...so I can solve it.
I am curious Oracle, what are your qualifications for your position.
>I'd try [...] but mother says [...]. I think [...]. What do you think?
The Oracle has spoken. What you do with it is up to you.
>Oracle, what are your qualifications for your position.
Basic requirements include being clairvoyant and immortal.
Field experience with mortals' affairs is a plus.
What should i consider when i'm getting christmas for the girl i like.
christmas present*
>What should i consider when i'm getting a christmas present for the girl i like.
There are two approaches that convey different meanings:
To show that you are thoughtful and pay attention to her: think about her interests, hobbies and needs, and what could complement them: if she has some hobby that requires some gear, offer her some piece of equipment. If she likes music, consider concert tickets (so both of you can go), or some music player. If she likes to read, offer some less obvious book of an author, genre she likes, etc.
To show that you are attracted to her: buy her something to wear. The easy way is to buy some earrings (saves you the trouble of figuring out which size of clothing fits her). But if you feel confident, you can offer her a stylish dress, or another piece of clothing if she does not like dresses. In any case, pick up something you think will look really good on her, that's part of the statement you are making.
Hi Oracle,
I've been reading all of your responses and I'm impressed with your balance of wit and rationality. I feel comfortable enough to have a reasonable, guided answer from you.
Five years ago, I laid my eyes on a complete stranger--a stranger in terms of communication of any kind, but not a stranger to my sentiments. She was viscerally, the most beautiful woman I've ever laid eyes on. I was actually alone in church when this happened, and she was alone when she walked into the pews in front of me. Absolutely nothing happened on this day, and I never saw her again.
Until this year.
I saw her twice already in church this year. Once was with her parents, grandparents, sister, and her sister's partner; the other time was when she was with just her mother. I'm aware that she has made eye contact with me at least once during both occasions, and has shaken my hand during the first occasion, (a result of "the sign of peace"). I know she'll be back again.
I'm usually comfortable approaching strangers I'm not attracted to but, I can't seem to approach this woman, for I don't have any purpose to speak with her. The only thing I'm certain of is the trait inside me that is compelled to make something happen. I've already decided that something needs to be done. My intuition tells me that I would be overwhelmed with joy sharing my happiness with her for the rest of my life. Based on knowing nothing about her, I've chosen to love her; a statement with usually profound connotations, yet... I find nothing profound about it.
If it helps to describe what I've observed as for a more suitable approach: Five years ago she wore a white turtleneck sweater, a mid-length green, floral dress and heels. Her hair was parted in the middle, and came straight down. With her family she wore a green tank top and jeans. Her hair was casually fixed. With just her mother, she wore a purple pea-coat, jeans, heels, and she had black, plastic-rimmed glasses on. Her hair was intentionally curled. She has always carried a regal, elegant demeanor, for she always holds her body up in a firm, almost assertive way. Her posture is always straight, and she walks with a purposeful step. When praying, she remains deep in prayer and doesn't interrupt herself for anything; she keeps her eyes closed, and her fists clenched together, even while everyone else has finished praying. She treats her family with sincere respect and affection--she physically displays her affection with a hug or a kiss on the cheek with each of her family members during the "sign of peace." She holds her grandmother's arm while walking out of the church, and she holds her mother's arm as well. She is a woman who evidently, knows exactly what she values, and cherishes it.
If at all possible, please advise me in becoming that certain someone that can give her the same endearing love she gives to her family. I will approach her this Sunday, and I ask for some guidance.
>[Oracle], please advise me in becoming that certain someone that can give her the same endearing love she gives to her family. I will approach her this Sunday, and I ask for some guidance.
What was the outcome of last Sunday's initiative? Was she there at all?
In any case, your first steps are simple enough: learn as much as possible about her, and provide yourself an opportunity to speak to her regularly.
If you approach her in church you could remark that recently you've seen her attending more regularly, and whether she has moved into town. Whatever her answer is, you can learn more about whether she's living in your town, what's her name, the family context (you should also learn as much as possible about her family), etc.
Depending on the information you get, your strategy will be different. For instance, if she's living in another town, you can tell her that you would like from time to time to ask her advice or tips on that town, and exchange e-mails. If she's living in town you can discuss about her neighborhood, her activities there, etc. Also sprinkle some info on you from time to time to make it a more balanced exchange, and provide hooks for further contact. Anything you hear or tell may be used later to talk to her again in church.
If you did not see her last Sunday, and have reasons to fear that she won't be around for a while, then you have no choice but to approach and get to know her sister, so that you can get more info on the girl. Just use the same strategy, some mild curiosity and then develop the conversation.
As for the shallowness of your feelings, worry not, at the moment it is enough that they exist: that alone is sufficient reason to act.
Hey Oracle
Why?
>Why?
Because it was fated so.
Oracle, Merry Christmas!
P.S. Good to know there will always be someone out there to answer my question.
Hey Oracle.
There is someone who harasses me through the internet in a way that is not against the law but it still scares the shit out of me.
What should I do?
>What should I do?
You should clear up the situation so that any further harassment can be exposed as such. This means two things:
This strategy has two benefits: most trolls get tired of not getting any reaction and just give up, and any further contact from this person can be unambiguously classified as harassment.
Although unpleasant, the good point of online harassment is that it's very easy to gather evidence of the deed. So save all messages (mail, chat, etc) that this person has or will send you, plus your own messages. Once you have accumulated enough evidence, you can start using it: if the critter is annoying you via mail, contact his/her service provider. If the problem occurs via chat/forum/social network, contact the people responsible for the service. If you know who is doing this, or if the situation is getting threatening, you should contact the appropriate police services. In any case, if things are not working for you, just contact who@ (http://www.haltabuse.org/help/respond.shtml), they will be able to support you with specific and non anonymous help.
Oracle, I'm kind of stupid with things.
What counts as a date?
Its stupid to tell anyone my problem, the answer is simple,
However, I love her, she hates me, we used to talk, then one day she just vanished off the face of the earth.
I still waste all my time waiting thinking she will come back.
Hey Oracle.
What I must to to made some people understand such concepts as 'The Right to be Left Alone' or 'privacy'?
The concept of the right to be left alone dates back to a 1928 Supreme Court wiretapping decision called Olmstead vs. the United States in which the Supreme Court Justice Brandeis said "the protection guaranteed by the amendments (of the Constitution) is much broader in scope. The makers of our Constitution undertook to secure conditions favorable to the pursuit of happiness. They recognized the significance of man's spiritual nature, of his feelings and of his intellect . . . They sought to protect Americans in their beliefs, their thoughts, their emotions, and their sensations. They conferred as against the government the right to be left alone -- the most comprehensive of rights and the right most valued by civilized men."
oracle, why do you give up your time to help people over the internet?
there's something that's been bothering me lately and won't seem to go away. is it just me, or is everyone into asian chicks these days? maybe it's because i majored in asian studies in college and am now living in japan, but it seems like every white guy i've met in the past 4 years has had yellow fever. nowadays i can't even visit a website without having to read about how asian girls are sooo hot and non-asian women are for the birds. is this mentality really that prevalent, or am i just hanging out with the wrong crowds/visiting the wrong blogs and websites? i don't remember guys being this obsessed when i was growing up, but (in my life at least) it seems to be becoming the normP
I want to get in touch with a person, but don't know how
what if that person just kidding around?
Dear Oracle
I thought I was over my ex but last night I dreamt i saw her with someone else and I got really upset and angry. Waking up I realized maybe I'm not as over her as I thought. How do I move on?
Because of some unexpected circumstances today only http://genki-genki.com/ turns me on.
HALP
Oracle is on holidays?!