I've been waiting.... (791)

1 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-08 06:46 ID:rBmL8F/W This thread was merged from the former /love/ board. You can view the archive here.

I'm usualy just a lurker around the board, but today i have a story... recently i been posting about long distance relationship because I really like this girl that lives in japan. but i live in australia so its really hard if i want to confess to her.. well this is how it all started...

Around 2005 April, i was picked on by some people at school because of my hobby, which is movie making. I'm really like a movie otaku, i love watching movies thats why my dream is to become a film director. most of the girls i knew, i told them about my hobby and they would all ne like "isn't that like really immature??" and later on wont ever talk to me.. it was around November when i was on a japanese pen pal website where i met the japanese girl, her name was Aya. we started emailing each other talking about school and life style ect. then i asked her if she used skype and she said she uses it so we added each other. we started talking in skype, (to those who doesn't know its like msn but you use microphone to talk). for the first time, i told her i'm into film making... she unlike the other girls was actualy intrested in it.. she asked me when can i show her my movie.

we talked almost everyday, mostly for 2 hours and we can always talk about anything like movies, anime, school, music ect.. then one night... we talked for 6 hours! i only had 2 hour sleep because i had to wake up for tennis lessons >"< we got more close after that. for christmas i bought her a bracelet and air mailed it to her, she liked it alot. one day i got her email but was really surprised... usualy at the end of the email she would just write "from Aya" but this time she wrote "Love from Aya". i had this feeling when i saw it. after that, i didn't hear from her for 2 weeks and then one night i got her email asking when can i talk to her... but after that... I've waited for a month and stil counting on... I emailed her before saying i have something to tell her because i planned to confess to her next time we talk.. but now i dont think i can do it because i reckon its highly likely i may get rejected since we are so far away _| ̄|○" the feeling with this girl is different from all the other girls i liked. should i confess or not??

201 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-08-20 12:34 ID:Heaven

btw forgot to mention


202 Name: Otaku Hikki : 2006-08-21 11:08 ID:cYr5ss8q

Just wondering, why do you keep trying to get girls from overseas?

Why not here?

203 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-08-21 11:38 ID:u4dePnhM

well i have actualli, i got rejected 6 times here lol. hhmm i kinda lost intrest to girls here due to that and girls here aint intrested into people like me. i tried a few times to get along with girls here but just doesn;t work for some reason. anyway i'll be seeing KIM at the end of this year cos i'm going back to taiwan.

204 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-21 16:54 ID:uJ6Jwl/v

6 times?!?! holy fuck, 6 girls out of an australian population of 20 million said no.

205 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-08-22 11:17 ID:G6QxEHDw

hmm these people i use to hang around thought i was trying to act hardcore by asking every girl out, i use to play badminton with them. i was only asking out as a friend but i didn't understand that people here thought you were trying to hit on them when you ask them out cos in taiwan i think its normal if you ask them out as a friend, different things i guess. for some odd reason, everytime i like someone i seem to get further away from them like naturely. i guess i'm use to being by my self, my friend says i'm very dependant lol.

anyway i really decided to give up on aya, even if she replies me i'll just stay good friends with her. what do you guys think??

206 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-22 11:31 ID:y/sK/8YS

no wait...

207 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-22 16:38 ID:UXOt+hhz

do it!

208 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-22 21:00 ID:nNB2iArO


>>anyway i really decided to give up on aya, even if she replies me i'll just stay good friends with her. what do you guys think??

I think you're on to something there. Sitting there pining for this girl forever without relief will only eat you up inside.

209 Name: frigid onanoko : 2006-08-22 23:16 ID:y/sK/8YS

Yes. give up on this. I've followed the story while it ran, and this is the only sensible thing left. The reasons to believe love might ensue from this were pretty shallow anyway.

Frigid onanoko can only support this decision. Friends is a boon already.

210 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-23 04:46 ID:843ghjnT

Just hope that it's not one of those "moving on" things that you keep on doing but coming back to it after she says something nice.....

211 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-08-23 10:09 ID:G6QxEHDw

hahaha i did realize that so i said i'll just stay good friends with her. me and some friends decided to ask these girls out next week, one of them is a family friend of mine so shouldn't be hard to ask, maybe this is starting fresh! ah i'm stil talking to kim latley lol

212 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-08-26 10:00 ID:G6QxEHDw

it seems my luck with girls is really bad, apparently no girls could go next week so the arrangements got cancelled... well i dont really mind but loosing a little confidence in this type of situation more now. lol i'm pretty screwed for my formal next year, prob wont go since i got no one to take and cost alot as well...i'm stil not giving up, gonna try again next time!

213 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-26 14:15 ID:ftaUl2Xe

Take a friend, that's what I did. IMO, formals are a bigger deal to the parents than the kids though. Don't go crazy over it.

214 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-08-27 15:37 ID:G6QxEHDw

i was going to take a friend, even told the girls to bring friends. but they just couldn't go so we cancelled it, o well.

got so drunk tonight at my brothers birthday party, first time LOL!!

215 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-27 20:14 ID:UXOt+hhz

hooray beer!

216 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-08-28 12:51 ID:wrDP0b1r

lol i had 4 bottles and got so high!~

anyway i'm intrested in this girl who lives in the same place!
well the funny thing is this girl who i talked to a bit 3 months ago, started talking to me on the weekend saying how she sees me at my bus stop everyday. she goes to the same school as my family friend and she sometimes jokes about trrying to get me to go for my family friend. so i said "are you trying to get me to go for her?" so she says "nahh got my own problems" so i being nice said that if she has any problems, feel free to ask me. she says "nah its private" but my computer lagged for a sec so i didn't reply when she suddenly said "ok, but dont tell anyone like...(this list of names) promise!?" so i said yea and she tells me about this guy who stalks her and gets too jealous easily. the guy sounds so weird, he cried infront of her and hugged her so tight while saying "I love you".

i also talk to this other girl, we just talked about anime all night lol!! and apparently she looks cute i heard xD i think this is a good fresh start to get over aya! btw i tried to call her last nite and this random girl picks up saying "moshi moshi?!" she couldn't speak english at all, so funny xD

217 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-28 13:01 ID:Heaven

dude. long distance call gone to waste. not funny.

218 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-28 13:33 ID:nNB2iArO


lol, as long as you're having fun I guess.

219 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-08-29 09:46 ID:wrDP0b1r

lol i know its expensive, my house has this dial where it cost onl 7 cents a minute!

anyway i'm thinking of trying to get close to this girl i was talking to last nite. shes really into anime LOL!~ she also goes to the badminton place, i was thinking maybe i should go so i could meet her face to face. i'm gonna try another arrangement to ask the girls out, like i'll ask some friends to come with me and tell them to bring friends as well, what you guys think??

220 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-29 12:28 ID:ftaUl2Xe

LDRs rarely work out, but if you absolutely must meet, then by all means do so. Besides, you have no idea if you'll even like each other when you meet.

221 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-29 16:17 ID:UXOt+hhz

why bring friends along? that will only make her think that you want to be friends. just ask the girl out for ice cream or something along those lines.

222 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-08-30 10:11 ID:wrDP0b1r

so u mean i should just ask her out like just me and her?!

223 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-08-30 11:32 ID:wrDP0b1r

just talk to the girl on the phone, god her voice sounds so cute!~ we're meeting next friday at the badminton place, yes that badminton place LOL!! i was pretty nervous when i was talking to her, she giggled alot when i went a little speechless....oh btw her name is LYSS. her voice is stuck in my head! bah so cute XD! btw last time i went to that badminton place, i was so nervous i didn't talk at all and made my self look like a complete idiot, so this time i'm gonna take some courage and talk to the girls there, i think i will be so nervous that i'll stop breathing ~~" so gonna embarras my self there, i cant play badminton anymore, cant even hit the damn shutle now... any advice??

224 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-30 13:10 ID:Heaven

yeah, hit the shuttle, not the cock.

225 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-30 13:12 ID:Heaven

ps. you sound like a cute guy....except ur 17 rite? dontcha have some important exams to do in like a month or so? i know i do..

226 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-30 15:12 ID:ftaUl2Xe

A voice is a voice. Don't set yourself up for a huge fall, hope it works out.

227 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-30 18:35 ID:UXOt+hhz

hey ask her to teach you how to play. it would make a good date.

228 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-30 20:19 ID:nNB2iArO


This sounds like a good idea.

Also don't worry about embarassing yourself, worry about not doing things in fear of embarassment. If you cut yourself down because you're scared, you will just seem boring and unattractive.

229 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-30 20:51 ID:kDfov1vi


>> i'm pretty screwed for my formal next year, prob wont go since i got no one to take and cost alot as well

That's not a bad thing. Just stay home and play Pokemon or watch anime or something like I did. At the end of the night, you'll actually have something to show for yourself, unlike the people who went to that formal. Basically, they just wasted a ton of money and time to sit around talking without anything to show for their time. Lame.

230 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-30 21:17 ID:UXOt+hhz

Yeah, stay at home by yourself with only Pikachu as your friend. Go ahead and watch anime that you could see on any night of the year. Yes sir, nothing is more rewarding than avoiding people and hiding because you are too scared to ask a girl out to the formal or too afraid of just going stag with a bunch of friends and not enjoying yourself. Be lazy, don't get a job so you can pay for the expenses. Man, I regret going to my formal (prom). If I didn't plan on going, I wouldn't have asked this girl to go with me and she wouldn't be my current girlfriend. Yup, watchin anime that I could watch on any night would have been 20x better than spending all night with a cute girl and all of my friends. >>229 you are right, I have nothing to show, just a few pictures, memories and a girlfriend.

benson have hope and have a lot more patience, you will win my friend.

231 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-30 22:01 ID:kDfov1vi

>>Go ahead and watch anime that you could see on any night of the year.

The exact same thing can be said about going to a formal/prom. You sit around doing nothing or talking with people. How is that different from sitting around with friends any other night of the year? Oh, wait... You have to <i>pay</i> for the privelege of attending. No fucking thanks.

232 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-31 00:46 ID:Heaven

lol fag

233 Name: 230 : 2006-08-31 02:32 ID:UXOt+hhz

i give up

234 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-31 03:54 ID:1tWWjHvT

I went to the formal by myself. Only because I felt I had to. But I don't see anything wrong with staying home and watching anime. I barely remember the formal and I have no photos of it. I doubt it will be a memory that I will hold onto til the day I die. But I can remember every plot line of every anime I have ever watched. Now that is something I will hold onto til the day I die.

235 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-31 09:09 ID:Heaven

haha that is funny seeing as you never went to a formal -_-.
this isn't a matter of money. i know alot of stingy people who went to my formal. why? because memories are priceless. if you actually socialised you would know the difference between "sitting around with friends" and attending an event that would potentially be one of the most memorable time of your life. take it from the words of someone who actually went to their formal. live life with no regrets and don't do something that will be a cause for embarassment when you grow up and look back on life.

236 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-31 09:33 ID:Heaven

If a formal is one of the most memorable events in your life I wouldn't want to live that life. I weep for you

237 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-08-31 09:50 ID:ngTqiKkv

>>225 lol well not at the moment, exams are around November so i stil have time now xD

well yesterday i was talking to Lyss again on msn, and i cannot beleive how nice she is. well 2 months ago, i had to walk home for 1 hour and 30 mins in the rain cos the person who picks me up forgot about it, my parents were overseas and my older brother was stil at uni. around my area they dont have much walkpaths cos its near the bushy mountain area. so i told her about this and shes shocked, like really surprised and said "what if you got....pneumonia or something like that ><"""""""", *slightly paranoid" and then said "you wont do that again right?!" so i said no and she said "thats good! :)" then later on.. this convo happened

Lyss: just curious...you made up your nickname right? its not form a song right?
Benson: yeah i made it up
Lyss: I've been meaning to ask if you were ok.. coz "kurayami"(darkness) is kinda depressing...
Benson: oh that name is like from ages ago, just forgot to change it (btw the name said "the world of darkness has come back to me") i think the name was around..... april or something
Lyss:ohh! are you ok now? you are right?!
Benson: yeaa i'm great! xD its all good now, thanks anyway^^
Lyss: ttthatts good =]]!

oh btw her msn was on busy and it said she was doing hww....is this going somewhere?!!

also.. i was thinking... if i win or get to know lyss ver well i mite ask her to the formal next year.. btw >>234 its so bad to go to the formal by your self since you have to pay while you got no one else to take and people will laugh at you for not having a girl to take there, thats why a few people are thinking of not going next year. i dont see whats wrong watching anime on that night if you got no one to take there... but i reckon it will be a good memory if you could go. some poeple think other people who dont go to formal are loosers, i dont know why they think that...jsut cos we dont have to pay so much money to go into some place with a girl and talk.... well anyway it stil a long time till my formal so i got ALL the time to think about it xD

238 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-31 13:54 ID:Heaven

Eh? Why not? Lemme guess, you hated your life at highschool or something? It's not the formal itself. It's what it represents. The friends, atmosphere, final year, growing up, celebration.

Save the tears for yourself man.

239 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-31 14:46 ID:UXOt+hhz


A lot of people lose their virginity at their formals at least in America.

240 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-31 16:51 ID:ftaUl2Xe

Yeah, it's considered a mating ritual here. It's prostitution on a grandiose scale.

>>some poeple think other people who dont go to formal are loosers, i dont know why they think that...jsut cos we dont have to pay so much money to go into some place with a girl and talk

Formals are a big deal because people make them a big deal. Nothing has meaning unless meaning is attached to it. Women love it because everyone has to get all dressed up. Guys like it cause a lot of them think they'll get laid afterwards (and many do, but the number is greatly exaggerrated). Parents love it because they get to pretend their kids are adults for one night. Formals are very much an evolved rite of passage out of adolescence into early adulthood from some ancient ceremony our ancestors held. Like other human behavior, anyone that doesn't follow the status quo is different and therefore must be labeled and persecuted.

My formal was nothing special, and I had a date, but then again, we both fell into the "social outcast" archetype. She was against formals, yet she had a dress, so she was pressured by some of her friends to go with me, not exactly how I'd like to get a date, but whatever. I would've went stag, but well...I didn't have any friends.

241 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-31 19:46 ID:UXOt+hhz

you can't fight tradition

242 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-31 22:01 ID:ftaUl2Xe

Try saying that to women and blacks.

243 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-31 22:56 ID:UXOt+hhz

Blacks?! What do they do do with this?

244 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-31 23:05 ID:jQxdPJsL

uuugh let's just ignore >>242, ok?

245 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-31 23:20 ID:VZ8RU3Lh

Don't do it, benson. Going to a formal will destroy you. You'l be there surrounded by dozens of other people, in a noisy, busy environment. That's no good for building a relationship with a girl. Don't you think going somewhere with just the two of you would be better?

Meeting up and playing Pokemon together, or getting a private booth at McDonald's, or something like that where the two of you get to spend some quality time together. That trumps anything you could possibly get out of a get-together you have to pay to attend. Take my word for it.

246 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-01 02:09 ID:1tWWjHvT

Formals suck. I hated every single person in my class. Dipshits, all of them. Why the fuck would I want to talk to them? And why the fuck would I want to remember it? But I do love pokemon and anime. It doesn't sound stupid at all.

247 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-01 03:06 ID:nNB2iArO


You hated everyone in your class? Dipshits, all of them? Ok look you don't come here giving advice, you're a fucking LUNATIC!


Going to a formal can also be a healthy experience for social growth even if it does retain shitty aspects, everything is what you make of it. The last thing you need to do is to take advice from a bunch of spiteful shutins if a normal, fulfilling life together with a woman is what you're aiming for.

I completely agree with >>238

248 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-01 03:32 ID:5C9nkvMQ

if you are trolling, you are a genius.

249 Name: 245 : 2006-09-01 04:27 ID:Heaven


Look, I'll admit that it sounds nice, but it sounds a bit TOO ideal, you know? Spending possibly hundreds of dollars on something, most people would want to feel like they didn't waste their money, so it's possible that people who have attended such things are biased towards it, or they have just fooled themselves into thinking that it was a good experience.

250 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-09-01 07:23 ID:ngTqiKkv

well wat i am thinking at the moment is if i am like close friends with lyss or able to win her, i might ask her to the formal. my bros is nagging me about it as well saying "why wouldn't u go to a formal?!" but come to think about it.. formal is like your last night to have fun with your school friends cos your about to graduate so i dont see whats to bad about going to the formal, but i kinda gree that it spends too much money with formal, u gotta buy a suit and also pay to go in. well anyway thanks to Lyss i'm completly over Aya, i saw her pic last night and she looks pretty cute! mite even be better in real life cos i couldn't really see the pic. apparently her school has this concert tonight, my school concert is next tuesday and its in a concert hall in the city, we have it every 2 years.

btw guys do u mind if i call my self 電影男?? people been calling me that latley at school since my movies have been uploaded onto youtube.

251 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-01 07:53 ID:nNB2iArO

I don't mind of you call yourself 電影男, only faggots snap about shit like that.


So you litterally HAVE to spend "hundreds of dollars"?

I've never been to a formal but it seems like it could be a memorable experience. Sure, if you don't have good reasons, like a date or accompanying friends, or something else, then I suppose there really is no point but if you DO.

Just saying. It's also kind of biased preaching against formals just because you personally can't find reasons to spend that money.

252 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-01 09:09 ID:03pjtcQy

How do you pronounce ????? ?

Go to the formal with Lyss. She so sounds like she digs you.
At least in 20 yrs time you'll have something to show for.
Pikachu will not be cool forever. Sad, but true.

I could see if you have a money dilemma if you were a girl. But seeing as you're a guy the tops you'll spend is $150. That's ticket, limo, tux hire and a corsage for your cute date.

253 Name: 電影男 : 2006-09-01 10:52 ID:ngTqiKkv

lol its pronounced "Eiga Otoko" i think

hmm $150 isn't that bad i guess! btw wats it with pokemon?!! i dont even watch pokemon anymore LOL although people at school calls me a pokemon xD god i cant wait to see her next week! hope it goes well! btw any advice when i talk to lyss?

254 Name: 電影男 : 2006-09-01 13:31 ID:/5dyg887

mann i think i impress lyss! we were talking about japanese and shes like "wow, you know quiet alot even though you dont learn it! xD" and i told her i ran for 35 mins on the trendmill today and she was shocked to hear it!~ omg i think this is going well ^^

255 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-01 16:16 ID:Heaven

A wapanese is fine too.

256 Name: 245 : 2006-09-01 20:09 ID:eaLtzSe2


>>At least in 20 yrs time you'll have something to show for. Pikachu will not be cool forever. Sad, but true.

Right. Pokemon's just been a worldwide phenomenon for 10 years now with no sign of slowing down. If he goes to the formal, what, exactly, will he have to show for it in 20 years? A ticket stub? With your Pikachu, you even have the option of evolving it along the way, adding a new realm of enjoyment and fun to your life. I don't see that kind of possibility when it comes to some school get-togeter.

If you have to go out with this girl, do as I said and get together on a one-on-one basis. It's like when you're trying to catch Safari Zone pokemon-- you can't just go in too strongly against them or they'll run away. You have to toss out some bait and slowly win them over. Bringing her to some noisy, crowded event that you had to pay to attend is no way to catch her heart in the pokeball of love.

257 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-01 23:51 ID:ftaUl2Xe

>>If he goes to the formal, what, exactly, will he have to show for it in 20 years? A ticket stub?

I've got a videotape to show for it. They hired a videographer for our prom, and then of course there's the obligatory prom picture. I didn't even get to arrive in a freakin' limo. >.< Last time I'll be seen in a tux till someone's wedding (not mine, not marrying) or till I'm nominated for an award, ***last time*** I'll ever be seen in a bow tie. Bow ties look stupid.

Formals are all made out to be a big deal, but don't treat it like that. That's what they want you to think. Keep your cool, and you'll be fine. People make too much of a fuss over it. Don't fall for that crap. I do agree that they're ridiculously expensive though. However, usually the parents are so thrilled about it that they'll pay for most expenses if they can afford it. My prom was nothing special, but if you don't go, you'll never know. Look, there are two main ways to look at this. Whatever you choose, just have no regrets. That's the important thing.

I'm glad you've moved on, just don't set yourself up for disappointment by misinterpreting signals, and don't get caught in a vicious cycle like me. Good luck with the girl. She sounds great, so far.

I wish I could move on. u_u

258 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-02 06:15 ID:Heaven


How can you be so cool on the internet?

259 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-02 06:35 ID:Heaven

Using Pokemon as a metaphor for love is a sure fire way to lose your credibility.

260 Name: 245 : 2006-09-02 07:01 ID:LPHrpf0W


So instead of actually addressing what I said directly, you're choosing to discredit it on some flimsy pretext? It doesn't matter how I stated it-- my points still remain valid.

261 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-02 07:16 ID:nNB2iArO


No a formal would be more like the icing on the cake, you see. As with Benson and this Lyss, they are already getting to know eachother, taking her as date to a formal would be like a subtle invitation to a higher level, and she would most definately get that. Understand?

I know you do.

Reversedly asking someone to a formal could serve as a base on which to start to get to know a girl you like, if you haven't already prior to the event. And for that purpose it's also good. It's a nice, special event for such a gesture.

Chicks in particular dig this shit, you should not underestimate that.

262 Name: 電影男 : 2006-09-02 08:02 ID:+d0+Zt9W

maybe i'll ask lyss out on the holidays since she lives right near my school... how long do you think it needs to take to ask her out?? i gotta give her a good impression next week when i see her!

263 Name: 245 : 2006-09-02 08:20 ID:LPHrpf0W

First off, benson, do you know which pokemon is her favorite? I only ask because I think it will help me to understand what kind of person she is. Knowing that will tell us more about her than anything else you could say.

If she likes Gardevoir, then she's a keeper, man.

264 Name: 245 : 2006-09-02 08:25 ID:LPHrpf0W


I understand how you could think so. It does seem like the perfect place for a couple, but if you look at it in the right way, then you'd see that it's really the worst thing you could do. For starters, you're surrounded by dozens of other people, and you're in a loud, busy environment. Hardly the most intimate of settings for a date with your sweetheart.

This is why I suggested finding something to do with just the two of them. Playing Pokemon over a link cable, or maybe just going out to get a late night bite to eat at Wendy's or McDonald's (but not Burger King or KFC, whatever you do). Finding subtle ways of being romantic like this is what girls really like.

265 Name: 電影男 : 2006-09-02 08:42 ID:+d0+Zt9W

lol i dont know if she likes pokemon XD hmm if i keep talking to her everyday will she get annoyed?? well at the moment doesn't seem like it but i'm kinda running out of thigns to talk about, but then again shes doing hw so thats why we dont have much to talk about. also would it be weird if i called her on the phone? i'm afraid i might go speechless which isn't good ~~" last time i called her she just giggled alot.

266 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-02 09:23 ID:nNB2iArO


LOL! Ok, keep posting you clown.


Benson you must understand that the poster of >>264 is not being serious. It's like the Steyr AUG guy.

I think it's pretty clear that Lyss likes you though. And don't worry about talking so much, the important thing is that it's clear that you want to spend time with her, so it doesn't have to be interesting. If she likes you, she will appriciate that you're spending time with her more than what you're actually doing. I assure you, do not worry. If you know that, then it should be easier to hang out and communicate too.

267 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-02 11:51 ID:Heaven

That's the thing. I don't think you actually have a point.

268 Name: 電影男 : 2006-09-02 14:49 ID:+d0+Zt9W

well today when i was talking to lyss, she only replied in one words then said "sorry for my infrequent answers~ i'm tring to stop procrastinating and finishing my essay" so i said if she needs any help but shes like nahh its fine. so i said "if you need any help feel free to ask! lol i better no disturb you" so shes like "wahh sorrry!" so i said "haha its fine, do you essay, Ganbatte!!("you can do it" in japanaese)" and shes like "haiiii (yess) I'll do my best!"

hmm i dont know if she likes me but its a bit early to say that now....but maybe shes just intrested in me... no idea!~~"
oh yea if i do talk to her on the phone, i cant be speechless right? cos it'll just make her bored, hmm i rarely called girls before, only did it 2 times....

269 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-02 15:24 ID:nNB2iArO


Well if you're on the phone you obviously need to talk.

270 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-02 19:33 ID:ftaUl2Xe

She sounds interested to me.

271 Name: 245 : 2006-09-02 21:35 ID:Vdx2nBgR


I think I've gotten my points across quite clearly, actually, but I'll lay them out once more. Basically, they are the following:

  1. Getting together on a one-on-one basis will trump a get-together in some noisy, crowded environment any day.
  2. Finding subtle ways of being romantic is what girls really like, which is why something as simple as getting a private booth at Wendy's will net you points in her book.

272 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-02 22:10 ID:5C9nkvMQ

i like that you kept it serious until the awesome punchline at the end. but don't you think that maybe wendy's is a little highbrow? he really needs to take the chick to denny's or waffle house if he wants to impress her.

273 Name: 電影男 : 2006-09-03 01:43 ID:+d0+Zt9W

well i was thinking since i finish school in a week, i'll ask her out and say that you can bring friends and i'll bring friends as well.... doesn't it usually start like that?! plus i may get rejected if i just ask her out like that. but it wont affect me that much if we have friends around does it?!!

274 Name: 245 : 2006-09-03 02:35 ID:tRPgN39v

>>doesn't it usually start like that?!

No. Getting together in a group is hardly intimate, and it greatly diminishes the amount of fun that you can have with her on a one-on-one basis, which is the number one thing I've been trying to get across here. Unless you're planning a Pokemon tournament and you want to show off to this girl by beating the crap out of everyone else, I'd advise against it. That is one of the few times I would ever support getting together in a group.

275 Name: 電影男 : 2006-09-03 08:49 ID:+d0+Zt9W

i was talking to lyss this lunch time and some how my name made me look emo (stupid translator, its in japanese) and she asked me "your not emo are you?" so said "nah i dont cut my self lol", heres wat happened on the convo...

Lyss: some of my friends use to be, i think it was the mood swing
Benson:oooo... well i use to be a bit i think lol
Benson: well not emo...but dark
Lyss:i was emo at one stage too
Lyss: something depressing happened? *pats as long as your not emo now =D
Benson:lol thanks!~ but it was a long long time ago anyway XD
Lyss: lalalalala, lets all watch anime and be happppyy!
Benson: hahah YeAH!! lol i made someone cry once when i told them about my dark past.
Lyss:...ouch, it must've been pretty bad.
Benson: yeah it was, went for about 2 years
Lyss:..what happened? if you dont mind ><

i was gonna tell her but she had to go to reheseral for her school concert. about late afternoon, she started talking to me!~ well i gotta wait for her cos shes gone to eat dinner. looks like its going well

276 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-03 11:44 ID:Heaven

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I got the distinct impression we were talking about whether our Benson friend here should go to his ball. One of the reasons being that he could create an opportunity to catch up with Lyss. Girls like a little dress and impress once in a while. Of course a one on one date would be a better scenario, however there are many more other days to do that rather than on his formal night.

@Benson: Lyss sounds like a real ditz but she complements you nicely.

277 Name: 電影男 : 2006-09-03 13:34 ID:+d0+Zt9W

>>276 she sounds ditz?!! how?!

anyway i told lyss about my past and she gave me alot of this *pat icon and hug icons. shes really nice, she told me not to be like again. i think i gained her trust cos she told me that she sometimes argues with her mum and that if she went through wat i went through she would have died ~~" well i'm gonna talk to her more and hopefully it goes well this friday!

278 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-03 14:32 ID:Heaven

Enjoy your new female friend.

279 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-03 15:43 ID:ftaUl2Xe

You took a big risk sharing that information so early. You could be on your way to the Friend Zone now.

280 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-03 16:55 ID:Heaven

Who are you kidding? He's already there.

281 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-04 02:34 ID:NzxDNTNq

benson just ask her out 1 on 1, ask her out with friends may make her believe you want her as friend too, and that is the last thing you need.

just ask her to hang out, please no mcdonalds. all of the mcdonald's ive been to are shitholes. if you are going to ask her out to eat just nice, small, UNIQUE restaurant.

282 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-04 04:15 ID:nNB2iArO


If you can't make your way to the couple zone from the friend zone she isn't worth shit anyway.

If you actually believe in the girl and yourself and are hoping to build something lasting, initial honesty won't hurt anything, but if you think or actually know you need to work her with tricks she's just another hoe and you're just another player.

283 Name: TokyoJapan22 : 2006-09-04 05:45 ID:gDEVaHfA

I'm a guy who also has a penpal! 7 to be exact! But there's only one who would take the time to talk to me everyday! She's from China and will soon to move to Australi and someday I have hopes of seeing her. So I say GO FOR IT!

284 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-04 05:51 ID:5C9nkvMQ

you sound friendzoned, dude. the one thing you can really trust a board like this on is whether or not you are friendzoned because that shit is a daily occurrence for most of us.

285 Name: 電影男 : 2006-09-04 08:19 ID:+d0+Zt9W

crapp... seems like i did the wrong move.... ok say i ask her out 1-1 like to hang out, and she rejects it so what do i do next?? it would make it obviouse that i prob like her if i ask her out. well i didn't want to tell her those stuff this early... she kept on asking me, was i suppose to say "sozz its private" ??

well i was talking to my friend about the "going out" bit... he said ask her what shes doing for the holidays and if she says she doing nothing, ask her if she wants to go for a movie or just hang out. hmm mayb i could do that..... btw any suggestion for the coming friday?? cos i'm gonna see her at badminton with 4 other girls ~~"

286 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-04 08:49 ID:nNB2iArO


Don't listen to them this friendzone talk is bullshit. I friendzone girls all the time, i.e. I tell them everything and treat them like the closest of my friends. Doesn't stop them from eventually climbing all over my dick. In fact, pretty much every last girl I've befriended have somehow ended up wanting a piece of me, I don't even push it.

Just be yourself completely and don't try to be something you're not to appeal to her. Thats why these guys get stuffed in the aquintance but no further-pocket, they have these ideas about what they think girls want them to be and act like that instead of being frank. That deprives them of every interesting aspect they might have had.

287 Name: 電影男 : 2006-09-04 09:19 ID:+d0+Zt9W

>>286 well luckily i'm always my self cos i know girls dont like guys acting some one else... i really want to call her but.. something just makes me stop~~"

288 Name: 電影男 : 2006-09-04 12:36 ID:+d0+Zt9W

ok guys... i sms lyss tonite about her DVD i am giving her and i accidently called her so she told me shes at reheasal, i was like "omgg sorry! *hits head i had no idea, ganbatte (good luck, you can do it in japanese) in reheasal!" and shes like " aaaaawwwwwwww ^O^ TY!!!! TYTYTYTYTYTYTY!!!!"

then later on like 10 mins ago, i'm talking to lyss right now actuali... well i apologized for calling her at reheasal... this is wat happened

Benson: so sorry about calling u!
Lyss: its ok! i had my phone on silence anyway ^^
Benson: crap... suddenly started coughing
Benson: hahahah I'm not dying! xD
Lyss: Thank GOD!!!
Benson: ohh btww i got ur dvd ready, also made a cover for u!
Lyss: aaaaaawwwwww, TY!! dont need to bother with the cover....
Benson: Dww i done it alrdy ^^

well anyway.. i asked her what shes doing on the holidays and shes like "i got work exp... WHHYY!!!~~" but i just said "nothing just wondeirng". then i ask her where shes going for work exp and she said shes going to the vet, then she tells me her problem with socializing with people and is so similar to me. so i'm like "dww it will be fine! just try and make conversation when your there and ask alot of questions" so shes like "ahh TY!!~". well i'm stil talking to her!~ she seems to enjoy talking to me now! i think i'm over the friend zone!~

289 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-04 12:50 ID:ftaUl2Xe

If she is socially inept, then the rules of the friend zone might not apply, of course you can still be had by another guy swooping in from the shadows and blowing your opportunity, so yeah, start spending some time with her.

>>Just be yourself completely and don't try to be something you're not to appeal to her. Thats why these guys get stuffed in the aquintance but no further-pocket, they have these ideas about what they think girls want them to be and act like that instead of being frank. That deprives them of every interesting aspect they might have had.

Honesty has made nearly all women run the fuck away from me in Looney Tunes fashion.

290 Name: 電影男 : 2006-09-04 13:40 ID:+d0+Zt9W

>>289 well depends wat the girl was like.... cos i met a few whos done that to me as well, they thought i was some kind of looser or something ~~" well i am confirmed that Lyss will go to badminton!! my god i cant wait alrdy!

291 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-04 16:45 ID:a+9cf3FP

You should just give up. This one is lost. Better luck next time!

292 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-04 17:07 ID:nNB2iArO

>>Honesty has made nearly all women run the fuck away from me in Looney Tunes fashion.

Well look I'm not saying that any shithead will be appealing with the honesty approach. Nor am I saying that all women are interested in a sincere relationship. If they are not, they well be like "fuck this guy means business better stay clear".

I don't know how your situation is, either case you still have to be a good guy going for a good woman for my advice to be of value.

293 Name: 245 : 2006-09-04 21:12 ID:5mmkJSJZ

Benson, you still haven't told us what her favorite pokemon is. Are you intentionally witholding that information because you think it will make her look bad? Does she like Sunflora?

I hope she likes Gardevoir.

294 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-05 03:45 ID:Heaven


He actually said she doesn't like Pokemon. Chances are then, she also does not have a favourite.

295 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-05 11:38 ID:JLbFrcRD

Not to sound bitchy or anything, but this girl is a blatant ditz. I haven't even met her but I can already imagine what she must be like from the really good notes you make from your phone calls =P. Some of my friends will talk in the same sickly sweet tone. I have nothing against it, alot of asian girls are typically like that and guys dig it apparently. The good thing here is that you are so much like her. Be careful that you're not getting played though (if getting refused on a one on one date says anything to you).

296 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-05 12:03 ID:ftaUl2Xe

>>Some of my friends will talk in the same sickly sweet tone. I have nothing against it, alot of asian girls are typically like that and guys dig it apparently.

This trait is not exclusive to Asians.

297 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-05 12:34 ID:Heaven


>>Some of my friends will talk in the same sickly sweet tone. I have nothing against it

Sure sounds like it

298 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-05 13:34 ID:JLbFrcRD

I'm not saying it is. It's just a reference because we're talking about an asian girl here. However, I'm asian myself, and I can say that if you've hung around enough asian girls you will find that a scary number of them are beyond a normal level of ditziness.


>>Some of my friends will talk in the same sickly sweet tone. I have nothing against them

299 Name: 電影男 : 2006-09-05 14:22 ID:+d0+Zt9W

>>291 hmm i dont see how i am lost....

well today i had this concert so we didn't have school for the whole day, just hanged around the city. well i sms her around noon saying "hey how was the swimming competition?! lol i got a concert tonite!" and she replied "it was ok! XD so THATS why you weren't on msn! have fun lol!"

i was talkinmg to my friend who knows her, he says she the cute type (looks not personality) oh and apparently shes shy as well when it comes to talking to new people, we seem to have the same personality and intrestso its all good to me. well depends how i show my self this friday....

300 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-05 15:45 ID:UXOt+hhz

what are you going to do friday?

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