I HATE BEING SINGLE!!!
A nice thing would be stuff that is good for using while you study maybe. Like some nice cookies, coffee, um... CD can be a tough one due to everyone's got different taste. But yeah also think about what you saw she had shopped for previously. A gift certificate in with a thoughtful "finals survival pack" could be very nice.
A thank you card would also be a nice touch to put in with the gift. A gift certificate would be much too impersonal, it wouldn't give her any reason to contact him. I like the cookies >>328 mentioned. Can you cook at all? Some homemade treats might make a good impression.
I know that I have little going for me, in fact I am trying a long, long shot. However, she did after all offer me a ride. Why would she do that? I hope that it was because I interested her in some way but of course I do not know if that was the real reason.
Thank you for the suggestions, especially the idea about "finals survival pack!" I will keep it in mind and think about essential exam-preparation materials. Unfortunately I can hardly cook and barely bake anything at all. In America I believe it is common practice to bring cookery as a gift, so I don't know but in the Netherlands it is quite rare so I think it would leave a retard impression.
>>324
>>328
Don't give her cups, thats like opening up the presents for christmas and finding out they are all clothes - boring.
How about something todo with studing or christmas ? Some cookies sounds like a good idea, she can snak on them while shes studying ;)
>>329 has a good idea about some home made cookies, that would show you really care. Also put them in a proper dish, so she has an excuse to return it to you :D
No Gift voucher, too imporsonal.
YOu need to put in a letter, thanking her for the lift. You could say that you were so greatful for the lift that you forgot to exchange names, and ask her....
I also think that homemade cookies would be a nice gift, especially in a pretty tin or something. I know doinkies always likes getting freshly-made cookies for Christmas.
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>>326
I fully agree.
I'm sorry, Demian, but please, wake up. Don't send a gift.
Send a small letter or something. If she contacts you, she's interested. If she doesn't, she isn't.
Not everything is as complicated or elaborate as Densha or MSN. It's often best just to do small things and see where they go. Be traditional in this case, not Densha Otoko.
Sorry, but I really, really must advise against sending anything more than a letter. A gift would be weird, stalker-ish, awkward, and in the end, a waste of money/time.
Sorry.
p.s. where's MSN, anyway? I'm really missing you, man ；；
Maybe she killed him.
gift would be weird, stalker-ish, awkward, and in the end, a waste of money/time.
Ok, so you want something casual, and not too expensive. I still think cookies are the best suggestion so far..
No point in giving a voucher, you may as well just give her some money for the petrol, and neither of those leaves much reason for you to ever see her again.
a gift is not stalkerish. people give gifts for many reasons.
cookies would be a great gift along with a thank you note. good luck!
Listen. No girl would ever drive a random stranger around unless she liked him in some way. I am not saying she is in love with him or something, but that's really not something that happens all the time.
Yeah definately he does not want to go overboard here. But giving a small present in return is no big deal. Considering what she did for him, it would not seem stalkerish, unless he spent way too much or sent a bunch of presents one after another. If he seemed creepy to her, she would have not spoken to him in the first place.
Thank you all for the support. I really like the exam survival pack kit since she used those imminent exams as an excuse to go out shopping. It is usefull and it is funny. But what should be in it? I thought of some red bull cans, some fruit and some ginkgo tea or likewise. Do you have any more ideas to fill a basket?
Finals Survival Pack Assembly Project: GO!
Something to snack on like microwave popcorn? (I have no idea what the common snack foods are where you live.)
RED BULL KITAA!!!
Seriously, however, I think we're forgetting the one vital ingredient here - Chocolate. A decent sized bar of milk/dark chocolate (not white, NEVER white) is always a "dead cert", especially among the ladies. You can't really go wrong with chocolate, in my opinion.
iv been single for allmost 5 years now but the times that seem to make me want to be with someone are short but they seems to last so long i try god knows i try but can't seems to find anyone who suites me
orz
Seems like a good idea, so long as its not overkill (i.e too much). Be careful with the chocolate, you don't want to do the overkill thing. Some Chocolate bars would probably work better, then a slab or a box...
The other guy is right, no girl would give a guy they found creey, a lift home.
Let's brainstorm ideas!
Definately red bull. Maybe coffee or flavored coffee. Cookies (even like one of those little single serving bags from the grocery store.) Crackers. A couple pencils and pens. Blank CDs (to back stuff up?). Candle? (Urg candles are like the ultimate gift for when you don't know what to give so probably not.) Index cards? They are good for studying.
http://www.bsu.edu/alumni/start/startsurvival/
http://shop.store.yahoo.com/clarkstore/sprinfinsurk.html
Maybe they have this at a local bookstore, it may be funny and appropriate:
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0811842304/qid=1133817604/sr=8-5/ref=sr_8_xs_ap_i5_xgl14/002-2871919-1860834?n=507846&s=books&v=glance
(In case that link doesn't work, it's the "Worst-Case Scenario Survival Handbook: College") It seems to have little fun quips so it would be nice light reading for a laugh.
great post >>345
i'd say no to the candles (definately) and not the blank cds..
"Worst-Case Scenario Survival Handbook: College" - great idea :)
What about a nice looking notebook?
Also if you go with the gift basket idea,
1) BE VERY CAREFUL not to make it strangely large and be creepy
2) Use christmas as an excuse for why you're making a big deal about her ranfom act of kindness.
hey guys. I just got linked to this thread from d-addicts.com's Single Ranting thread!! and look here is another real one!!!
haha the world is really small. by reading the last 50 posts to catch up, i've missed some details. at least i think, i know there is a Finals Survival Pack Assembly Project. but why would u need cds or anything? is it a camping business? if so, i would care more about flashlight, fire and personal and daily accessories like toothbrush and stuff. hope that helps!
How about a couple of energy/meal replacement bars?
http://www.roadandtravel.com/health/2005/snackormealbar.htm
I agree with the index cards or a nice notepad or small notebook. If you go with the christmas excuse, maybe a cute santa hat?
Another good and unique stimulant tea is Mate de Coca or Coca Tea, if you can find it. http://www.peruconnections.com/inkatea/physical.html
>>347
Here's a link to a few highlights of MSN Otoko. Maybe you could pass it on? ;)
http://4-ch.net/general/kareha.pl/1130119860/42-82,169-182,185-201,223-238
>>347
Finals are tests, nothing to do with camping
>>347
what
Awesome! A girl I kinda like just indirectly asked me to see a movie with her. It will happen by me saying I want her to see a movie with her, though. Kind of a weird situtation.
I wonder if i'll be able to build up the guts.
haha sure thing guys. I started telling this chat channel to my friend already. he didn't believe me. so i gave him the URL. :D
anyways, where is Msn otaku?
otoko =/= otaku
>>354 MSN otoko is an otaku for girls w
KIITTA!!!
KIITTA!!!
sigh...I'm worried about MSN...;_;
>>358 Worry not about MSN-kun; he's either too busy to post, or he's simply forgotten. Either way, I'm sure he's got a perfectly good reason. Just be patient.
Demian's last post was 3 days ago. Great, now we have two lovelorn schmoes gone AWOL.
Single mens rant thread huh? Trying to start another legend but this time in America?
Maybe I should start then...
I went into glasses store recently, in search of overpriced sunglasses, and a beautiful Korean girl was working there (this was at the Korean market btw) well didn't speak any English so I had to speak some Korean. She was so excited and we traded numbers. She said that she would be moving to Koreatown in one week and would get a full time job at a restaurant. She told me to come visit her.
So, I called her, and let her know I would be going in. A friend and I drove out to K-town and went to this ultra fancy restaurant that she worked at. The food was majorly pricey but I figured it was worth it. She served us a couple beers and some food and meanwhile invited me to her apartment to teach her english when I finish my finals. Later when I asked for the check she told me that I didn't have to pay anything, that she took care of it. So I walked away with free beer, food, and a possible sex invitation... God I hope she's not just after my citizenship!
As of yet, there is no development in the process as I'm still trying to get hold of a suitable container, such as a basket. Tomorrow there is a market and I hope to find suitable material there. Currently the basket will contain 2 redbull cans, some chocolate, markers, small sticky notes, 2 apples, some tea and a small note-block. I hope that will be enough.
Should be enough I think. A cute well thought out small gift is the way to go in that situation. Make sure to put a very short thank you note. Make you to tease! Love is a GAME.
Sounds great Demian :)
How about getting a nice christmas card, and thanking her for the lift home that day, how she saved you ;) and figure out how you can put in your contact info.
Looks like Demian has taken over for MSN...
>>367
You make it sound like a bad thing :P
This is the single man's rant thread afterall, anyone is free to apply!
I AM SO ALOOOOOOOOOONE.
I'm not sure why I don't seem to have much interested in dating. (and no, I'm not HAADO GEI...)
My idea of what constitutes 'attractive' doesn't really mesh with what society seems to view as attractive. You would think that would make things easier, right? I don't know.
I've got to do something, though. I'm 24, and while that certainly isn't old by any means, my opportunities seem to diminish constantly. Part of that is the fact that I've never really dated anyone (at least that lived in the same state, lol), so I don't really know how to proceed... and so I create the idea that I want to date someone younger, that might be equally inexperienced. But as I get older, that becomes less and less of a possibility...
You know, we ought to have assignments in this thread. Like, everyone has to try to get a date this week, etc.
Hmm... it's weird. If anything, I'd say I prefer cute over hot. But it's really kind of variable... I'm not doing a good job of epxlaining.
You're right, you're not. Try naming some people who fit your tastes.
Just caught on late but... I wonder how MSN is getting along. As much as it pains me to say it, this will probably not end fantastically if I pursues the romantic route. I think he should just settle for being friends because otherwise he stands to lose it all. But then again, getting majorly butt-hurt might enable him to find someone else down the road. Demian's deal is in the beginning stages but I think it has some good possibilities. Demian, what type of guy are you?
>>370
If we had assignments i would fail all the time orz
MSN WHERE ARE YOU :(
>>377
Traitor! He will come back!
>>376
Heaven, is it you that I am arguing with in the Japanese thread?
ehhh ignore >>380. I'm new to this bbs and I didn't realize that there are duplicate or masked tripcodes?
"heaven" is your ID if you type something in the email field.
They're not tripcodes. They're IP hashes. Tripcodes would go next to the name. In a kareha board like this, they can be set to be the same over the whole board, over only individual threads, or to never be the same. Saging masks it.
I see... man I'm noob
^^^^ Yay, I did it! ^^^^^ ...
>>386 I see what you didn't do there
Hello, I am >>386's bunion. I am writing this while he is asleep. I must apologize for my owner's use of a name even though he hasn't done anything of note and no one cares who he is. He is young and inexperienced, so please go easy on him.
I don't see a need for anonymity, to be honest, and even though I haven't done anything it doesn't matter much. No one really "cares" who anyone is here anyway. Isn't that why it's anonymous?
Your own toe just pwned you (´ー`)b
You better switch to being anon to avoid further embarasment associated with your name! Hurry! People on the internet are laughing at you as we speak!
Back on topic! Resume ranting on the topic of "SINGLE MALEHOOD"!
I don't hate being single. I have all my valuable time for myself.
OK. People on the internet are laughing at me... thats pretty rough. I don't think its possible to be embarassed on the internet? Unless you are the Numa numa guy or star wars kid...
Being single is nice, I just ended a one year relationship a month ago and the free time is nice. Now I can work more, make more money, and study harder. Life is pretty good. But the dating game is a pain in the ass.
>>392
We're laughing at you because you pretty much ignored the customs of this board and expected us to not care that you did. Way to be arrogant. (´ー`)b
I passed-up the chance of love for game programming and airsoft guns! (´ー`)b
>>393
That's complete bullshit okay. Expecting only important people to use names (BECAUSE I AM SO IMPORTANT AM MY EGO IS HUGE AMIRITE) is much worse than having everyone use names. And being nameless is a choice, okay, not everyone has to or wants to do it.
For what its worth I'm sorry I ignored the customs of the board but, it's not like I was threatening any of you or anything. I'm just saying its not a huge deal. I figured that for people who complain about not fitting into society you would all be more accepting of mistakes and such, but everyone here seems act like jerks towards those who don't understand all the rules.
>>393
And I expect you not to care, how important is this forum to you? What you percieve as arrogance I think is more a matter of me not glorifying all that is anonymous BBS.
Apologies to all, this will be my last off topic post.
back on topic:
Gosh I wonder where MSN went? Oh yeah, he's waiting for a check so he can take a girl out for coffee. MSN... I hope you don't get too butt-hurt.
Demian seems to actually have a realistic chance but I don't think a gift basket is a good idea. A 10$ gift card and a card with a short note is ALL that is necessary. Girls hate to be smothered. They like to be teased. Go all out in the beginning and you get nothing in the end. I can say this because I've failed many times.
this is cuntish
sigh...If only MSN were here, we wouldn't be reduced to arguing...-_-
You forgot to 400get.
Besides, the only reason anyone does anything is for recognition. (Fame, fortune, selfishness and personal gratification are also common reasons.)
...Wait, what's the topic again?
I don't know anymore...
If I don't guess, then I won't know.
CRAWLLLLING INNN MY SKIIIN THESE WOUNNNDS THEY WILLLLL NOT HEAAAAL!
Man, I really miss MSN :(
Maybe he over-did it again and is too ashamed to post here.
PLEASE, MSN COME BACK!! I need to know, and you need to keep trying!!
Hey guys, I'm >>352. We sort of talked about it again the day before yesterday, and she's still up for it.
I was planning to ask her what day this week she was available to, but I just couldn't make myself. My only available day will be tuesday, so I may have to ask her tomorrow if I want to.
If I don't I'll meet her on friday anyway (concert.)
You see, we've been talking alot on MSN for about a month now, but I can't help but to think I will screw up if we actually meet.
Also, I'm deeply moved that this girl actually wants to spend time with me.
I'm so shy :(
Great!
But keep it in your head to be her FRIEND first. If something else comes later.. fantastic. But for now she is a friend, and don't go crazy thinking about confessing your feelings or anything.
Ask her! You already have a rapport with her so it's not like asking someone out of the blue. Find a movie she would like and mention it when you bring up the subject. If she says no, you'll still see her at the concert, right?
>>407
Man, I might have done something stupid like that if you didn't say that.
Actually, I just found out I'm going to be busy all week (my 17th birthday amongst things), but I'll meet the girl on friday, anyway so it's cool 8)
Still want to see a movie with her, though :) I'll talk with her about it.
>>408
I'm pretty sure she'll say yes to see a movie.
Oops, I meant to age this.
A movie wouldn't be a bad idea at all really, but a location where you could talk would be better. Do you live in the LA area? If so I know a buttload of fantastic coffee shops.
Hey all, I posted here before and I need some help. I've been flirting with this girl I like for the past week, we've been calling each other "darling", "dearie", and "dearest", but right now my friend just said that he thinks that the girl might be the type that might not be looking for a relationship. I was just wondering what you guys think. I really REALLY like her a lot, but at the same time I dont' want to be disappointed like I've been in the past. I get the vibe that she likes me but I don't know 100% if she would be willing to start a relationship. Please help. Thanks.
oh and if it helps my case any, she has her facebook listed as "single" and "whatever I can get"....also, I invited her to go with me to Disneyland during the start of next quarter without actually talking to her too much prior and she said she would be "more than happy" to go.....hopefully this will help you guys determine whether or not she would be open to dating me...thanks all
>>412
take a chance. if it works it works, if not it doesn't. don't stay in limbo though or you'll end up falling into the "friend zone".
facebook?
lol facebook is a college student database, kind of like "myspace.com" or "friendster.com"...people can post if they're single and looking for "friendship", "dating", "a relationship", or "whatever I can get"....think of it like an advanced scouting list if you want to know whether or not a girl is single ;)!
lol densha otoko
>>412
Sounds like you are more or less in the clear. Give it a go soon or you will fall into friend territory.
My main concern is that she lives in Florida right now LOL talk about the start of a freaking wierd relationship!!!! and I'm in California thats like 1,000,000 miles apart! So I don't know what to do! GAFGADFASDFJK!!!!!! She'll be returning to California next month though when we reunite at UCSB. OMFG I don't know what to do...oh, and if it helps any; we were friends before this ~_~.......dies
>>419
you people are way too tense over your relationships. don't be so serious all the time. if things work out they work out. if they don't you would end up miserable sooner or later no matter how infatuated you may be right now, and are better off seeking someone else.
>>419
So you've been calling each other darling only on the internet? Or has she been in Florida for only a short while?
>>420
hahah exactly true. If it's meant to be it's meant to be, but a lot of the people here (not everyone) haven't been in "real" relationships, just online ones, so they don't know how to interact properly. Let this thread be their safety net because they have no other source of advice.
Hope you make it through the snow, if you're around the east coast.
Good luck, 352 otoko! lol
I think the movie-thing is off, but I could still ask her again. Also, she might not come to the concert, but I said she should come on MSN.
>>424
I'm not in America.
...but there's snow here too.
about 3-4 hours 'till I'm going. I'm not gonna be bloody nervous. At least I'll try. I'll talk to her, at least.
The thing is, I have no idea what she's thinking, and it's driving me nuts. I have no idea what's going on when we talk on MSN, other than we talk about a lot of things, and she likes talking to me, however, I might not be as talkative when we meet. Espescially on this concert-thing.
At least I'll see her.
Maybe I'll ask her if she wants to do something sometime.
Bye.