I'm usualy just a lurker around the board, but today i have a story... recently i been posting about long distance relationship because I really like this girl that lives in japan. but i live in australia so its really hard if i want to confess to her.. well this is how it all started...
Around 2005 April, i was picked on by some people at school because of my hobby, which is movie making. I'm really like a movie otaku, i love watching movies thats why my dream is to become a film director. most of the girls i knew, i told them about my hobby and they would all ne like "isn't that like really immature??" and later on wont ever talk to me.. it was around November when i was on a japanese pen pal website where i met the japanese girl, her name was Aya. we started emailing each other talking about school and life style ect. then i asked her if she used skype and she said she uses it so we added each other. we started talking in skype, (to those who doesn't know its like msn but you use microphone to talk). for the first time, i told her i'm into film making... she unlike the other girls was actualy intrested in it.. she asked me when can i show her my movie.
we talked almost everyday, mostly for 2 hours and we can always talk about anything like movies, anime, school, music ect.. then one night... we talked for 6 hours! i only had 2 hour sleep because i had to wake up for tennis lessons >"< we got more close after that. for christmas i bought her a bracelet and air mailed it to her, she liked it alot. one day i got her email but was really surprised... usualy at the end of the email she would just write "from Aya" but this time she wrote "Love from Aya". i had this feeling when i saw it. after that, i didn't hear from her for 2 weeks and then one night i got her email asking when can i talk to her... but after that... I've waited for a month and stil counting on... I emailed her before saying i have something to tell her because i planned to confess to her next time we talk.. but now i dont think i can do it because i reckon its highly likely i may get rejected since we are so far away ＿|￣|○" the feeling with this girl is different from all the other girls i liked. should i confess or not??
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-before i left australia, my ex had been calling me through international calls because she had a fight with her bf. she called me twice crying and said she wanted to meet up with me when i come back.
-me and kejo was app-ing each other every day, it went pretty nice. she even got me a gift from beijing when she went to visit.
-she suddenly wanted to talk to me so one night we skyped for about 2 and a half hours.
-Kejo and her sister came to visit taipei cos her sister bf lives in taipei, we met up for a movie and had dinner, it went pretty well cept she found me a little quiet at the start
-after the dinner, kejo asked me to the zoo on the next day, it was like a triple date as the other 4 people were couples.
-the next 3 months, me and kejo talk to each other everyday, i even went to visit her in kaoshiong for 3 days and stayed at her place.
-she was very nervous when i was coming down and always asked "what if you see me and have a different opinion on me." i told her not to worry
-Kejo revealed to me that she broke up with her last bf two months before we started talking, shes still not over her ex as they went out for 2 years.
-she and her sister came to visit taipei in december, they both stayed at my place
-that night in the club i spent around 21k NTS, kejo seemed to have a good night and i threw up 6 times.
-i took a photo that night of me and her and uploaded on facebook tagging her
-the next day, i saw the tag disappeared on her facebook and asked her sister about it.
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-apparently Kejo took the tag off cos she didnt want her friends to think after just breaking up not long ago, shes with another guy.
-Kejo told her sister before that she thinks im suitable to be the LAST bf, and said we are too far apart as im in taipei and shes in kaoshiong.
-i told my friends about the "LAST BF" thing, most of them said shes just using me as backup
-i lost motivation to write music, started helping a friend of mine doing hip hop music instead.
－ i met a few girls who only wanted to get close to me cos of my good family background. i started to learn how to see what peoples motivation is.
-mia wanted to find a place near me cos she said its near her school for her masters as she was about to graduate.
-i went on a date with her once, we went to see a movie
-before we saw our movie, i checked in on facebook. after the movie i was gonna send her home but a guy suddenly appeared as we were about to enter the Metro station.
-mia told me his gonna leave with him cos she was afraid her ex bf was going to punch me, he seemed pretty tensed up especially with his voice.
-Mia kept apologising for not telling me and said her ex bf had been stalking her.
-Me and Mia started talking on the phone and sometimes she would even call me, she even cared about my health cos i have high blood pressure.
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-there was one night she suddenly went out around 1am, said the guy who had been chasing her for a year and half had been telling people her private life, im thinking "are you hiding something?"
-i called her the next day and a guy picked up, mia called me back saying she was in the bathroom and shes out with friends, but i know the guy who picked up is the same guy who is chasing her for a year and a half.
-During the Mia situation, sometimes i couldnt sleep and felt pretty depressed around 4am, i kinda missed the times i talked with kejo as kejo was sort off avoiding me back then.
-Kejo said i ruined our friendship when i started clubbing alot and said i changed into a player. said she liked the older me.
-eventually i found out kejos REAL personality, shes actually a party freak, loves to club and have guys dance around her. apparently she was pissed off at the 21k night because i avoided some guys dance around her and people thought she was my gf so she got pissed. said i kicked off some hot guys that was gonna come dance with her.
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-during my break, the last 3-4 months i finally completed my next song called "everytime" which im going to release as a single.
-one night i was bored and started talking to this girl called "miya", she was very friendly and nice.
-sometimes i would start conversations with Miya on facebook, shes also from the same school as me.
-i would ask miya out to karaoke or movies but we always had friends with us.
-one night i saw Miya's status was really emo and she shut her phone off. I used "wechat" (its an app you send voice msgs) and randomly sang songs to cheer her up.
the next day after lunch, my best friend left and it was just me and her, this was our 2nd date. we walked around taipei 101.
-that night, Miya's friend msgsed me asking if i like her, at the time i had some feelings towards her but didnt want to rush things incase i get hurt or disappointed again.
-her friend told me that Miya has feelings towards me, i was happy when i heard it.
on our 3rd date, i asked her to the zoo, after the zoo i took her to a riverside park, i wrote a song to her. she was really touched when she heard the song and im pretty sure she was crying cos she refused to look at me in the face XD since i haven't dated for the last 3 years (this happened near the end of 2012) i was really nervous when i was confessing, eventually i confessed and asked her to be my girlfriend, she quickly replied "OK!" and we were officially in a relationship :) shes my official 2nd girlfriend ever since the first one cheated on me, and im her first bf so shes still learning a lot from me :D we've been going out for 5 months, there has been ups and downs but i have to say im really happy with her and im glad i finally found someone who truly likes who i am.
i guess i can finally end this thread :P the last 3 years had truly been a roller coaster ride from me but i learned so much from those experience. i dont hate the girls who use me or cheated my feelings, i thank them fro the experience because those events made me stronger and too who i am right now.
whoever is still reading this, i hope you guys all the best, i've always missed 4ch, the reason i never came back was i had to get over a certain person i use to post on this thread, it took me a long time to get over her but im finally over it which is why i came back finishing up my story. i'll still keep an update to who ever likes to know what happens :) Take care too all of you! :D
-Eiga Otoko
p.s. one more thing.... heres a picture of me and Miya :)
http://sphotos-b.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc6/166730_10151533084356955_1093762590_n.jpg
I'm just goin' 2 say I'm happy 4 u. U went through so much the last 7 years since posting on 4ch. It saddens me that you are now done with this thread...but you've been an inspiration for many. I hope the best for you and Miya!!
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before confessing to her, u shoud put ur pants down and show her ur belonging on skype.
she will like urs and accept ur confess
hey guys!
just to let you guys know some news, I released my new single EP on iTunes called "Everytime" come check it out :)
https://itunes.apple.com/us/album/everytime-ep/id675912520
p.s. Me and Miya are almost dating for exactly a year!! time surely flies :D
wow i didnt know 4ch had a 7 years story going on intill now. I checked your music, your style reminds me of Jason chen on youube :P
any way Eiga hows your love life with Miya going on? (not sure if your gonna read this or not)
>>751 This place is ancient history
映画男/Benson,
Where have you been?! U doin' ok? Still with Miya?
>>753 we just broke up two weeks ago after being together for 3 years. still going through the healing proccess
>>756
Do you feel ok to talk more about it here, to contiue your life story?
well a lot has happened since my break up with miya. my life completely went down hill after miya, i was very unmotivated, i felt like i couldnt feel anything anymore nothing could make me happy as i just felt like staying at home all the time. To be honest i was actually preparing to propose to her because i wanted to settle down with her, but the problem with being with miya was that she took control of my whole life. I use to wake up at 6:30AM to drive her to work almost everyday for a year and i'll pick her up from work whenever i have a day off. The reason why she broke up with me was she said she felt like i wasnt protective enough for her, but for me i felt like i gave her everything i could but it just wasnt enough. even though we broke up she said she misses me but said we cant be together unless i loose weight since i promised her i'll thin down by our 3rd year anniversary. we had a lot of ups and downs in this 3 years relationship and even now i still miss those days.
I quit my job in January and went back to Australia for about 2 months. I was actually planning on moving back too melboburne as truthfully there was nothing left for me in taiwan. Most of my really good friends left taiwan for work so i didnt have many friends in taiwan. i thought maybe i should go back to melbourne and start fresh. I went on a few dates with some girls but just didnt feel right and i wasnt very interested in starting another relationship so fast. 2 weeks ago i came back to taiwan to gather some of my things and was preparing to move back to melbourne. A friend of mine didnt really want me to leave and she kept saying she can find me a job in taiwan if im willing to stay. I met her 2 days ago and she brought one of her co-workers who was her mentor. at first she caught my interest a bit as she was very pretty and had a cute smile, we went karaoke that night but she didnt really sing as it was me and my friend who sang most of the time. my friends mentor is called Ruby, she kept saying i have a cute accent and she reckons its good that i'm chubby. i actually kept blushing a lot when she said i was being cute and said she only came that night just to meet me. to be honest i havnt felt like my stomach was inside out for a very very long time, last time i felt like that was probably 3-4 years ago. after karaoke we went to a small park and chatted a bit more, we took a cab and i sent both of them home first, when she got off she said to me "i hope i can see you again" which made me go completely red. that night when i went home i couldnt sleep and i just kept smiling like a creepy guy. Tonight i actually met up with them again after they finished work and we went for a late night dinner. i dont know why i just couldnt stop looking at her and tried very hard not to smile so much, im pretty sure my face was always red. after dinner i sent them home again but this time i walked her home when we got off the station, it was a really nice 15 minute walk and we just chatted and laughed a lot. i end up getting her contact tonight and i said i'll cook her dinner tomorrow and bring it over to her workplace, she looked pretty excited about it. :)
i forgot to mention she and her friend has been persuading me to join their company to get me to stay in taiwan. right now im still thinking if i should stay here or go back to melbourne, but i reckon the chance of me staying in taiwan is higher now. I havnt met any girl for so long that made me so nervous like this.
tomorrow i plan to make her some salmon pasta because she likes pasta :) i felt like we really connected a lot during that walk, i honestly havnt been this happy since my break up. from what i know she doesnt like guys being too sensitive, everytime i just think of her i feel like theres butterflies in my stomach lol
i'll see how tomorrow goes.
>>759
How is your music making going?
And good luck with the dinner!
Update us and tell us how it went! :O
parusuteng@gmail.com
sorry havnt updated you guys
<<760 i still make some music whenever i have free time~ but havnt upload anything on youtube for a long time now.
well the next day i prepared some salmon and shrimp pasta, took me about an hour to get it done. i got to her work place and i also prepared one for my friend, i waited for about 15-20 minutes for her cos she was still working. as soon as she ate it she said "wow I'm impressed! its like restaurant quality!" I'm pretty sure my face went red again as i could feel my face was pretty warm. we sat in front of her company while she was eating and chatted, i told her that she should feel special since i havnt cooked for anyone but my ex so far. i felt like i had a chance since shes always saying how nice i was and when I accompanied her home with the three of us, she told me to come sit with her at the back when my friend got off the cab. i dont know why but i just felt really motivated again, ever since my break up i havnt felt that motivated for a very long time. we chatted for a few days through LINE app and she told me she got a fever and didnt feel very well. I was in the hospital that morning for a check up so i thought i'll bring her some medicine, went to the pharmacy and brought her some medicine for her fever. I got to her work place and even got her some orange juice as i looked up on google and it said orange juice helps reduce the fever. she came down from her office and i pressed my hands on her head to see how hot she was, she was really happy that i brought her some medicine and said i was very sweet for doing that. good thing my orange juice and medicine worked as her fever went down in the afternoon and she felt a lot better. on the same day, my friend messaged me saying she had some very bad news, apparently she was talking to her and some how she mentioned "my boyfriend and I".
when i read it, i felt crushed, all those butterflies in my stomach just dropped dead. honestly i didnt know how to feel when i read it and my friend just kept saying sorry to me because she said she felt bad not asking it in the beginning and this whole time we thought she was single. what i felt strange was that she never mentioned she had a boyfriend when i did all those things. i dont know what got into me i just directly asked if she wanted to go catch a movie some time with me, at first she said depends if she feels better from the fever and asked my friend if she was free to join us, sadly she said my friend wasnt free and said maybe next time. from that moment i was pretty sure i had no chance but why couldnt she just tell me she had a boyfriend. afterwards i dont know what came to me i got even more depressed as i felt like i was back into square one again, all those break up emotions just came and rushed back into me. i went back into insomnia mode for the next 2 weeks and my blood pressure went up to 178, there was one night my blood pressure was so high i felt like i was about to faint. There is this girl who i got to know in February this year that my friend introduced who was trying to cheer me up, she would call me to see how i was as she was pretty nice to me. she also just broke up 5 months ago from a 6 years relationship which she hasnt moved on from as she never stop talking about her ex boyfriend to me. there was 2-3 days i kind of got a little suicidal and literally just said "fuck it im done with life", i was really tired of always meeting the wrong people and loosing my loved ones. i felt like it wasnt fare that i had to loose miya when i gave her everything. i somehow snapped my self thinking through all the shit i have went through and told my self "you didnt go through all that for nothing." i think mainly was i felt very lost as i didnt have any directions to go to and i had no goals. all my other friends were all getting engaged from their long term relationships and have a successful career which made me feel like i was behind and not sure what i want to do with my life.
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after a few days, i traveled to japan with my friends for 10 days, only just got back last night. The trip to japan i think really healed me as i feel like im back to normal now. I met up with Miya this afternoon and took the train with her back to her station, we had a nice chat on the train but seeing her made me really miss her. I'm going to see miya again this friday after she finish off work and we're going to go watch Captain America: civil war. I'm pretty sure its a bad idea to see Miya but once i leave taiwan end of this month i wont be able to see her again till maybe next year. I'm still not 100% sure if moving back to melbourne would make it better for me.
Wow, so many years have passed since I last read this thread and checked your YouTube profile out. You're a trooper. Hang in there. Hope things turn out well for you.
its been 10 years and still going, amazing
you're a living legend, eiga otoko
Why didn't I discover this thread sooner?!!
Sigh I just went through two months of literally hell in June when i moved back to melbourne , will find time to update everyone
I hope things are going well my friend.
benson, you do it wrong. after 10y you have to know it.
i recommend read:
mark manson - models - a comprehensive guide to attracting women
mark manson - the subtle art of not giving a fuck
its been so long since i posted and so much has happened.
but long story short i managed to pick my self up in the end, I found out Miya actually got together with someone else last year and is getting married soon which was super shocking for me.
What really helped me get better was i started gyming last year and it really helped me mentally and physically.
I've been hanging out with a lot of friends who came back from melbourne and met a few nice people.
Will find time to update, sorry i disappeared for so long.
Take care of yourself Eiga!
EIGA WHATS GOING ON
hey there, just to let you guys know i'm still alive
i moved to china last year and started a new life again, been here for 7 months.
I'm actually about to start dating with a women who's 5 years older then me.
Sweet Jesus, this epic thread has been going on for 10 years, and I enjoy every moment of it.
So how's it going so far, keep us updated bro!
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my man, you're a 4-ch original. you have got to be 50 years old by now. back in 2006 i was still sucking on titties. i was 20 at the time.
I wish I had been born earlier so I could've experienced this amazing thread :/
>>782
You can.
Just forget you read the thread, and wait equal amounts of time between each post. So for the first reply, you wait 1 hour and you should be monitoring this thread for 13 years before you get back to this point. It'll basically be the same, right?
>>783 Oh shoot, how have I never thought of this before?
Thanks, you're a lifesaver.
>>781 hahaha actually I just turned 30, when I first posted on 4ch I was 15 years old. I cant believe its been over 10 years and I'm still here from time to time.
The girl who was 5 years older then me we never end up together, I flew back to Taiwan just to meet up with her to make things official but she disappeared after a week.
Funny thing, around October last year me and Miya ended up talking again and we're in good terms now. I had these crazy dreams last year where she broke up with her boyfriend and it turned out to be true. We didn't get back together but we remained good friends right now, she flew to Ireland this year to experience the outside world since she's never been to a english speaking country before so i encouraged her to go.
I went on a few dates this year but haven't met anyone I really like except for this one girl I met back in 2016, one thing that sucks is she already has a boyfriend and before I moved to china late 2017 I told her I liked her. Every time I go back Taiwan I'll meet up with her and those feelings comes back.
I was doing a long distance with a girl from Donguan my dad introduced to me for two months. I met up with her once in Hong Kong in November, she was a nice girl but I felt she didn't really like me. When I tried to establish the relationship she told me it gave her pressure and that she didn't want to give up her freedom. Weird thing was a few days before we broke it off she asked if I would move to Dongguan but I told her I don't even plan to stay in china and plan to move back to Taiwan in 2021. She went batshit crazy and said that I'm avoiding our problems and I didn't think about getting married with her, didn't plan our future. I was actually glad i broke it off with her cos she kept getting jealous of my dog and I couldn't accept that lol.
now I'm back in Taiwan for a vacation but I'm currently stuck here due to the coronavirus, I've met lots of different girls whether from friends or online but none of them have made me want to get back into a relationship. I think I'm just so use to being single right now and I enjoy the freedom. I reckon its better for me since i can focus on my music as I plan to release a lot of singles this year!
btw I actually made a website for my music if anyone wants to check it out~ www.bensontsaimusic.com
By the way I am amazed that people are still reading this!!!
I've been in china for over 2 years now and I realized that most chinese girls are looking for someone to get married with. I always get asked the question "why ain't you married? how come you don't don't have a girlfriend." To be honest I have some commitment issues now due to my last relationship so I'm not really looking to get married now, even though most of my friends are married. I think getting married you just need to take time to find the right one and not rush into it.
I think its weird that even though I enjoy being single for the time being, its just weird watching most of your friends getting married or have a kid.
I'm at that age whenever I open facebook, either someone got engaged/married or someone got a kid.
I found a old box of mine the other day and when I opened it, there was two pictures of Miya when we were still together. It felt strange when I saw the photo, some how made me realize I kinda miss those times. Sure it was very tiring for me when we were together but funny thing was I was actually happy.
Miya actually came back to Taiwan two weeks ago due to the coronavirus in Europe, but shes been acting different since she came back, she mentioned that there was someone on her flight who was tested positive and it got me really worried if something happened to her. So today I wrote her a card because I somehow feel she's depressed and I dont know what I can do to make her feel better. I'm going to send the card tomorrow and see if she'll appear, she has disappeared for almost a week now, matybe she doesn't want to talk to me and that's ok. Its fine if she wants to move on as long as I know shes fine, I realized if you really care about someone, it only matters if they are ok.
on a serious note, Sometimes I do feel like I'll be alone for a very longtime, its hard meeting anyone that can give me that spark again.
I've just read this entire thread for the first time and I literally could not stop until I got to the end. What a fun and amazing read. My heart goes out to you Benson (Eiga Otoko). I think those who remain close to you are lucky to have you.
>I was actually glad i broke it off with her cos she kept getting jealous of my dog and I couldn't accept that lol.
holy fucking shit lol. Also your music is a good thread theme. Though a 14 year old thread and the OP is still around. That is really something. I wonder how many people in the world get to experience that particular feeling?
I just read this thread and damnit, it's been 15 years of your life Eiga Otoko.
It's just my opinion, but how about leaving behinde your exes for a while? I mean cut contact. Also I think you should take a break from considering girls a potential partner. Take a break. Go to Europe for example(just to stay in another continent), experience life in a new place, different culture etc.
Also if I understand correctly you tend to give girls alot from the beginning, basically you're very nice(a lot nice) from the very beginning. That isn't neccessarly a bad thing but it seems to be a bitch attractor. Maybe try not to rush( and I mean not to consider a potential partner every girl that you like), let the relationship sink(before the dating game begins), try to see and find the REAL personality and motivations behind a person before beginning to dedicate yourself to them.
I don't have the experience you have but looking from outside at your romantical situation the tips I wrote earlier seem the most suitable.
And remember, the important thing is not how much time it will take to happen, the important thing is if it will happen. And if you never give up, then the possibilities will keep living on.
>>790 Actually that's what I'm doing right now, I'm taking a huge break from any girls and haven't talked to any of my ex's. I thought taking this break I can work on thinning down so I've been working out a lot. Going to Europe does sound like a great idea except right now with the whole COVID crisis I'll probably wait till the world goes back to normal. My best friend also stated that I'm way too nice in the beginning so I've actually cut it down more since I know if your too nice to a girl in the beginning its pretty much a free entry to the friend zone.
Since my last post, I came back to China in May since work had started for me. Me and my roommate plan to save enough money and leave China next year in April. I'm considering going back to Taiwan to continue my music since I can't really do much in china due to work. I'm trying to cut down on my weight, I'm currently 93kg and when I started working out I was 105kg (fuck me I'm fat). My aim is to get to below 85kg before I head back to Taiwan, I think this is a good chance for me to train my self mentally and psychically.
I don't plan to go on any dates during my last 6 months stay in china because I don't see the point of going out with anyone since I'm going to leave next year. I got a new single coming out this month! I plan to release more next year so hopefully by the time I get back to Taiwan I can shoot a new music video!
anyway hope ya'll safe around the world during this chaotic times! stay safe everyone!
