I HATE BEING SINGLE!!!
You forgot to 400get.
Besides, the only reason anyone does anything is for recognition. (Fame, fortune, selfishness and personal gratification are also common reasons.)
...Wait, what's the topic again?
I don't know anymore...
If I don't guess, then I won't know.
CRAWLLLLING INNN MY SKIIIN THESE WOUNNNDS THEY WILLLLL NOT HEAAAAL!
Man, I really miss MSN :(
Maybe he over-did it again and is too ashamed to post here.
PLEASE, MSN COME BACK!! I need to know, and you need to keep trying!!
Hey guys, I'm >>352. We sort of talked about it again the day before yesterday, and she's still up for it.
I was planning to ask her what day this week she was available to, but I just couldn't make myself. My only available day will be tuesday, so I may have to ask her tomorrow if I want to.
If I don't I'll meet her on friday anyway (concert.)
You see, we've been talking alot on MSN for about a month now, but I can't help but to think I will screw up if we actually meet.
Also, I'm deeply moved that this girl actually wants to spend time with me.
I'm so shy :(
Great!
But keep it in your head to be her FRIEND first. If something else comes later.. fantastic. But for now she is a friend, and don't go crazy thinking about confessing your feelings or anything.
Ask her! You already have a rapport with her so it's not like asking someone out of the blue. Find a movie she would like and mention it when you bring up the subject. If she says no, you'll still see her at the concert, right?
>>407
Man, I might have done something stupid like that if you didn't say that.
Actually, I just found out I'm going to be busy all week (my 17th birthday amongst things), but I'll meet the girl on friday, anyway so it's cool 8)
Still want to see a movie with her, though :) I'll talk with her about it.
>>408
I'm pretty sure she'll say yes to see a movie.
Oops, I meant to age this.
A movie wouldn't be a bad idea at all really, but a location where you could talk would be better. Do you live in the LA area? If so I know a buttload of fantastic coffee shops.
Hey all, I posted here before and I need some help. I've been flirting with this girl I like for the past week, we've been calling each other "darling", "dearie", and "dearest", but right now my friend just said that he thinks that the girl might be the type that might not be looking for a relationship. I was just wondering what you guys think. I really REALLY like her a lot, but at the same time I dont' want to be disappointed like I've been in the past. I get the vibe that she likes me but I don't know 100% if she would be willing to start a relationship. Please help. Thanks.
oh and if it helps my case any, she has her facebook listed as "single" and "whatever I can get"....also, I invited her to go with me to Disneyland during the start of next quarter without actually talking to her too much prior and she said she would be "more than happy" to go.....hopefully this will help you guys determine whether or not she would be open to dating me...thanks all
>>412
take a chance. if it works it works, if not it doesn't. don't stay in limbo though or you'll end up falling into the "friend zone".
facebook?
lol facebook is a college student database, kind of like "myspace.com" or "friendster.com"...people can post if they're single and looking for "friendship", "dating", "a relationship", or "whatever I can get"....think of it like an advanced scouting list if you want to know whether or not a girl is single ;)!
lol densha otoko
>>412
Sounds like you are more or less in the clear. Give it a go soon or you will fall into friend territory.
My main concern is that she lives in Florida right now LOL talk about the start of a freaking wierd relationship!!!! and I'm in California thats like 1,000,000 miles apart! So I don't know what to do! GAFGADFASDFJK!!!!!! She'll be returning to California next month though when we reunite at UCSB. OMFG I don't know what to do...oh, and if it helps any; we were friends before this ~_~.......dies
>>419
you people are way too tense over your relationships. don't be so serious all the time. if things work out they work out. if they don't you would end up miserable sooner or later no matter how infatuated you may be right now, and are better off seeking someone else.
>>419
So you've been calling each other darling only on the internet? Or has she been in Florida for only a short while?
>>420
hahah exactly true. If it's meant to be it's meant to be, but a lot of the people here (not everyone) haven't been in "real" relationships, just online ones, so they don't know how to interact properly. Let this thread be their safety net because they have no other source of advice.
Hope you make it through the snow, if you're around the east coast.
Good luck, 352 otoko! lol
I think the movie-thing is off, but I could still ask her again. Also, she might not come to the concert, but I said she should come on MSN.
>>424
I'm not in America.
...but there's snow here too.
about 3-4 hours 'till I'm going. I'm not gonna be bloody nervous. At least I'll try. I'll talk to her, at least.
The thing is, I have no idea what she's thinking, and it's driving me nuts. I have no idea what's going on when we talk on MSN, other than we talk about a lot of things, and she likes talking to me, however, I might not be as talkative when we meet. Espescially on this concert-thing.
At least I'll see her.
Maybe I'll ask her if she wants to do something sometime.
Bye.
Do your best, 352!
U should def go for it! we are all here for u!! GO GO GO!!
Forget about asking her if it's going to make you nervous, just focus on having a good time with her at the concert.
Okay, so things turned out quite funny.
She didn't have a ride to the concert, and we were talking on MSN.
She lives a lot longer away from the concert than I, so it was quite a problem (she would come late etc.)
She asked me what bus I was taking, and then I said "well, I got my dad to drive me." (shut up) And then... "wait. should i ask him if he's willing to drive to x so we could give you a ride?"
And that's what happened. Both went to the concert in the same car. She was pretty quiet, and there was a lot of silence. I guess I'm not the only one who can be shy. Maybe because of my dad? I think so.
So yeah, the concert were fun, we jumped around and so and so. We didn't really talk as much as I'd wanted but it was fun enough.
When the concert ended, I walked her to the bus-stop (with some kid from my street walking next to me ;_;) and then we hugged. Hugged ! Oh yeah, hugs are nice. I casually said "bye, then! speak to you later!"
So, I'm wondering if this was a date or something. We were next to each other almost all the time, and both arrived and left at the same time.
Hug.
What now? Maybe I'll ask her to see a movie sometime. There's also a "prom"-thing coming up that she's going to, but that's really not my thing. Maybe I'll go.
I'll note that we were in the same class for half a year, but now we go to different schools.
Thanks for reading.
kitaaa!
Lol good job. Seems like you didn't over or under do it at all.
>>431
It wasn't a date. Don't let yourself think something is a date unless she explicitly calls it a date.
Movie? Go for it!
KITA! But were there any hints? Or buying signals from her?
I have a bad habit of falling inlove with girls that already have boyfriends :(
One girl a fell in love with twice(she still got the boyfriend the second time) and now i am in love with a girl that i think have a boyfriend.
But i don't know how i can find out. I can't ask her about it(I just started talking to girls about 1-2years ago , i guess i'm a bit shy about it).
Also there is a girl that i like somwhat that don't have a boyfriend , and i think we share some common interests(the one i am in love with now don't share any as far as i can see)
I have been thinking about getting to know the girl that im just like a bit better.
What should i do?
Also how should i start getting to know the girl? Im to shy to just go and start talking to her. But we do share the same class at school.
>>436
I think you're using the term "love" way too liberally...
>>437
everyone does in America, this is the country where people love chocolate.
Hey Demian, did you find anything in the market?
I have odd problems of falling for girls i just plain dont have access to, either, insane time issues, or distance, or just, inavailablity. Mabye I have a case of always wanting what I cant have....
(time issues = theyre way too busy, just, all the time)
Everyone's too busy all the time. I have no friends for the same reason: my "friends" are always occupied doing this or that. Those of us who have a spare hour a day to post on the Internet are a rare bunch, I guess.
wow this thread feels alive...
someone fill me in on this MSN guy?
sounds pretty interesting lol
test test
We're still waiting for updates from the now about 3 guys who may have prospects for a relationship.
Maybe they all killed themselves... (・Д・;)
Densha Otoko this ain't I guess.
Not enough stick-to-it-iveness in the group. :(
Have you asked her out yet, 352?
Sorry, no.
>>446
for lack of BACKBONE
watch and learn, boys.
So you're still alive, and you've talked to her. What about? Come on, we need details!
I wonder about the other two guys... Seems like magic stories like densha for example don't really happen that often.
Of course it's not going to happen that often. However, people at least have a chance if they put effort into it, and keep themselves motivated.
it seems MSN is gone... sigh...
well I wish the best of luck to the rest of you, but I will not be following this thread anymore. BENOIST!
...
>>452
I don't know anymore. I'm sorta confused.
I'm not sure I like her as a friend or something else.
Maybe I'll find out by doing something with her sometime, so I guess I'll ask her out sometime. Maybe.
ALERT! Okay guys. New story here.
I might be asking this girl who's just a casual friend (for now) out for a New Years Countdown concert/fireworks thingy if I catch her on MSN later or something, cos a singer she likes is performing.
I'm banking on the fact that we live very near each other and the event takes place like 10 minutes away from our place.
But I haven't been contacting her much recently, so if anything comes out of this it'll be a bonus.
You probably wouldn't know, cos he's a mandarin pop singer. I'm living somewhere in Southeast Asia =).
BTW, I read through MSN Otoko's posts, and I found that I faced the exact same agony of not being able to H+I+Enter recently, cos the previous few conversations on MSN went quite boringly IMO.
I'm thinking about messaging her on her mobile phone if I don't catch her online, but it'll probably seem desperate?
Okay, a group of my guy friends are also probably planning a night out in town to welcome the New Year. I'd feel like a dick for blowing them off for a girl (that's IF I actually get around to asking and her saying yes).
Man, screw them. Don't you think they would blow you off for a girl? No? If not you should maybe wait until after new-year to ask her out.
Okay, turns out to be anti climatic. Didn't actually get around to askin her out. I started off by messaging her mobile, asking if she was doing anything tomorrow and turns out she already had dinner plans. No surprise I guess, I would be lucky getting anything to happen, asking so late.
But judging from the response I 'm getting (through the the text msgs), I probably have a whole lotta work left to do before she's gonna go out with me anyway...
More significant developments (maybe), once my school term starts on the 3rd of January.
Hmm, dinner plans. Are you sure she's single? What kind of response did you get?
Confirmed single, that one I know.
Lukewarm normal response ie nothing to show that she's excited that I'm msging her, the kind that goes "oh having dinner haha, why?". I don't msg her on the mobile regularly anyway, most of our contact is through MSN, despite the fact that we live 5 minutes away from each other and go to the same school (but different faculties ARGH).
there are so many coincidences b/w us I just feel it's fated.
>>464
probably a family or social event
maybe a girl's night out in town; akin to freshie's guy's night out
Turned out it rained heavily, so luckily it didnt go through lol. And guys' night out wasn't too bad, anyway happy new year single men!
Anyway I haven't wish her happy new year, should I? I thought maybe I would inject a little unpredictability. After all, I did wish her merry christmas and to have a good trip when she went overseas.
No reason why not.
>>467
Don't forget to let us know how it goes if you do. We need DETAILS!
Bah. Too much joy. We're all loners.
I don't see any joy in this thread. Just a lot of stories left hanging.
Okay, a better word would be "excitement".
I miss the depression and the moaning and the dwelling.
mabye, they went on for a solution for themselves? or, it ended, and they dont wanna bother posting the end to it?
anyway, i got a story. how do you meet girls when you're 16? just, im totally baffled, i have no idea, clueless. seriously, any places you could reccomend i go, or whatever? im stumped. girls in my school regard me as a friend (nothing else, nothing less, nothing more, closed off), or, i just dont like their personality. lol, really, im just, totally clueless. think i should just wait till im in college? but ah, age is still years without a girlfriend. ive really, walked all over town, hung out at several different places, gone out to meet different people, but, like, i just dont see any girls my age at all even! ahhh wonder what to do, ill stay inside.......
Where have you tried too meet girls?
everywhere, seriously....lol, and i dont mean nerdy bookstore places or game stores either, if thats what youre thinking. just, alot of places
It has been about two weeks since I posted here. Unfortunately, at least for some of the people on this board, I have not followed up on the plan which I developed together with 4-ch dwellers. The reason may sound lame to the adventurous, and perhaps ridiculous to others. However, since there were so many friendly souls here who tried to help, I feel an obligation to them to at least share this reason.
Even though my last few posts on this board were positive, I began to have doubts about the plan. The plan was excellent and might well achieve the goal I had set: to make a friendly, intelligent and pretty girl become interested in me and contact me. You guys helped me develop the plan and gave me strength, and for that I thank you. full stop.
But then what? After some no doubt exciting time we might become a couple? It sounds strange but the prospect does not motivate me. Does a man necessarily have to find a woman to share his life with? For that is what it means to become a couple, at least to me. I do not feel ready to share my life yet, I am content with being single. I did not tell you before that I live far away from my parents, I visit them only every three months. Perhaps you can imagine that it takes some time to adjust to a selfsustaining lifestyle - I have to do everything myself. With all the difficulties arising from this, I feel it to be premature to look for a romance.
Due to the above objections, I aborted the plan. It is too early and I don't want any of it as of yet. I apologize for the disappointment. Again, thanks to all of you who helped me. I will no longer participate in this board until, perhaps, I truly want to start a relation.
I'm so fucking busy with school there's nothing much to update. Went home with her the other day, though it was only by coincidence, but seriously, school's taking up like 70% of my time. This sucks.
>>476
That's perfectly understandable. Please continue to participate in this board anyway; leaving it is not necessary.
Makes sense to me, if you in your heart are not ready for that type of thing, then don't worry about it. When the time is right it will happen and then you will have to act.
THOUGH I ENJOY MY SINGLE LIFE I AM STARTING TO GET SEXUAL FRUSTRATION
>>480
amen to that
There's really no reason to post anymore. >>480 already summarized everything that will ever be said in this thread.
Cut thread here
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>>476
No need to apologize, it's your life. If you don't want to get into a relationship, our opinion is irrelevant. Please don't feel you have to leave 4-ch entirely, you're one of the more articulate people here.
Do keep her address stashed somewhere though, in case you ever change your mind ;D.
oh my goddess i think i have done it broken out my singularity and now had a god damm girl friend
>>487 confirmed i an no longer single
Hey guys, been a while.
On saturday (the twelfth,) it's the girls birthday.
She invited me to her party, and said I could bring friends.
As you may have understood from my earlier posts, I'm not really the guy for parties.
I'm not really sure what kind of party this'll be, but considering she said there'll be around 70 people (including many of her male friends i don't know) I have a pretty good idea.
Also, of my friends, I can only imagine one who would want to go (and it's not likely),and I don't want to turn up there alone when nobody knows who the fuck I am, and I'll stand in the corner looking goofy and then leave early.
I actually want to go, but I don't really know what to expect.
Maybe I worry too much.
Anyway, I'll probably go, probably not.
>>487
Give us the DETAILS!
>>493
gasp! lol, you should drag ur friend to come along, least one person with you anyway, it does ease the pain. or, well, try and meet new people? and eeeeeeeeeeeee, ive been in those situations before, and they ARE rough, but, just, gotta try and meet new people, and try and possibly get that moment alone with her =P, thats all i can think of i suppose....
tall order...
Do your best and hopefully get some alcohol in your system. Should help you relax
Of all the days of the week I can ask her out, I choose the one when she's the busiest. Awesome!
>>496
Dude, you'll get another chance, seriously.
I'm too shy. I never know how to approach girls.
Welcome to the club. (´･ω･`) sigh
I'm the 500th lonely guy on 4-ch.