I might be presented to two delightful new girls this weekend, which is something I kinda badly need these times after my previous critical failure.
Sadly, they're both exes of friends of mine, so... you all know what that means. Off-limits. Meh.
>> 146
I've been single for 23 years now, never had a girlfriend in my entire life. However I believe that it will eventually happen, just hang in there. Even densha otoko eventually found his girl ^_^. So every new year's eve I always tell myself: another year, another chance!
As my thoughts oscillate wondering if I'd ever feel love with a special someone or won't, it's as if my heart is caving inside itself (._.)
Its the start of a New Year, don't let the past bog you down in your attempts at happiness. Keep pushing forward. If the world really does end in 2012 then go all out in everything you do!
I really need to stop spending so much time and energy on this girl that already has a boyfriend. It's not that I don't enjoy our platonic moments of warm friendship, but in the end it's painful when we can't kiss.
>>150 just let it flow naturally, if things work out naturally then it'll all work out in the end :)
and yes i agree, you should touch a girl with a bf lol
My ex thought Valentine's Day would be a good night to tell me about her sexual encounters she's had with another guy. Seriously, what the fuck?
I can't bring myself to like women. I have sex with them sometimes, but I've never had anything even approaching a friendship with a girl, let alone a relationship. I guess I am just an old-school misogynist. If females didn't have boobs and a vagina, they'd simply be regarded as boring, annoying people who suck at everything.
I'd love to find a cool chick to have as a girlfriend, but they don't seem to exist. I don't want to have casual sex until I'm 50. How do I found worthwhile female?
I'm a 23 year old female virgin and fear I'm going to continue my slow walk down the path of crazy cat lady if I don't do something about it. While part of me wants the companionship more than just about anything, at the same time, I can't help but feel like maybe it's meant to be like this for me, because it almost feels right that I don't belong with anyone, even if it's not what I want.
I have difficulty enough talking to men, mostly because I'm just the typical shy nerd. I also have a sort of taste of men I'm attracted to. I've attempted to try and overcome this by at least settling with whoever can accept me, and I even managed to talk to a couple of guys who seemed nice. That is, up until I gave them my number and they both tried to initiate sext messaging with me. Maybe I'm desperate, but it feels a little insulting when their dick comes up in conversation while I'm trying to get to know them.
I sometimes get told I'm pretty. I also sometimes get told I look like a boy, a lesbian, or just plain weird. Being outgoing is hard enough as it is when you're used to people talking about you behind your back all the time.
I had been at least been in one relationship before, several years back. Internet, of course, but we did meet up and I at least got to kiss him. I actually had the chance to lose my clutch hold on my virginity, but I was terrified and just couldn't do it. We ended up breaking up about a month later, but he had friends in my area, so he moved nearby. We rarely hung out.
A little less than two years ago, sent me a text message asking if we could spend some time together, since we hadn't seen each other in a while. I made up an excuse and told him I was too busy to see him. Several days later, he committed suicide. I didn't go to his funeral.
I know it wasn't my fault it happened, but I can't help but feel guilt about the situation. Maybe I feel like the guilt is me just telling myself my failure with men today is because of a failure with one in the past. Or maybe I'm just using it as an excuse to hide my own pathetic shortcomings.
TL;DR, words words words. I'm tired, so I'm sure this post is just a mess, but I really just needed to type this out. Feels a little better to ramble.
to Secret Admirer, I think you should get to know me and let me teach you how to relax and get to know the pleasures of the sexual side of life and enjoy it fro what it is, not live in fear of it.
How does an older fella find some good young sex, havent been laid in years
I lose again.
Of the last three girls I've verbally expressed interest in:
1. Flat out no, she was dropping out of school and leaving the state, her feelings for me are unknown to me. (1 year ago)
2. Revealed she's had a boyfriend all along. (Fuck me. >_>) (6 months ago)
3. Told me how she liked me too but life is too crazy right now and she wants to patch things up with ex/not-ex?-boyfriend. (1 hour ago)
The last one watched movies with me and cuddled with me before this.
WTF. I fucking fail every time.
Worst part? These three girls consitute maybe 40% of all the girls I've met in the past 2 years. The other 60% are unattractive--for a variety of reasons be it physical, mental, or emotional--or they've already got boyfriends.
GODDAMIT
Am I let to the game? By age 20 are all the good options already gobbled up?
WHAT
THE
FUCK.
I'm pissed.
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I really need to stop thinking about...let's just call him "baka deshi" (at least, that's what I called him). I'm 22 and I loved him since I was 15. I wanna hit myself in the head and get a semi-concussion so that I can suffer from selective amnesia. The best part of this post is that I'm listening to DBSK's "I Wanna Hold You" while writing this. Damn me, damn the beautiful song, and damn being a single, horny, lonely young woman.
>>159
so why do you call him "baka deshi"
whats the story behind that?
I called him that out of affection. We had this extended joke...I was the "guru" and he was the "baka deshi." I helped him with everything academic except history (for that, he ended up helping me). Anyway, that's how "baka deshi" came to be. Sometimes, if he was really good and amused me, he would get "promoted" to "idiotic apprentice." The weird thing is he never got beyond that because he would often get "demoted" back to "baka deshi." Sounds abusive but believe me, we mutually respected each other and used these nicknames as a friendly joke. Does that answer your question, #160?
>>161
man I wish I had that sort of friendship with someone
Hey 162, thanks for the sweet youtube clip. And damn, you're so right. @163, I hope that you do find somebody, even if it's for a little while. Although I don't speak to "baka deshi" as much as I should, I'm grateful for the little time we had together. I just wish that it became more. -_-
I've finally asked somebody out for the first time after all these years. I did not mention to "S" explicitly that it was going to be a date and such because I did not have the balls yet to do that (and I thought it would be just tacky). Although I do hope that this would be the start to a steady relationship.
This is the plan to the "date". Movie first and then to beachside bar for drinks/dinner. All you Secret Admirers out there! How can I avoid this chance from becoming another forgettable event of my life?!
I am >>152. I got together the balls to just finally ask her directly since all my indirect shit wasn't working out. She deliberated on it for four hours straight. (I was sitting nervously awaiting her answer for those painful hours. Though I kept saying she could think about it and tell me later, she kept saying "no, just wait a little longer..." and continued debating internally.) Eventually she chose me and broke up with her long-distance boyfriend (with whom her relationship had turned mutually passionless long ago, I found out later). We've been dating happily for nearly three months now and the future still looks bright...thanks for the support, >>151.
>>165, how did your date go? Even if you failed, at least you succeeded in asking somebody out, and you can learn from mistakes!
Congrats >>152 who's really >>150! I'm glad things worked well for you! And to >>165, I agree with >>152. I regret that I didn't pursue "baka deshi." Although my gut tells me that it would have been hopeless, I wish that I had at least tried. If that had been the case, I would have the comfort of knowing that I did everything in my power. Instead, all I have are good memories and this nagging bit of regret/heartache. Go put yourself out there, >>165! You can do it! And here's a little bit of late advice - since you didn't explicitly state that it's a date, just make sure that you restrict your behavior and activities to "friendly fun." Hopefully that will encourage "S" to hang out with you for more "events." However, if "S" suspects that your evening out is a "date" as opposed to "friendly fun," it's best to be honest. Be candid, polite, and considerate...after that, it's all in "S's" hands. Good luck!
Sorry for double-posting...but I really need to rant. I turned 23 today. I'm happy that I'm alive and that many people love and care for me, but I still feel lonely. Despite the fact that I have a wonderful family and great friends, I don't think that it can satisfy my longing for a serious and meaningful romantic relationship. I have had one-sided romances, but I'm tired of the heartbreak. I've also had people pursue me, but I unfortunately had no romantic feelings for any of them. (On a side note, to those have have expressed interest in me, I thank you and am humbled by your attentions.) Usually, this doesn't bother me. It's only when the rest of the world is fast asleep and I'm awake and alone staring blankly at the ceiling that I start to wonder if I'll find my someone. Even now, I find myself watching the blades of my ceiling fan turn over and over again...and with every turn it reminds me of how many moments, how many years I've spent being single. Because I am a proud young woman, I often tell myself that I am a SAP (Single and Proud) and that I should embrace my freedom and independence. Because I've never had a boyfriend, I only know the joys and privileges of being unattached. You would think that I can't miss what I never had. Even so, there's still that small feeling of loneliness that tugs at my heart. Sadly, that small feeling is enough to undo me.
Still misunderdstood ._.
>>169, have you given any of your suitors a chance? Perhaps you would develop feelings for them over time if you hung out with them a bit.
Besides that, all you can do is keep searching. You're still young and there's still plenty of people whom you have yet to meet. It's hard to fully appreciate the advantages of being SAP until you've actually been in a relationship and seen what it's like.
>>171, I feel a little embarrassed saying this...but whenever I had a "suitor," it would always be after being friendly with them for a while (usually a year or two) that they would tell me they liked me. And the only reason why they would tell me is because I was too oblivious to notice it. Ah, how funny in hindsight but a little bit sad at the same time. But thanks for being kind and for trying to reassure me. I think I'm just frustrated because I never experienced mutual attraction. It was either a one-way attraction or we'd like each other but for many reasons wouldn't pursue it.
My curiousity has ushered me to this site. Interesting topics. I don't believe I'll be able to read them all but excuse me while I do. lol. Good evening everyone by the way. Hopefully your morning/afternoon/eve/night is well.
I doon't know if it's me but it seems like when I mention that I'm a christian a guy puts me on pause and runs away then by the time I'm off this "pause timer", he's gone. I'M A PERSON WITH FEELINGS! HELLO?! Is it because a guy thinks I'm going to reprimand him from doing every single thing in the book. To be honest 'yes' it would be nice to meet someone who is christian as well but if I do meet someone who sparks my interest; which is rare because I'm picky; why do they run away based on religion?
I'm not a judge in court who is going to sentence you to death row or prison life because you sin. COME ON!!! -_- -side comments to myself- I feel like I'm watching a game and routing for a team. Good grief. I need to lay up off tv.
>I'M A PERSON WITH FEELINGS! HELLO?!
that does not obligate anyone to be with you
Maybe if guys are going away is becauase religion is making you behave in ways that are not interesting to them. Or maybe is not just religion...its just the way you behave...maybe you think it´s all about religion when it´s not.
>>174 religious types are often not worth the trouble for those not belonging to the same religion. it results in a lot of headache in the long run depending on how strongly religious the person is. for those of separate faiths, the conflict should be obvious. for the atheists, as far as they are concerned you have a mental disorder. they cant deal with your bullshit and will roll their eyes every time you pray. for agnostics, they dont want to be preached to or converted, and we all know how christians love to convert people.
When I was twenty-four, I dated a nineteen-year-old girl. When we met, I thought she was older, and she thought I was younger, so it was kind of a surprise to us both. But there was mutual attraction, so we went for it.
Suffice it to say, it didn't work. She was going to a junior college, whereas I had been out for some time. I didn't yet know what I wanted to do with my life, but I at least had some good ideas of what I didn't want to do. I had lived overseas, burned out on one career, and was casting about for another. Picking my girlfriend up from school definitely felt weird, and her idea of a great date involved basically just hanging out at the mall for hours on end (at least it was a cheap date). She didn't seem to have much to talk about except school, friends at school, problems with her parents (whom she was still living with)… I can't remember how it ended, but I remember feeling rather relieved that it did. It was precious life experience, and it turned me off of the idea of dating girls who weren't at least old enough to have graduated college and lived out in the real world a bit.
Fast forward to now, five years later. I've found a career, and since neither it or anything else was holding me down, I'm living overseas again. I'm taking classes to learn the local language. (If you ever have the opportunity to do something like that, I highly recommend it; great way to meet lots of interesting people from all around the world with a common interest, and not only for romantic relationships.)
I'm finding myself starting to fall head over heels for another of the students. She's single and cute, and even though we're only able to communicate in the language that we're both still in the early stages of learning, she strikes me as pretty smart, and with an interesting life story. She seems to tolerate me, if not like me, and we often engage each other in conversation. I really want to get to know her better.
So what's the problem?
She's nineteen.
But you probably saw that coming.
Single after an off-and-on, one-sided relationship that ended either one or five years ago, depending on who you ask. It was a real disaster. And it was the only relationship I've ever had, so there's that too.
Almost every woman I've met since around my age I haven't been interested in, even a little bit. I don't know what it is. I think I'll have to start settling soon just to be seen as normal by my family. I certainly can't tell them the truth.
HUMANS ARE INTERESTING
>>181
no theyre not
hit me up for a good time;) 4254175777
I asked a girl out, I thought she was interested in me. Turned out she was gay but just really nice.
A woman gave me her number around two weeks ago. I was getting some teeth removed and she was the dentist's assistant. I really don't remember what she looks like or what I said to her because of the anesthetic they gave me. I told myself I would call when I had finally healed from the surgery, but I have refrained from doing so. I don't what to say to her.
And so I'll keep thinking about it and never act on it like I always do.
So it goes.
Nothing's happening, as usual. I just work and drink and sleep and repeat that process. I'm not interested in women, so I don't mind this kind of life, but living alone might get rough after a while. I may have to settle on someone just to have companionship of some kind. I don't like that idea, but what else can I do?
Most of the time, I'm totally fine. I don't mind being alone, I actually kind of enjoy it (especially when I see my friends in their relationships being miserable). I live like they do, except I don't constantly have to be on the phone telling them what I'm going to do or where I'm going to go. It's nice.
But every now and then, I become overwhelmed with a sudden sadness or loneliness. It would be nice to have somebody to talk to about shit. Or, it's like, "What's wrong with me?" Why don't I seem to be capable of what everyone else is? People say "Just talk to a girl," and I've tried, but it's difficult. It's like I'm trying to communicate in a language I don't understand. I just never learned the rules to the game.
This only lasts for a day or two at most, usually, and then I forget about it or stop caring about it.
I feel like a shitfuck for even making this post, but it's kind of therapeutic to get it out.
I hope all of you people end up happy
so here i am, finally in japan.. i'm always witing for a hermes-tan.. man can't seem to find one.. but all the chicks here are so fine.. a handful are fuglies.. y
almost 3years in, no gf in japan yet.. but there's a kid about 15yrs old is so into me.. i dunno what to do. i'm no lolicon but she is so cute.. help? i'm15yrs her senior btw.
more like 18-21years her senior.. damn
>>193 well in some cases i know some girls like guys that are older because they feel like they are more mature. but 18-21 years older that can cause a few problems such as generation gap. i know people who are 55 years old that have a girlriend who is 20 years younger then them, they sometimes get into a few fights due to generation gap as older people wont understand what the younger generation are thinking.