So I heard the web is no longer a iceberg, but now a dark forest.
on the top is AI trolls, creeps, scams, AI, and corporate slop.
At the bottom is dark web shit with kiddies getting fiddled and weed being sold.
in between is a cozyweb of sorts.
Have I found the cozyweb, or do I need to keep looking?

I'm not here because I'm a refugee, I'm here because I want to be here. It's not very active here and if you're used to getting constant dopamine you'll likely find yourself bored very quickly.
This place isn't safe from AI either unfortunately. Nowhere is, but this place is so small that it's unlikely anyone will bother.

what if u are the ai?

I mean this with kindness, but the terms you use immensely impact the readers perception. Reading your post gives me the impression of 4chan /pol/ or /g/ user who takes things somewhat superficially. Whenever joining a community, it is essential to learn their way of speaking. If you can't determine it, speak as neutral as possible. In order to find any community fitting, you yourself must compromise and conform, otherwise you will be rejected. I'm assuming that you conformed with popular 4chan culture, given your language, and you will conform again, if you ever seek to join another community.