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Ah, I see, unironically you've described both the ren'ai and bishōjo tags without being too aware of the distinctions and universe of related tags, then. It sounded more like a (well deserved) swipe at uncultured swine who apply "dating sim" to all sorts of games that aren't or barely have the elements.
Probably one of the distinctions you're really getting at is the distinction between ren'ai simulation and ren'ai adventure. You are trying to express a bias for the simulation elements (which are something of a minority in the genre), without getting too deep in the weeds of an actual RPG or strategy game?
If you have already tried out giants like Tokimeki Memorial, I have no actual recommendations myself because I stopped being very interested in these a long time ago, like an "oh fuck how did I actually forget shit" long time ago. I can only pack you some search terms:
男性向け恋愛ゲーム (romance games for men) 美少女ゲーム (bishōjo game) ギャルゲー (gal game) シミュレーション (simulation) エロ (erotic) 成人向け (for adults) -- the last two aren't necessarily detractors, like Sengoku Rance is a pretty good game, but most of the garbage is just porn with excuses added and you're specifically asking for something more substantial