! all of you people telling him to just move on have no idea how easier said than done that is, not to mention, ignorant. There is foregiveness of yourself,accepting reality of all things,NEVER forgetting(not by choice, but by persistant trauma),dealing with sexual,emotional confusion beccause your entire perception of two is completely destorted and missplaced cuz u learn each role differentlyand earlier in life tha. Most. Also, there is the facts. Abusers repeat patterns, either on themselves with self abuse or too others, enabling the sickness. It is completely irresponsible and destructive to let even the possibility of this behavior to repeat itself, and keepibg silent about it, is only enabling it. Sexuality is learned behavior. sexual abuse or incestual sexual abuse is NOT OK. Abuse is not invited, wht are u telling him to get passed it as if its a roadblock that somehow just shows you a detour to a path you dont get to choose! I belive you should blow the lid off that bucket of denial and lies. Free yourself, soeak out for justice, u didnt have a choice of control then but you do now! Stop THE CIRCLE,BREAK THE PATTERN AND GET YOUR JUSTICE!!!

141 Name: kate : 2012-02-13 15:25 ID:Jx/lQzWT

know how you feel but my mother is on my brothers side so im living it all alone. It hurts

142 Name: Charlene De Gama : 2012-02-22 12:02 ID:zzJldYcU

I come from an under priveledged back ground, both my parents were alcoholics and often had open sex in the presence of my older brother and I. My brother started by rubbing my pubis area and massaging my thigs.He would come to my bed and I would pretend as if I'm asleep while he masturbated me.He would allow me to climax and then he would go back into his bed.I felt good and he penetrated me a few times with my consent. I don't know what or how I felt at the time but accused him of molestation once and I regretted it because he turned his back on me.I love him dearly and he loves me and we still talk openly about our spouses.Currently I have had sexuall urges for him because my husband's penis is the size of my little pinky and my brother is very well hung. My brother would do anything for me and my children whom I have had from a previous relationship.I'm scared to lose him because he means the world to me and would even go to the extent of not taking any cognisance if his wife had to say anything against me.

143 Name: watami : 2012-02-23 16:19 ID:g3je34rI


144 Name: Sleepless in Brooklyn : 2012-02-26 05:30 ID:l8wrH3Nf

If you were thinking of telling your family about past abuse - wait. I did and no one is talking to me any more. They don't believe it happened and they just think I am a troublemaker.

145 Name: Bethere : 2012-06-15 14:44 ID:RPuGurdZ

I have been through this. It took me a long time to admit to myself that I wasn't the sick and crazy one. I struggled, and I still struggle. But I am stronger, and more confident than I ever thought possible. I was lucky, I had a friend I could trust, i told her first. It felt so good to have that secret off my chest, and someone who could hear. From there I went to a psychologist. Best decision of my life. I have also been on medication to help me through the depression, and I am doing so much better. I have a career, I have a house, I am a good person. I refuse to let what he did to me, ruin me. I hope that you can find some professional resources to help you as well. Someone who has NOT experienced this, will never know. The shame, the guilt, the pain that we have had to live with. Seeing your abuser regularily and having to pretend they don't make you want to vomit, is much too much for many - BUT REMIND YOURSELF - you made it through. You are not to blame. It was not your fault! You deserve to be happy. I have made the choice that I will never confront my brother, but that only came after a lot of therapy, a lot of self reflection. To me, there is nothing he can say or do to take it away, so for me, it won't give me peace. Knowing that I am so much better than him, and that I am a survivor, is what I focus on. My friends , and family, those that I have a healthy relationship, are what matters. You need to LIVE PAST AND BEYOND what happened. The abuse is not who you are, it is only a piece of what you overcame! Learn to love and trust yourself again. Ignore those that are too ignorant to understand. REmember: 'Be who you are, say what you feel. Those that matter won't mind. Those that do, don't matter' All the best wishes in your quest for peace, self acceptance and contentment. You deserve it. >>60

146 Name: Katie : 2012-07-06 03:05 ID:yeLSUKxi

My brother sexually abused me when I was 12 years old. I am still only a teen and I can definitely relate to what your going through. I'm still struggling with the emotional toll it has taken on me. I'm planning on telling my therapist I have recently been going to (for other reasons) about what has happened to me. Even though this was a long time ago, I completely agree that you should tell someone about what has happened to you. Even though this has happened to you, you deserve to be happy and fulfill your dreams. Forget about all those people in the word who say mean things, torment others just to make themselves feel better, and hurt others because they have a problem with themselves. I hope you can (or already have) gotten through this and are working your hardest to over come the emotion parts of this.
Wishing you the best in life along with happiness and peace,

147 Name: Katie : 2012-07-06 03:07 ID:yeLSUKxi

Sorry for my grammar and spelling errors...

148 Name: Anonymous : 2012-07-11 19:22 ID:qRy5dzHD

How will getting him into trouble help you? It won't, you can't modify the past. All you're going to do is hurt someone, someone who has issues controlling themselves. It's likely that he's already hurt himself, why throw more onto him over something so small? If it wasn't for society you wouldn't even be emotionally "damaged" by the so called "sexual abuse" that took place in the past.

149 Name: Becky. : 2012-08-10 05:40 ID:PN4qVV2f

I, too, was molested by my older brother. It started when I was 11 years old. He'd of been, 14 years old. It started out as just simple "touching" and "feeling" around my body. Poking around. I just thought to myself that all boys will do it at some point, because their curiousity would get the better of them. Boy, I should've prepared myself for what happened next. Being only 11, I assumed it was a one time thing. I didn't think much of it, then it got much worse. He'd start forcing me into corners, and humping me... O_O
He would try to put his hands down my pants, and in my shirt. He'd say dumbass shit like, "I like the flowers on your shirt," just so he could feel me up. He literally did it ANY chance he got. Meaning, when my parents were turned away. It happened for four years. Up until about two weeks ago, actually. I JUST told my parents what he's been doing. I only told them a fraction of the truth. I told them that he's been touching me, and feeling me. I didn't tell them that he's been putting his mouth on my personal areas, or humping and grinding on me against the wall. I know I need to, soon. They sent him to therapy, which I thought was the stupidest idea ever. What? Show him that it's wrong and case closed? No. His ass should be locked up. Then, they go about their day like nothing happened, and like he's a perfect little angel. At least they don't leave me alone here with him anymore. Thank God. But still, it's hard. I've been wanting to kill myself for quite some time. Hopefully, I'll seek the right help for that. Time to go tell my parents the truth. Good luck to you. I hope you make it out there. :)

150 Name: Anonymous : 2012-08-14 07:36 ID:goaNAGTm

I accidentally touched my younger sister's boob once; I hope she's not emotionally scarred.

151 Name: Guilt Ridden Brother : 2012-08-23 06:24 ID:Q+aBPHoh

I'll apologize in advance for the long post, but I am bearing my soul, and sharing this for the first time.

When I was a young, curious, confused teenager (prolly 15 or so, maybe a bit older) I made the mistake of letting my curiosity get the better of me. Twice I felt my younger (by 2 years) sister's vagina in her sleep. I sort of touched around, by the opening and a little bit in the first time, but not the second (like to your first knuckle from completely outside, but she was still a virgin, and I don't think i was doing it right anyway, so i wonder if it was even penetration). I never tried to give her pleasure, to kiss, or to lick, never touched her clit, and I never jerked off or even played with my penis or touched her with it. The second time, she woke up and said "gross". I feigned starting awake from her response and asked what woke her, to which she just went right back to sleep.

Perhaps a year or two prior, we had both been curious about the other sex's body, so we would innocently show each other and do the same with our 2 best friends. Puberty makes kids do silly things. I did notice that she shied away from it first. Actually, we were pretty open with each other about our private parts as children, and didn't really see anything wrong with running around the house naked.

I am 24 now, and I have ever since been filled with guilt and regret over the whole situation. What made it worse was that both times were when we were sharing a bed on vacation. I feel like I have totally failed her and violated her trust - as a big brother, family member, and a friend - and have sullied the sibling bond.

I don't know if she remembers any of it, or how it's affected her; we'd always had a strained relationship as kids and I thought she didn't like me anyway before that, so any negative emotion was not particularly new. She has never confronted or talked to me about any of it.

We're both adults and graduated from college now, and it seems the our relationship has turned a total 180 in the past two years. I am very happy to get to connect with my sister and have a positive, mutual, respectful relationship with her that we've never had before. However, this incident lingers in the back of my mind always, and I feel like such a horrible person, brother, and man for doing it in the first place and for having never owned up to it and apologized to her. I have been working myself up to it and just putting it into the open with her.

I don't know what would happen because of that. I would not hope for forgiveness, but only an understanding that, curious teenage boy i may have been, I know what I did was wrong and am truly from the depths of my soul sorry for what I've done and how it might have affected her; that I've been truly sorry from the moment it happened; that, despite our strained childhood, i always wanted deep down for her to be my best friend; that I have always worried for her and loved her.

I don't know how sufficient this is, and I won't speculate to, as in the end, the judgement belongs to her and her alone. All I want to do is clear the air between us, to let the truth be told, to accept responsibility for my actions, and for the both of us to be able to move forward in life on higher ground. Of course, I want to keep my sister and our new mature relationship, and so I hope that she concludes that my self now is much different and truer than the me who did this to her in utter confusion and curiosity, but that is not my decision to make.

Make what you will of this, I do not mind. It has torn me apart for the last decade (? I honestly can't recall a date when it happened), and putting it into words has to be the first step towards admitting my faults and righting my wrongs to her.

152 Name: moot!Ep8pui8Vw2 : 2012-08-28 12:18 ID:BAbMqPGf

They're pretty cool.

153 Name: moot!Ep8pui8Vw2 : 2012-08-28 12:19 ID:BAbMqPGf

shit guys, sorry, i thought I was replying to the thread about indians.

154 Name: Britt : 2012-10-19 21:08 ID:7T49H7sB

Mine is also a little long...
My little sister and I were also touched by our older brother. He is about 2 years older, and she is about 2 years younger.

I don't remember how old I was. 8, 11, I'm not sure. But I was young.
It usually happened in the form of a "game." A few times, when my parents were away, he had this game where the first person to make any sound had to take a piece of clothes off. In the end all 3 of us would be naked. I don't know if it happened the first time or not but eventually he touched us and had us touch him.
Being so young and stupid, the game seemed weird but I didn't know how wrong it was.

He also tried to get us to watch porn. I think that's the very first thing that happened. We found old porn in the attic and he turned it on. He would watch stuff on the computer in the living room when it was just us.

One day at a get-together with some of my parents friends, they had kids around our age. A boy my age, a girl my sister's age and another girl who was probably 5. Just to be silly we played 5 minutes of heaven. Everyone pretty much just sat in the dark in a closet for 5 minutes, no one even attempted to touch me any of the times. Kissing only happened when we played Truth or Dare, and that's the most that happened. I was distracted one of the times my brother was in there, but the other kids decided to play a joke and open the closet door early. Everyone says the girl he was with had her pants down. My sister swears to it to this day. The girl he was in there with was the 5 year old girl. I wonder to this day, and feel horrified about it.

My brother also pulled other boys into it. Back then my brother was the one I looked up to, before I realized what he had been doing. Once I wanted to hang out with him and his friends. He told me that in order to get into their guys club I had to let one of them touch his penis to my vagina. The boy was also young, a year younger than me. It only touched, didn't do any more than that, I wonder if it bothers him now, or if he remembers it?

He also humped me a few times. Once he was naked and I ran away and he chased me into my parent's room. I jumped into the covers and wrapped myself up really tight so he couldn't get me, and he just humped me through the blankets. He stopped doing things like this as I got older, but he would do things to my sister, like grab her boob. He did this once, right in the kitchen when my mom was right there with her back turned.

I am 23 now. I'm engaged and have gotten through alot with him. He knows about what happened to me back then, but it still causes problems sometimes.
My sister went through some really hard times. In middle school and early high school she did alot of bad things. She hated my dad and he thought she was a spoiled brat. I don't know what age we were when we started talking to eachother about what happened back then. Us being able to talk about it helped both of us alot, but we still haven't told our parents or confronted our brother about what happened. My brother is a bit of a shut-in now. He plays video games most of the time. I think it bothers him too, but I'm not sure.

I know some day I will have to say something. I want my brother to get help. He needs help, but I haven't been able to tell my parents. I don't know how to.

155 Name: anonymous : 2013-12-16 22:54 ID:Bcib2Hi1

You're a piece of shit for telling him he should commit suicide and that he's a fag. What does it make his brother for molested him, I think what.needs to happen is you need to commit suicide for saying that. I had the same thing happen to me, this guys story is close to mine, but people accept he's somebody that's worthy of respect, and look at me like I'm a piece of shit for trying to seek help for the rage and anger I have inside toward him, it crippled me for years, the hypocrisy that people have made me hateful there were times I planner to commit murder, but god saves me right when I need him, every time I need him , and I'm not gay, I encourage the guy who posted this to be strong and be aggressive toward people who challenge you any Christians who tell you you're going to hell I would slap the fuck out of them, especially.if they are Christians who know you' and he's going in o heaven.or treat him like he has a.legitimate chance of going, be strong and don't give up, never give up, at least you can stand before god and tell.him your service for him was that you didn't commit suicide.

156 Name: SomeoneConfused : 2015-07-02 07:08 ID:La6++/uV

Well around th he time I was 4-6 my moms, friends, daughters, brother made me his girlfriend. At that time I was very young and thought of it as a game. I am 11 and almost 12 now and still remember a lot of it. I was really gullible and he'd say to close my eyes, and that he had a "lollipop" for me and told me to stick my hands out. He'd then place his # on my hand and i thought it was gross and would let it drop out of my hands. At that time we visited a lot! There wasn't really anything sexual tho. He'd give me kisses when people weren't around. And we usually hung out a lot. His age was around 10-12 at the time. One day when I was a bit older I got sick of all the kisses and his #. And told him "I don't like it I'm sick of it and that I think it's disgusting" I never said it as a breakup tho. He did stop for sure tho and nothing really happened after. Yet I somewhat feel bad cause ever since then he'd look at me sadly, act as if I'm not there, I haven't even talked to him since then even after all the times I've gotten to be near him. I never talked to him either tho. Of course I didn't know that what I had been doing was bad and thought it was some type of game or like tv where people had gf's and bf's. I've never told anyone about this at all. And I'm not planning to. It was a small thing and not worth telling my family. If I told my friends soon enough it would get all over the school and for the people who knew what a slut was they'd be calling me that for sure. I just thought I should share this with people who don't know me at all. I live in wisconsin if u wanted to know... but I guess that's really all...

157 Name: ConfusedTears : 2015-07-02 07:10 ID:La6++/uV

Well around th he time I was 4-6 my moms, friends, daughters, brother made me his girlfriend. At that time I was very young and thought of it as a game. I am 11 and almost 12 now and still remember a lot of it. I was really gullible and he'd say to close my eyes, and that he had a "lollipop" for me and told me to stick my hands out. He'd then place his # on my hand and i thought it was gross and would let it drop out of my hands. At that time we visited a lot! There wasn't really anything sexual tho. He'd give me kisses when people weren't around. And we usually hung out a lot. His age was around 10-12 at the time. One day when I was a bit older I got sick of all the kisses and his #. And told him "I don't like it I'm sick of it and that I think it's disgusting" I never said it as a breakup tho. He did stop for sure tho and nothing really happened after. Yet I somewhat feel bad cause ever since then he'd look at me sadly, act as if I'm not there, I haven't even talked to him since then even after all the times I've gotten to be near him. I never talked to him either tho. Of course I didn't know that what I had been doing was bad and thought it was some type of game or like tv where people had gf's and bf's. I've never told anyone about this at all. And I'm not planning to. It was a small thing and not worth telling my family. If I told my friends soon enough it would get all over the school and for the people who knew what a slut was they'd be calling me that for sure. I just thought I should share this with people who don't know me at all. I live in wisconsin if u wanted to know... but I guess that's really all...

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163 Name: !sPlbhUFiI2 : 2015-10-27 22:23 ID:Heaven


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164 Name: christa : 2015-11-23 04:52 ID:1Db/R+tX

I'm 15. My brother is 16 and he comes in my room at night most nights. He saw a video of me going down on 3 guys at a party. He thinks I'm a Slut. First time he did it I cried while he squeezed my ass and jerked off. He's never fucked me But he will say shit like I'm so glad my sister is a Slut. I'm going to Fuck you. Your so got. All the boys say you love to get fucked. He's never tried but now when he does it I get wet and I've Evan touched my self. I don't like feeling this way. I should be disgusted that my brothers hands are feeling up my tits and ass. How can I keep him from making me Fuck him

165 Name: Anonymous : 2016-02-03 02:21 ID:Vpt8Y8ny

Avery Morrow is a disqusting homosexual neofacist pedophile who needs to die. We must find Avery Morrow and brutally murder him. Avery Morrow's long flacid penis curves around into his anus and through his mouth into 0037's butt. He violently thrusts the flacid object through his mouth and into the ass of 0037. 0037 moans with joy. Avery Morrow has 10000 orgasms with force, filling 0037's colon with 2000 gallons of semen and dried smegma.The force of the orgasms makes Avery Morrow's penis turn erect, fracturing due to it's impossible curves. The force of his exploding penis blasts him backwards 10000000000km into the past. Suddenly 1000000000000000000000 shotas fall from the sky and he can't resists and fill them with cum and is assraped 10000 times in prison. His anus prolapses forever and he is always leaking shit. He was a basqu3 niggir the whole time the end.

166 Name: Anonymous : 2016-03-07 07:16 ID:zLlllIsi

I'll try to keep this simple since I'm posting from a phone and if I tried to cover everything it would be a book. But I'm 34 yr. Old mal and when I was 6 or 7 I think I was molested by my brother. The reason I said think is it's a big deal and I've always worried if I just came out with it I don't want to ruin his life just because I had a vivid dream and began to think it was real. The first time I talked about it was with a really good freind and I was scared to tell him but fortunately I had really good friends and he kept the secert and shared a similar story with me. I told him it might had been a dream and I wasn't sure. He asked how old was I when I stareted to think about it I told him immediately after within days. He told me it happened because I was too young to come up with that on my own and that made since to me. I started to think more about it and around the same time he tried to sodomize me we watched this movie severaltimes called the accused where a guy or a few i can't remember forcibly sodimize this girl. So I started to think I could have got it there. I mean he didn't penetrate me though So I brought up this movie to my brother and he said he didn't remember it. I let it go. The next time we saw each other he said he watched it and he didn't remember it. He then said he wasn't saying I was lyeing but he didn't remember it. At least I got that. But I come back tl that he also abused me. When I was in about 3rd grade w lady came to my school and talked to my entire grade about abuse I thought about telling her the whole hour and was sacred but I stayed back after everyone had left. I told her my brother had been abusing me. She wanted and example and I told her that my brother would sit on my chest with my arms under his sheens and tap on my chest with two fingrs.she asked how old my brother was I didn't know so she settled with that. He is 7 yrs older than me. She explained to me sometimes old brothers picked on younger brothers. And asked did he do anything else I told her that if I screamed he would cover my mouth. I didn't say this but I usually started hyperventilating. I did tell her that he would tell me to breathe out my nose anr as soon as I did he would jam his fingers up blocking my nose so I couldn't breath back in. She lead me back to that's big brothers several times and then asked if I thought that could b it. I started to back peddled I was scared. I didnt get to the wet towls over the face or when he hit me in the temple and I got a blood blister aittle bit smaller then a ping pong ball cig burns. I never got mad at him it just made me sad I oftten times tried hummor to defuse It which worked some when the temple thing asked me he beged me not to tell dad because he would kick the shit out of him. I didn't say anything thats another thing my father was abused and he hit my brother so the males in my family had anger issues I understood this really young. I hope that's enough to give some perspective. Also they put me in special education specifically for behavior reasons " excessive talking. I was always trying to make freinds.

167 Name: Anonymous : 2016-03-07 07:25 ID:zLlllIsi

(Continued) But after being in special education my whole education it effected my education. None of this was relized at the time. My brother and I wss at his aptment when I was 12. And my dad kept tring to page me I seemed annoyed my brother said I shouldn't act like that. Whenever he called the house my father just past the phone to my mom that dad hated him I told him that dad didn't hate him I thought it was guilt. I talked to my dad and after that my brother asked if I said something to him because out of nowhere he asked how he was the last time he called. I told him I hadn't said anything. I am surprised I understood relationships so young. So at about 25 I started reaching out to my siblings I was depressed and my night terrors and sleep apnea returned I had to explain to my brother what the terror thing was. They just stopped answering after that. started thinking of suicide and two years after that I turned to herrion right after that I purposely od. they dont know but my parents had to give me cpr for about 3 mins to bring me back. I talked to my parents and told them about the depression and heroin. Now im clean but none of it matters im a recovered heroin addict and if I went to my brothers and sisters well I hate to say but shadenfreuden. I haven't talked to my brother and sisters in a little over 6 years. That night terrors and overwhelming feeling of despair is why. I choose not to have kids even though I know I would never let them be harmed I'm extremely emotional. Like cry at cartoons and commercials emotional so they Would probably get messed up one way or another.

168 Name: bill : 2016-05-27 03:28 ID:4DFie3es

fucking sick brothers mine has lung cancer and i hope he dies for what he did to me 😁

169 Name: vishes : 2016-06-07 09:44 ID:PrzhSC2l

i use to touch my cousins breasts and vagina, rub my dick with her ass. It gives me pleasure sometimes she shake a bit but most of the time she dont. what should i do?

170 Name: Anonymous : 2016-06-17 02:30 ID:hLy67/LP


I'm really sorry this happened to you.

171 Name: Elotipo : 2016-09-02 14:07 ID:pQ/6KYfy

Dear molester,
Whatever you said, the past is still the past which means whatever happened is still there. The scars that you fucktards left. The nightmare that you create for us is completely unacceptable. Don't say that you feel so sorry about what happen. Don't say that "we" seemed to enjoy the pleasure.Since most of us got molested while we're unaware and careless. Since we are too innocent to think that you assholes would not do anything to harm us. Since we believe that you're brothers or sisters that take responsibility to protect us. However, you turned to be the fucking cruel monster that we cant forgive for the rest of our lives. You,who molested others, are not deserved to be called Human. Because human know about norms, they know about what is right to do and what is not right to do. Unlike you, you know clearly that its not right to do and you dare to let fucking hands puting on our vaginas or penises. What makes you want to do that? There is no gold in that place. There is game putting over there. Or you think that our vaginas or penises are yours that you can barge in anytime? You son of a bitch will never ever grow up! You're the worst of worst of all monster! Ah I see it's because you ate shit everyday that make your brain full of shit! You are the dirtiest dirt that we human need to get rid of. I believe that what comes around goes around. You hurt us and later on you trash will be hurt million trillion times than us! You scums! Stop posting that "I molested my cousin and she seems to like it blah blah blah" cause know what? No one likes it! You molested her when she dont even know what molest is? She dont know how that place used beside pee! You son of a monster! I bet I'd your mother knows that you will become a molester she will choke you to death since the day she gave birth to you or she will probably push you back into her vagina to make you motherfucker rethink again if you were born in the right planet! Last but not least, you fucker molester go to hell! Eat your own dick! Nobody likes you! You're the dirt of human! P.S. : You will know how it hot to be in hell. The hell that you create for us might be hot and unbearable. But the hell that created from your sin is completely different you flea of the society!!! Dont die peacefully!

172 Name: Anonymous : 2016-09-02 16:09 ID:1plevIWT

I am sorry someone hurt you

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174 Name: Anonymous : 2016-10-20 12:29 ID:QsdTaDv3

holy shit what the fuck is wrong with you freaks

if you got fucking raped tell your parents

now you're gay mentally ill faggots hahahaha just end your life hahaha

175 Name: Anonymous : 2016-10-26 08:20 ID:Heaven

>>174 That's not very nice.

176 Name: Anonymous : 2016-10-26 12:35 ID:QsdTaDv3

>>175 does it matter if its not very nice? you're freaks for not telling you parents IMMEDIATELY. you people are disgusting, better to off yourselves so you don't contribute to the homosexual and pedophilic population

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