i want a japanese boyfriend. someone like nishijima hidetoshi.
but i'm not in japan. nor will i visit it anytime soon.
where to get one?
Why don't you stop trying to find someone based off their race and open your eyes to the people around you? How about that?
everyone has their own preference so why slam me for that?
>>1,3
Fix your shift key. Then we'll talk.
Maybe you can start by making Japanese friends either in real life or online. I've made some good friends this way and it also helps that I'm trying to learn their language.
SHIT! Go to a fucking Chop Suey. Why don't you give the guys around you a chance? You never know what you might find, but nah you want a hot girly asian guy. How would you feel if you got kickin to that damn curb by a guy you liked but you found out he wasn't into whatever race you are? That would be FUCKED UP, wouldn't it?
>>7
It sounds almost like youre jealous... Its just a god damned preference, you cant be attracted to everything, you probably have youre own preferences aswell?
Thx, and stop trolling
there are lots of different sites that offer penpal services and whatnot, and youve also got a fistfull of online communities on the webs aswell :3
www.mixi.jp(you gotta get an invite, and you have to be able to read japanese to navigate around the site though)
www.japan-guide.com
www.myspace.com(OLOLOLOLOL, shitty site, but there are some japanese people here aswell)
If jealous is what it is, then I'm the most jealous person out there and I DON'T GIVE A FUCK. I know from experience of how fucked up it is when you are getting good with a girl and she tosses you aside for someone who is the exact fucking same as you except they are asian. It's the most fucked up thing I have ever experienced but just fuck it, live your life and do whatever the saint hell you want. I just hope one day you get fucking tossed aside because of your race so you can see how it feels. SHIT!
So the asian guy was better than you, you cant win at everything in life either, instead of letting things get to you like that, you should learn to live with it instead
better than me? LOL. hell no. but everything else you said, you right, you right. there are other girls out there. it just frustrating.
Yaknow i used to think i'd only ever go out with a Japanese chick then i started work and met some truely wonderfull people. i didnt give a shit about race anymore, i only care about personality.
>>12
More like... better for her, ye? :3
>>13
Well, we cant all be the same kind of person, everybody is different, and there are so many people around in the world, so is it really such a big deal if somebody prefers races/personality/style/whatever..
anyways, We're prolly beeing slightly offtopic now, so I suggest we go back to helping this poor girl with her request :)
>>10 Someone's bitter...
>>14 Yup, better for her.
Much thanks for those who've helped. :)
Time for me to explore the links and take one step closer
to snagging my guy. lol >.<
I want juice.
but it gotta be apple?
You are really shallow.
No mature person goes out and says, "aight, i'm gonna get me a jap boyfriend today lol!". It might be your preference...like how you prefer cola over pepsi. But listen to yourself, "where to get one?" Wtf? Like as if they stock them in walmart?? HOW DEGRADING.
Even though Ron is a troll, he's got the right side of the spoon this time.
When I woke up tonight I said I'm gonna make somebody love me.
I'm gonna make somebody love me.
Ans now I know, yes I know, yes I know it's gonna be you!
You're lucky, lucky, you're so lucky!
>>19
I can agree to the fact that she might be approaching this the wrong way, but this thread isnt about trolling if its ok or not..
But for all we know, she wont go for the first japanese guys she meets, she might want to actually befriend some japanese people aswell, and I cant say that I see the harm in helping her alittle bit.
>>1
What does this "nishijima hidetoshi" guy have that I don't? :(
(according to a google search he's 35... so I guess age is one thing.)
When I was younger and more of a Western "watashi wa kawaii baka" otaku, there was a time when I had three Japanese pen-pals at once. All female, of course. I probably still have their email addressed somewhere, but it's been about 5 or so years, so I wonder what they would say if I suddenly emailed them?
Later though, I got out of that. I learned more about Japanese culture, actually learned enough Japanese to barely survive in Japan (heck, I was the kind of guy who actually bought decent "learn Japanese" books and Japanese dictionaries) as well as learned about ancient and and modern Japanese culture... yeah that's right, I was so much of an otaku I actually went out and learned.
...Or then again, maybe I never was an otaku in the Western sense. I did use stupid, simple Japanese sentences, and at most anime forums I visited I was "The resident anime fan," but that was usually only because I'm better at comprehension and writing than actually thinking of sentences, and because most of the Japanese I knew I couldn't easily bring it into online/forum conversations.
But I digress. The point is that since then, I've drifted further away from that (so far that now I can point and laugh at people who what to build a "kotatsu" in their room.) and closer to someone who realizes the various flaws Japan has (yet still wants to visit), someone who realizes his biases, someone who looks at the world and society bitterly, and someone, who's most likely, drifted closer to the Japanese meaning of "Otaku."
Anyway somewhere in-between all of that, I signed up at a few otaku and/or Japanese dating sites, usually jokingly. http://friends.paperlantern.net was one of them.
Be happy I went through year old emails to find that url for you. :p
I wish you the worst in everything you do.
>>19
I'm sorry if you're bothered by my 'shallowness'.
But thing is, what's so shallow bout knowing what I want and going for it.
It's not that I dislike guys the same race as me, it's simply that I find japanese guys more attractive.
So what attracts you? :)
>>25
you say that, yet you've never been to japan.
if a guy was to post something like that, he'd get so much shit for it. what's shallow is that you want appearance, not nature. you can't try and make it sound any better. comeon, "i like you just because you happen to be the right race"?? wow, i feel sorry for him already.
>>26
When I was younger and more of a Western "watashi wa kawaii baka" otaku, there was a time when I had three Japanese pen-pals at once. All female, of course. I probably still have their email addressed somewhere, but it's been about 5 or so years, so I wonder what they would say if I suddenly emailed them?
Later though, I got out of that. I learned more about Japanese culture, actually learned enough Japanese to barely survive in Japan (heck, I was the kind of guy who actually bought decent "learn Japanese" books and Japanese dictionaries) as well as learned about ancient and and modern Japanese culture... yeah that's right, I was so much of an otaku I actually went out and learned.
...Or then again, maybe I never was an otaku in the Western sense. I did use stupid, simple Japanese sentences, and at most non-anime forums I visited I was "The resident anime fan," but that was usually only because I'm better at comprehension and writing than actually thinking of sentences, and because most of the Japanese I knew I couldn't easily bring it into online/forum conversations.
But I digress. The point is that since then, I've drifted further away from that (so far that now I can point and laugh at people who what to build a "kotatsu" in their room.) and closer to someone who realizes the various flaws Japan has (yet still wants to visit), someone who realizes his biases, someone who looks at the world and society bitterly, and someone, who's most likely, drifted closer to the Japanese meaning of "Otaku."
Anyway, somewhere in the middle of that, I developed a love of Japanese women, and to a lesser extent, to Asian women in general. I consider this one of the negative effects left over from my days of otaku-hood.
Everyday (okay, not *every*day... or even every week. often, though) I've questioned myself on wheather this is racist or wrong. My conclusion? Not really. I wouldn't reject anyone based on race, nor would I ignore girls I think are smart and/or cute if they aren't Asian.
However, I do, for some reason, seem to find more attractive Asians than women of any other race. So when I'm ou looking, I look for Asians... but I don't ignore everyone else.
Allow me to refer you to a highly relevant story:
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2006/08/30/AR2006083002985_2.html
Allow me to quote a couple highly relevant passages from said story:
"It's a type of character that doesn't exist much in Asian movies and television, and now it's what Asian women think Korean men are like," said Kim Ok Hyun, director of Star M, a major star management company in Seoul.
"But to tell you the truth," she said. "I still haven't met a real one who fits that description."
and
Some call it a fad. But Yoshimura -- whose latest blind date turned out to be a slightly paunchy Korean computer programmer -- says she is nevertheless digging in her extraordinarily high heels for the long run.
OP, what you have to realize is that in every ethnicity, in every culture, you'll find people that are all different - both on the outside and the inside. If you're looking for someone like Nishijima, who must be Japanese, then you're going to be looking for a long time.
I suggest that you stop fantasizing about Nishijima, and worse yet, extending that fantasy to all Japanese men, and go out and meet people around you. Because really, unless you actually meet the real Nishijima one day and manage to get him to fall in love with you, your fantasy is going to be left unfulfilled, and you're going to become a lonely, bitter girl as a result. And even if you do meet the real Nishijima, I'd suggest to you that he's probably different from what you believe him to be. Sorry, but that's just the truth about fantasies.
>>27
fail to address my point..but anyway, saw mention of cute girls somewhere...are you bi? and if you are, shouldn't you be asking for a jap girlfriend aswell?
hay sup
If it is the other way around non-asian girls and women find Asian men more attractive, that would solve alot problems. The world would be more peaceful. Why do Asian men have to suffer? They always get shafted in terms of relationship and mate, courtship.
どうして日本人の男が好きなの？
面白いなーと思って、
日本人の男ってさあ、ちょっと冷たいよ（人によるだけど、
ほとんどは結構冷たいと思う）
ほとんどの人が横柄であると言っていますか。
日本人が冷たいの？？？WESTERNの人でも冷たい人はいるよ。
どこの国も同じだとおもう。
in fact i met lots of good guys from western countries although someone had discrimination caz im japanese maybe!!!
depend on the personality!!!!
>>35,36 That was very uncalled for. Go away. Tool.
As for myself, I prefer asian women as well, but I'm obviously not limiting my sights, so I'd go out with western women too.
A preference may be a preference, but you can't discriminate.
(Sounds like I'm repeating what some people said I guess, sorry!)
Eventho I'm somewhat a dorama otaku but still had to google Nishijima Hidetoshi. Haven't seen any of his works yet. Any you can recommend? Btw, I'd drool for a Akanishi Jin kinda bf eventho he's a decade younger than me.
>>1
Asian fetish, much? If any Japanese guy dates you, I pray for his soul. He would probably only date you for a green card.
>>31
http://www.bitterasianmen.com
You sound a lot like my friend, ha ha.
>>38
I like Akanishi Jin, too...
Speaking from an Asian female's point of view, guys who have a <I>very</i> high preference for just Asian women shouldn't parade their liking around so much. It will only drive the Orient away. Away, away, away.
I wouldn't mind having a japanese bf XP
why the fuck would you want a small dicked asian b/f?
really , how degrading
oh and I, I'd like a japanese girlfriend with a body and sexdrive like asia carrera. Any tips? (troll)
really, irl japanese guys look weird as fuck.
一般的には、日本の男はレディーファーストが出来ないので人気がないといわれますが、半分はあたってるかも。西洋人から見れば、男尊女卑社会の中で家庭を考えない仕事中毒の男は人気がなくて当たり前かもしれません。ですがこれは
人にもよりますから何とも・・。
I don't know... but that kind of liking is kinda racist, don't you think?
First of all, you are prefering an Asian guy, leaving most of the population behind.
Second, you are asking that THAT GUY must be like this... "Nishijima Hidetoshi". I mean, if you want someone like him, is like asking for someone that resambles him, not because you like that person, it's because you like Nishijima-san. That would be like cheating the guy, if you ever find someone.
Just look around you, I'm sure that you'll find out someone you like, even if he's not japanese, nor like Nishijima-san.
I wish you the best, OP-san ^^
racist? no 意味さっぱりわかりまへんな 西島さんて誰よ？西島洋介ならしっとるぞワハハー
Err... sorry "japanese guy"-san
I don't actually get everything you write, I know just a little about japanese... so... would you mind to write it on english?
I know a lot of people can read and understand japanese, but I don't. And I do really mind to know what your opinion is.
So please, write in english.
Thanks ^^
HAHA
write my opinion with english ? omg.its so hard to explain what i mean because my brain works as japanese all time. Other Japanese also. you need Translation web site..if you want to have a "pure or Nature" japanese lovers. lol
Why is it that I get the feeling that many of the posters(anti-OP) here are offended because they aren't 'suitable of the OP's tastes?'
I wonder if they would be offended by a post made by another girl posting something like: "i want a (insert your race here) bf" or "i want a bf that sits in front of his computer all day playing games or watching anime."
Well, regardless, I'm pretty sure everyone has their own physical preferences or dislikes for their ideal partners. Maybe not as "specific" or feel as strongly about it as the OP, but they do, nonetheless. (example: eyes, hair length, weight, cup size, etc)
So maybe lay off the flames a bit and try to see it from their point of view? No, actually I don't think that will help.
Anyway, OP, I dunno if this thread was made seriously (I laughed at it at), but I also think you shouldn't look for a boyfriend this way. In other words, you are looking for something, within a box full of "Nijishima's," which is inside another box full of Japanese. Instead of doing that, it might be wiser to look for the item starting from outside of the box, as you'll have much more room to breathe.
Also why isn't anyone calling the guy from the singles rant thread 2 a racist for this:
"Ok my question is.. How in the hell would a asian guy get a white female in a majority white population?!
It's impossible >.< because I'm an asian guy with interest in white females :/ but, yet it feels like none of them are attracted to me and/or I don't know how to approach them. Hell, what's even sadder is that I am able to approach middle age or old ladies and have a conversation with them.. yet, I have a hard time forming a sentence with a attractive girl :/"
why not hook up with the OP then, sounds like a good start to me.
she's white your asian and you both want what each is bringing to the table.
(besides the looks) but friendship is always a good start.
A PERFECT MATCH ITT
Now stop being so picky ;D
>>12 So, I have this chunky black girl looking for a date, are you interested? Her name is Lillian, and she's really sweet and protective. She's extremely horny too.
LoL, the current girl I'm with left her white boyfriend for me. That's so ironic!
>>53 Nah, he seems like a loser. I think the point was that she wanted a JAPANESE person who was ATTRACTIVE. Which isn't a shallow thing. Looks do matter.
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There's nothing wrong with wanting a Japanese person, just like how you just might not find some people attractive. A large example of this, although one I wouldn't condone is black people. A lot of people find black people ugly in the United States but at the same time.
A lot of people find asian people ugly as well. I've been called unattractive because of my eyes and my nose and my build several times. I've been called attractive for the very same reasons. At the same time, there are asian and black people that are undeniably hot. Like Halle Berry, and Ziyi Zhang.
So you can say that there are physical features that are predominant in a race that are associated with good feelings/memories/abstracts. For instance, the typical white physical features can remind someone of something rowdy and loud and egotistical. It's just media brainwashing combined with society. Even if a tall/large white man was the quietest of people, the first visual opinion would be that.
In the same respect, asian people and skinny white people are viewed as quieter. But it depends from person to person. Some girls have had bad experiences with loud people, some girls have had bad experiences with quiet people. It's hard for them to outgrow or see past what are simply physical features. ESPECIALLY when these physical features often lead to the experiences that they enjoy.
ADVICE TO OP
Find a japanese boy in the United States. Don't make this more difficult than you have to. Asian Avenue.com or something like that. Craigslist and say you're ONLY looking for a japanese person. A great hint --> Asian cultures are EXTREMELY loyal to each other and are pretty "Clingy" because of it. In America I have witnessed hundreds of Churches and Hang outs that are predominantly Asian-Only. They feel comfortable because of it. You just have to find a Japanese one. The place to look? Which is going to be kind of funny...
Make friends with Asian people at your school, or if that's not an option then look at flyers at Oriental supermarkets and Chinese Fast food. Often times, these flyers will be for asian people. -Is it extremely sad that I know this?- Even though asian people are extremely exclusive, they won't mind having a caucasian friend. ESPECIALLY when they're in a caucasian nation. You'll be like... The link to the outside world.
However, don't get stuck with a single group of asian friends. If they're not Japanese, then I reiterate. They are not Japanese. Abandon them, move to the next group. Another place that this wil work are colleges that have culture clubs. Find the Asian / Japanese culture club in there. You won't even have to talk to anyone. Just be reading some manga. People will talk to you.
Yay Asian guys ^^
same as >>57.
wait. is this actually love and romance related??? hmmm... oh well.
Hi from nice japanese guy here.
If any caucasian girl whos into Japanese guys,
please feel free to write me cutekun at aol dot com
>>57 sounds like they know how to do things..
>>52
As an aside, I'm in love with and dating a nerdy guy who first started talking to me at a 'Japanese Club' meeting. He asked me out, and I'm white & he's Asian.
So yeah, race isn't a boundary. The inability to approach girls is a boundary. Just talk to people!
yeah i am japanese