Since I've seen topics on here similar to this, but they were directed towards guys...
I'm a 19 year old female and I think I'm developing a preference/fascination toward younger males. Not young children, since I strongly dislike children, but teenagers. I think this has started fairly recently, probably inspired by my 'shotaro complex', but that was only aimed at fictional/animated boys. Do you think I should get help/ this is serious, or is it a phase??
Eep, sorry if this should have gone to the 'sexuality' board, I wasn't sure...
Doubt it, there is a reason why you can't cure a gay man, a pedo or whatever. Some say you are born this way, or made by extern circumstances. You can only fight the thoughts, but by doing so, you will deny the person you are and eventually you will not be able to "cage the beast" forever.
Personally i don't think there's anything wrong with you, guys fantasize about 16 year olds and would do them if it wasn't illegal. Gays have the twink thing (18+ but look like 16 boys), and females too i guess.
Don't sweat it, if you wanna go legal about it..Go for twinks, (google it).
If you still feel like that in a couple weeks... Want to talk?
I don't think you should get help help. It's only natural to be attracted to teenagers. They have gone through puberty and thus liking them doesn't make you a pedophile.
I'm a 14 year old male, and I think maybe we should meet up sometime.
I am 22 and live at home still. I don't have any friends. I haven't been outside my house more than once a year for the last seven years. My hair is so long it reaches my ass. Everything I have to do I order from the internet. (Money is not a issue.) I'm getting tired of spending my days on the internet or playing games/watching anime, etc. Nothing on the outside interests me. I'm leaning over to suicide.
What the hell should I do?
>>54
Right...
>>55
I know that.
>>57
I never said I wanted to change my self. Also, my family is the last people on earth I would speak to. They too are rather silent on my mothers part of the family, and my fathers part of the family is just plain weird. Also, I'd never ever talk to someone over the microphone. I mentioned this before, my city is a small one, there's no such thing as conventions here.
>>58
That is correct. I would know.
do you know what means hikkikomori or depression? not all of us has a strong mind
To make it clear to everyone who might not know, I'm OP and you can identify me by my ID.
>>61
>>62
>>63
In this post I'm going to make it clear what makes a hikikomori. However I can't explain what it's like being one, as no amount of words can explain what it feels like. You just have to experience it to understand it. Thank you to those who try understand though. I'll start with a few obvious (and less obvious) points, excuse me if I forget something.
*Rarely leaves room/house, if at all
*Does not cook, work or go to school
*Low personal hygiene
*Have a way too nice mother
*Does not talk much
>*lots of points
Yeah, that's a recluse. We also have a word for it, y'know? Add social recluse if you want emphasis on the social aspect. Using hikkikomori is like saying ohayo instead of hello all the time and stuff like that: mannerisms. But then again, japan japan, blahblah.
>How on earth would I survive there?
I think you'll make it. Probably struggle a lot, but you'll make it. As long as you get the nerve to do the kickstart, you'll be on your way. If this school thing enthusiasms you, then jump on the occasion.
>is it just better to kill my self?
Think of it this way: if you don't survive, then you have found a quite adventurous and interesting way to suicide.
Hi, Mr. Solitude. Man, never heard of a problem like this before, maybe i just don't get out enough. It sounds like you're not especially depressed, you're not anxious, paranoid, and it looks like you are capable of intelligent thought. You're just really bored. And anything anyone suggests you just push off as being as boring as the boredom you're in now. I only hear of two things you would like to do: go to Japan, or kill yourself to get away from the boredom. Nothing else will do, except sitting around being bored. So maybe you should start playing a game: destination Japan. You should first start by gathering up money, not only money to get you and a friend to Japan but enough to get you back home if you have to run back home because Japan was either too exciting or too boring for you. Find someone else to guild you along in the outside world of Japan. Don't just pick someone random, pick someone who is intelligent, reliable, and can be a guide to you.
And if it doesn't work out for one reason or another you can hitch an airplane ride back to your room and continue your solitary existance. Or perhaps not even give it a chance. I do wonder how you argue that everything outside of your room would be just as boring as being in your room since you never go out of your room anyways.
if money isn't an issue go somewhere else. travel. DO SOMETHING!
suicide? you call what your doing <i>living</i>?
If you're not Japanese, then please use first-language appropriate terms for things.
I guarantee you that if you start with this small task, and master it, you will be on the road to being a socially acceptable individual.
Take this quiz: http://www.rdos.net/eng/Aspie-quiz.php
I got:
Your Aspie score: 127 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 77 of 200
You are very likely an Aspie
And I got a 25 on http://4-ch.net/general/kareha.pl/1158185340/
Your Aspie score: 127 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 47 of 200
You are very likely an Aspie
Score: 37
All this means is that a brief clinical look at the test results would not rule out the posibbility of my being diangosed with Asperger's... does not mean I have it.
I'd also like anyone indicating that the possible diagnosis is a way to escape responsibility for changing to stuff it into his/her slave-brain and go back to satisfying the great hive-mind. Since that person has given up on any individuality which might interfere with the operation of the grand commune, that person should probably eliminate his/her internet access as a superfluous distraction.
Asperger's is a neurological factor, and someone operating with a valid diagnosis of Asperger's needs to know that attempts to overcome certain traits which, for whatever reason, are found to be unacceptable by either society at large or specific individuals will meet with a much slower rate of success (if any) than someone who is NOT operating with a neuorlogical differentiation.
Your Aspie score: 54 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 137 of 200
You are very likely neurotypical
jippie
despite my not finding it natural "that males take initiatives to start a romantic relationship" and my BOTH SHOCKING AND SURPRISING dislike for sudden hug attacks, nota bene!
I'm surprised more people didn't score similarly. I got 172/200
I scored 140-200.
180 out of 200 last time I took it.
Yes, I am an ass pie.
lol, made up internet disease.
Pay attention, get out, meet people.
I don't see how simplifying the notion of 'humble nerd' past the title of Asperger's will make anyone believe that it isn't this trivial.
Your Aspie score: 49 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 132 of 200
You are very likely neurotypical
Neurotypical talent, communication, hunting, and perception are all top-notch, but social and compulsive are very low. This test is a nice ego-booster.
I'm glad I am not likely to have aspergers.
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I've recently graduated high school, and I've decided to go to college. However, like most of us, I'm not a social person. I don't want to live in dorms, as I'd likely slaughter each and every person who woke me up, interrupted my studying, or made me wait to go to the bathroom. I also HATE women, and could absolutely not stand to be around women in my dorm 24/7 (I'm a woman).
I'm sure a lot of you have had this problem. It seems like 99% of colleges force you to live in dorms for at least the first year of college life, so what do I do? There's no colleges that I can find which don't have 50 million students that also allow me to live off-campus and offer the degree I want.
Where do I go from here? I'm totally lost and don't know what to do. I was home schooled, so I don't have a teacher or counselor I can ask.
NO GIRLS ON THE INTERNET!
Ok, now that that is out of the way, facing the same problem here, only I'm a guy, I don't hate women (at some point, I would even like to mate with one, for science, of course), and, thank God, I don't live anywhere near a college with 50 million students. O_o
Anyway, two questions. What exactly do you want to study? And have you considered distance education? All the college, non of the hassle. Of course, you won't gain any social skills, but hey, who needs those anyway. Also, remember, don't over-specialize too early. That's what graduate school is for.
Good luck. Or in the spirit of iichan. Whatever.
You're an idiot and most likely a religious one at that.
noo....not really....
My boyfriend and all 10 of his siblings have been home schooled; and from what I can tell, you're just going to have to force yourself to get used to the school system. It's going to be awkward at first, and not especially fun; but it'll pay off in the end.
and >>5 Several of our best presidents were home schooled; and I wish I had been. I could have gone so much farther; and I know people who wouldn't be even near where they are today if they hadn't been home schooled. One of them is about to complete a double major bachelor's degree in linguistics and Japanese after only three years of college.
You believe that people who make digs are creationists are "most likely" religious? You really need to get out more.
10 siblings? Quiverfull much? (http://www.quiverfull.com/)
I think we have to ask ourselves whether homeschooling success stories represent the majority. If you look at the statistics, they don't.
I honestly thought that way too (well except from a male point) but honestly, college dorm life is nothing like that from my experience. Everyone is all cool with each other and they all generally repsect each other's privacy and shit like that. Plus, if you do have a problem with your dormmate, just talk to your RA about it and they would usually allow you to move out of your current dorm and live with someone else.
Trust me, those initial fears like people are out to get you or will attempt to make your life a living hell is not at all like real life and if you decide to not dorm, i guarantee it that you'll regret it later on in life.
I cannot imagine how being home schooled would give you any type of advantage in life. How can OP know if she will hate college life and people in general if she has likely never even left the house for reasons other than going to church.
Just give the dorms a chance, get to know people. Your parents wont be around to shelter you forever you know.
11 here.
>>12 true, and it bugs me. If you've got good teachers homeschooling can be fantastic--being able to move as fast or as slow as you need to, etc. On the other hand, even a great teacher still needs to go out of their way to provide social situations for the student, as they are not getting the social lessons they learn from dealing with other kids in school and on the playground. And a bad teacher will leave th kid so far behind it's sad.
What's sad is that most women hate other women. Just to a lesser extent than OP. Women are always giving other women dirty looks in public, for being younger, richer, et cetera. Women backstab their friends and stop talking to them over trivial things.
And then they go and say that "men are dogs". Well, dogs have some sense of loyalty at least.
maybe this would help... Religion is supposed to enhance your life, it is not to bring you down, make you suffer or any of the like. I left Christianity years ago when I was 19 because I found it to be too critical and too stifling. You can join any religion you want, just find something that makes you feel good about yourself and makes you want to be a better person.
religion loss.. can be good for the soul. find something to take its place if u need to... but really freinds family, and good times... all u need
Hi all,
I'm a catholic and I also lost my belief in my religion. Especially when mum's friends successfully converted her and my sister into Christian. Well, to me, that wasn't really the main reason I lost my belief. My dad is an atheist and he told me a story once in regard to people donating to church. He told me that he'd rather donate the money to school than to church. Why? because the money would be better spent on educating kids than being used by some scumbag priests and those associated with them to enrich themselves. This happens a lot especially in Asian countries and probably in western countries too.
Another reason is, with the war on terror, it sounds really silly when they kept saying they kill in the name of GOD. Then I came to conclusion that there is no GOD. The story of GOD was only created by people in the past. Cleverly being used by group of people to control society.
Life sucks, I admit that. I do have personal dilemma that I'm facing right now. But I will never ask or depend on GOD for strength. I will just face it and do something about it. So to the OP, I'm sorry to hear the one you loved died horribly in an accident, but don't make yourself in a bad situation. Try to live to the fullest. Ignore those who try to make you live in depression. Find and pursue your own happiness. You'll be fine.
Pissed off denizens of an incredibly pointless discussion, meet Mary Jane. Mary Jane, meet your new clients.
I'm a 21 year old female college dropout. In literally the last couple weeks of my freshman year at a Midwestern community college, I dropped out after realizing that I didn't have any idea what I really wanted to do with my life and decided that I would commit suicide instead.
Still living at home and still working my high school job in food service for barely more than minimum wage, I became a recluse and slept all day, only waking to go to my job, eat, piss, and reassure my mother that I was fine. Why in the hell she believed me each time I do not know, but I don't blame her for anything. Except not putting any money aside at any point to help pay for college. ((Thus the community college.))
About a month after dropping out and procrastinating on the suicide, an aunt alerted me that there were job openings at her factory about an hour from home. She said the jobs were temporary summer jobs, meant only to last three months, and offered to rent me a room in her house for as long as they lasted. Figuring anything was better than killing myself at that point, but certainly not ruling killing myself out, I moved in to her place and began my career as a machine operator in a water valve factory.
For the first six months I was bent on killing myself. I researched my options seriously, took out life insurance on myself with my mother as the beneficiary, settled on offing myself via helium inhalation, and figured out where and for how much I could get all of my supplies.
Just commit suicide or don't do it.
There is NOTHING wrong or right with it, just do it or don't.
Too many pretending moralfags here.
If there are facts that doesn't please you try to change them, if you can't try to accept them, if you can't you have to kill yourself.
Just a rational step.
I am annoyed by those fags, that are saying some standardized phrases that doesn't help at all but give themselves selfsatisfaction for pretending.
There are options (suicide is also one) , just whatever you do, do it with all your will and don't regret it!
I went to a university for two years majoring in computer science, but then I realized that I hated programming, and failed out due to lack of motivation to get out of bed and go to class.
Going to college was one of the biggest mistakes I've ever made.
>>1 I don't mean to be rude. But what you did sounded pretty stupid...
You could've figured out what you wanted to do with your life AFTER you graduated from College.
That way, you could've gotten it easy with Jon Hunting.
Finish College before thinking of something else.
Even after you've graduated and still don't know what you want to do with your life. Then the rest is up to you...
ahem... Job Hunting (sorry, typo)
Was it soley motivation?
Or is the lack of motivation also linked to the misjudgement of your talents, you potential ;)
What do you do know...apparently you are still alive.
Not a college dropout, but I did suddenly decide to stop going to one of my classes (didn't have much classes that semester anyway). Got an F obviously, was put on final probation, but took a single class this Spring and got an A, so I'm probably back on good standing.
Why did I stop going though? Because although the school was interesting, it wasn't the road to a future I wanted. Like >>56, I went originally for computer science, but I have no interest in programming. The school offered no other computer majors and the associates degree was more of a general one when I didn't want a general one. So yeah, that's two years of school (less than 30 credits though, didnt take many classes) down the drain. Well, kinda, I guess I can put that I attended the college on my resume.
Now I'm going to be going to a tech college for an associates in networking, and I'm kinda looking forward to it.
I own a small business and will only hire a college graduate for a few reasons:
a. I know they can follow directions and complete an assignment.
College assignments are not always fun an interesting, and guess what -- neither are assignments on the job. And highschools are such a joke that I doubt some high school graduates can even read.
b. I know they can finish something they start, even if they don't find it interesting. Show me someone who doesn't finish college, and my belief is they are not at all ambitious, and probably a quitter. Why would I want to hand part of a project over to someone who might disappear on me because they don't find life interesting.
c. I know they can get along with some people if they have to -- you have to get along at least with the professors to graduate.
The only real advice I can give from my perspective is do not take some hobby you enjoy and make it your job. Otherwise, the day-to-day routine and deadlines will make it something you hate. You will also have to answer to bosses or customers to keep things status quo, and that will be very frustrating if you get too attached to your job. Find something you can do to pay the bills that won't drive you to a killing spree, and try to make the most of your free time away from work to "enjoy life"
LOL @ 28!
>>35
Post 31-33 poster here. The main problem (and I was just discussing this in another thread) is that I didn't really have the choice NOT to go to school and I still don't. According to my parents, I'm getting this degree if it kills all three of us (and maims the family dog in the process).
It's really more than just school; I don't want to make the decisions they expect me to make and I don't get to make the decisions I want to. It all feels like a recipe for failure.
college graduate here, but after graduating i did nothing for about 4 years and then started working for a little over minimum wage because my degree was worthless. im 27 now, and recently quit my job to go back to school for something useful. if the OP is still reading this, you still have your youth. if youre still doing the same thing when youre 40 years old, then maybe you should start shopping for helium. for now theres plenty of time to turn your life around.
Being the ronery guy I am, I want to see if there's anyone nearby as ronery as me. I figure everyone can post their age, sex, and area with maybe a city near theirs.
Me: 22/M/California, USA (near Moreno valley)
well i'm 24/m and from Jakarta but i'm not sure if meeting people from 4-ch is wise. i don't mind being email buddy first though.
17 M Manila, Phil. any pinays lurking here? xD
17/M/Aus
Any othere Ausags?
20/f/outside of Chicago
25/m/California...yeah i'm a rittle ronery
20/m/sco....tland... i feer rike a bird in a cage
16/m/md, anyone from baltimore on here?
Female/19/Mormon Country.
is it possible?
i was in a relationship with this girl for around 10 months, and then we had a really bad break. lots of bad shit went on between us, and we stopped talking for all of summer (broke up right before summer started. summer is now coming to an end) and i just decided to unblock her on aim and all that and we're talking again.
I dont know wether or not giving a second chance at friendship is really worth it. plus, i think she's either trying to get on my nerves, or trying to make me jelous because now she wont shut up about all these sexual things she's done since we broke up >.> you think she's trying to make me jelous?
>>11 here
>>some girls are crazy enough to see if they still have power over you and by you running from her like that it showed that she still does have powre over you
That's exactly what my ex was doing. She wanted to have her cake and eat it too by having power over me.
I understand your feelings though; part of me still has feelings for what the person I thought my ex was, not who she truly is. But do what >>15 said, I did the same and it was very cathartic for me.
sometimes its good to see people for who you know they can be because they need that push. but when its a relationship if they arent aware of themselves and what theyre doing they just may have no hope.
one thing ive learned from working with people and dealing with relationship problems is that you have to hope for the best but dont expect it from them. when you expect things from people then you take what theyre not able to do/understand personally as an attack on you or negatively towards you.
as long as you dont take things personally youll be able to stay emotionally distanced from people. but since this is a close relationship issue. it never hurts to communicate but when youre communicating dont sound angry or defensive. because when you sound defensive theyre going to get defensive about you getting defensive then it gets to be about proving a point rather than finding a solution.
OP here
yea, i got my emotions in check. I unblocked her and we were talking then she started going hella bitch/immature. not at me though, but enough that it annoyed the hell outa me
she started bitching about how some girl was going after her ex >.> i'm just gonna copy/paste so you guys can see how retarded she was acting
her (9:54:00 PM): would u ever date one of ur best friends ex bfs
her (9:54:20 PM): i mean
her (9:54:21 PM): gf
me (9:54:33 PM): depends on how long they broke up, and who broke up with who
her (9:54:51 PM): 1 fuckin week
her (9:54:54 PM): ago
me (9:55:03 PM): so, who's dating your ex?
Is it just me or does the usage of "u" instead of "you" make anyone sound stupid and annoying?
OP, good for you you quit with that girl.
Dear OP, I find those chat logs tremendously amusing, please keep posting them.
the tables have turned =D
now i'm the one in power and she's the one suffering
we started talking, and she was saying how she's excited for prom (mucho time till then) so i reminded her that she could only go if she and her current bf didnt break up. she starts getting all defensive and agressive (understandble) But then i start talking about how this girl i've had an interest in called me and woke me up today and how she wants me to come over to her house later in the week to chill. i asked he ex for pointers on how to "seduce" a girl as a joke and she starts getting angry and defensive.
basically, i think she's jelous that i'm not into her anymore and now i'm off chasing another girl. kinda like in my last post when she was bitching about a girl going after her ex. (I know for a fact that ex int me. ex-gf and current interest dont talk) so, it's nice to have the tables turned and I have the power now :] i'm a good person though, so i'm not gonna use it... even if i really want to >.>
dude, sounds like the two of you are perfect for each other. You are both so petty. Why not just get over it?
updates?
OP here,
there really has not been much to update recently :p we both just talk as friends now. she know's i'm not interested and she's given up that chase and is content with her bf
I have found a girl, she was my best friend all through 7th grade and then for some reason we just stopped talking after she moved schools. ran into her at work after 5 years and i decided to take my lunch early and we just talked and caught up :p we've been talking online a lot and we're going to big music festival together on monday. I'm pretty sure she's interested, and so am i but we decided it would be best to wait until after we get to know eachother more before we date xD
so basically,
ex isnt giving me trouble anymore, we're both cool. and i met a new girl who likes me and I like her, but we're gonna wait a little
There are these assholes who do all bullshit theoretical assignments perfectly and memorize art school pretentious vocabulary. They end up getting the best grades just for that; yet they can't actually compose images for shit; they have no aesthetic sense whatsoever. I've once heard one of these little bitches announce it didn't want to take life drawing classes again, mocking them. What's the problem? Is it because they can't get an A in it from kopipe of an internet article? Fuck. This is depressing me severely.
I Sage people in real life and it's no Picnic!
I find people taste better with dill and a little lemon.
How does that work? People age regardless of how many times you drop the sage bomb.
age
I'm just wondering, does anyone get headaches only when speaking about certain things? For example, when I hear the histories of company policies, my head pulses and I become a moody bastard.
It's normal. Talking about company policies does that to everyone.
uh... yeah, I think that's normal. There are probably a few things that people hate to hear about.
My head starts to hurt whenever I have to talk to anybody in public. Aaaaaaaargh.