This isn't an emo thread saying how much the world sucks, etc. it's a genuine concern I have. I moved out of my mothers place a few months ago because she pisses me off, but the mistake I made was moving in with a family member. Now she has spent the last few weeks here constantly bitching (she is a real dramawhore), and not it has reached the point where I seriously want to terminate her fucking ass before I have a heart attack.
But, being reasonable we all know that's not very likely so does anyone have any advice on dealing with her?
(An example for reference is: she keeps asking when I will pay the person I am living with for the Internet. I have constantly asked how much it is costing but no-one wants to tell me; which is somehow my fault).
Move to your own place without any one knowing...
If I had the money this wouldn't be an issue at all, I'd be long gone by now. But I'm in between jobs so cash is very tight at the moment.
2 is right, your objective is to get yourself enough cash to be self reliable. Focus your energies in that, instead of thinking about killing your mother,...
If you killed your mother you'd have to move out anyways.
>>5
Not at all, she doesn't live with me, just staying here bugging me. Today was perfect though, I didn't say a single word to her but I can feel the stress building. She keeps bitching that I have high blood pressure then does everything in her power to piss me off.
I think until I get the money together I should focus on not having a massive heart attack, which means dealing with stress.
Any tips? I'm willing to try anything (except getting laid).
tai chi and meditation... whats wrong with getting laid?
>>7
I'm into that whole right person stuff so it would be a huge step back to sleep with some cheap whore.
I am actually in the exact same situation, except i moved home because she got laid off. My cure: visine in her coffee. It gives her the shits, wont kill her, and any juvenile act towards an equally juvenile person always seems to make me feel better. Its very bad advice, but I'm quite literally fighting for my own sanity 90% of the time. Another thing that has helped is seeing how truely unhappy she is, and in knowing what makes her the way she is, in understanding she'll NEVER change, I've come to see no matter what she says or does will ever change the fct that she is still my mom. Neither one of us really have anyone close outside our small family of women ( her, myself, and my two sisters). Another is simply keeping myself busy and out of the house. To each his own. I hope maybe my own miserable experience has in some way helped.
-allison
P.S. About the bill: pay them what you think is fair. Because they won't tell you how much they want, they are leaving it up to you in a way. Take initiative. Then, when they bitch that its not enough, ask them to see the bill. Its only fair if you have to pay a portion.
what does this all have to do with killing her? or was that an exagerration?
I know that silly, but making her miserable even by making my room messy makes her see how I feel everytime she is near.
Wow - maybe if you didn't do things to deliberately piss her off, she might treat you a little better. Putting her in a bad mood because she has the shits isn't going to do anything to help. So what if she's nagging you? That's what mothers do. Until someone posts something about their mother actually abusing them, I have no sympathy. Suck it the fuck up, dealing with parents who have different ideas about what you should be doing is part of life.
And you're only 16, OP? You're mother is worried about you. She's hurt because you moved out. She loves you, asshole. A parent's love is important, because they are people who you can rely on when things get really awful. They're people who help you along the way growing up, so that someday you'll be able to stand on your own. And sometimes they piss you the fuck off. How about next time you see your mom, you go up to her and give her a big hug and tell her you love her?
Seriously. Post one example of abuse, and my outlook on your situation will change. But for now I see you as a silly little shit who doesn't realize how good he has it, having a mother who loves him.
That goes for you too, Allson.
My mom used to beat me with the steel buckle part of the belt in the face.
(thats abuse for those of yall who have "perfect lives")
But you dont hear me bitchin about my mom. sometimes Id like to hit her, but overall I love her.
>>14
STOP MAKING ASSUMPTIONS.
And you want an example of abuse? She threw a toy at my eye which left me temporarily blind. Or the time she beat me and took my door off of its' hinges, no food and the mattress from my bed. There's the time she tried to convince me to kill myself, or of course when she told her boyfriend to fuck me up. She makes up all kinds of lies to my family so I can't go to them for help - like she says I try to beat her when really she knows I'm docile as fuck and never come out of my room. When I was young I wasn't allowed out until I turned 10 and even then I had to be in ridiculously early. Oh, funny one, I remember the time she dragged me along with her on a date which I was very tired for (that was was usual sleep in morning), long story short the date doesn't go well (duh) and I get beaten with the heel of her high heels which has left a scar until this day.
So don't fucking tell me I have it good and that I should suck it up until you know the fucking facts. My mother is a fucking horrible person, if she wasn't, why would I lie? To feel cool on the internet?
Just shut the fuck up.
And you havent called the popo 5-0 why?
i mean I hate them too but they can at least help ya out a little.
My apologies, I was only going off the information you'd previously posted in the thread.
If you're experiencing that much abuse: get the fuck out. Go to the police station, explain your situation, and have them take you to the proper people. You'll probably end up in a youth home for a little while--I've had a friend in one, and from what she said, it wasn't a bad place to stay.
Good luck, and I do mean that.
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>It gives her the shits, wont kill her
It might..
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tetrahydrozoline_hydrochloride
if she is nagging at you tell her fuck off say youll leave just be smart if your afraid your actually going to kill your mother leave then house its not woth it living a painfull life in jail your more worth it trust me i hate my mother shes a nasty bitch who always goes in my room and listens to my conservations but i learned to not listen and to be independent...
my friend had the exact same problem.. then one day he snapped and grabbed her, he said something came over him and for some reason it excited him and he started kissing her.. next thing he knew he was fucking her.. turns out that was her whole problem.. she was stressed from lack of sex. they were both stressing each other out and it made them always angry.
somehow it just broke into rough aggressive mutual sex.. now they have the best relationship they've ever had. lol. crazy shit. i know. who'd of thunk?
but i guess mothers are human beings with the same needs and desires as anyone else..