Is it common for people to wank off to people they know, specifically lady friends? I personally feel very guilty about it after, like I'm some kind of stalker or a really fucked up person.
I cant masturbate to real persons. Only to anime and other fictional characters. I have tried to, but i cant. The simple thought of someone touching me in a perverted way makes me puke.
what's in your head is your business, wank to whatever you like... just don't confuse the fantasy with reality. and, as a female who has encountered some creepy types, i must just reiterate that as long as you don't get all 'stalkery', it's all good.
>>18- damn, you are seriously missing out on a lot of real-life naughty fun times...
>>14
Does it count if I'm Asian too?
And please, it's Vietnamese..not Vietnamize.
It could be worse.
You could be using photoshop to fake cum-shots on pictures of female friends.
In some circles sex between friends is normal. There are a lot of people who have casual sex. Just look @ craigslist ;)
I'm a girl and I've been struggling with this dilemma for quite some time. The thought of masturbating to someone I know makes me feel guilty. It's really hard, though, because this one guy-friend of mine turns me on like nothing else, and sometimes just thinking about him causes me to go into super-horny-mode. I used to have problems imagining us kissing and having sex, but I'm over that now and imagine having sex with him all the time, and usually in great detail.
But I can't act upon it in any way. It feels like I'm raping him when I fantasize. I don't have his permission to be "doing" this to him, and it makes me feel bad a lot of the time.
And when I'm imagining us going at it, I sometimes get the urge to masturbate, but it doesn't even feel like it would be satisfying. I don't just want sexual stimulation, I want him. ;___;
It would be flattering to know he masturbates to me, but only if their was a genuine feeling of love attached to it. If I knew he was wanking to me just because he merely had a generic carnal lust for me like the sort he could have for just any woman, I would hate him.
>>24
If you're hot (or even cute) in any way, there's a, say, 33% chance he already did.
Any warm blooded male would love fornicating with a woman. If you are not disgusting he will have sex with you. Just maybe not the 'love' like a romantic one.
To answer the original question, I do it all the time... as in I have done it every single time for years now. I don't know why, but for some reason, I require to do it to people I know.
i tried it... it's great but then i feel kinda guilty.... so i stopped doing it...
I have to be thinking about someone. And then I feel a bit strange about it, so the next time I think about someone else. And sometimes mid-way, I have to switch persons. I still think I'm doing it wrong.
>>24
...and then?
It seems like you want an emotional connection, does that mean you like him?
So, the two of you are friends, and he doesn't know you have these feelings, or does he already suspect it? Or is he in a relationship already?
If I liked someone that much, and I don't think I ever have, I'd at least try to drop hints. Not an Obvious hint, because that is just dumb, but.. maybe smile more at him?
I think most guys crank it to girls they know. It's not our fault...
>>27
i lol'd
Haargh. I'm head over heels for the guy and I want a loving, meaningful relationship with him more than I want anything else. We're great friends and at times it seems the feelings are mutual. I try to drop hints, ("Thanks for making me a part of your day so often. Our time together is always the highlight of my week...") and I think he does, too ("I like your shirt/earrings/hair" or "I had a really great time tonight, thanks for coming out..."), but I think we're both holding back because we're such good friends. A physical relationship as lovers could jeopardize the mental relationship we have now as friends. So until I'm absolutely positive that he's interested in taking our relationship farther, I just can't pleasure myself to thoughts of him. If I knew he felt the same, it wouldn't be a problem. 'Til then, I guess I'll just keep stimulating myself to the thought of being raped by tentacles. I feel uncomfortable doing it to any real person and pretty much only masturbate while fantasizing about being ravaged by a monster or a machine or I masturbate to the thought of masturbating. Wow, I've never "said" the word "masturbate" so many times at once. Ack.
A question: Do you "wank" it more often to porn or to people you know?
to the girl that has the hots for a good friend of hers. Maybe you should just talk to him about how you feel and see how he feels about you. It may be a mutual attraction, and you shouldn't deprive yourself on what could be a great relationship for the sake of a great friendship. See how you two feel, and maybe try slowly dating, taking your time to move from friendship to intimacy. He could want you just as much as you want him but feels that he's "stuck in the friend zone."
If I'm masturbating with a visual aid, usually porn. However if I'm merely fantasizing (ie, laying in bed before I go to sleep), then it's people I know, and sometimes actual past sexual experiences with ex-girlfriends.
More often than not, though, if I'm fantasizing, it will be about sexual experiences I COULD HAVE had - like the several times I could have gotten laid at a party, but for whatever reason didn't.
While doing it to porn I bear other people in mind.
>>1 its how i made it through the 80's and the early 90's before the internet made it old fashioned.
>>11 shouldnt feel bad about using a picture either. unless its one you took yourself without her knowledge. that would be a red flag. picture that was given to you, or that you took together, or out of a yearbook? green light.
yeah, it varies. i usually start to prons then move on to people i know, or my fiance, or sometimes i just stick to the animated fantasies