Introvertism and love (12)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2018-08-15 18:53 ID:8v6pTStr This thread was merged from the former /love/ board. You can view the archive here.

Tldr;How to get a girl to know that you're only interested in a introvertic relationship?

I am an introvert, I always preferred spending my free time alone or doing something with 1 friend than going to crowdy places like clubs.

I really don't want to put my effort attention or patience for talking with group of random people at a bar, each of them talking about different meaningless normie topics while I can't even hear myself (because the shitty music is so loud)
I've noticed that people usually don't seem to talk honestly with each other because they don't talk in 4 eyes, they talk in group and they're being affraid of peer pressure.

I don't want to be part of this unorganized pointless shit.
I want to sacrifice my time for doing things I love with the person I love.

So the cute quiet girl I know from work seemed to be interested in me, told her straight away that I'm introvert and not outgoing but she wanted me to go to the bar and I did for the first time in few years.
Everybody talking and me sitting quietly drinking beer, sometimes adding something to the conversation I pretended to be interested in.
Told her I'm not going out again any soon, she was upset and persuaded me to go.
This time again few coworkers and her but in a club, again talking not to much.
Drank 7 beers and one shot of vodka so they got me into dancing.
I lasted like 10 minutes, danced also with her for a while but couldn't deal with shitty music and wasn't getting any fun of it, finally decided to go home.

I'm giving her clear signs that I'm not sociable yet she still seems interested in me.
Next time im staying at home to give her a better sign.

I don't want to be loved or friendzoned by extrovert.

Can't avoid contact with her either, I see her everyday.

I'm not sure if she's introvert or extrovert, she rarely speaks but she likes going out and dancing.

I don't want her to think that I'm not going out with her because I don't like her or because I'm shy that's why I went with her 2 times.

So how to subtly get her to know I'm only interested in introvertic relationship?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2018-08-16 00:26 ID:pf3TKBXA

A little silly to post here for help.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2018-09-04 15:47 ID:Heaven

>>2 He can always post, but may not get a response before months (or never). I wish this board (and every other boards) were more active because there's some interesting threads. orz

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2018-09-16 18:17 ID:zlCXFwMF

She seems kinda weird. I'd stay away from her If I were you.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2018-11-30 01:48 ID:78dfZWCb

You've told her that kind of life isn't your thing. You've already stepped outside your comfort zone to accommodate her. I don't see it going anywhere. Sounds like she would step out on you very quickly with another dude willing to play along.

I suppose the real question is, is she worth changing yourself for? If you're really interested in her you could always bite the bullet and normie it up.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2019-02-13 13:27 ID:sj1h/oX5

You just need to find a girl who is on the same page as you from day 1. They are hard to find because it's not like you're going to meet them anywhere outside or be easy to talk to. I don't have great advice for this other than dating sites or apps.
It seems like the girl at work takes a liking to you because you are essentially 'playing hard to get' which girls like.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2020-09-24 19:32 ID:vrfR+jz9

I can't even remember how long I started believing that if I ever met a girl for a serious relationship, it would be from some sort of anonymous board (image or otherwise) because of similar problems to the OP. I've always believed in >>6 like how you should be on the at least somewhat of the same page from day 1 but as time passes and I'm still hoping, I'm realizing I'm going to die alone. Which, by the way, isn't the worst thing ever. I've gone this long without a gf already so the rest of the way can't be much harder.

The pool of women on the internet willing to associate with any sort of anonymous board users is already pretty low, then add in my pretty narrow, non-normalfag interests, and the chances of someone being out there for me is seriously close to 0.

Intentional not-sage

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2020-11-24 08:10 ID:YcDruQIG

If you're still around, I would like to ask: What do you have to offer? What makes you unique/attractive/interesting, what are your positive traits?

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2021-01-19 07:29 ID:Heaven

I'm getting the feeling that, whereas most guys would love it, most women aren't really looking for a boyfriend off some random anonymous board.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2021-01-21 11:35 ID:Heaven

Actually scratch that, if some random girl contacted me over a tfwnogf post on an anonymous message board, I would be pretty apprehensive as well.

11 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2023-10-31 22:09 ID:OXfe2ye4

Nah, it's rare but it happens
I met a girl off /soc/ because she lived really close by, we became good friends and I probably would have asked her out if she didnt move away for college

12 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2023-11-27 01:23 ID:GXzIshBG

Makes sense for an introvert. Post it on the site with the lowest traffic where few people will ever see it. High chance you’ll get no replies and those who will reply are probably extreme introverts like you.

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