Finding more time to talk to this girl? (15)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-09-20 07:18 ID:U0wb/Bhr This thread was merged from the former /love/ board. You can view the archive here.

I've started college recently. There's this quiet girl in my music theory review class that I'd really like to get to know better. Problem is, I have a very small window of opportunity each week to talk to her--the class only meets on Fridays, and she's usually pretty quick to leave as soon as it finishes.

Any advice on how to find or create more chances to interact with her?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-09-20 21:08 ID:/OxOu43x

talk to her and get her number/kik/steam/skype i dont know

tell her IMMEDIATELY in real life that you have feelings for her

godspeed OP

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-09-21 03:12 ID:a5VeM9UQ

I dunno about straight up confessing immediately, but I'll at least give getting a number or something a shot this Friday. Wish me luck, pal

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-09-24 14:02 ID:V7/4z7gk

How did it go, OP?

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-09-24 19:28 ID:IY/3pF+v

Not bad, I think. I actually ran into her on Wednesday, talked a bit between classes and found out she's apparently a fashion major and music minor. Yesterday I figured it might be a bit early on in the progress of things to be asking for her number so it was more a matter of just talking with her some after class. As it turns out she's sort of shit at the class and I'm really solid with the material, so we struck a deal that I'll help her out with theory if she helps me learn some about fashion design and whatnot.

I think this coming week I'll ask her if she wants to hang out somewhere for a bit, good idea at this point or not really?

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-09-26 13:25 ID:Ot1E/QUf

It's probably a good idea. Meet over coffee or something to discuss that class material. I would ask for her number at this point in case one of you needs to change plans. During your coffee study, feel it out and decide if it would be appropriate to ask her on a more traditional date.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-09-30 19:59 ID:B1iPf6wy

OP here again, I hit a nearby coffee shop with her after our class today and actually got her number! The way it happened was a little odd though.

Basically we went and chatted, left with our drinks and talked some more. When we were about to head our separate ways I asked for her number, but she was sort of hesitant. After a moment she made up her mind and gave it to me, mentioning it'd be good for when she needs help with the theory class and whatnot.

The whole deal up till this point was going pretty well I think, so I'm a bit confused by the sudden hesitancy. Should I keep on this or is that a sign that she doesn't want that much to do with me?

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-10-01 04:40 ID:W3VuCiiv

As long as you don't do anything to creep her out, you're good to go. The hesitance she shown means she doesn't fully trust you yet, but don't think that her action says that she doesn't want to do anything with you.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-10-02 00:24 ID:hQ9r0DEo

I am not the OP but am in a similar situation. Once the number is obtained, how,does one go from "hanging out" to dating?

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-10-02 14:36 ID:V7/4z7gk

It's possible that she doesn't have any desire for a more intimate relationship with you, but regardless I don't think you should consume yourself over a brief moment. If you continue to pick up signals that show she isn't interested you should still have a decent friendship, because she might have cute friends!

You call and ask if she wants to go out on some activity. Lunch and a museum, dinner and a movie, whatever.

11 Name: Bass : 2016-10-06 03:39 ID:M1mMRzYM

OP here, theory class girl is a no-go more or less. I tried feeling out the vibe a bit and didn't get much mutual so I'm not going to try pushing for anything with her.

I figure it'd be unnecessary clutter to put up new threads for other things I might be looking for advice on, so I'll just keep any future dilemmas in here. Just in case I end up being here a while I went ahead and added a name, too.

Moving on though, there's this flute player in the band that I've been contemplating talking to for a bit now. The issue here's not finding more time to do so--we're in a couple of the same bands and share a class--but how to work around her friends. It seems like every time band dismisses or class lets out and I could have a good opportunity to chat with her, she gets surrounded by her buddies and casually approaching her becomes much more difficult. Any advice on how to proceed?

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-10-25 14:40 ID:V7/4z7gk

Sorry that theory girl isn't happening. Good luck with the flutist; hopefully you or one of your classmates throws a party and you can try to mingle with her there...

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-11-06 00:35 ID:hQ9r0DEo

Where is a good place to go on a relaxing date where one can be cozy with their date? If the activity is too active, there is no time to be close with each other, but too sedentary and nobody enjoys themselves. Any ideas and advice are appreciated.

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15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-11-19 14:42 ID:V7/4z7gk

Museums, zoos, botanical gardens, aquariums, farmers markets. Just check the newspaper for events that allow you to proceed at your own pace

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