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I think you misunderstood me, I know relationship doesn't me love relationship, I used an example and ran with it, seeing as you can and should be able to compare and contrast the idea to fit within any construct. I suppose I was fairly unclear on re-reading, I will try to rewrite hopefully in a more wholesale sort of way.

To make it more clear: You are too stuck on people in general, and you have too many needs in your dealings with others. You disguise it as selfless giving, when in reality it simply isn't or you would have never given it a second thought, rather than giving freely, you give then brood about how others do not give back (as much as you'd like). Even if you do it without expectation of return, the problem is that you keep wishing for it. You are attached to the idea you are 'giving' but still cannot reconcile the fact other people are not as 'generous' to you. Maybe the one who you really love (more than those you feel you are 'giving' to)is yourself? which is pretty natural for a person in any case.

Secondly, love (whether between lovers, family, friends whatever)is not about trying to make the other happy or making people feel happy as though it were a favour you were doing for them. It is about mutual understanding, respect and care, this is what makes people happy. People are not pets, you don't give them treats so they will wag their tails, do you understand? (and no I'm not talking only about material things, though that's certainly an aspect of it).