... with that said.. I'll reply to some of the posts.

Actually, >>85, I was planning on taking your approach. But then I realized that they only thing I could get from that approach is an answer. I'd find out why she's been acting the way she has. But that's not what I really want.. what I want is to be with her. So I think casual and slow will be best. I may not get an answer right away, but I think my chances will be better in getting what I really want.