obviously I already know whats going on and its wrong and i should get help yadda yadda yadda.
but im learning more and more about it happening to other girls. so i want to know... is it really all that uncommon?
We've been going out for a year and a half and its taken me to admit that yes, ive probably been borderline raped. i still dont even think its actual rape, actual rape is being help down and fucked. wheras i just say no, or even nothing, and he ignores me and does whatever he wants for a bit. eventually ill cry or hell cry and then hell be sorry and ill tell him not to be, its obviously also my fault because i dont shout or fight or anything and its still not rape because... yeah... no penis intercourse whatever we call it now.
I know some guys feel raped, too, by their girlfriends. so tell me, honestly, just how uncommon is it for people to ignore when their most loved person in the world rapes them and still be fine every single day. because i am and i want to know.
You're pretty screwed up. Why would you continue dating someone who "rapes" you? If you stay with him I can only imagine that either you don't REALLY mind what he does to you, or you're absolutely fucking nuts.
A) you cant blame someone for something like that when theres even the chance its your fault too
B) its not full rape anyway
C)theres this little thing called love
D) im still scared you're right
A) If it upset you in the way that rape is really upsetting to the women I know who have actually been raped, you wouldn't be in a long term relationship with this dude. It's not rape just because you have ambiguous feelings about it. It's rape if you really don't want it, and he does it against your wishes. What you describe is teen-angsty cock tease shit.
B) No, it's not "full rape", it's what they call MOLESTING.
C) Bollocks. You'd be a freaked out moron to love someone who disregarded you so much as to surprise sex you. Most of what young people call love is HORMONAL CONFUSION. You're scared and confused. That is all there is to it. And to make matters worse, you apparently have a communication issue with your boyfriend. Adult shit requires adult acting, which means honest communication. He wants to sex you, and you keep saying "maybe, no wait, no". That is dishonest, and you don't do that to someone you truly love.
D) You're scared because you know I'm right. You know he's not "raping" you. You know you're just a confused chick who doesn't know what she wants. Quit using the word "rape" when it clearly doesn't apply, for that is some serious shit to level at a dude.
Actually, I think it's a waste of time discussing whether it fits perfectly rape's definition. What really matters is that he's having sex with you even when you don't feel like it, and this is VERY bad,... It should never happen, and should never be tolerated. But of course you know that, since you say it yourself, so that's also not the issue.
The issue is why are you spending time with a person that does not respect you? Why not breaking up with him, and find someone who you can be happy with? Are you scared of being single for a while?
It's common for women who suffer from affective dependence to endure anything just so that they are not alone (beaten, raped, humiliated, etc). They must seek help and counselling, just like a depressed person should get help before things go out of hand. Because you don't seem to be able to do it on yourself, I think you should really pick up the phone and get a meeting with someone who can give you professional help.
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Is a pussy full of psycho babble femtard talk. You're not being raped, you're just being stupid. You enjoy the sexual tension created by these "halfway there" encounters, and you know it. It's like getting the intimacy you want without the commitments you're afraid of. You're a bad girlfriend, and your boyfriend is probably getting head from some other chick because of it. If he's not already, he soon will be.
Put out or break up with him, drop the "pity poor me" cock tease routine and grow the fuck up.
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It's something quite common for girls who prefer semi-cavemen over intelligent persons.
>wheras i just say no, or even nothing
Are you really saying no? Or are you saying "teehee, no silly!". Be clear. As for saying nothing, that is a bad thing to do. If you really do feel he is violating you (rape doesn't have to be full sex) then you should get out of there.
first, what youre describing is not rape. but if its unwanted molestation we're talking about, you just need to learn to say no, or else its more your fault than his. if you cant learn to say no, you need to ask for help, and not on an internet forum.