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I have a plan to stop being a NEET (11)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2016-10-06 00:25 ID:457ISoe1

I'm a recovering hikikomori. About which, let's just say I was born into a dysfunctional family.

I'm currently a NEET, I've been one since I last dropped out of highschool years ago, and I've never really worked, except for something very informal months ago and which only lasted a couple of days, because I messed it up.

I have a plan to socially recover and sustainably stop being a NEET. Not that I think one "should" work, I'm critical of work, but I do think it can be advantageous to do so.

2 Name: Anonymous : 2016-10-08 07:18 ID:Heaven

What might it be, if I may ask? I could use such a thing myself.

3 Name: Anonymous : 2016-10-10 05:12 ID:GnsGzhKT

My plan is having two jobs on the same days, both customer service and at least one with co-workers. I think it's of the highest importance to have "two worlds", not just one.

It's a big mistake to think any job will do. For someone who has been socially withdrawn for extended periods of time, it's important to quickly expand one's "social reference points", and to have more than one.

4 Name: Anonymous : 2016-10-10 05:39 ID:GnsGzhKT

But overcoming social withdrawal is full of subleties. I'm ashamed about having no clothes, so I've been thinking about first getting a job in cleaning or something where I was paid in cash each day, and so being able to buy clothes sooner. But it's difficult to get a job like that, so maybe I'll have to make do with what I have.

5 Name: Anonymous : 2016-10-13 12:40 ID:72oshT8o

This is only an idea though. My actual plans keep moving.

6 Name: Anonymous : 2016-10-18 04:43 ID:CE5AssDi

Good luck. I really and truly hope this works for you.

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8 Name: Anonymous : 2016-10-19 05:19 ID:26kzuYBb

Thank you.

9 Name: Anonymous : 2017-05-11 05:18 ID:FDjgc51A

So how did this all end up? I've been a NEET for 20 straight years now and I want out but don't know how to do it. I've tried nothing and I'm all out of ideas.

10 Name: Anonymous : 2017-06-06 12:13 ID:02McTTrc


20 years? could you write a quick story? what even happened

11 Name: Anonymous : 2017-08-15 08:51 ID:XwP1QyX8

Any tips on staying sane?

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Rant about Lawson Property Management in California (1)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2017-08-08 22:29 ID:/U1kWaY6

If you live in Yolo County, California, there is only one company that does all the landlording, which is Lawson Property Management. There seems to be some law preventing them from raising rent more than a certain amount each year and I've lived at my place a very long time so this year they started doing a constructive eviction. First they had maintenace constantly harassing me. Each week a maintenace inspection or a day-long remodel, things unnecessary that I beg them not to do but they don't care. Lawson normally is very, very bad with maintenance and their emergency maintenance is a voicemail that takes 3 days to respond. Beside the months of maintenance hell, the lawn that I spend 10 hours a week taking care of and spending lots of money taking care of, Lawson sends me a threatening letter saying I am not. So I get maintenance to confirm I am taking care of it and he even takes photos. Then I regularly call Lawson and on the phone they keep saying they are fine. Then out of nowhere during their yearly rent increase, they increase it a lot more than before and their excuse is that they are hiring a gardener now. The gardener will come early in the morning and despite there being no trees that shed leaves, the gardener will run a leafblower to torture me with noise for hours and get small debris inside my home. That notice came on a Friday which was less than 30 days from the next month. That Saturday, the property owner brings dozens of giant vehicles, each as loud as a helicopter, and has them revving, spinning, and doing work starting at 7pm Saturday night and continuing all night, all Sunday, all Sunday night, and finally stopping Monday afternoon. About 48 hours nonstop so much noise I couldn't hear anything in the cottage I rent.

Here are photos of what the owner did Sat 7pm through Mon afternoon nonstop. Photos are all in the middle of the night like 2am, midnight, 4am:

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Spoiled brat of a sister with Asperger's (42)

1 Name: OP : 2008-02-16 04:59 ID:HI2qq9An

So my little sister is 10 years old, and she has Asperger's. Frickin' whoop-de-doo. I wouldn't have any sort of issue with this, except that my parents use it as an excuse to let her get away with just about anything, because "she's sensitive." She can get kicked out of school for the rest of the day, call another girl a "freaking bitch" (mind you, she's in 4th grade) and blatantly disrespect authority and not have any sort of repercussions.

Of course, when I try to call my parents out on their lack of parenting, my mother claims that I'm playing the victim and that I'm flat out wrong. 4ch, do you see what is wrong with this scenario?

Any advice?

33 Name: Anonymous : 2008-03-04 22:02 ID:R2uMIfeE


> Yall always thinking, but whats the going to do you- it got you into the mess your in...
> what you got to do is react.

Aren't you headed off to juvie on an assault charge?

34 Name: Daydreamer : 2008-03-04 22:06 ID:b2kmVVNs

What you need to do is react? So does that mean that any possible reaction is as good as any other one, now?
Of course not. You need to know how to react. People come here to ask about this. Just telling them to react is not helpful at all.
If you think rash action is naturally more effective than thinking things through before you do something stupid, let alone with the kind of problems you encounter here, then your ideas are as barbaric as your grammar.

35 Name: Anonymous : 2008-03-05 00:17 ID:Heaven

Well put, well put. Let's ignore him now, shall we?

36 Name: Dthncrnge : 2008-03-05 00:42 ID:Heaven


Your heading to juvie for assault? And your telling people that need to react better? So, coming from you, is that a compliment?

37 Name: Anonymous : 2008-03-25 10:44 ID:AT8RSAYl

as a congenital amputee, married to a man with cp, i can safely say your parents are idiots for coddling someone just because they have a disability.

just remember that it is not actually your sister's fault, and try to treat her like a real human being. she'll appreciate it in the end.

38 Name: Anonymous : 2008-03-25 10:48 ID:Heaven


He's not in jail yet?

39 Name: sage : 2008-04-05 16:46 ID:Heaven

>>37 cp as in cerebral paulsy? or child pron?

40 Name: Anonymous : 2017-03-12 21:28 ID:cHb3ZCCp

dicks out for Harambe

41 Name: anon : 2017-08-03 12:20 ID:wNvZOog0

seriously... teach her things. love her. shes your sister. experiment with ways to try and help her .. do activities with her. show her things shes never seen. hug her. kiss her. lover her. she is family.

be the big sister you would want.

42 Name: Anonymous : 2017-08-08 22:27 ID:LI5Njs8K


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I want to kill my mother (23)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2008-02-18 23:06 ID:ckk9M7J7

This isn't an emo thread saying how much the world sucks, etc. it's a genuine concern I have. I moved out of my mothers place a few months ago because she pisses me off, but the mistake I made was moving in with a family member. Now she has spent the last few weeks here constantly bitching (she is a real dramawhore), and not it has reached the point where I seriously want to terminate her fucking ass before I have a heart attack.

But, being reasonable we all know that's not very likely so does anyone have any advice on dealing with her?

(An example for reference is: she keeps asking when I will pay the person I am living with for the Internet. I have constantly asked how much it is costing but no-one wants to tell me; which is somehow my fault).

14 Name: Anonymous : 2008-02-22 09:16 ID:4bNRB9dh

Wow - maybe if you didn't do things to deliberately piss her off, she might treat you a little better. Putting her in a bad mood because she has the shits isn't going to do anything to help. So what if she's nagging you? That's what mothers do. Until someone posts something about their mother actually abusing them, I have no sympathy. Suck it the fuck up, dealing with parents who have different ideas about what you should be doing is part of life.

And you're only 16, OP? You're mother is worried about you. She's hurt because you moved out. She loves you, asshole. A parent's love is important, because they are people who you can rely on when things get really awful. They're people who help you along the way growing up, so that someday you'll be able to stand on your own. And sometimes they piss you the fuck off. How about next time you see your mom, you go up to her and give her a big hug and tell her you love her?

Seriously. Post one example of abuse, and my outlook on your situation will change. But for now I see you as a silly little shit who doesn't realize how good he has it, having a mother who loves him.

That goes for you too, Allson.

15 Name: da PG king : 2008-02-22 13:04 ID:klIhuScZ

My mom used to beat me with the steel buckle part of the belt in the face.

(thats abuse for those of yall who have "perfect lives")

But you dont hear me bitchin about my mom. sometimes Id like to hit her, but overall I love her.

16 Name: Anonymous : 2008-02-22 15:29 ID:ckk9M7J7


  1. I didn't give her the shits, that was someone else in the thread.
  2. I'm 17 not 16.

And you want an example of abuse? She threw a toy at my eye which left me temporarily blind. Or the time she beat me and took my door off of its' hinges, no food and the mattress from my bed. There's the time she tried to convince me to kill myself, or of course when she told her boyfriend to fuck me up. She makes up all kinds of lies to my family so I can't go to them for help - like she says I try to beat her when really she knows I'm docile as fuck and never come out of my room. When I was young I wasn't allowed out until I turned 10 and even then I had to be in ridiculously early. Oh, funny one, I remember the time she dragged me along with her on a date which I was very tired for (that was was usual sleep in morning), long story short the date doesn't go well (duh) and I get beaten with the heel of her high heels which has left a scar until this day.

So don't fucking tell me I have it good and that I should suck it up until you know the fucking facts. My mother is a fucking horrible person, if she wasn't, why would I lie? To feel cool on the internet?

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17 Name: da PG king : 2008-02-22 15:35 ID:klIhuScZ

And you havent called the popo 5-0 why?

i mean I hate them too but they can at least help ya out a little.

18 Name: Anonymous : 2008-02-22 17:45 ID:A1qdihUx


My apologies, I was only going off the information you'd previously posted in the thread.

If you're experiencing that much abuse: get the fuck out. Go to the police station, explain your situation, and have them take you to the proper people. You'll probably end up in a youth home for a little while--I've had a friend in one, and from what she said, it wasn't a bad place to stay.

Good luck, and I do mean that.

19 Name: Anonymous : 2008-02-23 16:04 ID:ckk9M7J7

My post got deleted...

20 Name: Anonymous : 2008-02-25 22:43 ID:SZDBAWNT


>It gives her the shits, wont kill her

It might..

21 Name: Anonymous : 2008-04-08 20:51 ID:hVn3I+3i

if she is nagging at you tell her fuck off say youll leave just be smart if your afraid your actually going to kill your mother leave then house its not woth it living a painfull life in jail your more worth it trust me i hate my mother shes a nasty bitch who always goes in my room and listens to my conservations but i learned to not listen and to be independent...

22 Name: Anonymous : 2017-03-06 20:30 ID:ekkEAk8g

dicks out for Harambe

23 Name: anon : 2017-08-03 12:36 ID:Om2cKw8C

my friend had the exact same problem.. then one day he snapped and grabbed her, he said something came over him and for some reason it excited him and he started kissing her.. next thing he knew he was fucking her.. turns out that was her whole problem.. she was stressed from lack of sex. they were both stressing each other out and it made them always angry.

somehow it just broke into rough aggressive mutual sex.. now they have the best relationship they've ever had. lol. crazy shit. i know. who'd of thunk?

but i guess mothers are human beings with the same needs and desires as anyone else..

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Donald Trump raped me (6)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2016-10-16 13:21 ID:x0A6rq6j

Donald Trump raped me

2 Name: sage : 2016-11-04 17:21 ID:ryzB0Yb7


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4 Name: Anonymous : 2017-03-05 13:37 ID:BX7kudt8

dicks out for H@rambe

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6 Name: anon : 2017-08-03 12:07 ID:m528pWxm

me too

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How to get any issue resolved (1)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2017-07-11 18:13 ID:ysJ/JTVy

Follow the advice of this site and you will have all your issues resolved no matter what:

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Gaining Weight (15)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2007-01-07 08:11 ID:Y1/bV8l/

You guys have any tips about gaining weight or gaining body fat?

Im your average person who likes to skateboard, play games, hang out with friends, party etc.
I have no car so i regulary ride my bike to wherever i want to go. No food disorders, i eat everything and regulary eat candy and drink soda.
I get enough sleep, or as many say.. i sleep to much, and sometimes i stay awake to much.

Im not lifting any weights or doing any exercise except for the fact that i ride my bike up hills almost everyday (hillcountry lol). I sometimes even have myself a small feast with cakes and stuff, take my vitamins and Omega-3 oils.
Everyone in my family was thin when they were young, but my brother (1 year older than me) is alot "bigger" than me.

Am i eating the wrong kind of foods/too much candy and fat or am i not out and running to often? halp!

6 Name: Anonymous : 2007-01-07 19:40 ID:cxbqVfu5

Eat protein and exercise so you can gain muscle. Eat good protein, like chicken, maybe protein shakes are a good idea??

7 Name: SOO-DA : 2007-01-08 12:15 ID:4D5o593U

It's probably your metabolism and something that isn't easily fixed. The only way to gain weight would probably to gain muscle since you burn up all the fat. That's not easy either so you shouldn't expect results so soon. It might be a year long process.

8 Name: Anonymous : 2007-01-08 16:26 ID:bI3ysM21

Gaining a lot of muscle fast is NOT a good thing, either. That can lead to many medical problems.

9 Name: Anonymous : 2007-01-10 20:22 ID:LtvKTILf

Up your protein and eat GOOD fats. Try avocados and nuts, not greasy meat. Plech.

Also, cut out the junk food. It's really only going to make you more unhealthy.

10 Name: Anonymous : 2007-01-10 20:24 ID:LtvKTILf

Up your protein and eat GOOD fats. Try avocados and nuts, not greasy meat. Plech.

Also, cut out the junk food. It's really only going to make you more unhealthy.

11 Name: Anonymous : 2007-01-28 00:12 ID:eNAFirAJ

You need to eat protein and start doing some exercise that will build muscle.

I personally like this website a lot:

The exercises are remarkably effective and don't need any equipment. Give 'em a go - you've got nothing to lose.

12 Name: SUP SUP SUP SUP : 2007-02-14 16:15 ID:qRU4RVkO

No matter what I eat, I'm still on the vicinity of 115 pounds. I am over 5'7, so I feel that I am coming from the same direction as you. Dude, just go with it. One day your metabolism will slow down and you will have the chance to be a fat mofo; by then you will yearn for the days that you were trying to 'bulk up'.

13 Name: Anonymous : 2007-02-15 10:18 ID:Heaven


>One day your metabolism will slow down and you will have the chance to be a fat mofo; by then you will yearn for the days that you were trying to 'bulk up'.

Too true.

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15 Name: Anonymous : 2017-04-17 23:34 ID:rU01LHsk

I recommend eating foods rich in fat, your body wants to break down sugar from candy and stuff immediatlely.

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pedophilia (2)

1 Name: moot : 2017-03-28 20:40 ID:QlkxV442

is there any easy ways to deal with pedophilia beside going to jail/CP?

2 Name: Anonymous : 2017-03-29 21:42 ID:Heaven

blog about it and then link it on any irc channel you're on

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gassy problems (7)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2007-11-01 07:10 ID:aRXumd9L

It seems that this problem has recently dawned upon me, even though the symptoms have been with me for quite some time. I tend to build up alot of gas when I'm not in my comfort zone (i.e. my house) and it builds up to the point where it feels like my intestines will explode from the pressure of the gas. I think that it might be because I get nervous when I'm around groups of people, which in turn, makes me even more nervous because I might accidentally let one go in public making this gas problem a vicious cycle. I was wondering if anyone else has a similar problem and if they take some sort of medication to alleviate this gas problem?

2 Name: Anonymous : 2007-11-01 12:05 ID:2IH/E0Rn

What foods do you eat?

3 Name: Anonymous : 2007-11-01 17:51 ID:aRXumd9L

i usually eat whatever the cafeteria serves at mealtimes, so it's usually chicken and rice or x type of meat and some sort of side dish like rice or vegetables

4 Name: Anonymous : 2007-11-01 22:35 ID:eU2IBe/s

I have this problem too, still don't know how to fix it.

5 Name: Anonymous : 2007-11-02 00:45 ID:rRHH9cRC

Beano? (google it)

6 Name: nanashi774 : 2007-11-02 05:33 ID:MZSyuJ1a

yeah, stress can cause that.

omg your problem with being nervous around people then being nervous about the gas and then it happening because of that sounds just like me in middle school, except with me it was stomach growling. it turned out to be obsessive compulsive disorder. maybe you need psych meds, not gas meds (totally not meant as an insult, so don't take it as one)

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