No, its not okay. Do you love your country son? I think thats what you need to be asking. Do you hate America? Aren't there enough pretty women of your own kind to satisfy you son? LoL. I love Japanese women too... and Korean... and black.... and Russian... and Brazilian... and the list goes on. :D

>I get it in the case of someone not caring about the woman and only wants to have her as a decoration or a sex object

No racial context there. You can do it to another race, you can do it to your own just the same, and there are plenty that do

>society seems to look upon any white dude with an Asian girl as somehow messed up

Black and white relationships still get this too. Personally, I'm an equal opportunist, any girl can get it, as long as shes cute and fun. My dad tried to talk me out of dating a black girl once. Made me very disappointed in him... sigh

>Is it unfair to think that all men that are attracted to Japanese women are domineering pervs? Anyone have any advice or think the same way?

No, its not fair to think all men that are attracted to Japanese women are domineering pervs. Unless you ARE.

GO JAPAN