I've been waiting.... (791)

1 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-08 06:46 ID:rBmL8F/W This thread was merged from the former /love/ board. You can view the archive here.

I'm usualy just a lurker around the board, but today i have a story... recently i been posting about long distance relationship because I really like this girl that lives in japan. but i live in australia so its really hard if i want to confess to her.. well this is how it all started...

Around 2005 April, i was picked on by some people at school because of my hobby, which is movie making. I'm really like a movie otaku, i love watching movies thats why my dream is to become a film director. most of the girls i knew, i told them about my hobby and they would all ne like "isn't that like really immature??" and later on wont ever talk to me.. it was around November when i was on a japanese pen pal website where i met the japanese girl, her name was Aya. we started emailing each other talking about school and life style ect. then i asked her if she used skype and she said she uses it so we added each other. we started talking in skype, (to those who doesn't know its like msn but you use microphone to talk). for the first time, i told her i'm into film making... she unlike the other girls was actualy intrested in it.. she asked me when can i show her my movie.

we talked almost everyday, mostly for 2 hours and we can always talk about anything like movies, anime, school, music ect.. then one night... we talked for 6 hours! i only had 2 hour sleep because i had to wake up for tennis lessons >"< we got more close after that. for christmas i bought her a bracelet and air mailed it to her, she liked it alot. one day i got her email but was really surprised... usualy at the end of the email she would just write "from Aya" but this time she wrote "Love from Aya". i had this feeling when i saw it. after that, i didn't hear from her for 2 weeks and then one night i got her email asking when can i talk to her... but after that... I've waited for a month and stil counting on... I emailed her before saying i have something to tell her because i planned to confess to her next time we talk.. but now i dont think i can do it because i reckon its highly likely i may get rejected since we are so far away _| ̄|○" the feeling with this girl is different from all the other girls i liked. should i confess or not??

2 Name: Jstars : 2006-03-08 07:04 ID:OZIyYOaI

First thing I can offer you is this:

"Love" when on a signature tends to mean NOTHING.

If you're knew to getting along with girls, I understand, you see that word and your heart jumps. I've misinterpreted this sign before, which is why I offer my advice as a caution.

You've only given us a overview of the information, so it's hard to say if you should confess or not.

Again, speaking from personal expereience, I once confessed to a girl that I knew primarily over the internet that I had feelings for her. At first she played along thinking I was flirting, but once she realized I was serious, she shot me down hard.

I really don't want to make you feel anymore nervous about this than you already do, but you did ask for advice so I'm offering what I can.

I'd gauge the situation best I can to find out if she has feelings for you if you don't want to set yourself up for a fall. You need more to go on than a "Love..." in an e-mail.

In conclusion though, as lame as it sounds, you really just need to listen to your gut on this. You need to ask yourself two things 1) Do you really love her? Or is this infatuation with someone that's offered you kindness? and 2) If you knew that she didn't love you back, would you still have feelings for her? If you can love her without need for reciprication, then by all means confess.

Sorry for the rambling reply, I hope that some of this will be of help to you.

Good luck!

3 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-08 07:15 ID:rBmL8F/W

Thank you so much for the advice..
i really think i am falling for her... even if i may get rejected i think i will still like her, the main reason why i like her so much is because out of all the girls i know, she didn't make fun of me because i was into movie making and other stuff. I just wish i was in the same country as her, i waited so long for a reply and dont know how long i can keep waiting_| ̄|○" but if told her everything how i feel... would that work?? also it was both for me and girl too talk to someone that long the first time... would that mean anything?

_| ̄|○" I feel so hopeless!! >"<

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-08 19:17 ID:q4CJFSkI

Dude...that little _| ̄|○" man is cool. Hmm..

/ \ Look he did a jumping jack! HAHA!

BUT SERIOUSLY, A lot of people thought I was crazy too because I was into blond girls for a weak, then mean girls, then when I said I REALLY only liked girls like Hotaru and gave up on women because they were boring that people gave me a hard time too. I really, REALLY like Hotaru but not like goth goth girls who have piercings and play live action role play and lame stuff like that. ANYWAYS BACK TO YOUR PROBLEM

Dude you live in another country. Even from Australia it is expensive to go to Japan. Second this is just some girl you talked to on line. She might be a real bitch in real life. Liking movies and talking nice is one thing, but man, she could have been a REAL BITCH. And you would have hated it. Plus she may have just been using you for English practice and got bored with it. I'm sure it sucks and hurts, but it'll be ok, man. I'm sure there are plenty of other girls in Australia who like movies too. Hell, that could be your thing, ask them if they will be in your movies. Girls are vain and like attention like that.

PS. Is it true you can get Steyr AUGs in Australia? Do you have one? Chicks dig Steyr AUGs.

PPS I was serious. I hope it works out, try New Zealand if all else fails

PPS. Really, chicks dig Steyr AUGs. If you can get one in australia(A REAL Steyr AUG, not airsoft) then chicks WILL dig it.


5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-08 21:27 ID:rS52bVBZ

indeed... the "love from" might not mean anything...

6 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-09 06:23 ID:VCcxum+s

hhmm i'm not sure but she doesn't sound like a "real bitch". i know the "love from" properly doesn't mean anything~"~ since alot of girls nower days use that _| ̄|○"

btw whats Steyr AUGs?? i've never heard of it ~"~

still waiting for that reply............. ahh i dont think i can wait any longer!! >"<

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-09 06:43 ID:rS52bVBZ

becareful not to set yourself up for a major letdown.

8 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-09 08:53 ID:VCcxum+s

hhmm should i be prepared to be show down?? if i get shot down i think i would be hit pretty hard _| ̄|○" it seems that shes stuck in my head where ever i go.... maybe i should just give up~"~

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-09 13:05 ID:6yMSi2He

so what was the last time you talked to her now?
also a steyer aug is a rifle australian sas use.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-09 15:58 ID:JY7pZ7JN

Yeah dude. I heard you can still get Steyr AUGs in Australia. Man they rule.

and another helpful hint. A Real bitch doesn't let her bitchness show until it is too late.

Besides...it's just a girl. There are plenty of fish in the sea. But seriously, a Steyr AUG will help you score.

11 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-10 07:25 ID:42XejFb+

why would a rifle help me score?? i dont really get it~~"

12 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-10 08:29 ID:42XejFb+

well I havn't met a REAL bitch in my life before... maybe just one i think.. but she really doesn't seem to be like it, i just cant imagine her like that ~"~

13 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-10 11:16 ID:42XejFb+

>>10 hmm the last time we talked was last year.. but everytime we talk now we always talk for 5-6 hours... she says she wants to try 7 hours next time we talk.

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-10 16:15 ID:urzB6jZQ



15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-10 16:27 ID:42XejFb+

Eiga Otoko! i beleive you can do it!
althought i dont know why CHICKS DIG STEYR AUGs can help you score. anyway.. movie man (eiga otoko) if you really love her that much, i thin you should all by means confess to her. even if you do get rejected its not like its the end of the world and there are heaps of other girls waiting for ya! good luck for everything! hope next time you talk to her you have enough courage to tell her how you feel!

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-10 18:52 ID:LSEI9wh6

I disagree. What's with this confessing love bull crap. Unless the guy plans on going to Japan, paying all kinds of crazy money, and has a chance at actually entering the most holy of holies, then I say he takes up chasing skirt on his home turf. I mean, if he's still talking to the girl he could say "Hey man, I think you're cute. if you come to australia lemme hook up with you."

Otherwise he should seriously invest in buying a Steyr AUG. I KNOW you can buy them in Australia because I know a guy there and he has an AUG-Z with rails and scopes and shit. It's black too and hella cool. He gets all kinds of girls. Plus he has a Ford Falcon, fire engine red.

Benson, I don't know you but you are like the brother I never wanted. Do you really want to pine over some girl you'll never meet or do you want to score? Seriously, if all else fails go to New Zealand. I hear women over there are just crazy for Australianese.

What could it hurt?

17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-11 00:02 ID:Heaven

Hate to do this, but...
Same person.

18 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-11 01:42 ID:42XejFb+

btw everyone... although i live in australia but i'm actualy chinese ~"~ i dont know why >>17 would think >>15 is me >"< however after reading your posts... I decided to try and forget this girl. >>16 does have a point, am i really planning go to and spend that money just to see her?? i mean even if she does accept it what next?? we cant even see each other but only hear voices. unless she has a webcam but still you still cant do much. maybe i will just remain good friends with her...._| ̄|○" But Thanks everyone for listning to my story, appreciate it! prehaps i will met someone same as her in australia one day!

19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-11 01:56 ID:TX+TR6w1


Yeah dude, that's probably the best way to go. And hey, I didn't know you were chinese, but you're still cool in my book. There are plenty of young lasses traipsing around Australia, some of them even blond.

And hey, use that money you were GOING to spend to go to Japan and get yourself that Steyr AUG!

20 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-11 06:09 ID:42XejFb+

hahaha i noticed people didn't know i was chinese lol but stil thanks very much for the advice! maybe i will go look for that SteyR AUG lol! xD

21 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-12 04:09 ID:Heaven

That's because the IDs in >>11-13,15,18,20 are all 42XejFb+
Next time you're doing JISAKU JIEN in the dark of night, be sure to sage your post.

22 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-12 14:36 ID:42XejFb+

ahh apparently i just asked this girl out cos shes going to return some stuff she borrowed from me and i plan to take her to see fireworks on night, any suggestions wat i should do?!

btw i think >>15 might be a friend cos my friend was on my computer and he properly read the whole post >"<

23 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-13 04:06 ID:42XejFb+

eehh can soemone please help!! the girl messaged me back and asked "where do you want to go? what are we gonna do?" any suggestions what i should say?!! >"<

24 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-13 04:34 ID:RY1fq4Ih

If this is the Japanese girl that you are getting over you tell her to go blow dirt. You're treating yourself to a Steyr AUG and don't need her mucking it all up.

If this is a new girl, Take her to an Italian restaurant(CLASSY restaurant). And then take her for ice cream afterward.

Trust me.

25 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-13 05:22 ID:42XejFb+

yeah this is a new girl!~ oh i see thanks!! i see what i can do! ^^ hope it works!

26 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-13 05:49 ID:RY1fq4Ih

Now Benson...don't screw this up. I forgot to mention in >>24 some things.

Ok first of all, dress up a little bit. Not like you are going to a funeral but some slacks and a collar shirt(MAYBE a tie...depends) Whatever, just try to look kempt and presentable.

When you get to the place, pull her seat for her. AVOID SMALL TALK. Just enjoy the moment. Comment on the food, the atmosphere. BE HONEST AND GENUINE. Do not bullshit this girl, benson. If there is a moment of silence. GO WITH IT. If she wants to say something, she'll say it. EYE CONTACT IS IMPORTANT. Smile too. Nothing too toothy or fake.

If you are of age, order some wine. GOOD WINE. Like I said this should be a Classy Italian restaurant. Normally I don't like Italians or Italian food, but it is a good date food. It's rich, filling, and there is variety. Also, BE NICE TO THE WAITER. I don't care if he's so fruity his last name is Grape. BE NICE TO HIM. Women pick up on that. It's like if you are all nice to her, but an ass to someone else she'll think you are fake.(Hopefully you're a nice enough chap anyways..but still)
Also, Order for her. That's right ORDER FOR HER. Here is the classy way to do it.

Ask her what she wants before the waiter comes. Then when it's time to order say "The lady here will have XXXXX" Smile while you do it. Then after dinner, take her for ice cream. GOOD ice cream. Trust me.


Also when you get done with the date. DO NOT EXPECT A KISS. Give her a hug. If she does kiss you it might be a peck on the cheek, but otherwise give her a hug. Don't touch her ass or anything.


But otherwise, be yourself. Save talk of Steyr AUGs for the third or fourth date. Then(and you ARE getting one aren't you?) take her shooting. Tell her how cute she looks holding a Steyr AUG. Take pictures of her. Post them here.


27 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-13 07:31 ID:42XejFb+

wow! thanks alot! but i dont think shes intrested in a Steyr AUG lol! Thanks for all that ^^

28 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-13 13:00 ID:l0p9LSwf

>>26 is a recipe for her having an allergy attack because you ordered something she didn't know what it was and was deathly allergic to, resulting in her brother coming to kill you

you might want to get the Steyr AUG beforehand just in case

29 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-13 14:31 ID:42XejFb+

hmm apparently she suddenly offline when i was talking to her on msn today~"~ she cant go out on night so might go out during day though... properly just ask her out for lunch or a movie i think _| ̄|○" what do you guys think?

30 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-13 22:21 ID:vyM2EqU7


Movies are lame for first dates. She can see a damn movie on her own time.

Lunch is good, take her somewhere outdoorsy. Like a patio cafe or something.

doesn't know what he's talking about. Make sure she wants what she wants and THEN order for her. That way if she dies it is her own damn fault.

31 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-14 04:29 ID:42XejFb+

oohh okk! thanks for that ^^

32 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-15 12:22 ID:42XejFb+

it seems she hasn't replied me... maybe she got dissapointed that i didn't know where to go _| ̄|○" she was only planning to return something she borrowed from me so really wasn't that big, but thanks alot for all that! maybe i can use it in the future ^^

I still cant get the jap girl out of my head, and stil waiting...._| ̄|○"

33 Name: PSO addict : 2006-03-15 13:04 ID:3Njz0cMN

Still no news from her?

34 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-15 14:40 ID:pBFUvEb4

does the jap girl know ur chinese XD

35 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-16 00:46 ID:42XejFb+

yeah she knows I'm chinese, I am so hopeless when it comes to girls _| ̄|○"

36 Name: Aquilo : 2006-03-16 04:57 ID:P+YVktyY

Hey I was lurking around and cool I see you hey sup just came from the Densha Otoko thread eh? everyone ditched me there =P

37 Name: Aquilo : 2006-03-16 05:12 ID:P+YVktyY

wow sorry for double posting but I can't help but feel that this is like mini densha otoko remake XD

go you w00t XD but ya sigh I know how life can be a well you know...

(sorry for adding this in here where it doesn't belong but ya... hope you don't mind benson hehe ya internet love don' trust it, 9 out of 10 times it doesn't work out even if it does, the chance of seeing the person is slim as for the current one you are going for ya like what the other dude said don't spend too much or she might just start milking you, you can spend more later on but don't start heavily spending from start basically work your way up.)

lol just like Densha_| ̄|○

38 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-16 08:35 ID:42XejFb+

hahaha, good to see you here xD>>36 well when i talk to her, i only spend the night talking cos its the only time we can talk. theres so many densha alike in this thead, maybe this is what this thead does lol, stil waiting..._| ̄|○

39 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-16 10:32 ID:vqH/qQQb


Benson, you are doing it wrong. Stop fooling around and buy that Steyr AUG

40 Name: Aquilo : 2006-03-16 14:35 ID:P+YVktyY

Hmmm Gun Otaku trying to date online girl wee for guitar otoko remix XD

(btw what do you type to get the ">>38" in blue font thing

well.... I guess it depends on what you are looking for I used to online date someone before.
I met that person off RO(Ragnarok Online XD) it was pretty
good for a year, since at that time I was too busy to actually
go out and stuff. The online relationship allowed me to get
the comfort and company I needed without going to too much
trouble. But the thing was I found out she lived 9 blocks from
where I am (ya its a small world sometimes) anyhow we met at a
dance after and it turned out okish but then her dad stepped
in... but bah why am I ranting... back to you^^.

Basically I guess its what you are looking for in the end.
If you are looking for a long steady relationship with cuddles
and what not, then online is probably not the way to go.
Because its really hard to meet someone offline,

and Benson cheer up I'm chinese too^^ not all hope is lost XD

(got search Yellow Fever on youtube.com
www.youtube.com/watch?v=iIIoc8R26iM) It has a point in the end watch it.


41 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-17 00:28 ID:33tUmvAX


W T F?! Did...did you just call me an "otaku", boy?
I don't normally help chinese people(there are only two that I actually do like..and yes I have known more chinese than I care to)

I'm sitting here...trying to give good advice.

Getting a Steyr AUG is the BEST POSSIBLE ADVICE I can give this man. He's not getting laid because HE DOESN'T HAVE ONE.

You know what...I'll be damned if I help any of you again.....

gun otaku......the nerve.

42 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-17 02:52 ID:Heaven

best poster on /love/

43 Name: Aquilo : 2006-03-17 05:18 ID:Lh/DABy4

>> 41

Oooh noooooo I didn't meant you, I meant benson I was refering to a japanese tv show called densha otoko that we both watched before

Sorry for the miscommunication, and if you took it that offensively

My apologizes.
(to be honest though Steyr AUG is good that gun is underrated in even in CS XD and I know alot of SAS used that gun a lot)

44 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-17 10:53 ID:42XejFb+

waah!!~~ whats going on?! we're fighting because >>40 called >>41 gun otoko?!??! Sorry that this happened!! ~~" thier was a misunderstanding! Aquilo was refering to me _| ̄|○

anyway lol for the Gun Otoko! i thought i would be called movie Otoko xD

45 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-17 12:04 ID:3tR/In9f

Sending my wish
Everyone on this thread will recieve joy and happiness

46 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-17 13:50 ID:42XejFb+

wow Thanks!!^^ u too!

47 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-17 14:47 ID:xeEAxLG0


posting in this thread because I need joy and happiness ^^


48 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-17 15:56 ID:42XejFb+

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49 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-17 16:07 ID:0DkaFNuS

I'm personally really pissed that he just forgot about the japanese girl like that. Money is only a way to realize our dreams. One thing thats important is a feeling. If you just want to fuck, then you can wank or something. But rejecting something that might have been a real feeling is a bad decision (in my opinion). She never acted like a bitch. I had a few girls in my life and I can tell you one thing. It's really damn hard to find one that will understand you completly. If you'll find the one that you can talk with for the whole night, it might be the love of your life. Someday you'll be old. Your wife will be old too. She won't be as cute as in the past, but you'll still enjoy your life together because you'll be like two parts of the same apple. I would never fuck a girl that would fell for my Rifle. This kind of girls is so called FANTA (Fuck And Never Touch Again). So if you're still reading this thread, just reconsider all this matter. If you'll still think about being with the jap girl as of "I'll be wasting loads of cash to visit her", then just forget about her cuz you're not worth her. Thats what I had to say.

If it comes to "Love" in the sig. it really means nothing. I have a pen pal friend from Japan and she always finishes her mails with Love Yuko. If your friend just started this habbit it may mean that she just starts to feel something. Why the hell all the guys tries to rush it and confess ASAP? Just enjoy the feeling you have, keep it going and maybe one day you won't even have to say it. Just wait for a good moment and when it comes you won't need advice from 4-ch and you'll just tell her what you feel.

PS. It's your life, just do what you want.

50 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-18 01:54 ID:42XejFb+

well i'm not the kind of guy who just wants to F*** girls, from the previouse post some people been saying "whats the point of having long distance!" i understand what you mean when you said its damn hard to find one that wiil understand you becasue from the girls i have met, she really is different. actuali i never thought it was a waste of money to visit her! i had a thought of doing it one day cos firstly, i can see her, secondly, i want to visit differeny places and thirdly, i really want to go to japan again cos i been there once and i really want to see the cherry blossoms ^^

Personaly i really appreciate everyone on this thread, willing to read my story and help out. some people properly think I'm just an Otaku and hopeless at everything _| ̄|○ although i dont know anyone here but truly... thank you! I appreciate everyone trying to help me.

well so far I still havn't heard from her yet, but i beleive within 3 weeks i would hear from her soon! I'm gonna wait for another 2-3 months till she replies. Maybe i will write her a letter! I think >>49 is right, i should just wait for a good moment then tell her how i feel, maybe i been rushing things again >"< Well I'll report when something happens and let you guys know!

51 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-20 16:16 ID:jIDos+i7

Everything too me now seems like i just woke up from a dream and back to my lonley anonymouse life.... 1 month waiting felt like 5 months ~~" is it true that if you truely like someone, time seems to be slower without them but is faster when your with them?

52 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-20 18:52 ID:0DkaFNuS

yup. It's just the same like when you're having a good fun or you're bored. And it's the same like waiting for the X-mas presents. Have you tried to contact her?

53 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-21 01:15 ID:jIDos+i7

well i did email her once and been waiting ever since!~ somehow i keep thinking the reply will be here soon, maybe i just need to keep waiting.

54 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-25 14:11 ID:dwZcTWal

hey everyone i need SERIOUS help! apparently i found out this girl likes me but i dont like her. shes a family friend and we only got to know each other this year for a bout 2 months. me and her friend pretended that her friend asked me to be her bf and she took it soo serious and i heard she couldn't sleep at all, me and the friend told her today and she got pretty upset i think. well the problem is (this is what i plan) she knows who i like which is the jap girl "aya" and knows the i been waiting for about 2 months now. I'm going to pretend that i talked to the jap girl and confessed and that she liked me also so that shes my gf. if i do that she will give up but i feel so bad doing that >"< any suggestsion anyone???

55 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-25 14:50 ID:Heaven

so first you want a girlfriend but she doesn't want you, then some other girl is into you but you don't want a piece of that?

56 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-25 17:29 ID:Heaven

um... don't like, lol
You will get fucked and then NO girl will want you

57 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-25 21:57 ID:Heaven

for starters, stop writing like that

58 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-25 23:24 ID:Heaven


>I'm usualy just a lurker around the board

you're in every damn thread i read, benson_2009.

nominating "benson_200n" as the new anonymous name, where n is some number.

59 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-26 02:08 ID:dwZcTWal

>>55 nono your getting the wrong idea, i havn't got the chance to say anything to the girl i like, this girl who is onto me is a family friend and i feel weird dating a family friend and i dont want to just reject them in thier face so i came up with that idea. sorry if i sound like a total rejector but me and that girl have nothing in common. i dont think you can force your self to like someone you dont like. shes also realy stuck on me as well like 24/7 on me ~"~ thats why i asked for suggestions cos i dont want to make someone feel bad, i only want to stay good friends and since the days where i might confess to the jap girl might be close.

>>58 lol so true, i post almost everywhere now xD

60 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-26 03:10 ID:JctgS28r

>>59 My suggestion? Don't lie to this girl, tell her the truth so she can move on with her life. Nobody said you have to force yourself to like her. Show some decency by telling her gently that you're not interested in her, or her friend for that matter, and that you're interested in someone else right now. Also, pretending to get asked out by her friend is just low, shame on you both.

Trust me, you'll only make things worse by lying to her.

61 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-26 04:23 ID:dwZcTWal

hmm thats true, its bad to play with peoples feelings... i should know better >"< your right i should just tell her the truth.... lying only makes this worse, thanks for that! ^^

62 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-03 09:16 ID:y1XAFqoo

has she replied you yet?

63 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-03 09:25 ID:y1XAFqoo

sorry to doulble post but...>>56 you sound like a flamer in most of the theads. lol not very supportive

64 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-03 17:22 ID:ep9+YXSr

ya... ID:Heaven from the Flim & TV Densha Otoko thread lol XD

65 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-04 11:38 ID:Heaven

ID:Heaven is what you get when you sage the thread; it's not the same person every time.

66 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-04-08 14:21 ID:3Fs5iUzM

I find it really hard to talk to girls now, since i cant really use the internet much nower days and stil waiting for the reply... i begin to think how am i gonna find relationship, somehow my intrest on girls is lost ~"~ i somehow think it has to do with my past since i been tricked a few times...

67 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-08 14:51 ID:y0m54/2o

i think you should just stop worring about it.
seams like its taking a lot out of you.
dont worry eventualy everyone finds their someone,
you just have to accept that this girl might not be that person.

68 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-04-15 15:36 ID:i1Yox1kg

After waiting for 3 months, i dont think i can wait any longer. I'm thinking of moving on with my life, theres realy no point waiting here all day. i dont blame her or anything its just that i cant wait anymore. day by day my feeling just start to loose and eventualy all that feelings are lost now. what do you think i should do now?_| ̄|○

69 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-15 18:19 ID:9HlwqNDT

move on, find someone new.

70 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-16 04:51 ID:WKzyMk+o

move on, you should have done that ages ago instead of waiting.

71 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-04-16 12:18 ID:i1Yox1kg

hmm i'll try moving on, waiting here really doesn't help at all. thanks for that!

72 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-17 23:42 ID:3+ytaV6/

Hi Benson I just read what you said and I found it interesting. However, I don't think you should give up on this Japanese girl if you like her so much. Have you tried sending her another message? Maybe the one you sent her forever ago never got to her? By the way how did you just lose contact with her? Does she not get on skype anymore?

Wishing you the best of luck eiga otoko!

73 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-18 00:24 ID:T8gNjySn

benson...dont listen to >>72. Move on, don't wait, just move on.

74 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-18 01:03 ID:3+ytaV6/

I'm not saying he should just wait I'm just curious more about the situation.

75 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-18 03:12 ID:QDfGAM3f

if you curious about the situation, read the thread, it should be enough.

76 Name: GeNe : 2006-04-18 08:53 ID:O5P/kHY6

I mean Come on, I believe 72 is right! If you really like her...did you did anything to get her attention besides waiting for her? Maybe her com crash or something bad happen? No one knows...Until the day you know the reason why she just left not contacting you, you shouldn't be thinking that she out there to play you. If she is, i dont think anyone would be that stupid to spend hours talking to you or something like that.I understand that long distance relationship is definately hard to maintain so ...just for backup..if you really feel that you cant handle such a relation..i suggest you be practical and not get yourself a long-distance relationship

77 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-18 16:32 ID:/7itPf9G


you are asking if benson didnt do enough to get her attention, but what about her not doing enough to keep contact? i mean, if she truly cared about him, even remotely, you would think that she would find someone to write him even a simple email. you are saying he didnt do enough, im saying she didnt do enough and isnt worth it, so he should just move on.

78 Name: GeNe : 2006-04-19 05:36 ID:O5P/kHY6

which is why i say if he cant think positive on a long-distance relationship just give up and find something more realistic. But if lets just say that the girl did really get caught up with something or maybe couldnt find a way to get to him? there are lots of possibilities that he has to lay out depending on whether if he's willing or not.

79 Name: 77 : 2006-04-19 16:55 ID:YT7pxCTQ

its true she has a life and she probably got caught up, but honestly, a email doesnt shouldnt take more than an hour to write just saying "im going to be busy for awhile" and there is always a way to get to a person. always, especially in today's society.

80 Name: Non Person : 2006-04-20 12:10 ID:XFW7+iI8

nothing to see here, move along.....

81 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-21 01:50 ID:Heaven

sage for a nihilist complaining.

82 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-21 01:51 ID:Heaven

oops, wrong thread, har har.

83 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-04-22 14:24 ID:qDvNkqY2

hey everyone! sorry i havn't been on for a while..... well i did send a letter to her 4 weeks ago since she didn't reply on email. its true... i've only waited and didn't take any action, cos i thought if i kept on sending emails she would properly get annoyed. i really thought alot of possibilties like she was too busy with work or something must have happened because it really doesn't seem like her to just suddenly dissappear like that, there must be a reason and she isn't a type of person who would not contact you all of a sudden. i mean why would she talk to me for 6 hours if she was just using me or playing around?? well wat do u guys suggest me to do?? i moved on a bit and she kinda disappeared in my mind for a while. my friends keep saying "give up, she wont ever reply" but somehow i just think that she will reply, or that we will somehow contact each other. its almsot 4 months now... what should i do??

-Eiga Otoko

84 Name: doc_luv : 2006-04-22 19:29 ID:fDFGzGPM

hello there benson.i have almost the same experience with you.having an online relationship and living long distance.but what seperate us is that i was really glad that i got to meet her in person when i got back home(i'm studying oversea and she's at my home country).we do spend a lot of time e-mailing and talking to each other and even it cost me a lot that time it just don't matter(we can't use skype).it's true that i also did confess to her on the phone,it's really take courage.as for you benson,it's unlucky that you didn't have chance to confess to her.i was thinking that maybe she has waited for you to confess long enough or maybe she just met someone in real life and they started dating.i know that the truth is painful,but there must be reason for her to left you just like that.there is no certainty in online relationship,the thing you need the most is trust.looking at your condition now,it's been really long since you last contacted her.there is possibly chance that she might contact you back,but if it is 4 months already,i think it's to long enough.all that i could say,move on benson-san,there is more waiting for good guy like you.yes,it's a miracle that she will contact you back.but waiting long enough for nothing is not really worth it!!

85 Name: benson_2009 (電影男) : 2006-04-23 13:46 ID:qDvNkqY2

>>84 hmm i see, well i moved on a bit. I was going to confess to her but didn't expect this to happen, can you guys think of any possiblities that she didn't reply??


86 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-24 01:56 ID:zH01DtIS

>>85 umm why cant u just move on and accept the fact that shes not going to reply. it doesnt matter why but if u so want to know then why dont u email her or something asking why. i still dont understand how u can have hope after 4 months. its pretty obvius what happened

87 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-26 21:14 ID:1jLv6+LF

That's the problem with you Chinese people; always so shy. Send another e-mail asking if she recieved the previous one, since you haven't gotten a reply yet. No girl should be annoyed by that (unless the girl in question is being a total bitch).

88 Name: doc_luv : 2006-04-27 05:52 ID:fDFGzGPM

yeah.to think why she didn't reply is not really a good idea..there's to many possibilities for the reason..and the best way to ask her again.move on a bit..don't put hope to much for things that unlikely to happen..i know it's painful..but this is life..

89 Name: benson_2009 (電影男) : 2006-04-27 07:11 ID:Rcdhn9nh

well i did send another email but i doubt i wil get a reply. i moved on a bit and currently i'm going out with this girl this week lol, any suggestions of places i should take her?


90 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-27 07:19 ID:1jLv6+LF

91 Name: benson_2009 (電影男) : 2006-04-27 13:50 ID:Rcdhn9nh

oh yea I'll try that, i'll report back what happens! date is on this saturday at noon ^^

92 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-27 20:25 ID:T8gNjySn

benson, i would avoid anything fancy and just go for a causal date. since its at noon, a fancy date will not be appropriate. plus fancy dates will make her nervous, and thats bad. rule #1 about first dates: keep her comfortable. when she gets uncomfortable it will end bad for you. and to keep her comfortable you need to be comfortable/relax.

dress comfortable and respectable, slacks, nice shirt, nice shoes, shower, put deodorant on. make sure the car is clean if you are driving.

i would recommend getting some pizza at a nice, causal place. then afterwards take her out to play some mini-golf (depending on weather) or something else like that. this way you can relax, enjoy the weather and each other company, but most importantly both of you will have fun. talk to her, tease her a little and in pure jest like making fun of her swinging style or bet her that she will miss the putt. make sure you smile too when you tease her to show you are playing, make sure you dont come off as a giant asshole. after the game get some ice cream to cool off and take her home.

its important that you be yourself, dont act like she is a potential girlfriend and place her on a pedestal because she is a woman. treat her like a mate, a extremely cute mate, but a mate none the less.

i wish you luck with your date.

93 Name: benson_2009 (電影男) : 2006-04-28 08:25 ID:Rcdhn9nh

thanks alot! i didn't have anything fancy in mind and i think what you say is the best. I'll report back tomorow and tell you guys what happens! ^^


94 Name: benson_2009 (電影男) : 2006-04-30 11:33 ID:Rcdhn9nh

well apparently, the girl couldn't come cos of family stuff happening. i mite ask her out again next time and hope that she can go! recently we been smsing and she keeps saying i'm cute and that i'm really nice and easy to talk to, does that mean anything?


95 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-30 18:55 ID:T8gNjySn

i guess it means something. try again for another date, and if it falls through again because of her then forgot about her even if she says you are cute and nice; actions speak louder than words.

96 Name: benson_2009 (電影男) : 2006-05-01 07:33 ID:Rcdhn9nh

ok i'll see what happens later! thanks for that!


97 Name: benson_2009 (電影男) : 2006-05-09 12:05 ID:Rcdhn9nh

BIG NEWS!!! I FINALY GOT A REPLY FROM THE JAPANESE GIRL!!! 4 months!! i cant beleive it! 4 months and now i finaly got a reply!!! this is wat she wrote:

Hey Benson,

How are you doing? I'm doing fine.

I'm so sorry about I didnt email you for a long time..I have been so busy.

I'll check your web site soon. :)

anyway I have to go now.

see ya,

Aya xx

hmm well not much replied but i knew she was really busy, i hope i dont need to wait for another 4 months now... wat do u guys think??


98 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-05-09 13:54 ID:RakWJTW6

shit. well at least we know she is still breathing. how did that date go with the girl?

99 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-05-09 14:55 ID:9dLhd6kU

Just send her some nice e-mail...

100 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-05-09 15:40 ID:Heaven

100GET and for fucks sake please stop putting the 男 crap after your name already

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