japanese boyfriend (114)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-01 17:34 ID:saJuJeP8 This thread was merged from the former /love/ board. You can view the archive here.

i want a japanese boyfriend. someone like nishijima hidetoshi.
but i'm not in japan. nor will i visit it anytime soon.
where to get one?

2 Name: Ron "The Truth" Killings : 2006-10-01 17:49 ID:YYlVOWRd

Why don't you stop trying to find someone based off their race and open your eyes to the people around you? How about that?

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-01 18:09 ID:saJuJeP8

everyone has their own preference so why slam me for that?

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-01 18:18 ID:Heaven

Fix your shift key. Then we'll talk.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-01 18:18 ID:Xj52gqzG

Maybe you can start by making Japanese friends either in real life or online. I've made some good friends this way and it also helps that I'm trying to learn their language.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-01 18:27 ID:lQ17mA7k

who cares...

thanks for the idea but there aren't many japanese where i'm from. think i'll try the online thing. where's a good place to start?

7 Name: Ron "The Truth" Killings : 2006-10-01 19:45 ID:nb4j4uRE

SHIT! Go to a fucking Chop Suey. Why don't you give the guys around you a chance? You never know what you might find, but nah you want a hot girly asian guy. How would you feel if you got kickin to that damn curb by a guy you liked but you found out he wasn't into whatever race you are? That would be FUCKED UP, wouldn't it?

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-01 21:08 ID:/3F0jtCU

It sounds almost like youre jealous... Its just a god damned preference, you cant be attracted to everything, you probably have youre own preferences aswell?

Thx, and stop trolling

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-01 21:10 ID:/3F0jtCU


there are lots of different sites that offer penpal services and whatnot, and youve also got a fistfull of online communities on the webs aswell :3

www.mixi.jp(you gotta get an invite, and you have to be able to read japanese to navigate around the site though)
www.myspace.com(OLOLOLOLOL, shitty site, but there are some japanese people here aswell)

10 Name: Ron "The Truth" Killings : 2006-10-01 21:26 ID:nb4j4uRE

If jealous is what it is, then I'm the most jealous person out there and I DON'T GIVE A FUCK. I know from experience of how fucked up it is when you are getting good with a girl and she tosses you aside for someone who is the exact fucking same as you except they are asian. It's the most fucked up thing I have ever experienced but just fuck it, live your life and do whatever the saint hell you want. I just hope one day you get fucking tossed aside because of your race so you can see how it feels. SHIT!

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-01 21:50 ID:/3F0jtCU

So the asian guy was better than you, you cant win at everything in life either, instead of letting things get to you like that, you should learn to live with it instead

12 Name: Ron "The Truth" Killings : 2006-10-01 21:54 ID:nb4j4uRE

better than me? LOL. hell no. but everything else you said, you right, you right. there are other girls out there. it just frustrating.

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-01 21:57 ID:+wZi2NLp

Yaknow i used to think i'd only ever go out with a Japanese chick then i started work and met some truely wonderfull people. i didnt give a shit about race anymore, i only care about personality.

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-01 22:06 ID:/3F0jtCU

More like... better for her, ye? :3

Well, we cant all be the same kind of person, everybody is different, and there are so many people around in the world, so is it really such a big deal if somebody prefers races/personality/style/whatever..

anyways, We're prolly beeing slightly offtopic now, so I suggest we go back to helping this poor girl with her request :)


15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-02 02:21 ID:Heaven

>>10 Someone's bitter...

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-02 02:22 ID:Heaven

>>14 Yup, better for her.

17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-02 03:30 ID:yspliYBN

Much thanks for those who've helped. :)
Time for me to explore the links and take one step closer
to snagging my guy. lol >.<

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-02 04:11 ID:pdk8d8iA

I want juice.
but it gotta be apple?

19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-02 05:56 ID:2ELDmKsG

You are really shallow.
No mature person goes out and says, "aight, i'm gonna get me a jap boyfriend today lol!". It might be your preference...like how you prefer cola over pepsi. But listen to yourself, "where to get one?" Wtf? Like as if they stock them in walmart?? HOW DEGRADING.
Even though Ron is a troll, he's got the right side of the spoon this time.

20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-02 06:01 ID:Heaven

When I woke up tonight I said I'm gonna make somebody love me.
I'm gonna make somebody love me.
Ans now I know, yes I know, yes I know it's gonna be you!
You're lucky, lucky, you're so lucky!

21 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-02 08:44 ID:/3F0jtCU

I can agree to the fact that she might be approaching this the wrong way, but this thread isnt about trolling if its ok or not..
But for all we know, she wont go for the first japanese guys she meets, she might want to actually befriend some japanese people aswell, and I cant say that I see the harm in helping her alittle bit.

22 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-02 09:17 ID:Heaven

What does this "nishijima hidetoshi" guy have that I don't? :(
(according to a google search he's 35... so I guess age is one thing.)

When I was younger and more of a Western "watashi wa kawaii baka" otaku, there was a time when I had three Japanese pen-pals at once. All female, of course. I probably still have their email addressed somewhere, but it's been about 5 or so years, so I wonder what they would say if I suddenly emailed them?

Later though, I got out of that. I learned more about Japanese culture, actually learned enough Japanese to barely survive in Japan (heck, I was the kind of guy who actually bought decent "learn Japanese" books and Japanese dictionaries) as well as learned about ancient and and modern Japanese culture... yeah that's right, I was so much of an otaku I actually went out and learned.

...Or then again, maybe I never was an otaku in the Western sense. I did use stupid, simple Japanese sentences, and at most anime forums I visited I was "The resident anime fan," but that was usually only because I'm better at comprehension and writing than actually thinking of sentences, and because most of the Japanese I knew I couldn't easily bring it into online/forum conversations.

But I digress. The point is that since then, I've drifted further away from that (so far that now I can point and laugh at people who what to build a "kotatsu" in their room.) and closer to someone who realizes the various flaws Japan has (yet still wants to visit), someone who realizes his biases, someone who looks at the world and society bitterly, and someone, who's most likely, drifted closer to the Japanese meaning of "Otaku."

Anyway somewhere in-between all of that, I signed up at a few otaku and/or Japanese dating sites, usually jokingly. http://friends.paperlantern.net was one of them.

Be happy I went through year old emails to find that url for you. :p

23 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-02 09:36 ID:2uv9T4x1

I wish you the worst in everything you do.

24 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-02 09:47 ID:yspliYBN


Thank you!

25 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-02 09:57 ID:yspliYBN

I'm sorry if you're bothered by my 'shallowness'.
But thing is, what's so shallow bout knowing what I want and going for it.
It's not that I dislike guys the same race as me, it's simply that I find japanese guys more attractive.
So what attracts you? :)

26 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-02 13:16 ID:2ELDmKsG

you say that, yet you've never been to japan.
if a guy was to post something like that, he'd get so much shit for it. what's shallow is that you want appearance, not nature. you can't try and make it sound any better. comeon, "i like you just because you happen to be the right race"?? wow, i feel sorry for him already.

27 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-02 13:27 ID:Heaven

When I was younger and more of a Western "watashi wa kawaii baka" otaku, there was a time when I had three Japanese pen-pals at once. All female, of course. I probably still have their email addressed somewhere, but it's been about 5 or so years, so I wonder what they would say if I suddenly emailed them?

Later though, I got out of that. I learned more about Japanese culture, actually learned enough Japanese to barely survive in Japan (heck, I was the kind of guy who actually bought decent "learn Japanese" books and Japanese dictionaries) as well as learned about ancient and and modern Japanese culture... yeah that's right, I was so much of an otaku I actually went out and learned.

...Or then again, maybe I never was an otaku in the Western sense. I did use stupid, simple Japanese sentences, and at most non-anime forums I visited I was "The resident anime fan," but that was usually only because I'm better at comprehension and writing than actually thinking of sentences, and because most of the Japanese I knew I couldn't easily bring it into online/forum conversations.

But I digress. The point is that since then, I've drifted further away from that (so far that now I can point and laugh at people who what to build a "kotatsu" in their room.) and closer to someone who realizes the various flaws Japan has (yet still wants to visit), someone who realizes his biases, someone who looks at the world and society bitterly, and someone, who's most likely, drifted closer to the Japanese meaning of "Otaku."

Anyway, somewhere in the middle of that, I developed a love of Japanese women, and to a lesser extent, to Asian women in general. I consider this one of the negative effects left over from my days of otaku-hood.

Everyday (okay, not *every*day... or even every week. often, though) I've questioned myself on wheather this is racist or wrong. My conclusion? Not really. I wouldn't reject anyone based on race, nor would I ignore girls I think are smart and/or cute if they aren't Asian.

However, I do, for some reason, seem to find more attractive Asians than women of any other race. So when I'm ou looking, I look for Asians... but I don't ignore everyone else.

28 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-02 23:43 ID:zx8Xy0zt


Allow me to refer you to a highly relevant story:


Allow me to quote a couple highly relevant passages from said story:

"It's a type of character that doesn't exist much in Asian movies and television, and now it's what Asian women think Korean men are like," said Kim Ok Hyun, director of Star M, a major star management company in Seoul.

"But to tell you the truth," she said. "I still haven't met a real one who fits that description."


Some call it a fad. But Yoshimura -- whose latest blind date turned out to be a slightly paunchy Korean computer programmer -- says she is nevertheless digging in her extraordinarily high heels for the long run.

OP, what you have to realize is that in every ethnicity, in every culture, you'll find people that are all different - both on the outside and the inside. If you're looking for someone like Nishijima, who must be Japanese, then you're going to be looking for a long time.

I suggest that you stop fantasizing about Nishijima, and worse yet, extending that fantasy to all Japanese men, and go out and meet people around you. Because really, unless you actually meet the real Nishijima one day and manage to get him to fall in love with you, your fantasy is going to be left unfulfilled, and you're going to become a lonely, bitter girl as a result. And even if you do meet the real Nishijima, I'd suggest to you that he's probably different from what you believe him to be. Sorry, but that's just the truth about fantasies.

29 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-02 23:57 ID:2ELDmKsG

fail to address my point..but anyway, saw mention of cute girls somewhere...are you bi? and if you are, shouldn't you be asking for a jap girlfriend aswell?

30 Name: babygirl : 2006-10-06 12:29 ID:/xXcL8SM

hay sup

31 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-06 14:08 ID:Heaven


If it is the other way around non-asian girls and women find Asian men more attractive, that would solve alot problems. The world would be more peaceful. Why do Asian men have to suffer? They always get shafted in terms of relationship and mate, courtship.

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33 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-16 06:36 ID:yspliYBN


34 Name: Ray : 2007-04-23 16:59 ID:kssbw2o3

in fact i met lots of good guys from western countries although someone had discrimination caz im japanese maybe!!!
depend on the personality!!!!

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37 Name: かやしゅ : 2007-04-25 08:42 ID:jjxs2TpZ

>>35,36 That was very uncalled for. Go away. Tool.

As for myself, I prefer asian women as well, but I'm obviously not limiting my sights, so I'd go out with western women too.

A preference may be a preference, but you can't discriminate.

(Sounds like I'm repeating what some people said I guess, sorry!)

38 Name: Dorama : 2007-04-27 01:54 ID:Rkv/snHD

Eventho I'm somewhat a dorama otaku but still had to google Nishijima Hidetoshi. Haven't seen any of his works yet. Any you can recommend? Btw, I'd drool for a Akanishi Jin kinda bf eventho he's a decade younger than me.

39 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-04-28 20:13 ID:6/aohOr8

Asian fetish, much? If any Japanese guy dates you, I pray for his soul. He would probably only date you for a green card.

You sound a lot like my friend, ha ha.

I like Akanishi Jin, too...

Speaking from an Asian female's point of view, guys who have a <I>very</i> high preference for just Asian women shouldn't parade their liking around so much. It will only drive the Orient away. Away, away, away.

40 Name: Visual Kei : 2007-04-28 21:16 ID:gpcnicKD

I wouldn't mind having a japanese bf XP

41 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-04-28 23:54 ID:GZpWXHf8

why the fuck would you want a small dicked asian b/f?

42 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-04-29 04:54 ID:8DCHhKgb

really , how degrading

43 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-04-29 10:58 ID:o9V7aqes

oh and I, I'd like a japanese girlfriend with a body and sexdrive like asia carrera. Any tips? (troll)

44 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-04-30 21:14 ID:42HwOhc9

really, irl japanese guys look weird as fuck.

45 Name: japanese guy : 2007-06-10 21:05 ID:AGQsnRnP


46 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-10 21:34 ID:085k8qpv

I don't know... but that kind of liking is kinda racist, don't you think?

First of all, you are prefering an Asian guy, leaving most of the population behind.

Second, you are asking that THAT GUY must be like this... "Nishijima Hidetoshi". I mean, if you want someone like him, is like asking for someone that resambles him, not because you like that person, it's because you like Nishijima-san. That would be like cheating the guy, if you ever find someone.

Just look around you, I'm sure that you'll find out someone you like, even if he's not japanese, nor like Nishijima-san.

I wish you the best, OP-san ^^

47 Name: japanese guy : 2007-06-10 22:53 ID:AGQsnRnP

racist? no 意味さっぱりわかりまへんな 西島さんて誰よ?西島洋介ならしっとるぞワハハー 

48 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-11 00:33 ID:085k8qpv


Err... sorry "japanese guy"-san

I don't actually get everything you write, I know just a little about japanese... so... would you mind to write it on english?

I know a lot of people can read and understand japanese, but I don't. And I do really mind to know what your opinion is.

So please, write in english.

Thanks ^^

49 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-11 07:38 ID:2bPKSjtV


50 Name: japanese guy : 2007-06-11 09:44 ID:AGQsnRnP

write my opinion with english ? omg.its so hard to explain what i mean because my brain works as japanese all time. Other Japanese also. you need Translation web site..if you want to have a "pure or Nature" japanese lovers. lol

51 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-11 10:14 ID:PtXdeHzC

Why is it that I get the feeling that many of the posters(anti-OP) here are offended because they aren't 'suitable of the OP's tastes?'
I wonder if they would be offended by a post made by another girl posting something like: "i want a (insert your race here) bf" or "i want a bf that sits in front of his computer all day playing games or watching anime."
Well, regardless, I'm pretty sure everyone has their own physical preferences or dislikes for their ideal partners. Maybe not as "specific" or feel as strongly about it as the OP, but they do, nonetheless. (example: eyes, hair length, weight, cup size, etc)
So maybe lay off the flames a bit and try to see it from their point of view? No, actually I don't think that will help.

Anyway, OP, I dunno if this thread was made seriously (I laughed at it at), but I also think you shouldn't look for a boyfriend this way. In other words, you are looking for something, within a box full of "Nijishima's," which is inside another box full of Japanese. Instead of doing that, it might be wiser to look for the item starting from outside of the box, as you'll have much more room to breathe.

52 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-12 07:48 ID:PtXdeHzC

Also why isn't anyone calling the guy from the singles rant thread 2 a racist for this:

"Ok my question is.. How in the hell would a asian guy get a white female in a majority white population?!

It's impossible >.< because I'm an asian guy with interest in white females :/ but, yet it feels like none of them are attracted to me and/or I don't know how to approach them. Hell, what's even sadder is that I am able to approach middle age or old ladies and have a conversation with them.. yet, I have a hard time forming a sentence with a attractive girl :/"

53 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-12 11:58 ID:Uaouulri


why not hook up with the OP then, sounds like a good start to me.

she's white your asian and you both want what each is bringing to the table.

(besides the looks) but friendship is always a good start.

54 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-12 12:47 ID:uLwUe6Mb


Now stop being so picky ;D

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56 Name: Touch of Ink. : 2007-06-13 15:49 ID:XU+ehKHn

>>12 So, I have this chunky black girl looking for a date, are you interested? Her name is Lillian, and she's really sweet and protective. She's extremely horny too.

LoL, the current girl I'm with left her white boyfriend for me. That's so ironic!

>>53 Nah, he seems like a loser. I think the point was that she wanted a JAPANESE person who was ATTRACTIVE. Which isn't a shallow thing. Looks do matter.


There's nothing wrong with wanting a Japanese person, just like how you just might not find some people attractive. A large example of this, although one I wouldn't condone is black people. A lot of people find black people ugly in the United States but at the same time.

A lot of people find asian people ugly as well. I've been called unattractive because of my eyes and my nose and my build several times. I've been called attractive for the very same reasons. At the same time, there are asian and black people that are undeniably hot. Like Halle Berry, and Ziyi Zhang.

So you can say that there are physical features that are predominant in a race that are associated with good feelings/memories/abstracts. For instance, the typical white physical features can remind someone of something rowdy and loud and egotistical. It's just media brainwashing combined with society. Even if a tall/large white man was the quietest of people, the first visual opinion would be that.

In the same respect, asian people and skinny white people are viewed as quieter. But it depends from person to person. Some girls have had bad experiences with loud people, some girls have had bad experiences with quiet people. It's hard for them to outgrow or see past what are simply physical features. ESPECIALLY when these physical features often lead to the experiences that they enjoy.

57 Name: Touch of Ink. : 2007-06-13 15:55 ID:XU+ehKHn


Find a japanese boy in the United States. Don't make this more difficult than you have to. Asian Avenue.com or something like that. Craigslist and say you're ONLY looking for a japanese person. A great hint --> Asian cultures are EXTREMELY loyal to each other and are pretty "Clingy" because of it. In America I have witnessed hundreds of Churches and Hang outs that are predominantly Asian-Only. They feel comfortable because of it. You just have to find a Japanese one. The place to look? Which is going to be kind of funny...

Make friends with Asian people at your school, or if that's not an option then look at flyers at Oriental supermarkets and Chinese Fast food. Often times, these flyers will be for asian people. -Is it extremely sad that I know this?- Even though asian people are extremely exclusive, they won't mind having a caucasian friend. ESPECIALLY when they're in a caucasian nation. You'll be like... The link to the outside world.

However, don't get stuck with a single group of asian friends. If they're not Japanese, then I reiterate. They are not Japanese. Abandon them, move to the next group. Another place that this wil work are colleges that have culture clubs. Find the Asian / Japanese culture club in there. You won't even have to talk to anyone. Just be reading some manga. People will talk to you.

58 Name: Visual Kei : 2007-06-15 04:34 ID:4MCVgtK2

Yay Asian guys ^^

59 Name: rerimdA terceS : 2007-06-15 15:09 ID:jyOYaVh7

same as >>57.
wait. is this actually love and romance related??? hmmm... oh well.

60 Name: J-guy :-) : 2007-07-25 17:26 ID:EaTdIinM

Hi from nice japanese guy here.
If any caucasian girl whos into Japanese guys,
please feel free to write me cutekun at aol dot com

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63 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-26 22:04 ID:Heaven

>>57 sounds like they know how to do things..

As an aside, I'm in love with and dating a nerdy guy who first started talking to me at a 'Japanese Club' meeting. He asked me out, and I'm white & he's Asian.

So yeah, race isn't a boundary. The inability to approach girls is a boundary. Just talk to people!

64 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-10 06:09 ID:SauIVjnq

yeah i am japanese

65 Name: japanese guy : 2007-12-13 10:14 ID:1KPveG0B


66 Name: japanese guy : 2007-12-13 10:16 ID:1KPveG0B

contact me at pemina_leli@yahoo.com

67 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-14 00:45 ID:HBFgIQWZ


68 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-04 05:56 ID:Heaven

Akanishi Jin likes blond girls. If I'm not mistaken, he was taken a snap of when having a date with one. It was probably on a Japanese tabloid magazine. I just remembered I read an article on the Net. If you are interested, try searching. It's perhaps in Japanese, though.

69 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-10 14:21 ID:F5oLRaPe


70 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-25 15:32 ID:jb8/IeNZ

I'm gonna go and assume that you are fat and or ugly, other wise you would be on the internet writing about wanting a japanese boyfriend. You'd already have one.

71 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-30 23:02 ID:1xZ3s72J

The OP offended me on the behalf of the Japanese people even though I am a Caucasian male. And as for whoever said that the people who are "anti OP" are just hurt because they don't measure up to the posters standards lets take a look at the facts that I can see.

Fact one: OP is not only looking for a specific race to date but a specific type of person from that race, highly picky and close minded. "Not only does my boyfriend has to be japanese, he has to be a certain kind of Japanese".

Fact Two: This is being posted under the assumption that there is some secret place where someone is hiding all the good looking japanese guys and OP wants in on the treasure trove.

Fact Three: This is posted on an anonymous internet message board. I can understand wanting anonymity when discussing relationship problems and that sometimes you can get good advice from strangers, but the question isn't really serious. OP might as well have posted "I want japanese dick in me".

Besides these facts I take issue with this...

"But thing is, what's so shallow bout knowing what I want and going for it."

Because you're not going for it, you're telling random people on the internet that you like Japanese guys, big fucking deal. And it is shallow by the way to predetermine the guys you will consider dating by their nationality. It's the same as me saying "I'll only date white girls", you only think it's politically correct because the Japanese are a minority in whatever country you're from.

And guys, don't worry about this one, any girl who is posting about how to get a guy on a message board instead of just going out and dating is probably pretty foul looking anyway.

72 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-31 02:28 ID:YFkgjIHS


Excellent deconstruction, up until you dropped the ad hominem bomb.

73 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-31 06:29 ID:t+Mr3Mit

>>72 lol'd, you speak the truth.

74 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-18 07:04 ID:FL29JcEO

I think I like man like Nijishima Hidetoshi too. And I really fall in love with movies starring Nijishima san. Anybody can tell me whether he's married or not? Does he have a girlfriend now?

75 Name: japanese man : 2008-04-18 16:33 ID:KmO14LwK


76 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-19 08:06 ID:1xZ3s72J

>>72 The ad hominem wasn't a part of my argument, just thrown in as reassurance for guys who feel like they have too much trouble finding ladies.

77 Name: みさ : 2008-04-21 16:05 ID:HxtHooyT

if he did have a wife/girlfriend would your opinion about him change?!

78 Name: masaki : 2008-08-20 10:35 ID:MNzc2XnE

hi, Im japanese boy, age is 25 . in the future, I want to go out with and hopefully marry europian or american girl. what should I do? my english is not so good. please let me know how I can go out with? Im living in japan tokyo
my email is keitakeita24@canmail.jp

79 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-20 17:48 ID:Heaven

1) Breed Japanese-American hybrid super race.
2) Exterminate jews.
3) ???????
4) Profit.

80 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-20 20:00 ID:b4SosW/a


I'm not Japanese per se, but I speak it and I look it well enough for anyone's tastes. Third world Asian throwaways like me are the jackpot.

81 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-27 16:43 ID:BlX01qMf

everyone wants an asian man, they make money and can get closer to china.

82 Name: ninja : 2010-02-10 15:20 ID:bxhseddb

This is great T-shirt to present your girlfriend if your are Japanese!


83 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-02-10 23:57 ID:Heaven

Really? Seriously? Let this thread stupidly die... >.>

84 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-02-11 01:37 ID:Pq2u+20F

uh im pretty sure theres some dating sites? idk, your making it really weird to answer your question.

i mean thats like saying i want to eat fish, but i wont be going to the market or the sea anytime soon to catch/buy them, what do i do?

.....like i said im pretty sure that you can just look someone up online or perhaps look for places where japanese tend to gather at wherever you live.

85 Name: oya seiichirou : 2010-02-11 19:50 ID:HGERRBCD

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86 Name: Curious : 2010-03-09 12:55 ID:3a78sJJA

Hi ^_^
I'm a Gaijin who lived in Japan for about a year as an exchange student. I have a wonderful Japanese boyfriend. He's very sweet! \^_^/
I was curious to know what is it exactly that some Japanese men find attractive about Gaijin Women?
I think Japanese women are cuter...

87 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-03-17 09:35 ID:LY/qbKo0

wow, sour grapes to the max. when a creepy white douche fawns over asian girls like a fag, he's just "being true to himself," but it's the end of the fucking world if a white girl has a preference for asian men (fact: it's not). here's a tip: posting vitriol-filled rants over the internet doesn't make you cool, it just makes you more a pathetic dweeb. you might as well commit suicide if you're going to be such a waste of flesh anyway.

to the OP, don't bother with these losers. it's great that you know what you want and will hopefully go out and get it. and if, along the way, you fall for someone of a different ethnicity and your horizons broaden, then good for you. and if not and you find your dream japanese guy, then all the more power to you! don't let these bitter tools bring you down.

88 Name: skyhigh : 2010-04-11 12:03 ID:Wyu3UIvD


I am Japanese boy but not currently living in Japan.

Anyway, that's one of the hardest question.

All I can tell is meeting J-Boy somehow.
Best way is just simply go to Japan and meet the people.
Better than do nothing...

They (including myself) are so shy against foreigners this is
the major problem so if posssible you should make first
conversation and invite him for lunch or dinner just step by

This helps a lot for J-Boy.
(including myself)

The boy can pick up your feeling quickly as girls can do.

If you find out his feeling is tilting towards you,
There are no problem at all!!

But you have to judge the nice guy or not just
like you do in your country as usual.

Good luck \(^o^)/

89 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-05-10 13:58 ID:qVkKiBvp

As long as you come to J night-club,
there is no reason that you don't get picked up.
I will pick you up if u r left alone lol
J-girls can be really harsh to strangers like 100% ignoring
Anyway, most of J-boys can't speak English enough to
communicate or make jokes so maybe they aren't confident
enought to talk to "gaijin girls".
It is hard to joke around in Second language really.
so, if you could speak japanese even a little,
we feel much better and can have more deep and fun conversation.
I talked with some gaijin girls in Jp and I felt that
most of them just totally can't speak English.
It might be just me but yea.. learn some japanese is definetly good idea;) Gl anyways

90 Name: miya : 2011-01-15 14:21 ID:bMq+BJZy

i'm a Japanese mix Thailand, why everyone up to find a japan guy ? they all same as everyguy around you. =_=

91 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-01-19 07:05 ID:Heaven

If only some people would get that through their heads, it'd make things a little less annoying.

92 Name: want 2b Jpnse : 2011-01-19 19:52 ID:iCz/C9EP

http://taemtations.tumblr.com/ is that who the OP is talking about?

93 Name: want 2b Jpnse : 2011-01-19 19:54 ID:iCz/C9EP

http://taemtations.tumblr.com/ is that who the OP is talking about?

94 Name: D_Visual_Kei_Vege : 2011-04-18 19:28 ID:c1FxvPJu

I totally want a Japanese boyfriend to...

But I'm Australian... :0(

& to the person who told her to stop judging by race & look around her, that's crap... She is attracted to japanese guys, we all have our own taste...

Japanese guys are different to western men, & so much better in my opinion.

Iam a visual kei style in a big way & that could be one reason I'm attracted to Japanese guys, either way they are the most amazing guys on earth... :0)

Come & see me on myspace?



95 Name: D_Visual_Kei_Vege : 2011-04-18 19:31 ID:c1FxvPJu

Japanese/Chinese/Thai are all amazing.... I think girls like the J rock visual kei style, that doesn't mean that other Asians don't have it...

Give me an Asian visual kei guy any day-I'll be his forever... :0)

96 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-05-09 04:23 ID:X+mwic7M

there are a lot of travelers from Japan in Australia, right?
you can get someone from the travelers.

or get mixi account.
mixi is Japanese SNS site ,and of course, there are lot of Japanese guys.
my friend can invite you to mixi.

97 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-06-10 01:44 ID:URHXkUg4

Really i like asian guys but you guys are making a big deal in life you well be rejected and you have to move on. And other people have other ways of thinking. do yourself a favor guys and get over it...... And as far as i know you are unique you like what you like and people are going to run their mouths but is all good thats what you like so dont worr.

98 Name: ottersmk : 2011-06-26 02:00 ID:QVPI5AHI

How to get a Japanese Boyfriend
(from an American girl’s point of view)

Disclaimer: While it's true you can't generalize everyone into one category, each person is unique- however there are some factors that would attract certain people to only/typically Japanese (or only such-and-such men/women).

1. Know Japanese- As common sense dictates, communicant is key to any relationship. So it’s important that you know Japanese or he knows English. However most Japanese people in general have limited English ability compare to the rest of the world. With that in mind, it might be difficult to find a boy with decent English ability so your best bet is to learn Japanese. Another option is if you attend an university, look for Japanese students there since their English has to be passable in order to attend your university.

2. Be skinny- This is not necessary to get a Japanese boyfriend but it definitely is preferable for Japanese men. In Japan, basically everyone is skinny. Its not because everyone works out or eats super healthy (although many of their foods are healthy compared to American food lol), it could be genetics but the point is everyone is shinny so overweight people in japan do tend to stick out. In Japan the skinnier you are the more pretty you are...I would say there is no limit to how skinny you should try to be in Japan. If you want a Japanese boyfriend, lose weight as long as its healthy for you ☺

3. Be fashionable- Fashion is everything for a lot of Japanese teenagers, college students, and those in their 20’s and even 30’s. I found many girls spend a lot of time and money on how they look. I recommend to try to look your best and go a little up and beyond to attract a Japanese man.

4. Behave like a woman- Girls are girly in Japan. Its expected and considered attractive. Shirts, heels, and lots of makeup are the norm, so try to dress a lot more girly. Know how to cook. In some cases don't try to be too smart or want a high strung career…this sounds a little horrible but in japan the male is the typically the breadwinner and for some a powerful woman can come off as intimidating.

5. Avoid causing embarrassment to others- Japanese people go out of there way not to cause embarrassment/ to others. This is important to know because you can try to see if the Japanese boy you thought you had a great date with is calling you back because he also had a great time or he’s just trying to be polite. Look to see if he is sincere to judge how into you.

6. Know Japanese culture with dating- You don't exactly date in Japan. The process of starting a relationship in Japan is much faster than in America. I think the best way to describe it is: you find someone you are interested in and you confess that you like him or her. If they accept it then you both are in a relationship and then you start dating! Almost opposite from American style of dating where you could date someone for a few months and then be in a relationship! Some things to keep in mind: PDA is a no no in Japan. Holding hands in public is ok, but kissing…dont do it. Valentine day’s is for girls to give boys chocolate. Let your boy pay for you on dates since it might be weird for him for you to pay the bill.

Remember these are just guidelines and are not necessary true for everyone! Good luck ☺

99 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-06-28 03:47 ID:yeY3XaKR


basically date a Japanese man if you have zero worth as a female and enjoy being placed into pre-Victorian patriarchal bullshit. lol japan is such a shit culture.

100 Name: ottersmk : 2011-06-29 05:27 ID:QVPI5AHI

It's not all that bad! I have a Japanese boyfriend and he's very sweet and kind. :) I lived in Japan for a year and thats kind of the "feel" I got from dating there. So while that advice isn't good for everyone, there is a vain side to dating japanese men sometimes. However (and this isnt exactly good either) just being a foreigner in Japan makes you pretty so it kind of works for the vain thing..?

Anyways as a whole people are nice and the culture is wonderful!

101 Name: Alicia : 2011-09-26 05:41 ID:c5KdESLC


102 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-10-13 12:15 ID:jnHKpCS5

cool japanese boy wants black girlfriend.

103 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-10-16 00:49 ID:tejzx+Ki

Are you upset because you don't match up to their superior standards of beauty?

104 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-11-06 16:45 ID:ai8B44yB

much jealousy huh? lol

105 Name: Ara Joyce : 2011-11-07 13:16 ID:XLeumNTE


106 Name: AA Girl : 2011-12-12 02:08 ID:BamsyFRB

i'm an african american girl who is attracted to asian men. why is it that you never seen many black girls with asian guys?

107 Name: Secret Admirer : 2013-07-10 16:09 ID:4P5pZ70Y

108 Name: Secret Admirer : 2013-07-11 18:10 ID:YdYEgem/


Hello everyone in the United States
I have come to the propaganda of the yukata from Japan

Airport sales No1!! Yukata!!
Pattern of high quality and traditional
Children and parents, to themselves
Made in Japan of the relief of course



109 Name: lolicon : 2013-07-21 10:57 ID:XfCZ5axg

there are indeed a lot of good looking guys here but half of them wears make-up.. weird. their frail looking, thin. but the girls here are 75% of the time pretty and/or sexy. perhaps 25% of them gets pretty due to their make-up abilities. but damn they're hot.
i'm here in japan that's why i know. you should visit sometime to see what you're missing. the guys at youtube are just a handful.

110 Name: Secret Admirer : 2013-08-11 14:52 ID:QKOXBiOb

Sadly for the same reasons you almost never see Asian men with girls that aren't Asian, because of stereotypes, and the ingraining of those stereotypes at a young age, at least in the US.

111 Name: Secret Admirer : 2014-01-10 13:47 ID:1PbqYrv2

hong in there

112 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2022-05-13 06:52 ID:NFKSivb/

I am Japanese.
Most Japanese people are not good at English, so if you can speak Japanese,
your chances of getting a Japanese boyfriend will increase dramatically.

The characteristic preference of Japanese men for women is that they like cute women.
They want kawaii in their makeup, clothes, gestures, thoughts, and behavior.

They do not expect women to be sexy like Americans do.
Fashion that shows breasts is also not common in Japan.
It is better to expose more of your legs than to show your breasts.
Caucasians have stronger body odor than Japanese,
so it is necessary to take measures to make body odor less noticeable.
Japanese people are very neat and clean, and many of them take a bath every day,
so people who are unclean or have smelly body odor are most disliked.

The Japanese place great importance on not offending others,
and they speak in a roundabout way. They may speak more like the British than Americans.
Be especially careful when saying critical things about the other person.
Bragging about yourself is also taboo in Japan. If someone compliments you on your work,
either say thank you or reply with a word of humility.

Japanese men are shyer than Americans, and many are less aggressive toward women.
If you approach them, you may have to be more aggressive than you would be with American men
in order to get the desired results.

If you watch movies, dramas, or anime that take place in modern Japan, you may be able to
get an idea of what Japanese men tend to like. Since it is fiction, some aspects are exaggerated,
but it is probably not far off the mark.

113 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2022-05-16 02:50 ID:bV6DuyEE

Japanese people have too many principles.

114 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2022-05-18 13:17 ID:5+1f8IFF

>>112 is not principles, but merely a statement of the characteristics of Japanese men's preferences for women, which are not very common in the US.
The more you adapt to their preferences, the more likely you are to get a Japanese boyfriend.

If you are confident about yourself, I think you should keep doing what you are doing.
There are certainly American women who are attractive from the Japanese point of view without doing anything.
However, in general, when a Japanese woman who knows what Japanese men like becomes a competitor, an American woman who knows nothing about Japanese men's tastes is more likely to lose the competition.

People are often attracted to similar people, so those who want an interracial or foreign boyfriend or girlfriend often have to work harder than those who want a boyfriend or girlfriend of the same race or country.

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