I've been waiting.... (791)

1 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-08 06:46 ID:rBmL8F/W This thread was merged from the former /love/ board. You can view the archive here.

I'm usualy just a lurker around the board, but today i have a story... recently i been posting about long distance relationship because I really like this girl that lives in japan. but i live in australia so its really hard if i want to confess to her.. well this is how it all started...

Around 2005 April, i was picked on by some people at school because of my hobby, which is movie making. I'm really like a movie otaku, i love watching movies thats why my dream is to become a film director. most of the girls i knew, i told them about my hobby and they would all ne like "isn't that like really immature??" and later on wont ever talk to me.. it was around November when i was on a japanese pen pal website where i met the japanese girl, her name was Aya. we started emailing each other talking about school and life style ect. then i asked her if she used skype and she said she uses it so we added each other. we started talking in skype, (to those who doesn't know its like msn but you use microphone to talk). for the first time, i told her i'm into film making... she unlike the other girls was actualy intrested in it.. she asked me when can i show her my movie.

we talked almost everyday, mostly for 2 hours and we can always talk about anything like movies, anime, school, music ect.. then one night... we talked for 6 hours! i only had 2 hour sleep because i had to wake up for tennis lessons >"< we got more close after that. for christmas i bought her a bracelet and air mailed it to her, she liked it alot. one day i got her email but was really surprised... usualy at the end of the email she would just write "from Aya" but this time she wrote "Love from Aya". i had this feeling when i saw it. after that, i didn't hear from her for 2 weeks and then one night i got her email asking when can i talk to her... but after that... I've waited for a month and stil counting on... I emailed her before saying i have something to tell her because i planned to confess to her next time we talk.. but now i dont think i can do it because i reckon its highly likely i may get rejected since we are so far away _| ̄|○" the feeling with this girl is different from all the other girls i liked. should i confess or not??

601 Name: 映画男 : 2007-09-09 06:05 ID:OjEAOyX/

>>599 i'm basicly gonna forget her and move on cos i tried to sort things out with her but shes just pissing me off by being random and saying she doesn't care etc. so i dont think its worth getting all depressed cos of her =/ i'm just gonna learn from my mistakes.

allthough i thought i was over her, but it stil not fully gone =[ i stil remember some stuff that beings back memories.

602 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-09 07:18 ID:tpiVNwpE

  1. Benson, I've participated in your thread from the beginning. So when I say that you're really messed up, I'm not saying it without any grounds. Your recent love interest is right in saying that "You spend too much time on the girl you like". You're just setting yourself up for failure. I think I've mentioned more than once in my posts that you should get your priorities right.

For a guy of your age, you seem to spend an ridiculous amount of time and effort thinking about girls/romance. Take it from a girl; this is unattractive. It oozes of desperateness, clingly-ness and immaturity. Most girls want to see security in a guy. Someone who can support her and is self assured themselves. In other words, someone who doesn't crave for her affection 24/7.

2. Like >>599 said, don't take back the camera. That's just plain insincere and unmanly. When you give someone something as a gift, don't even intend to take it back. If you're going to have regrets, don't give it at all in the first place. She owns the camera now, not you. That is the whole point of a gift. It is up to her judgement whether she gives it back to you or not -not yours.

3. I really have to question whether she is actually using people "unconciously". Either she is very, very dense, to not realise she is using people, or you and your friends have been deceived by her sweet, innocent mask. The latter is much more likely. Trust me on this point as well, I'm a girl. Seriously, 99% of girls are very perceptive of these kind of things by mid-adolescence. They know more than they actually let on. If she is actually unconsciously using people, then she would be an innocent girl. However, this is definitely not the case because she threw your efforts into your face, and then was seeking sympathy from who-ever would listen.

4. Benson, pick yourself up and move on. I don't think you should be considering a relationship until you've sorted out your personal issues first. You threw in a not so subtle hint about your state of mind. I suggest that you mature a bit yourself. Shit happens. Don't go off and mope/wrists/cry/whinge about it. You need to learn something from this experience. Don't throw yourself at a girl's feet and put your heart on the line from the beginning. It is destined for failure and you could be saving yourself a lot of unnecessary pain.

For your sake, I hope you actually take what I've written to heart. I don't mean to discourage or insult you, but you never seem to listen to the sensible advice that is given to you.

603 Name: 映画男 : 2007-10-10 15:39 ID:QhFXWp9f

>>602 After a very long self think for the last month, ur 100% right. lets just call the previous one "camera girl", ur right that i've spent way too much time especially with camera girl that it caused a massive drama and now i have to work hard to catch up at school, ur also right because i also spent too much time focusing on lyss in the past that it completly creeped her out and gave her a hard time. intill now i finally understand why i've been a major failure and that is because i was way too obsesed with them when i fell for them. I've been jumping from one girl to another girl which would make me look like a major playboy or somesort.

over the past month, it took time to get over camera girl but time does heal eventually. i didnt ask for the camera back and never kept contact with her either, i talked to lyss about what happened and she wanted to talk to camera girl to see both stories but i told her not to bother because i was afraid that camera girl might make up stuff and stuff my friendship with lyss plus at the time i was trying to get over her so i thought it would be a better idea if i didnt talk about the camera girl.

I havnt been like i use to be, obsese and acting desprate but instead changed all those bad habbits. incase i didnt mention in the past i had 2 fights with lyss which wouldve caused us to break our friendship for a long time but after giving some time we ended back like we use to be, supporting each other and even studied together through the net. i'm not like i use to be acting 24/7 on her which i think made her feel more confortable being friends with me now. even lyss said i've become much better but my thoughts are stil naive which i stil need to change. so instead of just ignoring advice people give me, i'm taking the advice and changing to be more mature.

i must admit that alot of things have happened this year especially i'm about to finish high school in 9 days. theres been alot of depression not just due to romance but some personal things as well, but i think it was better i go through them this year so i can learn from those mistakes and change before its too late as >>602 said. i for once FINALLY learn my lessons and awaken from a world of obsesity.

so at the moment, i'm NOT going to focus on a particuly person or love interest, instead just be friends. because i beleive you dont really need a certain lover in life, what you really need are friends. although lyss to me is still special as shes done quite alot for me in the past but i will just remain good friends with her as it seems to work out better like that and make my self a more mature and better person so i can maintain this relationship with her and not stuff it up again like in the past. to be honest i am surprised that she gave me a 2nd chance and stil care about me after how much stress i've given to her. she really is a true friend, to me at least.

604 Name: 映画男 : 2008-03-31 06:28 ID:s3sIr75B

I'm going to finally confess to lyss by making a video about the thread and how much shes inspired me and upload to the net so its a public confession, i've waited long enough for this, two years waiting....i will upload it on April the 19th, its my final thing i will do for her whether the results will be good or bad, i just want to tell her everything.

605 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-15 15:21 ID:our7dskT

So how did it go? o.o...its been 3 months

606 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-15 16:24 ID:rHmUQzwd

Holy cow. Link to youtube pls?

607 Name: 映画男 : 2008-06-19 15:19 ID:OGc03HeN

she rejected me, in the bitchiest way you can imagine...been depressed for a month after but finally move on from it =/ dont even talk to her and dont think i want to either. havnt really spend that much time on girls like in the past, i take my time now.

if previous post in this thread read this, i wanna apologize for not fully taking your advice from the beginning, all i could say i was stubborn guy who was desperate and ALWAYS thought i knew what i was doing but the truth was that i never knew what i was doing =/ and because of those stupid stubbornness i keep creating a tragic story for my self. i could only say many things have happened this year and i FINALLY learned my lesson.

recently i have someone in mind, but because we have a good relationship going on (as in close friends) i really dont want to loose, i'm really scared of loosing someone close to me because of the experience with lyss. its going well with her so far cos she think i'm talented since i've been making my own music this year and reckons i'm a pro at piano, plus we've been here for each other for about 2 years, so if we do go out i reckon it'll work out great, but the problem is i doubt she feels the same way i feel. the thing that annoys me is i dont wanna rush it but then i dont want to take to slow before someone else takes her =/ what do i need to do to develop a relationship with her?

608 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-19 16:48 ID:ix4NUJ97

>>607 Take her out on a DATE. Say "DATE". You need to get out of the friend zone before it's too late..maybe it already is, but you'll never found out without trying.

609 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-21 11:38 ID:5U2g3++Q

so, ah.. where's the video?

610 Name: cisfor : 2008-06-22 12:23 ID:s50MVp1i

oh god, I read the whole thread today, can't belive It's been going on for so long.

about the latest girl, I'd be flirting and friendly at the same time, if you can manage that.
for example being very huggy and complimenting her, but NOT in a way that let's her think your interested.
she'll probably fall easier for you if you treat her like she's someone you'd want to have sex with rather than have as a girlfriend.
and when your sure she likes you, you heel her in and live happily ever after.

but then you shouldn't listen to me, I'm a strange girl, so I don't know how the usual kind works.

611 Name: H.K. : 2008-06-23 19:57 ID:our7dskT


>"she'll probably fall easier for you if you treat her like she's someone you'd want to have sex with rather than have as a girlfriend."

NO! You need to show something like sex is NOT what your only interested in. Showing or especially TREATING someone only like you want to have sex with them is NOT the way to go. That will probably piss her off. You need to remain as friendly as possible but not too much. Find out some of her interests if you can, and if possible show your into them too. Before considering a relationship, you should work on getting her to know you, and think very positively of you. However, I do agree with 610 about complimenting her, but not overly, and not in a super way that immediately gives it away that you like her, because coming off too quickly like that most of the time may potentially cause game over. ;-;
Do you know at all if she shows any signs of liking you? o.o


612 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-24 06:07 ID:utXloGNl

I wouldn't be surprised if OP had a School Days ending.

I think it'd be kind of funny.

But on a serious note, highschool will be a distant memory; time moves really fast.

Before you know it, you're 50 and wonder what the fuck you did with your life.

Also, being yourself and not worrying about girls would probably be your best bet to actually meet/bump into someone who is genuinely interested in you.

Yeah you may form friendships with girls who won't regard you for anything more than a friend but you're still young and you'll have plenty of chances - hopefully you've learned from your mistakes with Aya, Manda, Lyss, Old girl etc etc etc.

613 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-24 13:58 ID:Heaven

School Days had a rather wide variety of endings anyway.

614 Name: 映画男 : 2008-06-26 11:51 ID:0bQjIL8R

>>612 Lol by school day ending i hope your not referring to when the main character gets stabbed 20 million times.....but i have to agree even i would find it amusing if it ended up like that lol

>>611 hmm i can say she really knows me, like we're really close, she trust me and i trust her, i've been supporting her alot this year esp shes in yr 12 and i'm in uni already. shes told me alot of personal stuff about her self and her family, but the other day i called her about the time i was gonna meet up with her, she sounded normal but right after i hand up she sends me a sms saying "hey sorry if i sound pissed off, just bit stressed these days, nothing against you!!" . i don't think it means anything but she hasn't shown anything like this before, and shes got something shown on her msn that she likes someone but dont know who cos it only says "<3LY" on it, she avoid the question when i ask what it meant and kept changing the subject, i find it weird cos if she does like someone thats not me i dont think theres anything to hide esp shes told me more personal stuff then her love life =/ i dunno maybe its just me, plus shes shown alot of caring signs to me like she thought i sounded down but i was just tired, so shes like "get some rest kk, plz" which is also the first time shes said something to that extend. I've had a real thought about it these days, i'm afraid of stuffing up her studies if i let her know i like her, but then i have to do it by end of this year cos i reckon once she gets into uni next year she'll def find someone else =/ either i think too much or maybe i have to wait for the right time.

615 Name: H.K. : 2008-06-26 20:08 ID:our7dskT

>>映画男 sorry for long post, but meaningful -

Hmm, whether you think so or not, this last paragraph has brought up some very interesting points!! (^-^)/ Let me explain:

1.For one major thing here, it seems to me that she's able to talk to you pretty deeply, and if she is even able to talk personal things like those, then it's showing that she "feels comfortable" with you. This is a VERY major thing here!

2.It is very good that you show so much support! Keep it up!

3.What she said after hanging up, it does mean something. It shows that yes, she is stressed, but wants you to know that it's not you, and also shows that she may have "worried" about you thinking it might been you. Meaning she cares about what you might be thinking.

4.You are very right about the fact that she shouldn't have to avoid asking about what's on her site if it's not you. That really shows that she may really be thinking about you like that, but her hesitance and avoiding that she did, may mean she may not know how you would react if she did tell you, and she may be wondering if she did tell you, what your reaction might be, and is currently unsure, possibly waiting for you to show signs of those things.

5."get some rest kk, plz". That shows caring, even about something small, it does mean something!

Now, it's about when to tell her. I see what you mean about the difficult decision of when to. I beleive that if you do in fact tell her before the year is over, and it does work out, and she's happy about it, and your continued support for her continues, it should give her strength. In other words, my gf is having a rough time dealing with the hardness of school, and I am always there for her, and she always lets me know how much strength I give her, that helps her get through stressful times like with studies or school.
Now, if it DOESN'T work out, and you tell her before year is over, it may bring an awkward feel to your friendship, and it may or may not "stuffing up" her studies as you mentioned. So it's a little risky to do something like that. But then again, there is always the chance of you not doing anything and another guy comes along...which is GAME OVER. ;-;

You don't think too much. Sometimes it's good to think alot, and since you have, you've brought up useful points! However we should really be focusing on when to tell her...hmm. I'll think for a while...don't forget 映画男! H.K. is totally behind you man!


616 Name: 映画男 : 2008-06-29 13:38 ID:FetTx3R1

>>615 thanks alot for your support =] really appreciate the help you giving me, i would love to think positive points to the situation but everytime that happens, i always seem to screw it up =/

my current situation doesnt seem so good =/ she hasnt picked up any of my calls, or reply any messages or emails that i've sent, she was suppose to meet me the other day for a movie but she said she couldnt come cos of some stupid things thats been happening lately =/ i was worried so i sent a email asking her wats wrong etc, but no reply at all atm =[

and your right H.K if it doesnt work, it'll be extremely akward for both of us, and that will ruin my friendship with her =/ which means i'll loose someone close to me again and i really dont want that to happen =[ so i really need to know when to do it/how to do it so it doesnt stuff up =/ gosh this is tough, but i'm not gonna give up!!

617 Name: H.K. : 2008-06-29 18:28 ID:our7dskT


No problem really. :D
I read the whole thread a few days ago, and I can say I am touched by your story, and truly wish you the best in the end of it! But, it's not over yet! And you're right, you can't just constantly be positive, because you have to be concerned with certain things at some points! But you can't let yourself become negative either!
Truly, the ultimate battle!!! :O

The first point in your >>616 post, that I notice here, is "stupid things thats been happening lately". <- What's with that? Did she even tell you what things "stupid things" are? If not then that could be bad...she might have made it up if so.

No reply? ouch...but don't assume the worst just yet!
Maybe, if possible, call or leave a message, letting her know that you're concerned. EXAMPLE: "Hey, um, I was just calling to say hi, and I've been a little concerned about you lately...I would like to talk to you sometime, k, ttyl!"

^something like that would be nice. If you can't get her to talk to you, then leave a message like this to show concern, since really it's the truth, that you're concerned right? If you don't know what's bothering her then you don't have any clue if it's anything related to you in any way. Even if you've already done this, and hasn't worked, keep trying every now and then, but not too much! Main point in trying to get a hold of her is to find out what's wrong right? I think if you show some kind of concern in a message she may call you or message you somehow...

anyway...it's a step. x.x
Btw, are you sure if she's single?

Best wishes >>映画男

No problem really. :D
I read the whole thread a few days ago, and I can say I am touched by your story, and truly wish you the best in the end of it! But, it's not over yet! And you're right, you can't just constantly be positive, because you have to be concerned with certain things at some points! But you can't let yourself become negative either!
Truly, the ultimate battle!!! :O

The first point in your >>616 post, that I notice here, is "stupid things thats been happening lately". <- What's with that? Did she even tell you what things "stupid things" are? If not then that could be bad...she might have made it up if so.

No reply? ouch...but don't assume the worst just yet!
Maybe, if possible, call or leave a message, letting her know that you're concerned. EXAMPLE: "Hey, um, I was just calling to say hi, and I've been a little concerned about you lately...I would like to talk to you sometime, k, ttyl!"

^something like that would be nice. If you can't get her to talk to you, then leave a message like this to show concern, since really it's the truth, that you're concerned right? If you don't know what's bothering her then you don't have any clue if it's anything related to you in any way. Even if you've already done this, and hasn't worked, keep trying every now and then, but not too much! Main point in trying to get a hold of her is to find out what's wrong right? I think if you show some kind of concern in a message she may call you or message you somehow...

anyway...it's a step. x.x
Btw, are you sure if she's single?

Best wishes 映画男!! Never give in! -H.K.

618 Name: H.K. : 2008-06-29 18:30 ID:our7dskT

oh man sorry >.< I double posted in my >>617 post XD I had copied it so I wouldn't lose it if my connection went down because I'm having a couple connectivity issues right now lol. sorry!

619 Name: 映画男 : 2008-07-01 22:52 ID:U1Vwd2DO

>>617 I got a reply back the other day saying "yeh sorry for not telling you anything lol, hows things going?", seems like she's fine. I'm gonna try ask her out this friday for a movie, hopefully she can go. I've only called her like once every two days or so for the last 5 days to see whats going on, but she hasn't picked up, which is normal lol cos her phone is always on silence and apparently there is this guy who keeps calling her none stop, but i'm not too worried about the guy cos i know who it is lol, his just really desperate for girls.

620 Name: H.K. : 2008-07-03 11:21 ID:our7dskT


Hmm, I see. We'll at least things seem a better than your last post >>616 :) Maybe things will keep looking up!

And yes, it's good you know who the guy is and his reason for calling her. What a jerk lol.
We'll, good luck Eiga! I hope things go well when you ask her out!


621 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-05 20:54 ID:our7dskT

It's already been a day since Eiga was supposed to ask her out...it's so quiet in here...~_~

622 Name: 映画男 : 2008-07-12 14:55 ID:VyTO+CNT

sorry for late reply - -

well i went out with the girl, with other friend as well but that wasnt such a problem lol. she seem to always bump into me and gets really close to me, which is a good sign i think =] we went for a movie as a group (i paid for her movie), after the movie she came back to my apartment cos she said she wanted to see where i live (i live by my self now in the city with a roommate from high school), first thing she does is ask if she can borrow my T-shirt so its more comfortable. next thing she does she helps me wash my dishes - - which i feel pretty bad about while me and 3 other guys are playing card games, i kept asking if she needs help but shes like "nah its ok! you guys play". later on me, her and one of my friend went to the supermarket to buy some food cos she waned me to cook, on the way home she said she didnt feel too good so i carried her home. after dinner, we went to the river for a walk including 2 other guys, we sat there and she said her hands were cold so i said "here' and held her hands to warm them up ;D she didnt let go and i have to say her hands were seriously cold - - on the way home, she armlock with me, went back to my place again and talked, on the way to send her to the tram stop, i said i was gonna carry her stuff and she just looked at me and kept smiling without saying anything. i think things are going very well ;D but there a major problem shes having which i'm doing my best to help that i think i'll tell you guys on the next post. Eiga out =]

623 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-12 15:06 ID:1Nl851Mc

>i said i was gonna carry her stuff and she just looked at me and kept smiling without saying anything.

You probably should (or at least could) have kissed her at that point, you know?

624 Name: 映画男 : 2008-07-13 07:15 ID:NwWnzsnD

>>623 couldnt really do it cos there were other people around =/

the problem i was talking about on my previous post, is that the girl right now has very big financial problems, i shouldnt really talk about it here but overall, the problem is big enough that she wont be able to stay in school next term apparently. I really want to help her out but i really dont know how =/ i offered her half of what i get in my job which is like $150 AUD an hour. last night i told her that "thing may be bad right now but trust me, everything will work out =], i promise you that i'll be here for you with help and support till the very end" and she replied back sayinh "aaww..thanks so much, i seriously need this, and your support means alot," i'm helping her find a job at the moment and told her to go look for some short courses in university that she can take, money seems to be the biggest problem for her now since her parents are over seas etc (cant really say anything =/) what should i do?

625 Name: 映画男 : 2008-07-13 07:15 ID:NwWnzsnD

>>623 couldnt really do it cos there were other people around =/

the problem i was talking about on my previous post, is that the girl right now has very big financial problems, i shouldnt really talk about it here but overall, the problem is big enough that she wont be able to stay in school next term apparently. I really want to help her out but i really dont know how =/ i offered her half of what i get in my job which is like $150 AUD an hour. last night i told her that "thing may be bad right now but trust me, everything will work out =], i promise you that i'll be here for you with help and support till the very end" and she replied back sayinh "aaww..thanks so much, i seriously need this, and your support means alot," i'm helping her find a job at the moment and told her to go look for some short courses in university that she can take, money seems to be the biggest problem for her now since her parents are over seas etc (cant really say anything =/) what should i do?

626 Name: 映画男 : 2008-07-13 07:51 ID:NwWnzsnD

btw sorry for double posting =[ clicked twice by accident

627 Name: lil_snow.angel : 2008-07-13 09:33 ID:ytHJ/hOv

dude, i think ur obsessed over girls. no offense though, eiga otoko. i'm a chinese too. but i reckon at first, u wanted to seek advice about long-distance relationship n that was ok. but then from there, u started to jump from one girl to another. maybe u should leave girls out of your mind for a bit? i don't know- just giving some decent advice =]
u know how when u lose stuff, u seem to never be able to find it no matter how hard u look? then, for some reason, when u stop looking for it, it comes back to u. well, love is sorta like that. u won't be able to find true love by searching endlessly for it. u just have to wait for the right moment for it to come to u. =]

628 Name: H.K. : 2008-07-18 08:21 ID:our7dskT

>>627 No! I really don't think he's obsessed at all. There's nothing wrong with him searching for that someone out there. >>627 You have some points, about the way love is, with it coming to you and all, I know this...for a fact. But if you don't have the will to search, or have the amazing will as Eiga does, then who knows if you'll even have the will to maintain when "it" does come.

Eiga Otoko! DON'T GIVE UP! You're so close right now! Things have changed tremendously now! She has shown many good signs! And I'm so proud of you! The good signs you have shown, many have shown as well! Always be there for her, and be as kind as you can! You're soaring now Eiga! Now we gotta keep you in flight!

As for what you should do...Well, being so supportive is really already the first start...if you feel you can help her out financially, that's your choice, and showing her how much you're willing, and how much you care is a BIG impact! From what you've told us in the last 2 big posts of yours, is that you've made some pretty big important impacts here. Keep it up!!
Helping her so much with money and job and advice and all...you're doing it! You're doing exactly what you should do. I for one can't think of anything else you can really do right now. Just never stop the support! It means more than you may know!
You're awesome Eiga! Keep soaring!!!


629 Name: H.K. : 2008-08-02 22:36 ID:our7dskT

Eiga! It's been 15 days! ;-;
Hope all is still well! ^_^


630 Name: Plasmid : 2008-08-04 07:36 ID:03cQUpBY

Quite interesting story of you.. may i know where you are?

631 Name: H.K. : 2008-08-04 12:32 ID:our7dskT

Apparently, Eiga Otoko is from Australia, I believe.

T-T and still hasn't returned...now it's been almost 18 days!

632 Name: H.K. : 2008-08-20 18:39 ID:p473IhwL

About 38 days and counting...
>>627 probably screwed everything up >.<

映画男! Did something bad happen?? T_T It's ok to come back here. I wont think badly of you. You've gotta be here...;-;

633 Name: 映画男 : 2008-08-25 14:40 ID:RzJsywRT

D: sorry for not replying for ages, i've been so busy with production cos i was working on a music video and recording music. hmm its going pretty good with the girl, seeing as i was so busy i only got to keep on contact with email. surprisingly in her email she admitted she bitched about me once a year ago and it was understandable cos i had a fight with her best friend last year cos she was being really stalkish to me so i forgave her for that =]

shes never called in since i known her, last friday out of the blue she called me and asked me what she can get for her sisters 24th bday cos she was looking for present, so i came and helped her out which turned out pretty good, was really surprised that she called me, so things are going pretty good.

her birthday is coming up soon and i'm deciding what will be good to give her, seeing that shes turning 18 i think i should get someone nice, any suggestions?

634 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-10-22 09:52 ID:ulTNLmTa

Well, it's been about a month and a half...wonder how Eiga's doing...

635 Name: 映画男 : 2008-10-25 17:22 ID:ZuW1pudW

sorry for all the slow replies D:

she broke up with me on her birthday =/

636 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-10-30 22:54 ID:agcvVuYV


ouch. burn her at the stake.

637 Name: 映画男 : 2008-11-13 17:41 ID:HRgNEu8L

>>635 lol, close enough, more of rejection.

i havnt been doing much since the day she rejected me, though hurt as usual and thought i lost the one i really love, however i realized loosing one, i gained one. i found a girl whos been close to me for this entire year, i never realized i had one next to me till now, we love each other and i finally get a happy ending = ] waited for quiet a long time but i finally found my happiness, i want to spend my time wisely with her and cherish all the moments = ]

i guess thats the end of my story haha

638 Name: 映画男 : 2008-11-29 14:07 ID:Df2ve2EA

lol sadly my story continues as the girl was just playing around with me.... *sigh

the story goes on

639 Name: GOD : 2008-11-29 17:33 ID:Heaven

That sucks. Two rejections i couldn't handle.

640 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-11-30 12:41 ID:ulTNLmTa

Don't give up Eiga!

641 Name: 映画男 : 2008-12-22 07:32 ID:Heaven

>>639 try 14 times man = =

i've decided to leave australia to go to japan next year, hopefully it'll be better =]

642 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-06-11 17:16 ID:83XvXP2I

Eiga r u still alive?

643 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-06-11 17:19 ID:Heaven

>>642 i believe this thread has been dead for centuries

644 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-06-11 22:05 ID:3m4ljO98

>>642 im sure Eiga lives out there, somewhere..

645 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-06-12 09:54 ID:Heaven

Yeah, not taking our advice, and getting played by girls.
Frankly I got tired after the second girl he was chasing.
He always asked for advice, and never took it, even though later he realised he should have.
Ran out of empathy and encouragement for him a long time ago.

646 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-06-13 06:53 ID:Heaven

R.I.P Eiga Otoko.. where ever you are

647 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-06-13 16:16 ID:exwRKDcB

>>645 aww.. well maybe he was terrified of the given advice? :P so he thought its better to do as he actually dared like :P

>>646 im sure he aint dead :3 (least i hope so)

648 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-06-14 18:55 ID:pGlRBNsZ

>>645 well people learn from their mistakes, im sure he learned ALOT due to his rejections, though i seriously wonder why he disappeared all of a sudden....

649 Name: Ryuuchi : 2009-06-15 10:28 ID:dXpp8upa

Phew, I finally caught on most of the things. This is the longest thread I have ever read in my entire forums life.

Anywho, I have followed most of Eiga Otoko's posts and it seems he has good and bad times when it comes to girls. For some reason when one girl doesn't turn out well for him, he suddenly has a back up which was interesting. Somethings tells me that Eiga Otoko's a guy who is better approaching girls than I do? Lol.

It's been about 6 months and there's no reply from him. I really want to hear what's going on with his life right now and I feel that I want to support him. Eiga Otoko, your story is so much interesting than Densha Otoko's story. Densha Otoko experienced only one girl when you have experienced more than one. I don't give a damn about the negative comments that are given to you. To me, you seem to be a kool guy and that I envy you to have talked with the girls you've known longer than me. You have impressed me so far. There are a lot of things I want to say and I just hate to type it all here and have people read all the long words I've typed. To sum it all up: Eiga Otoko, you have never given up at life, your own life and it is amazing how you went this far and I want you to keep moving forward. You are someone I probably become one of my inspirations because of you experiences you've told here. A lot of people have their ups and downs and you should know that, everyone should know that. It's awesome that people here are giving you advice to help you out. It is just that this whole thread seem so surreal to me but it's for real. It's the real deal.

So, Eiga Otoko. If you are still lurking around here in 4CH and you are reading this. I've decided to help you out because you are the man. You are the man. Don't give up, keep moving forward, and do what you want to do in your life in the right way. I'm behind you all the way as well as others here who want to help you out too. =)

650 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-06-16 11:45 ID:Heaven

There are two fat reasons why Densha is different from Eiga;

  1. Densha actually listened to the posters of the thread
  2. He also got the girl in the end (who unlike Eiga's girls, was a bloody catch)

651 Name: miyuzaki : 2009-06-16 17:45 ID:4YwyZbyv

>>650 but if you think about it, eiga's girl was pretty bitchty the way they act towards him

652 Name: Ryuuchi : 2009-06-16 20:21 ID:dXpp8upa

Maybe, due to his obsession over them, he was being forceful? Because I noticed that he would ask a girl out and then later on, it turns out bad. Maybe the question to ask a girl out is the effect of it.

653 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-06-17 10:26 ID:Heaven

Exactly. He was just a horny teenage boy that couldn't see that girls kept using him. It was like he just chased anything that walked on two legs. To compare him to Densha, is like comparing a goddess and a hag.

654 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-06-21 02:20 ID:Heaven

Like a lot of others, this is the longest thread I've ever read in my life...

I think that Eiga really should have listened to the "Take a break from girls for a while." advice, since it seemed like a string of girls were just waiting their turn to mess with him, and having so many rejections in that short of time probably made him a little desperate for something that wasn't just another girl messing with him. (That's from observation IRL though, I can't really speak for Eiga of course)

I hope Eiga's well though, wherever he ended up.

As a woman, I seem to have lost faith in a lot of my gender after reading this thread though orz...

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656 Name: Lawliet : 2009-06-26 01:37 ID:3YGwCwyo

somehow i get the feeling eiga is reading this but not replying.... but hey eiga if your there, tell us whats going on after all that experience you went through. best of luck!

657 Name: 映画男 : 2009-07-21 15:21 ID:0eLfLFAT

Im back!! :D

658 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-07-21 17:45 ID:exwRKDcB

>>657 hi :]

659 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-07-23 08:41 ID:3gstMBzZ

This was quite the epic thread. Took some time to read, but....

Firstly, this Eiga man went through an inhuman of girls in the span of 2 years. Congrats on that, buddy. I really do hope you find a good girl to settle down with; one that doesn't decide to dump your ass like they've all seemed to do. I'm actually amazed you still even had a sliver of confidence after all those subsequent rejections you were put through; I'm sure most men would have given up on life in general. You're a unique creature, Eiga; one that must have the worst luck with relationships in all of humankind. With all that said, I have the utmost respect for your perserverance; you're like that of a soldier who disregards orders and continues to go after the enemy, even after your fellow soldiers abandon/betray you, and the bullets of said enemies continue to riddle your heart with pain and sadness.

Fight on, my friend. Show us man can not only live through Hell, but escape into Heaven.

660 Name: densha : 2009-07-23 12:41 ID:1tUIAEUa


661 Name: 映画男 : 2009-08-04 15:20 ID:ny4p+MLh

well a lot has happened while i was gone from this thread, i got rejected on valentines day by the same girl last year (yes i know it was stupid) but funny thing was i did nothing that day, i was on the way to meet her, saw someone selling flowers so i thought it would be a nice present since she agreed to go out with me on valentines day. so i arrived with one flower and she saw it immediately said "you realize i dont like you right?", was really shattered since that day that i was literally in pain for the last 5 months.

the girl never talked to me since valentines day, i dont know why but last year when she rejected me she still talked to me as if nothing happened. well she avoided me during those 5 months, i was very shattered that i stand on my balcony watching the sunrise for about a week or two, March wasnt a very good month for me.. i was about to graduate from my course and i had no motivation due to the rejection, one of my best friend blamed me for this stupid thing she has in her mind, she tries very hard to fit in my group but doesnt fit and blames me cos they're my friends....and later just talks shit about me to everyone. plus on valentines day that night, since i was shattered i called her up saying i feel like shit, she just says "oh im tiredd so i thnk i'll go home" , i had to literally nag her to come out which she did, gave me a massive lecture about how me and the girl didnt fit, how she thinks me and her wont work out, how i dont appreciate what i have and so on. that really hit me cos she basiclly just spilled out what she thinks of me and to be honest, i wasnt really looking for a damn lecture after being so shattered. so i went to find one of my friend who at the time broke up with his ex girlfriend and was also shattered, we decided to start going clubbing to get back in our live and move on.

662 Name: 映画男 : 2009-08-04 15:21 ID:ny4p+MLh

first night was a major disaster, there was a big event in this club called SEVEN and had alot of people from melbourne university club called AA, me and my friend waited in line for 3 hours, i saw one of my best friends come out cos he got in first since he was a member of AA, i suddenly say LYSS who i havnt seen for a year and a half since she rejected me. god that night i felt like someone just shot me with a sniper rifle like 10 times into my chest, i felt so awkward seeing her that i was like " LYSS!!......hi...." and she saw me and said hi in a very awkward way as well. i couldn't take it cos i still felt awkward seeing her especially in a club, so me and my friend left since we couldn't get in anyway. the next day, i had a break down when i talked to one of my good friend, i dont know why but my friend could see through me that i still wasnt over her when i thought i was... which was pretty strange for me since i hardly talked to lyss. during that week, i lost my wallet with my rent money, really drove me mad cos i was seriously thinking "this must be the end...." i nearly lost all my hope, the girl of my dreams rejected me on valentines day, my rent money is gone and couldnt pay the rent, i almost failed my course due to lack of motivation since i was skipping my set when we were filming, didnt know i wasnt over lyss when i thought i was. i was on the urge of running away, i went to one secret place i always go to, turned my phone off and just sat there for a whole night thinking. i guess what kept me fighting was that, i realized i lost everything, so now i had nothing to loose, and i know out there people still needed me. so i decided to go back and kept fighting all those problems that was going on.

me and my other friend, we went to anther club the next week which we managed to get in. he taught me what to do as a wingman, how it works etc. he got me hooked up with some girl in the club and since that night, every friday night he would come to my place, we do some pre-drinks and head to a club, we met a lot of new people esp some new friends as well, though my reputation made me look like some player but i must admit, it did help me move on from valentines day. though every 14th i just feel weird and would stand on my balcony till sunrise. i didnt always hook up in club, i just liked the atmosphere where people are here to enjoy the night and have fun, which was my main thing, to have fun. my social life began to grow pretty big, having karaoke sessions with new friends and heading to bars or new clubs every week, things were starting to look good =D

663 Name: 映画男 : 2009-08-04 15:22 ID:ny4p+MLh

was really enjoying my life since april, may and june was good intill end of june. i had a new interest at a girl for about a month, we were hitting a club that night since she asked me to go with her. at the dance floor, there was this guy that kept on grabbing her and she would like scream, so i kept pushing the guy away from her but he kept coming back, i had to shove him really hard to tell him to back off but for some reason, this guy doenst give up! so the girl was like "its ok" and she started talking to him. again i saw the guy like hugging her and she looked rather awkward so i came and pushed him away, his friend came over and was like "whats wrong buddy" and im like "nothing! maybe you should watch your friend more carefully" . so after that he just asked her no, and left, BUT since that night, the girl and the guy had been talking alot, especially his korean since the girl was into korean guys. 2 weeks later, me and the girl went clubbing again with her friend, she didnt feel to good so we took her to her friends apartment, i looked after her for about 30 minutes and told her to lie down, but she was going on "I need to call the guy.... i have to call him" and lied on the bed and started calling the other guy. her friend knew i was interested and kinda gave me a "im so sorry for you" look =/ i was a bit down so i went to find my best friend and stayed there for the night. the next day, i promised my friend i would go find his ex girlfriend and talk to her for him, we went to her work place but she wasnt there so went back to my place and called her, had a bit of a talk with her. later i hang up, i got a call and i thought was the ex gf, the girl was like "do you know who i am?" and i was like "umm who are you?" and she said "omg..: and hanged up. after a 4 minute think, i realized it was the valentines girl fro the things she said to me. i was damn excited to receive a call from her since i didnt hear from her for so long, then regret it cos i messed it up..

664 Name: 映画男 : 2009-08-04 15:24 ID:ny4p+MLh

during that week, i went to my best friends place with my new best friends (a girl i met at a club, started talking to her alot), and that night, the best friend (girl) was rather flirty and touchy with my best friend and made me rather awkward cos i felt like a third wheel, so i left early cos they were like all hugging and stuff (plus they hooked up in club before), that night i called the girl i was interested and she told me she was interested in the korean guy, i was kinda down in a way knowing i shoulda just shoved him even harder that night, some weird stuff happened that night between my best friend which im not gonna mention ;) later that night i had some drinks with my friends and had maybe bit over. i called the girl who was into the korean guy and kept saying "why dont you like me? is it cos im korean? is he better then me?" over the phone, she said to me "dont say that.." and apparently i was crying when i said those stuff according to my friends. we later saw her on the streets with the korean guy and apparently i went up to the guy and said "IM GONNA SPANK YOUR ASS SO HARD YOUR MOTHERS NOT GONNA RECOGNIZE YOU (wtf was in my head..dont ask me) and the girl was like "go home and rest, ill call you later", but she never did, we had a talk that night and i know she was pissed at me so i didnt talk to her that much. cos in the end, she was with the korean guy... i was lost again that week due that i had to pack up my entire apartment in 1 weeks time since i was leaving melbourne australia for Taiwan, plus i pissed off my best friend (girl) cos of being all drunk and doing stupid things so she kinda ignored me for a few days. my best friend (girl) came to my place at 3am after clubbing cos i wanted to talk to her and she said she wanted to talk as well, so she came over and told me why she was pissed at me, said i always do stupid stuff and regret it, not listening to people. i have to admit, i was really lost, mainly due to the apartment stress plus about the korean guy and my best friend, the next day i broke down and for some reason... i called lyss. she picked up not knowing it was me and was surprised, i had a little talk with her and later called my other good friend for the entire day. i dont know why i was so lost during that time but since that night, i managed to fix up all my shit with the apartment, with the girl and korean guy and my best friend. my best friend (girl) was going to the states for holiday, i went to the airport 30 mins before her arrival to give her my thanks and a present, though she missed her flight and was surprised to see me, that night we went to my best friends place again and us 3 just mucked around, writing alot of things in my journal and had a great night, i didnt sleep cos i had to meet up with my dad that morning for breakfast in Crown Casino, and i had to fix my passport and move all my things in one day without any sleep. that night i had a little gathering with some friends and had the most enjoyable night i ever had, listening to all my friends problems and fix it that night and trying to meet as many friends as i can. sadly there was a few i couldnt meet before i leave but it was still good to see some friends before i leave.

btw sorry for such a long post :P i'll try update this more XD

665 Name: 映画男 : 2009-08-04 15:25 ID:ny4p+MLh


i left melbourne the next day, wishing i had more time to see some people, a certain person i wanted to see before i leave, the valentines girl. i wanted to see her when she finished her job before i left but i didnt have enough time. maybe it was better i didnt see her. now im in taiwan, with a new life, knowing what im doing, plus the valentines girl just replied my email today which means we're gonna start talking =] its been a long long wait, 5 months wait for an email reply, reminds me of back at the time when i was waiting for Aya's email, except this time it was bigger, plus it was her who called me that day, she said she was annoyed that i sounded like i didnt really care and had no idea what i was talking about. i was so happy to get her reply cos knowing something i lost is back, makes me feel really happy. I must say, this year so many things have happened, i also had some family problems back in march which im not proud to say, loosing hope could be the worst feeling in life, but i have to say is.... never loose hope, cos hope is what keeps you fighting, to the road that you will have to take. I may have done some stupid things not listening to people, but i must say i have learned alot from all my mistakes so that i wont do it again. my life this year may have felt like hell to me for a while, but when you keep fighting, you will escape into your own heaven. FIGHT ON PEOPLE AND LIVE YOUR DREAMS!

btw sorry for such a long post :P i'll try update this more XD

666 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-08-05 18:13 ID:eBKphWkX

I think that's the kind of attitude you need to have sometimes in life, Eiga. That's good that you're doing well! Taiwan may be a nice place to start over, and hopefully finally find someone nice.

Please find a nice girl somewhere for yourself. Like 659 said, you've gone through relationship crap most of us can't even imagine, and it's probably about time you got something for it. Good luck =D

667 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-08-07 12:42 ID:5CynNJ48

I'm sorry, although I applaud Eiga for his "get up and go" attitude, I really can't see any epicness in this thread..

I think that you will find that the ones who have been advising Eiga to take a break from girls are girls themselves. The ones who have been blindly encouraging him are the guys. I don't mean to sound sexist or egotistical, but I think that us girls have a better perspective on this. We know the type of girls that Eiga has fallen head over heels for in the past couple of years. Some of us may have even been those type of girls. So we have some idea of the type of guy that Eiga is, and have advised him to let love come to him, instead of the other way around.

Rejection after rejection will make one desperate and needy. Girls are smart in that they can pick this up a mile away and are repulsed by it. Some (like the ones in Eiga's life) however, will take advantage of it.

I wish I had kinder words to say to you Eiga, but I guess I'm a bit cynical of you when your heart seems to jump from one girl to the next within the space of a minute.

668 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-08-07 15:00 ID:Heaven

I must admit, its not easy for Eiga to come along the path his been taking. it seems that Eiga has given us the impression that he cant settle down with one girl since his jumping from one girl to another. but if you dont mind me asking you Eiga, did any of your previous rejections made you hurt so bad you just dont want to feel like that again so you use girls as an excuse to cover it up? from experience, i know if a guy really likes a girl that when he gets rejected, his hurt so bad he just goes for another girl so he doesnt feel that pain, but deep down, they are never over the girl. from your latest post, i believe that Eiga wasnt over lyss, and was trying to find ways to get over her, hence he gives people the impression his desperate. but more of desperate of moving on from what i think, you cant really blame eiga, as a guy, we like to act tough so when we get rejected, we dont act all sad about it but go for another girl to make it look like we moved on from the previous girl. I really admire Eigas way of dealing life, not just romance in general but also his own problems he has to face, most guys would go insane when so much stuff happens at once, but eiga was able to cope with it and keep going, Good job EIga =]

but i agree with >>667 you should let love it self come to you instead of looking for it, cos the more you look for it the further it is. but i think in eigas case its a little different, thats what i think anyway.

669 Name: 659 in case you're too lazy to look at the anon id : 2009-08-07 21:16 ID:3gstMBzZ

Notice my previous post was blatantly exaggerated. Maybe not enough, seeing as how you didn't notice. "Epic" was a part of that exaggeration. I agree that this thread was not on the level of epic, and I also agree that a big part of all those rejections he recieved was, indeed, his fault - unknowingly, of course; which is a big reason why he feels the victim. Yet, as I'm sure he knows all that by now, don't you think it'd be better to, maybe, encourage him onto the right path? I read your surmise - about you being cynical and the like - but I'm sure that's because you felt like you needed to solidify a point he should have already had implanted in his mind.

Or, maybe I'm wrong, and am overestimating Eiga in his ability to read into why his relationships have gone wrong; maybe even overestimating his ability to read. If that is the case, maybe your post helped him more than a post filled with words of encouragement - maybe - if his ability to read truly isn't impaired beyond salvation - the point you females have been trying to make has finally hit home, and it may change the way he approaches relationships for the better - that is, not approaching relationships.

Hey, if you want some of my advice, I'd say it'd probably be better to not become the go-to boy for advice - the one who'll help the problems of [the one you like] without expecting anything in return. That's one thing your failed relationships have had in common - maybe that's telling you something? Or maybe it was something else. Think, Eiga, and maybe you'll find a solution to fix the root of your relationship problems.

Or maybe it'd be best not to think at all. Great, now I'm confused. To end this tl;dr with a nice, warm, fuzzy comment: YOU CAN DO IT, EIGA! I BELIEVE IN YOU!

670 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-08-08 17:28 ID:r7YpnFnB


You're right, most people respond better with encouragement rather than blunt words/advice. But I guess that I feel slightly frustrated when Eiga seems to make the same mistake time and time again, without learning from it. No matter how much the point is reiterated, it seems to go unheard. And I have a feeling that it's not going to change no matter how we repackage the advice.

For the record, I find your attitude of considering everyone's view points, and acknowledging them, very refreshing. I wish there were more guys like you.

671 Name: 映画男 : 2009-09-13 07:07 ID:lSKxNqE6

>>667 yeah its true, at the start the rejections did made me pretty desperate, which is what caused the jump from one girl to another i reckom =/ i guess i took the hard way to learn things when i could have taken a easier path.

>>668 yeah, i took lyss's rejection pretty bad =/ i was pretty lost at the time cos i didnt know if i should hang on to lyss or just move on, so i thought if i moved on it would be better aka try to see other people. to be honest, lyss rejected me pretty harsly =/ most of my friends called her a bitch cos she was saying how i worship her or something making it sound like im so clingy to her. but that was the past, and yeah it took some time to get over her.

>>669 it took me a while but i did figure out what my problem is, i tend to rush things and which makes me look really desperate, e.g. there was one time i was way too nice to a girl at the start and it made it look obvious that i was into her, also i kept calling her everyday. recently i took things slower and didnt rush things, and it seems to work out pretty good with this girl i met, we naturally connect with a short amount of time but she had to move back to USA to study so i just remained good friends with her, i was planing on confessing but in the end i didnt, i wanted to save it to make it more special if the chance ever comes up in the future.

anyway i just moved into college dorm, class starts tomorrow so everythings new again, everything seems pretty good so far :)

672 Name: 659 : 2009-09-16 00:24 ID:atiAzGLb

Good show, Eiga. Looks like you've identified the problem, and solved it; that's not an easy thing to do. I'm sure you'll meet a fine girl at your college that'll stay your wandering heart. I think you should probably leave out the confessing part until you truly see signs of her liking you back; blindly confessing just because you've known her for some time and really like her is not a good idea, even if you've kicked things off well. Flirt, show interest subtly, and see how she responds to it - you don't want to land a permanent just-friends relationship with the girl you like.

Anyways, good luck and such with life and love and all that jazz. Keep us updated, because we all love you deep down in our hearts.


673 Name: WaiWuLong : 2009-09-17 11:25 ID:/XCfM88p

Hi Eiga,

I've read a little bit about your story. I get the gist of it. But if I were you (in fact, I've been rejected by girls too) I would ban these bitches forever, away from my heart. If they don't accept my attention and after all I've done for them, then they really don't deserve it. So, my game plan is as soon as a girl says "No", I leave her and move to the next one.

Fark it, there are more wonderful things to experience out there than regretting over rejection in a sad little-squared bedroom.

674 Name: 映画男 : 2009-09-26 19:11 ID:TqQ7bDJ6

well its been a while, college life is really good, met a lot good people in my dorm. i met a girl in my class, every night we go out for walks from 10 to 12am, first night we just ate at the cafeteria, then went out for a walk and talked a bit, we walked through a dark alley and she just grabbed my arm. 2nd night, we walked to a dark place again, and i just grabbed her hand, we started to hold hands and walked around, we found a place and lied down, looked at the stars and started talking. she said she wants to come visit australia with me next year. this week, we started holding hands again, there are times our faces are so close we almost kissed, she sometimes just stares at me and i'll ask her "whats wrong?" and she just say "nothing, just looking at you", she tends to stare at me a lot when we sit down.

today during my birthday, we went to starbucks, she brought me 2 cakes and started feeding me xD tomorrow shes gonna have dinner with my parents, wonder how thats gonna go =D

eiga out

675 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-09-27 23:19 ID:Heaven

Why didn't you straight up kiss her, on any of those occasions? Wait, I haven't read this 674 post thread but I'm betting you're one of THOSE PEOPLE who is too shy to do anything even when you really want to.

676 Name: 映画男 : 2009-09-28 16:06 ID:xpHMuADX

fuck i just found out she had a bf and she just got dumped the day before my birthday...

fuck i feel like i was used again, oh well

677 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-09-28 17:58 ID:gplnmUeq

Or, their relationship was going stale anyway and now she's free to get closer to you.

I think this might well be the case.

678 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-09-28 22:30 ID:atiAzGLb

Remember, if you actively pursue her like you have with the other girls, you'll just end up in heartbreak like before. If you like her, let her continue with her advances, and act on them. If you don't like her, reject her advances or straight-out tell her so. Also, did she go up to you and tell you she was dumped? If she didn't say so personally, it could actually have been her that dumped her boyfriend, leading to the conclusion that she dumped him for you. It was before your birthday, so she might have decided she'd go after you without restraint now that she is free of a relationship; if true, then she's truly interested in you, Eiga. Now all's you've gotta do is court her some and she's yours for a girlfriend, baby. No garuntees it will last, but hey, it's a start.

679 Name: 映画男 : 2009-09-29 04:59 ID:/T+speQI

at the moment shes just really sad about being dumped by her bf, the day before my birthday, she was telling me how she regretted coming back home, i asked her why but she said she'll tell me another day, the next day when i met her, she told me in person that she was dumped by her bf and was crying for the whole night. at the start i was pretty shocked but not pissed off, but yesterday in class i kept thinking about it, i feel like shes using me as a rebound, cos she said last night she saw the break up coming, kept asking me why he doesnt want her etc.

i did had a talk with her the other day asking whats going on between us, she said "i treat you like a family, but i like it when your around." im a little upset how she didnt tell me she had a bf since we were so flirty during our walks at night, kinda makes me feel if i go out with her, she might do the same thing with other guys when im not around. my dorm friends said i should just ignore her and find someone else, but i dont know. i just think its harsh if she treats me like her brother and i ignore her during these bad times =/

680 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-22 03:34 ID:Heaven

man she sounds like a bitch, DUMP HER AGAIN!

681 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-11-04 03:23 ID:Heaven

is it just me or does eiga just attract bitches

682 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-12-03 03:04 ID:Ep9wf7O/

its been like months! what happened eiga?

683 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-12-03 03:11 ID:atiAzGLb

Most likely, he 'twas finally eaten by the Mother Bitch Bear. He's got a fierce natural Bitch Bear musk, after all.

684 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-12-06 06:46 ID:xk2ref1/


Fuck the bitches' feelings. You gotta start looking after Number 1. Stop letting yourself be used, and show some backbone. Seems like you're always the nice guy, the guy a girl can dump all her emotional bullshit on.

No mas.

685 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-12-10 03:40 ID:khFDCwAg

>>681 eiga is like a bitch magnet,

anyway you should just ignore her, shes either one of those who just want attention from guys or she was just playing around with you. and yes i agree with >>684, fuck the bitches feelings, think of your self for once eiga! best of luck

686 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-12-13 06:52 ID:/Tr+fAMz

My take on it is that she knew her bf was losing interest in her, so she was trying to get some affection from you.

She totally played you man. Family, no matter how close, don't go walking hand in hand for hours every night.

687 Name: 映画男 : 2009-12-23 07:00 ID:mmAgL+OI

well its been a while, i end up dumping the girl later on, didnt talk to her after that and im she sure realized why, well college life is pretty intense! been doing alot of performance cos i joined the piano club, recording my own music and doing alot of assignments. I've been pretty close to this girl i met in the piano club, i talk to her like till 4am every day. last night i had a performance and i told her i was gonna perform a song i made for her and she really liked it. theres been like 2-3 girls whos like been trying to get close to me, they're not bad but im taking it slow, since college life is pretty busy.

688 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-12-25 11:40 ID:txnG7i+w

Hello Eiga Otoko

Im sorry if this has already been mentioned i have not read all of the thread recently as it's grown fairly large and my eyes are getting strained. Although i can understand from such posts you have been actively getting into new relationships and such.

Has there been any development with your first love Aya? Or has it completely blown over? I mean this thread was made over her so now it practically seems like this thread is just a output for your current personal life.

You may disregard my comment if you'd like although i mean no hostility, but i think you have accumulated enough experience and advice to make your own decisions now. So i find it strange for you to remain discussing the predicaments of all your love-interests as a open book. If they could read this do you think they would be happy about it?

689 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-12-29 19:36 ID:Heaven

>>688 dudddeee, aya is history, Eiga can do better then aya since she disappears too much, plus eiga entertains us with his never ending love life lol

690 Name: Anonymous : 2010-01-25 23:01 ID:Heaven

Is this thread dead?

691 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-02-15 20:19 ID:Heaven

it can be alive if you want ;)

692 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-02-23 23:33 ID:Heaven

>>690 It's up to little ol' Eiga to revive it, I'd say.

693 Name: 映画男 : 2010-02-26 10:38 ID:Yzg/eBxC

its been a while, thought i'll make an update

the girl i dumped ages ago is still trying to get back in touch with me, but i've just been avoiding her in college, though we sometimes just chat since i thought we can still be friends. lucky i dumped her cos shes one of those girls who just flirts randomly with any guys she sees. she always touches my neck every time she sees me for some reason

theres a girl in my class that has a crush on me for a while, shes 2 years younger then me and she always tries to talk to me in class when ever she sits next to me, even tried to ask me out one on one. but apparently her group of friends are pretty bitchy, e.g one of her group was interested in me for a while, always talked to me when ever no one was around, but her group found out and was making fun of her so she stopped talking to me ever since, so this girl always talk to me whenever the group isnt around. im pretty sure she hinted a confession to me once after class, i was standing outside the classroom waiting for my friend, she walks by and says "im waiting for your 1066 (1066 was a song i made about valentines day rejection, 1066 meant i knew the girl for 1066 days) "

There's this other girl whos what people call "the hottest" in this other class, i met her during orientation camp, though im in the same class as her in one of my subjects, we dont really talk in class since she sits like 3 tables behind me. she always starts a convo with me and ask where i disappear to after class lol. she found out i had a piano performance and said she would only come just to see me, but due to some situation she didnt come and she said she felt guilty about it, which i told her wasnt a big deal so she said she was going to make chocolate her self and give to me as a gift for not showing up my performance. which she actually did make the chocolate and even made a nice card. it was chinese new year last week and as a joke i said i will give her a red pocket since im older, and she says "hehe i'll look forward to ur red pocket :))"

the girl that i performed for her last time has been a big progress going on. we talked a lot on the phone during our vacation break, there was one time i was singing karaoke with friends, she called so i went out to talk for about 40 mins, my friend came over and said my song was up so i told the girl i had to go in to sing my song, but she was like "noo dont leave yet, talk to me for a bit more". so i stayed and talked to her for like another 30 mins. i had to get another sim card cos my phone bill kept going up last month, im starting to like her, shes nice and a caring person and everyone in the piano club thinks we're going out. i had some big family issues last week, she kept calling me asking how i was and stuff. schools gonna start next week so i will definitely see next week at school, oh yeh, we already made arrangements that she'll go out with me for a day in taipei, since our college is outside taipei.

its funny when i think about it, back in australia none of these thing will ever happen to me, i guess things change through time.

694 Name: Anonymous : 2010-02-26 22:56 ID:vEOqem1m


It's good to know you haven't been eaten by a bear!

Also, go after that girl you performed for.

695 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-02-27 18:01 ID:fF4GKvB7

And look at this! Three girls pining after Eiga, instead of he chasing them! Good show, Eiga, good show; you've got the power of choice, so choose the right one, now. On that note, the piano girl sounds like sounds like a good chance for you to get into a fair, affectionate, non-parasitical relationship. Make sure to be a gentleman on that date; no getting drunk and wailing on some guy now! Anyways, good luck to ye, and keep on keepin' on.

696 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-02-28 08:26 ID:Yzg/eBxC

I've been following this thread since our little eiga first posted, i must admit eiga has improved from these 4 years, eiga was very stubborn at the beginning like most guys would, but he has shown some patience and alot of confidence after being rejected countless times, for me if i was eiga i would be dead from that many rejections, especially that Eiga went through some major ones like lyss for example. Eiga was blind to see most of the girls he chase were either bitches or just using him, his finally opened his eyes. well Eiga finally took our advice and look at the results!! his getting girls and more then just one!!

one thing im impressed is how he can keep this thread going for so long, this might be 4ch's longest thread in history! also notice how Eiga always looses hope and is at the edge of giving up, but he just manages to bring his confidence and stand up again, im very impressed at that. anyway best of luck Eiga! keep up updated! wish you all the best bro!

697 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-03-01 05:02 ID:6+V15u43

Eiga, romance aside, what are you doing in life? I don't think I ever read the update. One minute you were in Australia, then Japan and China...very interested in what happened.

698 Name: 映画男 : 2010-03-01 19:24 ID:6osUr43C

>>697 i lived in Australia for 18 years, was going to move to japan but instead i went to taiwan, been in taiwan for about 8 months. I did a film school for about a year and a half called SAE institute, now im studying multi media at kainan univeristy, now im just recording my own music and upload them to my website during my free time.

699 Name: stav : 2010-03-01 19:49 ID:Heaven

hey Eiga Otoko

i've known you for some time, 3-4 years maybe? i'm pretty sure you know who i am by the name. its been a while since i talk to you last time, i know our convo last time didnt end too well as you know why. it took me sometime to read this thread, you showed me this 2 years ago do you remember? when you first told me about your story with aya you showed me this thread. anyway, after reading this i know your feelings were very strong back then, i know i didnt take you seriously, i know i didnt take it very well, i know you still feel the pain even though your miles away or even if its been so long. Its good to hear your doing well, at least your not emo :) i know i havnt been very nice to you after our incident, so i just want to apologize in front of everyone, im sorry for hurting you, Im sorry for the things i've said, we all do stupid things that we regret in the end, you've always been a great friend to me, i never got to say goodbye to you when you left, so here i just want to wish you all the best, and your always welcome to shoot me an email whenever you feel like you need someone to boost you up :) also i just want to thank you for all the things you done for me, hope your doing well.


700 Name: Frogun!!oBBGEi/+ : 2010-03-02 13:03 ID:9YHnkhzt

I laughed when "Eiga" got exposed for making a fake post to cheer him on, ripped from Densha Otoko and then call himself Eiga Otoko.

Call me what you will, but this thread is like the fanfiction of benson (I refuse to call him Eiga). Basically a modified version of Densha at first, then exploding and going more ridiculous as it went on. No people could have this kind of resolution left after getting smacked around with love so much that they would say "oh well... better luck next time".

While it was entertaining to read, it's sad how many people took him seriously.

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