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I have a plan to stop being a NEET (17)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2016-10-06 00:25 ID:457ISoe1

I'm a recovering hikikomori. About which, let's just say I was born into a dysfunctional family.

I'm currently a NEET, I've been one since I last dropped out of highschool years ago, and I've never really worked, except for something very informal months ago and which only lasted a couple of days, because I messed it up.

I have a plan to socially recover and sustainably stop being a NEET. Not that I think one "should" work, I'm critical of work, but I do think it can be advantageous to do so.

8 Name: Anonymous : 2016-10-19 05:19 ID:26kzuYBb

Thank you.

9 Name: Anonymous : 2017-05-11 05:18 ID:FDjgc51A

So how did this all end up? I've been a NEET for 20 straight years now and I want out but don't know how to do it. I've tried nothing and I'm all out of ideas.

10 Name: Anonymous : 2017-06-06 12:13 ID:02McTTrc


20 years? could you write a quick story? what even happened

11 Name: Anonymous : 2017-08-15 08:51 ID:XwP1QyX8

Any tips on staying sane?

12 Name: Anonymous : 2017-10-14 02:31 ID:UWW3fMk1

Best of luck, trying to get out of NEETdom myself right now. Fucking sucks but I have to do it.

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14 Name: Anonymous : 2017-10-26 06:09 ID:O17/tC35

At 13 I wanted to stay at home and not go to school any more so that's what I did. Both my parents worked so everyday I pretended to go to school then come back home once they've left. When I couldn't do that I'd take my bike and ride around the huge park near my house and explore or if I had some money I'd spend it playing some street fighter and house of the dead. Some days when it was nice outside I would catch a train to somewhere I've never been to and explore on my skateboard until it was time to go home.

When my parents found out what I was doing it was too late and I had to repeat the year which I sure as fuck wasn't going to do. So I just stayed home again. After a while when my parents found out again the school sent some counsellor for a chat. I don't really remember what was said because I zoned out through the whole thing but basically my parents said they didn't know what to do with me. Eventually I was kicked out of school and I've been at home doing whatever I feel like ever since.

What do you mean by this exactly?

15 Name: J : 2017-10-26 09:54 ID:Y/F03mnQ

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16 Name: Anonymous : 2017-10-26 15:36 ID:dJRzryUD


>have to leave the house for a trip
>actually having a job in the first place to be able to "earn more"

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17 Name: Anonymous : 2018-11-30 01:07 ID:FGIkqeQq

I enjoyed your story. Brings back some memories of my own.

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Hikikomoris/Hikikomori wannabes: How do you make money for a living? (216)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2006-10-22 03:49 ID:Heaven

I was going to ask this question to the last poster in the Baby Human topic, but decided I should probably make atopic out of it.

Well, how do you survive? Live with your parents, work off the internet, live with other relatives, supported by girlfriend/friends, still go to school, still go to work, inheritage, participate in money farming?

Post your source of income here, along with your age, if you feel like it.

As for me: Age 21. I live with my parents, but most of my income comes from my community college (still trying to get through it). The rest comes from different things I've done online, like checks from those free Ipod sites and ads on sites I've ran.

207 Name: Anonymous : 2013-02-07 02:28 ID:NLqKp7FQ

hikkimotri since 1999 only had 3 odd jobs no college leave with mom. my life is getting owrst by the day and n
my last rope.

208 Name: Anonymous : 2013-03-24 21:34 ID:Heaven

If I asked you to improve your English, it'd be like someone asking me to buckle down and finish high school math. We're the same, you and me. I just have more pretensions.

209 Name: Anonymous : 2013-10-26 19:08 ID:/EvCFXh6


210 Name: Anonymous : 2014-10-09 12:08 ID:U/C8Wm5M

I am a hiki with zero prospects and an intense disinterest in engaging reality. I need to make some money. I would try to scam people on kickstarter but I am also a coward! Suggestions welcome.

211 Name: Anonymous : 2014-10-09 13:03 ID:SjbfUAS5

I am working as part-time prostitute :D

212 Name: Anonymous : 2014-10-10 20:51 ID:gLEyuxJe


Get on welfare dude

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214 Name: DennyPhantom : 2018-10-28 23:35 ID:8dJ8hzBC

Regarding the tutor, if you have not yet decided, then I can advise you a good math tutor. Here is a link I myself turned to a tutor here, when I was preparing for exams in college, so you can try too. I am sure there will be good tutors here.

215 Name: Anonymous : 2018-11-03 08:18 ID:l5vOnVae

Why was my post deleted?


Just because you don't agree with a post doesn't give you the right to delete it and silence debate like a jew

216 Name: Anonymous : 2018-12-06 08:14 ID:Heaven

What was your post? Why was it deleted?

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On pubic hair. (16)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2007-04-19 14:39 ID:sQLWR0ni

How much do you love pubic hair? (Whether yours, or your partner's, or someone else's.)

I've been wondering quite a bit. Seems that these days people cherish a well-trimmed section more than a natural one. Personally, I prefer untrimmed girls. It feels more... well, real, and mature/adult. Shaved parts leave me feeling all weird inside.

Must explain why I love Japanese women -- probably because the majority of their films have their women in unshaved form.

I've also heard that in Korea, women are (sort of) culturally required to maintain their pubic hair. It's a sign of fertility, or something like that. Anyone know anything (or more) about this? I'd appreciate if you could enlighten me.

7 Name: Anonymous : 2007-04-30 02:35 ID:B+ORp7D1

closet pedos

8 Name: Anonymous : 2007-04-30 02:38 ID:x/OLygZU

I can't stand pubic hair!

9 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-01 15:26 ID:Heaven

i like it on the head.

10 Name: cuntcuntcunt : 2007-05-01 16:53 ID:XAJO3WHe

Closet Pedo? Because we don't like hair?

Yeah. Or we are gay?


11 Name: Unknown : 2007-05-02 02:16 ID:/SrYgyXQ

How do you trim a man's hair? I mean I always thought about shaving it all off but trimming it? this is news to me? Is it better and how do you do it?

12 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-02 15:58 ID:3tu+oudB

scissors/hair clippers. pretty obvious i wouldve thought lol i prefer it to be trimmed, it looks nicer and a little bit bigger. i dont like it when its really short though. it can be shorter on the balls, but around the base of the penis it needs some hair, rather than stubble-length kinda stuff

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15 Name: Anonymous : 2017-03-12 14:01 ID:bDrxvoEW

dicks out for Harambe

16 Name: Anonymous : 2018-10-13 20:57 ID:4XXdyYXK

I have hairs growing on my balls. It's a pain to trim them and obviously impossible to shave. Is this just shit genes or is this a more common occurrence?

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death is the only hope (59)

1 Name: warez otoko : 2007-03-21 11:32 ID:KJnzZezY

I can't take it anymore. I'm so alone, I have no friends, girls don't even look at me. Everybody is having fun, they are full of love, all except me.
I'm a complete failure, 10 years of isolation, I barely finished high school, dropped out of university, and found a stoopid job anyone could do.
There's no way out, I have no idea how people become friends with each other, how they find love. Oh wait, once in 26 years I actually found that.. once in 26.. that means I have to wait another 26 to stumble on a person who likes me, and I'll be old already..
I tried to tell them.. I told them I was alone.. but no one understands.. they think it's some stoopid temporary loneliness.. they are used to have all they want, to find new friends and lovers the same way you download new games from the internet... how could they understand what it means to have no friends, no company, no woman around for the most part of ur life, and not knowing how to find them.
Everybody has a family, friends, a girl, everybody is loved... but me, and I don't know how to get out of this... once you lose all social connections, it's done. It isn't necessary to be a hikki, it just happens, you lose all childhood friends, and zzap you're alone for life.
What I have done to deserve this.

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54 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-09 19:17 ID:Heaven

uhm. I came?

55 Name: Anonymous : 2017-03-13 14:02 ID:WldANiVb

dicks out for Harambe

56 Name: Anonymous : 2018-02-08 07:57 ID:0CBkwNL9

I feel the same way as OP. There's some useful advice in this thread. I'm going to work on improving myself and trying to strike up convos with people. Thanks

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58 Name: Anonymous : 2018-04-16 15:10 ID:Heaven

Was it good?

59 Name: Anonymous : 2018-10-05 21:22 ID:nAqwikSB

lmao this thread was made in 2007

I wonder how old the OP is now, are you still alive?

I'm 27 myself and have been alone my whole life and a hikikomori since 12.
What you gotta do OP is get over that feeling and learn to find happiness in solitary life.
You'll realize that it's better to be "alone" that constantly around others.
You don't need others for happiness, just find things in life that bring you happiness and joy.

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What are you afraid of? What are your phobias? (3)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2018-10-01 10:50 ID:rP3rAlIK

Tell about

2 Name: python tamer : 2018-10-01 11:07 ID:rP3rAlIK

I'm very afraid of thunderstorms and I'm not just afraid. It's not enough for me to hide under the blanket to feel protection because it's my real phobia. It was easier for me only the husband who installed the ligth protection , though it did not take away my phobia, it's easier for me to experience any thunderstorm ...

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Life is a Pain [Rant] [Rave] [Whining] (1)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2018-09-18 23:58 ID:m9oovuMC

LIFE IS A PAIN IN THE ASS. I have PTSD and I have to go to therapy appointments that are an hour away and today I missed my bus there AND back. Then I'm applying for school and it turns out that my school doesn't have my Measles immuno documents so I have to take a blood titer test with a doctor who's 45 minutes away and when I go to the library to print out the forms for my doc to sign the printers turn out to be cash only! Now I can't do shit because the doctor stops doing the tests at 4:30 PM. I have to go in tomorrow for an audition at my school and then I'll have to print my forms out there and then do my audition and then go back to my doctor and THEN go back again to school to drop off my forms.

thanks for reading

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VISA help form! (1)

1 Name: Staycey : 2018-07-22 19:39 ID:s3HprYGL

Hey everyone! There is a good F-191 form (, which can be useful for those people who decided to come to the US. Maybe someone will need it, so I decided to leave it here... :) My question is - does anybody know where I can get an administrative support and get answers for my questions regarding this form? This is not a question of immigration service ;(
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What do you think of Indians? (73)

1 Name: sticgum : 2009-06-20 15:48 ID:kwJwN2ny

Hi. This might seem like an unusual request. I am from India, and I am going to US for studies from this fall. I haven't met many Americans in person, so this is going to be my first exposure to the US. I am quite sure that the majority of posters in 4ch are americans, hence, I would like to ask you a question-
What do you think of Indians as people? What do you think of them when you speak to them? What kind of an impression does an average Indian's personality create on you?
Please be straightforward. Even if you insult me and Indians, I wouldn't really give a damn, as I don't know anything about you.
Other nationalities can also give their opinions. I am also interested to know what anyone thinks of us.

64 Name: art : 2012-08-23 00:02 ID:wzCTziNb

I dont hate indians cause i went to i high school out there. But i have to say that indians have big time attitude problems here in USA. Specially if you are in Northwest coast..i believe most of them work for microsoft or one of those big corporate entities and they think that they are super human being.. I worked at the restaurant and all these indians they act like they dont even notice me just b coz i am a waiter in the freaking indian restaurant of my circumstances...well i am an international student and there is no other place to work than this.....also 95% of the indian restaurant owner do not pay tips to the server or waiter...they will keep to pls dont leave tips to this crooks...they really think that their food is the best...thier country is the best ..and their movies are great...they proudly represent american eagle, hollister and armani and other freaking cheap ass brands on thier chest and they walk like they have own everything in the world....seriosuly i try to talk to them and be friend but thier attitude turns off all the doors for friendship...i dont know how bill gates trust all these indians...they come to america just to make dollars and thats it ...they are ruining our economy in every single way because they are too smart to get by the law......o god i can write pages and pages because i been around these people too much...but since i went to school thier i have learnt ways to get around them if they show attitude to doesnt apply to every single indian but thats what the majority pls if u are coming here to study and if u have all that tight jeans and hollister, american eagle and abercombie printed shirts leave those that in india or give to people in slum....u can bring ur dhotis and rupa ganiya...u look better in that than those outfits....sorry i am not trying to becoming mean...but you Indians are too much mean to other people...even those who are born here....they are perfectly fit to be in indian cinema theatre all the time with their sweaty hairy partners.....!!!! one more time guys...dont leave tips at indian restaurant....they take it all...never give it to poor waiters and servers especially other international students who works for them.....i am darn serious!!!!!jay hind!!!!

65 Name: leo : 2012-08-24 00:59 ID:5Zq0M5nc

I work as a maintenanace in NJ.
Most of are tenants are Indian highly educated.
They apt are filthy smelly.I just don't understand it .
Most of them live like animals.
Grease all over the kitchen .
Toilets and tubs are filthy dirty.
Most of the women don't work they stay at home and cook .
Never seen a vacuum in their apts.
They are highly intelligent people but they live like Pigs and on the top of that many times they are just arrogant.
Yes I met a few nice kind Indian poeple.
Thank you Rafael

66 Name: Jean : 2012-09-01 21:15 ID:orNl1H+N

I have to say I always saw Indians as hard working polite people. When I lived in the UK I couldn't understand why people hated them. Until I advertised for a roommate. A Indian Dr. in his 2nd year of residency applied and I felt well he would be clean and
quiet. Quiet maybe but clean NO! FILTHY! I had to give him notice to vacate due to the filth, I had told him about it numerous times. OMG the bathroom is disgusting..I have seen subways that are cleaner. And he never listens, perhaps because I a am a woman. 14 days and counting and I am going to have to get a new mattress (as rooms were furnished) Have the entire second floor cleaned. He won't see a penny of his security...too dirty and smelly.

67 Name: Melissa : 2012-09-21 19:46 ID:uvSuRWLe

To Jean - It doesn't have anything to do with being a woman. My roommate is Indian and she's a female (and so am I). She is so dirty. Every time she uses the kitchen she leaves a mess everywhere. She leaves food on the kitchen counter tops (one morning I went into the kitchen to cook breakfast and there's a drumstick on the counter), sauce is everywhere including on the walls and all over the floor and she won't clean it, she leaves dirty dishes in the sink overnight - I can go on and on. It's so weird because I cook all the time and always make sure to clean thoroughly - that's how I was taught in my family.

68 Name: So : 2013-02-14 18:26 ID:Y2NyEsVV

Call me on +919463430104 I am Indian Gay searching for friends.

69 Name: AntiRomanceScammer : 2017-11-11 06:39 ID:0NiI6BPk

Hindu or Muslim, almost everyone in the Indian continent cannot be trusted about anything and they're worst than the British tabloids, they network to sabotage by gossip, first anyone who is not Indians, next anyone who is t from their respective caste, third, fourth, fifth ..... So much are the sizing up of people. And they've got this kick out of the most malevolent practice of disgracing people especially ones they can bully or find vulnerable. They're all cowards, they're sheepish when each alone but turn into true perpetrators as groups. Horrible people! Scum of Asia!

70 Name: TheOneAfterAll : 2018-01-30 02:39 ID:5jNxOWdM

Indians are raised in a poor, third world country. Hence, the vast majority of of them do not know how to maintain a simple household.

1) Filthy - the apartments they rent are filthy, they never clean, and the bathroom is hell. Living like Pigs.

2) the FUCKING smell. They smell, spices, curry, grease...

3) they want to mix with white people, cause they themselves don't like their women, who are most of the time ugly.

4) Some of them are highly intelligent (some quality in 1 Billion).

Sorry, op, that's how it is. You want to blend in? Stop being cheap, CLEAN everywhere after yourself, and don't ever cook the fucking curry.

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72 Name: Anonymous : 2018-04-16 15:09 ID:Heaven

Speaking of Indians...

73 Name: Monika : 2018-07-22 19:34 ID:wIJqhdRn

I think that not all of them are like this. I know some, they are completely different. For those who decide to go there or come to the US, there is a good F-191 form (<a href=></a>), which can be useful. Maybe someone will need it, so I decided to leave it here... :)

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When I was a teenager, I molested someone... (34)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2009-04-15 00:09 ID:MakfLLq1

When I was 14, I molested my sister. She was was almost four the first time and the second time was just after she turned four. The first time, I actually pulled her pants down and touched her bottom, but the second time was just me taking my time helping her in the restroom. Neither time did I ask her to touch me or even show her my penis.

I was recently recovering from a long amount of physical and emotional abuse from my father, and had previously been molested twice in my youth. I was also suffering from some fairly serious mental problems. I say this not to excuse my actions, but to provide more of an explanation of what was going on then.

As time went on and I have returned to a more normal mental state, I look back upon what I have done in horror and guilt. I don't really know what effects this may have had on my sister (she is still fairly young) but I don't really look back on my molestations negatively. I still feel guilty, though.

However, a larger emotion that I am now feeling is fear. What if she remembers? What if she does not? I certainly remember being that age, but I developed rather quickly. Her linguistic skills have always been behind. What if she remembers and eventually tells someone and my life is ruined? What if.... etc?

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25 Name: Furp : 2017-09-23 23:10 ID:ZHwqfpug

Balls deep. I'm talkin bout balls deep in puuuusssss.

26 Name: Anonymous : 2017-10-16 01:22 ID:Heaven

When I was 10 or so I was tricked by a teen ager into doing gay stuff. I didn't really realized it until my mother found me and explained me a few things.

27 Name: jack : 2018-01-20 18:37 ID:Cck4o6Wk

i once raped a baby when i was but jesus died for my sins

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29 Name: Heckyeah00 : 2018-04-18 19:40 ID:G+zhfD3A

To to user named "Cant say" if you did it for sexual purposes then its not a experiment. I dont know if you should talk to her or not, though.

30 Name: Heckyeah00 : 2018-04-18 19:42 ID:G+zhfD3A

Go to jail then, Jack. Also wot

31 Name: Heckyeah00 : 2018-04-18 19:45 ID:G+zhfD3A

To 4th comment, you may be do it for sexual purposes, but you said that she was 1 so hope she doesnt remember it

32 Name: Heckyeah00 : 2018-04-18 19:53 ID:G+zhfD3A

>>29 also sorry for being abused by others
Also, to the op, if she remembers it, apologize to her.
To the 16th comment, seme thing goes for you too.

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34 Name: Anonymous : 2018-07-19 01:00 ID:OgEuqwN/

Did she look scared when you touched her? She's probably more likely to remember it depending on how traumatic it was. Sure everyone remembers differently but I think it's a common trend to remember bad memories more easily than good ones.

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Best way to make new friends (6)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2018-03-29 10:40 ID:CAZBrsYT

Just looking for some well written answers here.

Honestly, I just want to make some new friends. I have 2 real friends, well- mostly 1, but the other is a childhood friend of 20 years who isn't the greatest, more like a weird cousin.

Anyways, while I have one very good best friend, he's very busy and I'm looking to make some friends of similar interest because I'm at the point in my life where all of my family are gone/passed away, and I'm very alone. I'm a bit out of touch these days with the internet and life in general, I've had some horrible years full of drama and getting divorced from my evil ex. >.>

So I just wanted to know, are there like really good groups on social media or places to make friends easily? I get along great with people, and I prefer to find friends in my general town so I can talk about games and anime with friends who can actually visit. I just don't know whats out there or if anyone knows of a great way to connect with people. Random adding people on FB is crap and people don't treat their FB friends like real friends so...yeah =O

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3 Name: Anonymous : 2018-04-16 15:07 ID:DTycpkEw

Great reply, thanks.

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5 Name: Anonymous : 2018-05-28 09:42 ID:Y2NomSoX

From personal experience I've made almost all of my friends through work. You could just use your co-worker to find people through their social circle if they aren't that hot. Still have A friend from high school though.

I've never really used the internet to hold conversations or make friends but I have made one. Made a pinpal on a forum once and met up in Malaysia, had tonns of fun.

When it comes to internet friends try to keep discussion rolling I guess. Find something you're both passionate about and connect through that. Find some forums or IRC Channels about stuff you like and be meaningful.

6 Name: Anonymous : 2018-05-28 20:04 ID:EH6FZygh

join local skinhead gang

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