I might be presented to two delightful new girls this weekend, which is something I kinda badly need these times after my previous critical failure.
Sadly, they're both exes of friends of mine, so... you all know what that means. Off-limits. Meh.
in about 15 minutes I'm going on third date with one great girl... wish me luck, I hope it'll work out
the guy ive tried to hook myself up with has been very rejective lately..................
Is this really the 3rd edition?
I need to get out more...
>>1 It could still work as long as your friends are cool with it.
>>2 details? Oh well, have fun!
>>4 Atleast you're trying, better than watching the OP and ED of K-ON! over and over again like me lol
>>5 You and me both lol, but that swine flu is making me scared to.
I've been way too preoccpuied with life that I find there really isn't much time for girls or dating =\
I'm not even home right now lol, I'm off on a learning trip ^_^
>>6
Yeah, I know, but from neutral third-party experience, ex-dating doesn't mix well with staying good friends. Thing is, I dunno how serious they were, guess I'll have to find out. Well, nothing's done for now anyway.
>>6
details? well... I managed to get my arm around her for a while, that's as far as I could get lol...
hell, what's the worst thing about never having a girlfriend? whatever I do, I'm doing it just blindly, not knowing if it's right or wrong... am I too fast? am I too slow? do I have a chance? I can't see any of those things, it's like trying to infiltrate an enemy base with your eyes closed
lmao.. well well .. i cba trying this month, i'll try again next month!;)
>it's like trying to infiltrate an enemy base with your eyes closed
And in this case the enemy base is filled with maniacs armed with hatchets and sentry guns firing at random directions.
But this is a good metaphor, yes, to most relationships that can be had with a woman.
As long as your spirit is indestructable as wolverine you'll be fine. Get yourself some experience points!
Some people think they're funny doing it wrong, so I'll bump the current thread.
Dammit, people. You're messing with the statistics.
obligatory bump
im moving in less than a month, and NOW 3 girls want a relationship, but arnt intrested in sexual stuff.
...why god?
The world has a funny way of working like that. Hopefully I get a relationship sooner or later, or improve one of mine. Thing have been keeping me too busy to even think about one. All I can really do is improve myself until the day that it does happen
damn it! i missed the 1000th yet again! argghh! i'll die a single loser!
all chicks that dig me are damn too ugly, why can't i have those fine, luscious ones? maybe i have to move out of town and find another?
all right, I decided... the next time I'll go out with that girl, I'm going to grab her and kiss her out of blank and I don't care that we'll be far from each other for 2 months, I know that I have feelings for her and it's time to change being single
>>17
Maybe you are damn too ugly for any of those fine, luscious chick?
I met this one girl while we were both volunteering for...something or other at our school. We were talking and we we hit it off, afterwards spending an hour or two at a nearby coffee shop conversing and generally becoming acquainted with each other. I had gotten her phone number, but I hadn't seen her around school. That is, until the next week, when I saw her hand-in-hand with someone I had never met.
That...irritates me.
that is a point to consider hahaha
>>20
shit happens, besides you don't own her. she has a life before she even met you so nothing we could do about that.. move on. bitter reality indeed.
I have just noticed that I am literally the same spot I was in a year go. Same, physical spot. It is a funny feeling to look to where I was then and where I am now. One year ago, I just broken up with my girlfriend and I miserable. I felt cheated because I have given my heart and soul to this girl to only have her toss it away as it was nothing. I felt alone because I had no one to talk to. Work and summer classes left my days booked and my nights were short so I could get sleep. My thoughts and feelings were the only things that kept me company. I was angry because friends who should have sided with me sided with her because she was “victim,” though she was the one who stabbed me. I felt sadness because a person I cared for is now out of my life and I will never have her again. I felt hopeless because I could not imagine a better life without her. And I was impatient because I knew time would heal my wounds, but I wanted them healed then and there. I remember clearly, I was cursing fate.
Two weeks from now is the anniversary of meeting my current girlfriend. One year ago I could not imagine meeting a person as great as her. One year ago I felt that everyone in the world is fucked up and no woman is worth my time. One year ago I was ready to accept my life as a social pariah, no friends, no problems. One year ago I thought I could not find better than her and my one chance of true happiness left me like she left me.
Two weeks from today. I met someone who is the light of my life. Someone who sets up scavenger hunts for me on Valentine’s Day. Someone who takes every opinion of mine to heart and will do anything for me. Someone who will put up with me calling her up at 4am so I could tell her how I figured out a certain problem. Someone who needs to hear my voice before she goes to sleep. Someone who has to tell me first about new news or gossip. Someone who loves and cares for me with every beat of her heart.
I will never curse fate again.
>>23 Good for you,hopefully the rest of us single people get blessed with luck as well! =P
ALRIGHT PEOPLE! With that being said, its that special time of the year again! Its summer! Get off your butts, do something for yourself and meet new people! Say "yes!" to life!
bump
Hahaha, I've been so busy with things girls has been the last thing on my mind. I just don't have the time for relationships or flirting no less =P
all the girls I am attracted to turn out to already be taken :(
>>28 Yeah that could be a problem lol. Are you sure you're not just a coveter? You covet things people already have? Like pizza at an anime convention? Still whatever we want the most we can't have unfortunately
>>29
well, I have the same problem as 28 and I found the fact that girl I want is already taken after starting to like her... and not only once so I wouldn't say that this is the problem
hehe nah I didn't know she was taken until afterwards so it's not a wanting what other people have thing.
>>30
Me too, there's someone who say U don't know how precious
something / someone until u lose it
but that's too late T_T
Only goes to show that we must not hesitate when a chance or opportunity arises. Might as well shoot for something even if theres a chance to miss, hey you might even get a hit.
The next time i get the chance, and my heart say ok,
i just hope i have courage to take the opportunity ..
afterall, no pain no gain ...
Oh you don't need courage lol, you just need to lose a bit of your sanity is all. Just say in your mind... screw it all its not like the worlds going to end if I screw up here right? Jump into the pool of romance without a thought of it being warm or freezing!
I'm in a classic dilemma--I am close friends with a girl, and I want to make her happy. Unfortunately, there's another guy who makes her happy, and he might have better chances of being with the girl than I. Therefore, I'm in a love triangle. Me and the girl have gotten close within 2 years, but only as friends... I wish I could push our friendship to the next level as intimates, by becoming the one guy that makes her happiest.
I don't know whether to let it go and let the other guy fulfill the role, or to fight back and be "him". In the end, it's her happiness that matters most to me...
Any advice? =/
Ugh. Got friend zoned HARD tonight at work, in front of just about everyone in the break room. To make matters worse, this one girl is trying to hook me up with someone else, and the girl I like is helping! This girl they're trying to hook me up with... she's a nice girl and all, but her sideburns are more impressive than MINE. x_x
>>37 lmao poor u! just start molesting or hitting on the girl you like.. :3
lmao; third time that i hooked up one of my friends with a girl i liked. Worst part she knew that i liked her and asked me to ask if my friend(the guy she liked, liked her back) quote; i know that u like me and all, but can u ask if ,friend's name here, likes me? lol imma go hang myself now (partly jking)
Once I got to the point of listening to melancholy chiptunes alone in my room I think there's no going back.
So I meet the first girl in a year that I can see a relationship possibility with. (Most important part is that she isn't taken, which every other interesting girl I meet seems to be.)
I'm aware that my friend also has his eyes on her, and I can't help but think that he's got a better chance than me.
The tought of me getting too serious about her, only to get shot down and see her getting it on with my friend, worries me. Giving up early is much less painful, but I won't gain anything from that.
In the end, it's a question of taking the bet, knowing the risk.
all right... what the fuck is happening? my friend ended a long relationship like few days ago, I introduce her to my other friend and they have sympathies for each other and will probably end up dating... I am happy for them, they both deserve it but how the fuck did it happen? how is it possible that I'm trying pretty hard to find someone for myself, I went through a lot of hard stuff to only have a possibility of having a girlfriend but I never had one and they are just being introduced to each other, have some talk and they like each other?
and when I really fight for someone I end up just being friendzoned from the beginning... so the basic math should be minimum effort equals maximum possibility of finding a girfriend... but no, when I don't look for other relationship than friendship then nothing changes, I still remain single without anyone seeing me as a possible boyfriend... so what the fuck is wrong? what should I do to experience the feeling that someone loves me? or sees me interesting? when will someone fight for me?
>>36
stop being so insecure and just go for it! >:D
If the girl shows CLEAR signs of liking him as a guy rather than just a friend, it might be best to stay as friends, for the sake of your friendship.
But if the girl is kinda giving you two the same signs mostly, I think you should go for it before you regret it. :)
>>42
You've got to find the middle ground in the pursuit and the idleness of relationships. Put yourself out there with some intent, but at the same time not. Increase your confidence, but don't be arrogant. Everything in life is about balance and you've got to find your own!
That being said I've probably been on the idle side for a long time now, but the memories of the pursuit days are heart wrenching. Doesn't mean I won't give up! I guess my problem really begins in the starting
so ronery.. :(
The sad or hilarious (depending on your viewpoint) thing is that this place is a singles' lounge full of ahem.. singles giving love/romance/relationship tips to other singles... I am really not being an @$$ as I am single myself, but that is the reality... I have come to an understanding that tricks don't really work when it comes to meeting that special someone. Maybe there are no tricks in the first place. Liking is but a sum of complex factors (appearance, personality, popularity, etc.) For whatever reason, people do like to see changes on you. New hairstyle, new clothes, whatever.. one just needs to change something (not too drastic though, no plastic surgery :)) and you will be noticed. I guess a change sends a subliminal message to one's possible counterparts that one is in for a mating season (in a romantic kinda way -- really). So, if one is a guy (like me), he needs to have some money (for clothes, a hairstylist/not barberer, etc.), decent car (girls love it -- end of story), moderate confidence and no extra weight. Again I am not trying to be mean here, I myself am overweight (or fat, whatever). That is if you want a decent looking girl.
Even as I am reading what I wrote, it sounds a bit cynical, stereotypical and whatnot, but it is really a glance at reality. Whoever believes in what female celebrities talk all over media (we want nice guys) is the ultimate blah-blah. Girls like "almost-jerk" types (well most of them do) and that can't be really helped. Yeah, I know what you're all saying now -- people with self-respect and good character do not need to change. You are likely right, but tell that to hordes of girls who drool over six-pack equipped jerks. That goes for men too, we do love slutty girls.
We are coming back to change part again. I am basically trying to get rid of my fat@$$ by virtually sleeping on the gym/treadmill. And that's just tip of the iceberg. Six packs on the faraway horizon is just a small bullet on the list of stuff that I need to change to fit that likeable and dateable guy type. Since I was obviously absent the day God was giving beauty away, I will probably have to go to a cosmetic surgery to "enhance" my facial features and make them more in line with the greatest common (subjective) denominator when it gomes to a dateable guy type (universally accepted by girls) today. And this is what I have to do. I wouldn't really recommend that to anybody. But the reason I am saying this is that people tend to fake when they talk about these things. If a guy asks a girl (who says she's looking for a nice guy and she's not all about looks and blah blah) to date him, she's going to invent a million of excuses and reject him just because she's also waiting for that one jerk in shining armor on the white horse blah blah blah.
CHANGE is what I hate but I need. I have yet to do all parts of that change. See, I am becoming a jerk already although I don't really want to, but hey that flies! So, as I am going on with change, I smell that funny smell telling me that the end result (a girlfriend) may not be really worth all that change (read: trouble). But it's what we are all born for, right. And not just born for, I need to get my @$$ up, lose it, get to my 6-8 pack abs, gradually through layers of fat, "enhance" my face and polish my "jerk" factor to get somebody to love me. Who said love was easy :)
Since this is a singles rant thread anyway, I took the liberty to give my 2 cents. Please excuse my raw approach.