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I would have laughed at you if you would have had double-standards.
>Fuck the world that makes these people into believing that if they are not sticking their dick in a girl at every chance they get, it cheapens their worth.
I quite agree with this piece, I'm annoyed at the large amount of virgins whining about still being virgins, as if it makes them any less worth, regardless of their gender. I can see why they usually do it, but that doesn't really make it less annoying, just sad.
>she has solved her friends problems,
That on the other hand is laughable. I know very well that problems won't go away after some casual small-talk. Some things can take years or even decades to get over, some things will never fully be processed.
Regarding how a brief glance or casual chat won't tell you how a person is really doing: Yes, Captain Obvious (though I understand that it's not obvious for everyone). One of my aquaintances, he was sitting and telling jokes at his parents' home, seemingly being in very good spirits, right before walking home to his place and trying to kill himself (though he was fortunately found thanks to a surprise visit). Another aquaintance (a friend of a friend) almost managed to kill herself after having been doing very well for a few weeks. It's not rare for people who finally decided to kill themselves to be in a very good mood, feeling as if a great weight has been lifted off their shoulders.
A friend of mine had his life royally fucked up thanks to his parents unhealthy need to keep up the appearances of a "perfect" family no matter what. (Incidentally, his parents were both virgins, and the mother at least was a virgin: being raised by highly christian parents tends to do that). He's doing a lot better now, but you could talk with him for weeks, months and years without grasping quite what he's gone through, especially as he only mentions anthing about it to two people in his life. I dislike the sick need of keeping masks too many have, even though I dislike the attention-whoring with a lot of personal details too many seem to do nowadays as well.
>sexual abuse-victims may love sex
This isn't rare, if you weren't already aware of that. For instance a friend of a friend, after having been sexually abused from the age of five by her older brother, for over a decade, has difficulties grasping that her worth as a person isn't about how well she can physically please people, and she really loves sex and sexual pleasure because of the satisfaction of having it confirm her worth and "safe" world-view.
>It's not the ups and downs that is the state of our lifes, it's the summary of it all that is,
I agree with this, and I foolishly thought it was obvious to the average human. Or perhaps we're thinking of it in slightly different ways?
I'm fond of having "odd" conversations with people, discussing life, the universe and everything even with people I've only just met. What their past was like, their experiences, values, the dreams they have and had, and the plans they've decided to follow with what.. I'm very well aware of that people aren't going to blurt out everything and not tell a single lie, but catching people off-guard sometimes intrigues them enough to actually to not hold back too much, especially if they don't have anything to lose. (And obviously sometimes they make a lot of bullshit up because they're curious about what that'll result in - that's usually rather entertaining.)
I'm not going to bother them if they're not interested in talking about personal things either (not that it's usually the first type of stuff I talk about), there are plenty of other stuff to talk about or do, if they are interested in interacting with me.