Does she feel the same? (25)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-01 02:49 ID:NIRe1ehQ This thread was merged from the former /love/ board. You can view the archive here.

Hey. Just a quick scenario to run past you guys and gals, I've made my mind up as to what this all means, but I'm just wondering if anyone else has an opinion on this.

Basically, there's this girl at Uni I've liked for a while now. She's Taiwanese, kinda shy and goes to the same Anime club I go to. I've been fairly unconfident in the past, but recently I've made a move for her. We saw Ironman at the cinema a few weeks back, which we both enjoyed, and since her exams finished we've been meeting up more and more.

We're pretty close - she hardly ever makes any moves towards me, but she's perfectly happy for me to put my arm round her while we're sitting down and watching something, or to randomly hug or tickle her. Lately she's starting to tickle me back randomly, either out of revenge or just randomly. Tonight she also fell asleep on me for a little while, resting her head on my shoulder.

She's never had a boyfriend (as far as I know), and when I did try to kiss her a few days ago she just said she wasn't ready. She didn't freak out or anything, and we just went back to cuddling a few moments later. She's also flying home to Taiwan for the summer, so after this week I won't see her again until September.

Now, here's how I see this situation: I've been more-than-obvious in how I've shown my feelings towards her, though I sometimes can have trouble picking up other people's feelings. We're close, I like her, and she likes me, but she's not ready/not willing to get into a relationship until she at least gets back from Taiwan in September. I just need to keep up the cuddles and keep in touch with her and things should be great when she comes back.

Though that's just my opinion, is there anything else you guys can pick out that I might need to change? Thanks :)

2 Name: Kira : 2008-06-01 03:43 ID:/cu7wdqP

Perhaps confess to her before she goes. But do tell her that you want to go slowly, that will make her feel less pressured. When she is ready you can kiss her etc. If you can't see her till September then better do it before it's TOO late (She might change her feeling).

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-01 13:41 ID:NIRe1ehQ

I already have done, she knows how I feel about her, and why I tried to kiss her. she just said she isn't ready for a relationship yet (which makes sense if she's about to disappear to the other side of the world). I'm just not entirely certain if she does feel the same way about me.

4 Name: Kira : 2008-06-02 00:06 ID:/cu7wdqP

Maybe because she has never gone out before, she feels weird. If you want to stay as friends, it's fine but if you want her to love you tell her that you want to know about her feelings toward you. Maybe start from that and go on to... Lets take things slowly approach. If she wants to be just friends.. It can't be helped. Anyways goodluck -Kira

5 Name: 1 : 2008-06-07 23:45 ID:RrMMXDC1

Well, it looks like it's gonna happen. She's interested, and I've told her that I'll take things at her pace. She flies out tomorrow, so here's to hoping she still feels the same in September.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-08 00:07 ID:L6WD8WiM


7 Name: soulreaper : 2008-06-08 01:47 ID:TSeKtIr2

i think that you should tell her you love her and then ask her out

8 Name: soulreaper : 2008-06-08 01:47 ID:TSeKtIr2

i think that you should tell her you love her and then ask her out

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-08 04:56 ID:faSu0z1S

Bad idea.

Great! Good luck and keep us posted!

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-08 07:23 ID:LT2yGHS0

Don't listen to anything soulreaper has to say

11 Name: soulreaper : 2008-06-08 11:59 ID:TSeKtIr2

grr dude i ve loved people before and this situation has happend to me before

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-08 12:27 ID:TSeKtIr2

hey you should listen to everyones opinion -10

13 Name: 1 : 2008-06-08 13:36 ID:NIRe1ehQ

Mission accomplished. Happened a couple of hours after I posted >>5

Was round hers again last night (typed out >>5 while she had gone to get something to eat), holding each other pretty close, and we ended up kissing. At one point we ended up kissing for about 20 minutes straight. I'm helping her move her stuff into storage today, and seeing her off from the Train station. It's gonna be hard over the next 3 months, but it's damn well gonna be worth it in September. Thanks for all the messages of support :)

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-08 15:00 ID:faSu0z1S


15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-08 15:13 ID:VfK/AVfI

oh she easily caved!! im happy for you, but couldve been more entertaining for us lol

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-08 18:04 ID:Heaven

>>13 see guys, it's not always as hard as you make it out to be in your heads.

17 Name: Kira : 2008-06-08 19:57 ID:/cu7wdqP

Good to see that you are doing well OP. I am happy for you two^^ -Kira

18 Name: 1 : 2008-09-10 12:02 ID:UAvAMEiy

Hey, sorry to drag this one up from the graveyard, but just an update. She came back to the UK last week, and I picked her up from Heathrow. Ever since, we've spent so much time together. She loves all the physical affection (hugs, kisses, etc) like I do, so we've been really close to each other. This could more than likely turn out to be a pretty good relationship :)

Anyway, thanks for the support guys and gals ^^

19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-10 13:44 ID:twwf7lL4

Glad to hear some news. Good luck to both of you and give her a hello from Anonymous (I would've said from Secret Admirer to be more accurate but it would seem even weirder I guess) ;p

20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-10 16:12 ID:+b+5zRhY

Kissing for 20 minutes straight sounds unbelievably awesome.

21 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-10 21:05 ID:r+QZDQdA

yay, cookies for you!>>13

22 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-11 21:26 ID:aJNsNtSE

Good thread.

23 Name: 1 : 2013-06-29 23:55 ID:Hx9g3cmn

Hi /love/, OP here.
I realise it's normally bad etiquette to revive an old thread, especially one that's five years old, but I have some news that will hopefully provide some closure to this story.

Five years on, we're still together. We've been living together for the past three years, and we've since moved across the country after graduating from university. It's kinda funny, we were reminiscing about how we ended up with each other a few nights ago, and she reminded me of this thread.

The best bit? We're getting married next weekend. These past five years have been like a complete dream, and from typing those words out on this very same laptop I would never have thought that the girl I had a crush on back then would become the woman who would capture my heart and become my wife. That a simple act of affection would evolve into love of the deepest kind.

This is likely my final post on the matter, so I'll leave you all with this nugget of advice. No matter who your hopeless crush is or what situation you find yourself in, stick with your instinct. You'll never know what'll happen further down the line.

Goodnight and thank you all.

24 Name: gokiburi : 2013-07-02 00:52 ID:fmCtH/iS

25 Name: civ : 2013-07-21 11:04 ID:Des/pMBa

well thanks for the update. good for you.

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