Me and my girlfriend decided to take a break...but she slept... (26)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-08-10 03:28 ID:rg7VLdeq This thread was merged from the former /love/ board. You can view the archive here.

so me and my girlfriend decided to take a break...and before we did, I told her if you find a new guy, you can just go with him and even sleep with him. So after 2 weeks went by, she calls me one night and tells me she misses me. So go to her place and find out the next day that she slept with another guy (she asked me if I've slept with another girl or not first). I was pretty shocked. She slept with somebody else not even 2 weeks before we broke up (but I did say you can sleep with whoever you want). The thing is I don't think she would have done it. Also, we have been dating for almost 4 years. How can you just sleep with someone weeks after you break up?

She now wants to get back with me. I told her ok, but then recently I told her no again because i was mad about her sleeping with somebody else so quick. I don't know anymore. I don't even know if I love her anymore.

What should I do people?

Please help

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-08-11 08:24 ID:LCUGN9X2

I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years, then 2 days later she slept with someone else. I think that ruined our chances of ever getting back together.

I certainly don't think I want to.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-08-11 23:28 ID:rg7VLdeq

but did you tell her you can sleep with others?...Also don't you think that she was honest enough to tell you about it?

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-08-12 01:19 ID:JdMAUtLV

You, sir, are a fucking idiot.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-08-15 21:29 ID:p43+rgp4

> I told her if you find a new guy, you can just go with him and even sleep with him.
> after 2 weeks went by... find out that she slept with another guy. I was pretty shocked.

why are you shocked that you told her something was okay and she did it?

6 Name: Princessholic : 2011-08-21 11:37 ID:3VbcdOWg

Hmmm, this is a tough one. I'll just be giving my female two cents worth of thought here. If I were you, don't jump into reconciling with her because it seems that she doesn't know what she wants. After breaking up with you, she sleeps with someone else then asks to get back with you. It's better if the two of you went your own separate ways and sorted things out, especially her. This will give her a chance to know what she really wants, and also, this will give you a chance to determine if you still love her or not, because honestly, sleeping with someone else is a huge deal breaker. I do hope that you get to sort things out.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-08-25 18:29 ID:YKxCAVgV

You asked a friend to watch your Home for two weeks, while you're on Hoilday. You said they can eat anything in the fridge, if they get hurgry. Prior to your flight home home, you call your friend and ask if the fridge is empty. You friend said she ate (only)ONE item from the fridge. You return and find she was speaking the truth, and then... you GET MAD?

Dude i hope she dumps yoU! YOU Lied to her; and she was Honest.
She is human; and you're not the ONLY person on the planet. Get-over your-Self; or loose a cool-&-honest chick.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-09-18 17:03 ID:rg7VLdeq

i said that because I didn't want anything to constrain her...but for her to actually do man 3.5 years and just sleeps with someone new a week later? wtf?

9 Name: true : 2011-09-18 23:29 ID:A8wsgoSY

if you didnt tell her she can just go with another guy and even sleep with him. she was with you then.
and she didnt know what she want..
she was confused,and you made her

she was loving you inside her heart.

10 Name: true : 2011-09-19 04:50 ID:A8wsgoSY

she loves you so much.

it was the great universe night and did you see it?

lets go see stars in the night sky.

took so much time,
through everything.

destiny comes now.
and im buck.

being myself for you.
so you can love me.

you make me,
you make me,

dear my sweetheart.

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-09-19 07:27 ID:A8wsgoSY

it was ur little trick ha,
its still nothin to me.
YOU go buck to ur life.

you know what i mean.

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-09-19 11:12 ID:A8wsgoSY

thats why i slept wiz him so much.

what do you say?

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-09-20 05:09 ID:Heaven

Haha, what the fuck?

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-09-20 06:15 ID:t1DcObBI

Sometimes it happens, but even though she slept with some one she become truly honest with that, I think relationship must have trust and honesty to each other. despite the circumstance, i think you still love her. Your just confuse in the current situation.

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-09-21 00:08 ID:A8wsgoSY

you have your woman with to you.
she is da true woman, too.

i think you have to go

got everything.

u too smart.

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-09-21 07:26 ID:A8wsgoSY

you are my destiny.

17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-10-03 02:43 ID:TtfyQS2T

I've been in the position of your girlfiend. I was with someone for nearly 3 years, until he suddenly told me he wasn't attracted to me didn't want to be with me anymore. I was devastated and ended up sleeping with a friend a few days later. He then told me he'd been planning on getting back with me but I'd "ruined" my chances. It hurt a lot. He didn't care.

If she really wants to get back with you, that other fling was probably nothing, and it's just something you're going to have to get over (hard as that is). I know it sucks to accept what she did but people do stupid things sometimes when they're feeling low. If she had the guts to admit what she did is a sign she trusts you and values you what you have together.

The only advice I can give you is to think about how much you love her. If it's enough, you should be able to find the strength to overcome it. But don't let her believe she has a chance with you if you have no intention of giving her that. That just makes things horribly complicated and difficult to let go of.

I know I'd have given anything to get a second chance from my ex, but I guess he didn't love me enough to think I deserved it. I really hope you can work things out with your girlfriend.

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-10-04 04:57 ID:A8wsgoSY

i really love him.
i want to get back with him.

19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-10-05 07:50 ID:A8wsgoSY

i dont want your cockey dude.
take care of his grassy smelling butt 4ever.
ive done with him.

have a daydream and go touch yourself boy.

20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-10-13 12:10 ID:A8wsgoSY

i like to seen you happy.

21 Name: wow a : 2012-02-14 20:56 ID:9mYG6x0j

wow, it's taken this long for someone to make a Ross/Rachel reference?


22 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-02-18 00:25 ID:Heaven

No one has made a "Ross/Rachel" reference because that would have been retarded.

23 Name: shhh.... : 2012-07-16 06:10 ID:dkqfB1CR

take this from a girl. if i were your gf, and if she's anything like me, she probably thought you said that because you were planning on sleeping with another girl. and then, she may have had that feeling somewhere deeeeeeeep down inside her, that if you slept with another girl, you'd forget about her and stay with the new girl. so she wanted to make sure she'd have someone too, as not to look like the weakest link. one thing may have led to another and....

well, im not taking sides here, promise. i know that it may have been like this if it happened to me and my bf of 3 yrs in sept. if he hadnt said that, i wouldnt have slept with someone else or even thought about it. i wont sleep with him either cuz im only 14 ;P but you get what im talkin about, hopefully..

24 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-07-18 13:46 ID:Heaven

You fucked up by saying she could sleep with someone.

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