japanese boyfriend (114)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-01 17:34 ID:saJuJeP8 This thread was merged from the former /love/ board. You can view the archive here.

i want a japanese boyfriend. someone like nishijima hidetoshi.
but i'm not in japan. nor will i visit it anytime soon.
where to get one?

65 Name: japanese guy : 2007-12-13 10:14 ID:1KPveG0B


66 Name: japanese guy : 2007-12-13 10:16 ID:1KPveG0B

contact me at pemina_leli@yahoo.com

67 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-14 00:45 ID:HBFgIQWZ


68 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-04 05:56 ID:Heaven

Akanishi Jin likes blond girls. If I'm not mistaken, he was taken a snap of when having a date with one. It was probably on a Japanese tabloid magazine. I just remembered I read an article on the Net. If you are interested, try searching. It's perhaps in Japanese, though.

69 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-10 14:21 ID:F5oLRaPe


70 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-25 15:32 ID:jb8/IeNZ

I'm gonna go and assume that you are fat and or ugly, other wise you would be on the internet writing about wanting a japanese boyfriend. You'd already have one.

71 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-30 23:02 ID:1xZ3s72J

The OP offended me on the behalf of the Japanese people even though I am a Caucasian male. And as for whoever said that the people who are "anti OP" are just hurt because they don't measure up to the posters standards lets take a look at the facts that I can see.

Fact one: OP is not only looking for a specific race to date but a specific type of person from that race, highly picky and close minded. "Not only does my boyfriend has to be japanese, he has to be a certain kind of Japanese".

Fact Two: This is being posted under the assumption that there is some secret place where someone is hiding all the good looking japanese guys and OP wants in on the treasure trove.

Fact Three: This is posted on an anonymous internet message board. I can understand wanting anonymity when discussing relationship problems and that sometimes you can get good advice from strangers, but the question isn't really serious. OP might as well have posted "I want japanese dick in me".

Besides these facts I take issue with this...

"But thing is, what's so shallow bout knowing what I want and going for it."

Because you're not going for it, you're telling random people on the internet that you like Japanese guys, big fucking deal. And it is shallow by the way to predetermine the guys you will consider dating by their nationality. It's the same as me saying "I'll only date white girls", you only think it's politically correct because the Japanese are a minority in whatever country you're from.

And guys, don't worry about this one, any girl who is posting about how to get a guy on a message board instead of just going out and dating is probably pretty foul looking anyway.

72 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-31 02:28 ID:YFkgjIHS


Excellent deconstruction, up until you dropped the ad hominem bomb.

73 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-31 06:29 ID:t+Mr3Mit

>>72 lol'd, you speak the truth.

74 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-18 07:04 ID:FL29JcEO

I think I like man like Nijishima Hidetoshi too. And I really fall in love with movies starring Nijishima san. Anybody can tell me whether he's married or not? Does he have a girlfriend now?

75 Name: japanese man : 2008-04-18 16:33 ID:KmO14LwK


76 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-19 08:06 ID:1xZ3s72J

>>72 The ad hominem wasn't a part of my argument, just thrown in as reassurance for guys who feel like they have too much trouble finding ladies.

77 Name: みさ : 2008-04-21 16:05 ID:HxtHooyT

if he did have a wife/girlfriend would your opinion about him change?!

78 Name: masaki : 2008-08-20 10:35 ID:MNzc2XnE

hi, Im japanese boy, age is 25 . in the future, I want to go out with and hopefully marry europian or american girl. what should I do? my english is not so good. please let me know how I can go out with? Im living in japan tokyo
my email is keitakeita24@canmail.jp

79 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-20 17:48 ID:Heaven

1) Breed Japanese-American hybrid super race.
2) Exterminate jews.
3) ???????
4) Profit.

80 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-20 20:00 ID:b4SosW/a


I'm not Japanese per se, but I speak it and I look it well enough for anyone's tastes. Third world Asian throwaways like me are the jackpot.

81 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-27 16:43 ID:BlX01qMf

everyone wants an asian man, they make money and can get closer to china.

82 Name: ninja : 2010-02-10 15:20 ID:bxhseddb

This is great T-shirt to present your girlfriend if your are Japanese!


83 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-02-10 23:57 ID:Heaven

Really? Seriously? Let this thread stupidly die... >.>

84 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-02-11 01:37 ID:Pq2u+20F

uh im pretty sure theres some dating sites? idk, your making it really weird to answer your question.

i mean thats like saying i want to eat fish, but i wont be going to the market or the sea anytime soon to catch/buy them, what do i do?

.....like i said im pretty sure that you can just look someone up online or perhaps look for places where japanese tend to gather at wherever you live.

85 Name: oya seiichirou : 2010-02-11 19:50 ID:HGERRBCD

Is now living in Singapore
Large owned company
Is born of the Ashikaga Obata
Kiryu Industrial Engineering Department was high school
Ultra low-flying, but
Teacher and was graduated from the
People I still forget
Thank you

86 Name: Curious : 2010-03-09 12:55 ID:3a78sJJA

Hi ^_^
I'm a Gaijin who lived in Japan for about a year as an exchange student. I have a wonderful Japanese boyfriend. He's very sweet! \^_^/
I was curious to know what is it exactly that some Japanese men find attractive about Gaijin Women?
I think Japanese women are cuter...

87 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-03-17 09:35 ID:LY/qbKo0

wow, sour grapes to the max. when a creepy white douche fawns over asian girls like a fag, he's just "being true to himself," but it's the end of the fucking world if a white girl has a preference for asian men (fact: it's not). here's a tip: posting vitriol-filled rants over the internet doesn't make you cool, it just makes you more a pathetic dweeb. you might as well commit suicide if you're going to be such a waste of flesh anyway.

to the OP, don't bother with these losers. it's great that you know what you want and will hopefully go out and get it. and if, along the way, you fall for someone of a different ethnicity and your horizons broaden, then good for you. and if not and you find your dream japanese guy, then all the more power to you! don't let these bitter tools bring you down.

88 Name: skyhigh : 2010-04-11 12:03 ID:Wyu3UIvD


I am Japanese boy but not currently living in Japan.

Anyway, that's one of the hardest question.

All I can tell is meeting J-Boy somehow.
Best way is just simply go to Japan and meet the people.
Better than do nothing...

They (including myself) are so shy against foreigners this is
the major problem so if posssible you should make first
conversation and invite him for lunch or dinner just step by

This helps a lot for J-Boy.
(including myself)

The boy can pick up your feeling quickly as girls can do.

If you find out his feeling is tilting towards you,
There are no problem at all!!

But you have to judge the nice guy or not just
like you do in your country as usual.

Good luck \(^o^)/

89 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-05-10 13:58 ID:qVkKiBvp

As long as you come to J night-club,
there is no reason that you don't get picked up.
I will pick you up if u r left alone lol
J-girls can be really harsh to strangers like 100% ignoring
Anyway, most of J-boys can't speak English enough to
communicate or make jokes so maybe they aren't confident
enought to talk to "gaijin girls".
It is hard to joke around in Second language really.
so, if you could speak japanese even a little,
we feel much better and can have more deep and fun conversation.
I talked with some gaijin girls in Jp and I felt that
most of them just totally can't speak English.
It might be just me but yea.. learn some japanese is definetly good idea;) Gl anyways

90 Name: miya : 2011-01-15 14:21 ID:bMq+BJZy

i'm a Japanese mix Thailand, why everyone up to find a japan guy ? they all same as everyguy around you. =_=

91 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-01-19 07:05 ID:Heaven

If only some people would get that through their heads, it'd make things a little less annoying.

92 Name: want 2b Jpnse : 2011-01-19 19:52 ID:iCz/C9EP

http://taemtations.tumblr.com/ is that who the OP is talking about?

93 Name: want 2b Jpnse : 2011-01-19 19:54 ID:iCz/C9EP

http://taemtations.tumblr.com/ is that who the OP is talking about?

94 Name: D_Visual_Kei_Vege : 2011-04-18 19:28 ID:c1FxvPJu

I totally want a Japanese boyfriend to...

But I'm Australian... :0(

& to the person who told her to stop judging by race & look around her, that's crap... She is attracted to japanese guys, we all have our own taste...

Japanese guys are different to western men, & so much better in my opinion.

Iam a visual kei style in a big way & that could be one reason I'm attracted to Japanese guys, either way they are the most amazing guys on earth... :0)

Come & see me on myspace?



95 Name: D_Visual_Kei_Vege : 2011-04-18 19:31 ID:c1FxvPJu

Japanese/Chinese/Thai are all amazing.... I think girls like the J rock visual kei style, that doesn't mean that other Asians don't have it...

Give me an Asian visual kei guy any day-I'll be his forever... :0)

96 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-05-09 04:23 ID:X+mwic7M

there are a lot of travelers from Japan in Australia, right?
you can get someone from the travelers.

or get mixi account.
mixi is Japanese SNS site ,and of course, there are lot of Japanese guys.
my friend can invite you to mixi.

97 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-06-10 01:44 ID:URHXkUg4

Really i like asian guys but you guys are making a big deal in life you well be rejected and you have to move on. And other people have other ways of thinking. do yourself a favor guys and get over it...... And as far as i know you are unique you like what you like and people are going to run their mouths but is all good thats what you like so dont worr.

98 Name: ottersmk : 2011-06-26 02:00 ID:QVPI5AHI

How to get a Japanese Boyfriend
(from an American girl’s point of view)

Disclaimer: While it's true you can't generalize everyone into one category, each person is unique- however there are some factors that would attract certain people to only/typically Japanese (or only such-and-such men/women).

1. Know Japanese- As common sense dictates, communicant is key to any relationship. So it’s important that you know Japanese or he knows English. However most Japanese people in general have limited English ability compare to the rest of the world. With that in mind, it might be difficult to find a boy with decent English ability so your best bet is to learn Japanese. Another option is if you attend an university, look for Japanese students there since their English has to be passable in order to attend your university.

2. Be skinny- This is not necessary to get a Japanese boyfriend but it definitely is preferable for Japanese men. In Japan, basically everyone is skinny. Its not because everyone works out or eats super healthy (although many of their foods are healthy compared to American food lol), it could be genetics but the point is everyone is shinny so overweight people in japan do tend to stick out. In Japan the skinnier you are the more pretty you are...I would say there is no limit to how skinny you should try to be in Japan. If you want a Japanese boyfriend, lose weight as long as its healthy for you ☺

3. Be fashionable- Fashion is everything for a lot of Japanese teenagers, college students, and those in their 20’s and even 30’s. I found many girls spend a lot of time and money on how they look. I recommend to try to look your best and go a little up and beyond to attract a Japanese man.

4. Behave like a woman- Girls are girly in Japan. Its expected and considered attractive. Shirts, heels, and lots of makeup are the norm, so try to dress a lot more girly. Know how to cook. In some cases don't try to be too smart or want a high strung career…this sounds a little horrible but in japan the male is the typically the breadwinner and for some a powerful woman can come off as intimidating.

5. Avoid causing embarrassment to others- Japanese people go out of there way not to cause embarrassment/ to others. This is important to know because you can try to see if the Japanese boy you thought you had a great date with is calling you back because he also had a great time or he’s just trying to be polite. Look to see if he is sincere to judge how into you.

6. Know Japanese culture with dating- You don't exactly date in Japan. The process of starting a relationship in Japan is much faster than in America. I think the best way to describe it is: you find someone you are interested in and you confess that you like him or her. If they accept it then you both are in a relationship and then you start dating! Almost opposite from American style of dating where you could date someone for a few months and then be in a relationship! Some things to keep in mind: PDA is a no no in Japan. Holding hands in public is ok, but kissing…dont do it. Valentine day’s is for girls to give boys chocolate. Let your boy pay for you on dates since it might be weird for him for you to pay the bill.

Remember these are just guidelines and are not necessary true for everyone! Good luck ☺

99 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-06-28 03:47 ID:yeY3XaKR


basically date a Japanese man if you have zero worth as a female and enjoy being placed into pre-Victorian patriarchal bullshit. lol japan is such a shit culture.

100 Name: ottersmk : 2011-06-29 05:27 ID:QVPI5AHI

It's not all that bad! I have a Japanese boyfriend and he's very sweet and kind. :) I lived in Japan for a year and thats kind of the "feel" I got from dating there. So while that advice isn't good for everyone, there is a vain side to dating japanese men sometimes. However (and this isnt exactly good either) just being a foreigner in Japan makes you pretty so it kind of works for the vain thing..?

Anyways as a whole people are nice and the culture is wonderful!

101 Name: Alicia : 2011-09-26 05:41 ID:c5KdESLC


102 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-10-13 12:15 ID:jnHKpCS5

cool japanese boy wants black girlfriend.

103 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-10-16 00:49 ID:tejzx+Ki

Are you upset because you don't match up to their superior standards of beauty?

104 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-11-06 16:45 ID:ai8B44yB

much jealousy huh? lol

105 Name: Ara Joyce : 2011-11-07 13:16 ID:XLeumNTE


106 Name: AA Girl : 2011-12-12 02:08 ID:BamsyFRB

i'm an african american girl who is attracted to asian men. why is it that you never seen many black girls with asian guys?

107 Name: Secret Admirer : 2013-07-10 16:09 ID:4P5pZ70Y

108 Name: Secret Admirer : 2013-07-11 18:10 ID:YdYEgem/


Hello everyone in the United States
I have come to the propaganda of the yukata from Japan

Airport sales No1!! Yukata!!
Pattern of high quality and traditional
Children and parents, to themselves
Made in Japan of the relief of course



109 Name: lolicon : 2013-07-21 10:57 ID:XfCZ5axg

there are indeed a lot of good looking guys here but half of them wears make-up.. weird. their frail looking, thin. but the girls here are 75% of the time pretty and/or sexy. perhaps 25% of them gets pretty due to their make-up abilities. but damn they're hot.
i'm here in japan that's why i know. you should visit sometime to see what you're missing. the guys at youtube are just a handful.

110 Name: Secret Admirer : 2013-08-11 14:52 ID:QKOXBiOb

Sadly for the same reasons you almost never see Asian men with girls that aren't Asian, because of stereotypes, and the ingraining of those stereotypes at a young age, at least in the US.

111 Name: Secret Admirer : 2014-01-10 13:47 ID:1PbqYrv2

hong in there

112 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2022-05-13 06:52 ID:NFKSivb/

I am Japanese.
Most Japanese people are not good at English, so if you can speak Japanese,
your chances of getting a Japanese boyfriend will increase dramatically.

The characteristic preference of Japanese men for women is that they like cute women.
They want kawaii in their makeup, clothes, gestures, thoughts, and behavior.

They do not expect women to be sexy like Americans do.
Fashion that shows breasts is also not common in Japan.
It is better to expose more of your legs than to show your breasts.
Caucasians have stronger body odor than Japanese,
so it is necessary to take measures to make body odor less noticeable.
Japanese people are very neat and clean, and many of them take a bath every day,
so people who are unclean or have smelly body odor are most disliked.

The Japanese place great importance on not offending others,
and they speak in a roundabout way. They may speak more like the British than Americans.
Be especially careful when saying critical things about the other person.
Bragging about yourself is also taboo in Japan. If someone compliments you on your work,
either say thank you or reply with a word of humility.

Japanese men are shyer than Americans, and many are less aggressive toward women.
If you approach them, you may have to be more aggressive than you would be with American men
in order to get the desired results.

If you watch movies, dramas, or anime that take place in modern Japan, you may be able to
get an idea of what Japanese men tend to like. Since it is fiction, some aspects are exaggerated,
but it is probably not far off the mark.

113 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2022-05-16 02:50 ID:bV6DuyEE

Japanese people have too many principles.

114 Name: Anonymous Counsellor : 2022-05-18 13:17 ID:5+1f8IFF

>>112 is not principles, but merely a statement of the characteristics of Japanese men's preferences for women, which are not very common in the US.
The more you adapt to their preferences, the more likely you are to get a Japanese boyfriend.

If you are confident about yourself, I think you should keep doing what you are doing.
There are certainly American women who are attractive from the Japanese point of view without doing anything.
However, in general, when a Japanese woman who knows what Japanese men like becomes a competitor, an American woman who knows nothing about Japanese men's tastes is more likely to lose the competition.

People are often attracted to similar people, so those who want an interracial or foreign boyfriend or girlfriend often have to work harder than those who want a boyfriend or girlfriend of the same race or country.

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