Dang! I wanted the 1000th! haha
>>Nobody cares about me being alone. Nobody care about my emotional needs.
On the bright side, at least you figured this out sooner rather than later. Too often, you find that the average person is someone who goes around thinking everyone else in the world is personally invested in his/her happiness.
But that's never been the case. Self-interest drives our culture, and people are typically disinclined to care about anything outside their own private spheres of interest. This is neither good nor bad; it's simply the way things are.
>>850
hahaha i laughed to that one :D
>>851
Sure is ironic how people are belittled if they're "insensitive."
Belittled by whom? The "sensitive" types?
To tell the truth, I don't think I'm that bad of a guy; I keep myself looking decent, and I have plenty of friends. People around me seem to think I'm a pretty cool guy, and I hear girls think I'm attractive, despite the fact that I rarely talk to anyone outside of my group of friends. But my problem is that I have NO idea how to approach, talk to, or maintain a relationship with a girl. My friends tell me to just wing it, but the few times I tried it I ran out of things to talk about within minutes. ):
My roommate's girlfriend and my ex-girlfriend are living together this year and they just moved in. I have a feeling they are scheming. I'm armed if that is the case.
Guys I am Anal Otoko I was posting somewhere in 2006 with a few different nicks, I was desperate etc. (the usual story) but now I have a wonderful girlfriend, and I didn't find her on the net this time, she came directly from the REAL WORLD!!! She's a NORMAL girl!! Isn't it so ridiculously HUGE that it seems almost impossible? Well anyway, we've been together for more than a year now... life is good aaah.
>>858
You were trolling around if I remember well?
Wait let me see... not single, check. Not a rant, check. What the hell are you doing in this thread?
Oh well, good for you anyway. Good luck out there.
Clearly >>858 has just phoned up to wash his head at us.
Okay so I was at this wedding (working) and there really were some cool girls there. Especially one, really cute, seemed to have great fun on the dancefloor, and cool overall. I wasn't sure if she had a boyfriend or whatever (and nowadays I seem to care a bit less about these things as long as it's innocent, while before it would have stopped me right there), so I started lightly flirting with her (eye catch, smiles, funny comment about something happening, some disinterested compliment, a sliiiight bit of patronizing... well mostly harmless things).
At the end of my shift I was roaming around the room to grab some stuff of mine, kinda dancing my way around the room (yeah, I can't help it when there's music). And there she goes, grabs my hands and pulls me to the dancefloor to dance a rock'n'roll. I tell her that I don't really know how to dance rock'n'roll, at least not at two and she says something like "well whatever, me neither". By the way at that moment I was sure that one of the guests was her bf (and a close friend of the groom, too). So followed a lull in my head, and possibly a few minutes of cool-but-awkward-like-i'm-not-dancing-with-her dance, and she walk away. I turned the other way pretending to go grab coffee (which I was supposed to be doing in the first place), and also walked away utterly confused about what just happened. I mean, she really looked like she wanted to dance with me - and I wasn't even a guest.
I'm still not sure if this is a critical failure at seduction or a huge success in not making a possible mess - but either way I had to vent about me not getting to do more stuff with/to her. I mean goddamn she was cute and hot and fun. Shit.
WHAT THE HELL WOMEN, STOP CONFUSING ME WHEN I'M SUPPOSED TO BE THE ONE LEADING!
>>845
24 years? I guess I better turn on my aggression mode now before I reach your mark. But seriously, I know how that is and I guess being exposed to a world filled with relationships and people together just makes me a tad too conscious about hooking up with someone. It sometimes makes me think whether that made me make a run for it, or something like that.
>> I really wouldn't know what I would do if I didn't have the friends I have.
I'm also not sure what you'd do, but I know I'm in that boat -- 24, never kissed/dated/etc., and friendless for the last six years or so.
It's a pretty lonely life, but if I keep myself busy, it's not too unbearable. And I'm pretty good at keeping myself busy.
I was right and my roommate stole my knife. Fuck drama...
I love my ex, but she has a new boyfriend. I'm kind of sad that I cant have her back. I guess it was my fault the whole time. I secretly wish she'd break up with her boyfriend for me, but I don't want to wish it. One person would probably be as depressed as me. I need to stop thinking of her.
i just dont get it.
I am 20, considered pretty by a lot of my friends, i am outgoing, upbeat, love music and learning, have a good sense of humor and am also overweight.
for the longest time i figured it was my weight that was stopping guys from asking me out, but then i am talking with one of my other friends, she's got about... 50 lb more then me, and a personality that i can find somewhat obnoxious sometimes. but SHE has a boy friend!!!
WTF do i just scare them away???
i mean i am 20 and have NEVER been asked out even once... unless we are going to count some ass hole in high school who did it was a practicle joke.
>>considered pretty by a lot of my friends
friends can lie to make you feel better, that's not to say that they always lie, just sometimes a lie might be nicer.
>>867
ha ha ha ha lol yeah i guess... but i mean its one of those things where like i know when i am having a Fugly day and its just like wtf, and i mean if i dropped some weight, (which i am working on) i would look like my mom in her 20's and she was effin georgeous... not just cause its my mom either cause when i saw a pic i was like... you are kidding me right? not saying that i am effin georgous but just... lol ok... i'm done digging this hole ^-^
>>868
you make my life ^-^
i guess to a certain extent that could be it
'cept if i have never even been asked out to reject someone who is below my standards... how can my standards be keeping me alone.....
friggen rawr
Most girls I know in your situation would just wear a low cut top, flirt shamelessly, and act all clueless and innocent about sex/relationship stuff. Remember: men are dumb.
ha ha ha ha
>>870
i get it, i dont get picked up because i dont dress like a whore, and dont act like a ditz!!! :D
lol i get it, i think i would rather stay single and classy and wait for a classy man then turn into one of those ^-^
My girlfriend just internet-broke-up with me. :/
>>872
Ouch. Hard.
>>871
Yeah, right, whatever. I'm what most would consider a classy man and no one ever got to me. I used to have a somewhat special style (nothing too weird though), was kind and gentleman-ish, funny, talented in many domains, kind whatever. Best friend material. Got broken-hearted, and in an access of rage and cynism decided to try the "player" attitude. Girls falling all over the place. They didn't even get that I was acting that way out of spite or worse, it made them think my act was even hotter or I don't know.
What I believe you think are "classy men" are most unlikely to come to you and whatever. They'll shy out in a corner - or be kind to you and so good you won't even notice them as dateable material. Nice guy syndrom, you know, it's not just a myth. And it's kinda sad that most nice guys either die alone or get broken at some point by the same girl that claim to want a "knight in shiny armor" or whatever crap.
If you really want someone, then >>870 is the best way to go; you can still be "classy" after the seduction part. Otherwise, good luck waiting. There's probably one out there for you. But you'll wait. Maybe your lifetime. Waiting.
I've learned to look forward to the prospect of lifelong celibacy.
>>874
Probably the best way to look at it. But sex isn't really everything. I'd even settle for a lifelong roommate at this point with no sex involved.
>>863
Well, I have a fairly strong social dependency which I don't really show to others too much. Though my friends know I value them, I don't think they know exactly how much. But yeah, keeping busy is the best. Sometimes this might even help you to get a girlfriend by "being interesting." I don't quite know what girls mean when they say this. But apparently, I was out with some random people one time and a college girl on the rebound fell for a guy because he knew geography. (Standards also are lowered when you are recovering from a past relationship.) My outlook on life, well, I haven't decided on too much. I'm a bit of an optimist. It's just hard as a research student to get to know others since you do make significantly less than other people. It's hard to go out and buy drinks for other people without conscious of the cash you're spending though you'd like to reciprocate someone else's actions.
everyone needs to experience love in their life ^.^
otherwise you haven't lived to the full extent.
keep going! you'll find her/him one day :]
coming from someone who is 15, i don't think you've experienced "love" before.
Coming from someone whom of which obviously came from a bad relationship, I don't think you have either.
which is why i'll keep trying ^^
well not at the moment...hehe
Y'know, I can't help but thing my friends are all conspiring to keep me single my entire life. So I'm thinking I should just kill em all and my problems will be solved.
Let God sort them out and may the Devil have mercy!
FUCK! I fell for my friend again...at least this is not the first time it has happened. Maybe I will luck out and she will tell me to fuck off.
I wouldn't say I like being single as much as I love not being with my ex. I'd like to meet someone new, yet I'm a little gun shy. Don't want another bad experience. Ex was a complete ass wipe. Doesn't even call or visit his daughter.
I'm a more guarded and cautious now. Won't be jumping into anything as quickly as the last relationship. I don't really go out partying anymore, so I'm thinking about using a online dating site called True.com. Anyone here ever used this service? Btw are there older posters on this site or is this just for 20somethings and younger?
>>882
Naw there's older folks (well, at least one) here. I'm 29, never had a relationship before. Can't say I've used that site, all my money's going towards getting my master's degree anyhow, which leaves very little time to even meet people. Also sucks that I'm at a satellite campus so there's not even many girls around here to begin with. I do have a friend back home a few states over who I've got an interest in, doubt it's mutual though (is it ever?), but I can always hope.
who the hell believes in relationships? Nothing but trouble, the Better is is, the harder you will fall. The worse it gets, the harder you will fall. See where i'm getting? Such hire a prostitute, saves you money and effort.
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From what I've gathered, maybe you have bad taste in men.
>> 885
i agree with u :D,
why do you need to have the whole cow, when u can easily buy ready to drink milk in supermarket?
what is it that oblige human to date someone or even getting married?
why can we just enjoy our single life?
why why why??
No better place for a rant, I guess.
I'm 20 years old and have never been in a relationship. I'm apparently not ugly, but I'm so shy and socially retarded. But at the same time, I'm picky. Any guy who's expressed interest in me just doesn't appeal to me at all and I feel like I'd just be settling because I can't do better. At the same time, even if I do trick a guy I'd like into being with me, I feel like I'd just drive them away with my personality. I'm loud when I get to know people, lazy, short-tempered, and nerdy. I fear I'm going to be a crazy cat lady when I get old, spending my morning showers touching myself to video game pretty boys I'll never get. I feel like I deserve it. Dammit.
>>889
Sister you said my life's story.
Well, something like it at least.
im 24 and i kissed a guy.. and i liked it..........
(dotdotdot)
Basically, I'm single because I'm a self-loathing bastard. I like to act stoic and serious about things. So much so that I'm not much fun to be around. That, and I insist to almost every girl (and guy) I meet that I'm "not very sexual." I'm not asexual, but I fear my own sexuality. Maybe a tad bitter also, as I'm really short with people when I detect flirting.
My personal project is to break out of my shell, gain some enthusiasm, and go meet people. I have social finesse and good looks, but my bitter edge has really isolated and kept me single.
i've been in love with a girl for over 2 years...and i can't imagine myself with anyone other than her =/. Except I know that she'll never like me back.
>>894
now, that's sad. i feel your pain buddy
Soon to be not single, woo!
I confessed to hte guy I like recently, and just like me, he's not ready to be in a relationship right now. I'm just really hoping we'll stay in touch after I graduate and head off to college, 'cause when we are both ready, I definitely want to try being with him. I hope that he feels the same way when the time comes...
Say, he said that he "admired" me for being able to tell him how I felt. What do you think, guys? Do I have a right to be really excited by that?
not sure, to me it sounds more like he doesn't want anything from you... maybe he's just being nice, you now ?
>>898 yeah, when you graduate and go to college , he will be busy screwing college girls and you will probably be drunk dancing on a table. That's a good thing, because all this "oh he is the one" bullshit keeps people from meeting others and moving on in life.
goodluck (and yes, forgot about him, goodluck in college!)
Okay, lets tell a story that we've all heard before... I'm 19 and been girlfriendless since the day of my birth. Its just frustrating how whenever I try for a girl I'm so dimwitted that it always tends to fail. I'm your friendly neighborhood nice guy who is a little too introverted. I'm a little weird because unless I get that "love at first sight" feeling I'm generally not interested. Plus even if I'm not, I have trouble talking to attractive women. Sheesh I'm making myself feel lame here. Any ideas on how I can change myself?
>>896
yo! congrats to you! how did you do it? enlighten us
Race to 1000 anyone? Just no double posting lol
I've been in love with a girl for some time now. She told me months ago that she didn't have any such feelings for me, but I still can't get over it. Same thing happened last time - it lasted until I got a new crush.
This time around I met a girl on a get-together last weekend, who I got a light crush on. No chance though - she lives 460 miles apart from me. What I discover afterwards when looking through pictures is that she has similar looks, and maybe a similar personality too.
It only reminds me of how much I want to be with the first girl. :'(
I'm desperately in need of a new crush, 4 months after my crush broke up with me and my mind still wanders back to her, despite that she barely acknowledges my existence anymore.
I'm single again, yay!
Now I just have to get through the next few months of being too broken to think about dating. Should be fun - looking back on it, the period of time when I was last single was WAY more fun that actually dating someone. Maybe next time I'll find someone my friends actually like.
Working hard so you could be with someone is tough -_-. Ack, what am I doing I'm falling behind
I still get a warm and fuzzy feeling when I think about what we did together. She took my first kiss, and I think it was her first too. :3
I miss her. ;_;
Lately, every single person of the opposite sex that I'm smitten by ends up having a significant other.
It's...disheartening.
Why is love so complicated!? >_<
Christmas is coming... To all the single guys/girls out there! good luck with this lonely part of the year!
I have a feeling it's gonna get worse once February rolls around.
And thanks for the luck. We need it.
I dunno... valentines day is only one night, but Chrismas shopping is a few weeks of seeing couples buying presents lol
It makes me look like an ass, but I don't do much XMas shopping to begin with, so it makes that few weeks breeze right by. The sight of red in February, however...
>>910
It's a known fact that for lonely people christmas is the worst part of the year. Sadly, it's not even a known fact, actually... it's a clinical statistic.
>>914
Yup. You said it.
Captcha: name of a friend of mine who stole a girl I loved a lot from me. Hopefully I'm an adept of irony.
A friend is trying to set me up. How often does that work, denizens of /love/?
It works good if you're not passive about the thing but get invested in it. Friends are a good leverage.
>>917 kick his ass?
Wait, I might have misunderstood this one. What is your friend doing exactly?
She's trying to set me up with one of her friends. Not quite sure as to how that's gonna turn out, see.
I am male 24 and she is 18. too young?
No freaking way too young!!!! She's fine :)
GO go go !!
yep, be happy pal. don't look back
>>921
Works if you make it work, then.
Merry Christmas and happy New Year, fellow lonely and broken hearts.
So, how's it going for you people? I'm having a massive end-of-year blues. Not only because of the end-of-year itself, but also because it was in this period that things developped (only to be badly crushed a few weeks later) with my last romantic interest, which I'm still not really over. And I'm gonna spend the new year's eve with friends and she'll be there.
Oh well.
>>926
Shit, I don't even really have plans for the new years. Friends keep telling me of things they're doing, and I've yet to receive an invite. Ah well.
My love life was pretty unfulfilling this year. Hopefully 2009 will be somewhat better.
End of the year isn't really going to well for me either.
The guy I've been semi-dating for the last few months gave
me a christmass present, so i was really happy, but a few
days later he told me that he just doesn't love me as a
girfriend. With this being the fourth time he rejected me
I've finally given up. It still hurts like hell though.
I found out my childhood friend developed such nerdy hobbies that it's adorable and I am afraid that if I might go and eat ramen with her I'll fall for her!!
so.. 08 ended.. single since six months now and not getting better..
well, there is a girl i like atm, but she's in a relationship since one year, so this isn't getting anywhere..
>>929 Sounds awesome. If any of my childhood friends turned into anything but bitches, I would be going back to the country to see if they're still available.
my 2008 was really bad... the girl that i was in love with picked my best friend over me.and on top of that shes totally ignoring me. hopefully 2009 will be better.
>>929 , What's so wrong about that? Sounds like a good thing, really. All my childhood friends are scattered off in various places around the world.
I've been using a facade of high standards and a broken heart to hide my debilitating shyness around the opposite sex in matters of "love". In actuality, I tend to fall for every woman that gets close to me.
Help?
Hueee! Just watch Densha Otoko and now I find the same thread. Lol, maybe there IS a Desha Otoko here? Secret Admire-san, are you Densha? : )
934, are you a ladykiller or what? Falling in love to every woman?! Maybe it's just your imagination, or your needs of love too much. Maybe... I'm not psychiatrist. : P
>>935 I'm thinking more of the third mixed with the second. I'm not a ladykiller, that's for sure.
How are the lonely hearts these first days of 2009, hm?
Hmm... maybe not XD
All hail singles! : P
sigh sigh sigh
i have totally given up my love life, it never works and i dont think it ever will =[ im 4ever in this thread
>>938
well maybe u should look around
there maybe someone 4 u...
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>>938
I think most of the users in this thread ever had such thoughts. maybe some of us still have and maybe some know better meanwhile..
I know it sounds dumb but it happens mostly if you expect it at least ;)
I've decided to stop pursuing relationships at this point in my life, because I'm too busy and it's too much hassle. Fooling around with platonic friends is soooo much better.
>>942 he means friendzoned, probably a masochist
I've never really had a real relationship (there was one, but it was more of a platonic, experimental thing than anything) and, though I'm not terribly desperate, it frustrates me to NO end to see happy couples holding hands, etc...
I don't really know how to talk to people...T_T I always end up saying the wrong thing (I'm among friends, right? haha). The only people who have shown any interest in me whatsoever are guys I've met on the Internet, which is really frustrating.
I'm to shy to initiate anything IRL...or maybe my standards are just too high...OTL
Oh, how I can commiserate. It stings even more when you see your friends, or people that you know, doing all of that mushy stuff.
I've found that talking to people is a delicate balance of whatever comes to your head first with yourself making sure that whatever you're saying isn't stupid. It's harder than it looks, oftentimes I dwell on what I want to say and end up being silent.
>>945
Forsooth. :[ That's especially true when your friends in relationships used to be just as lonely and socially awkward as you are now...or when the person you used to date goes on to date others while you stay single and lonely. QQ
Yeah...I've tried to do that and always end up failing. I'm so afraid of saying something stupid that I end up being boring and quiet.
I'm mostly okay with being single at the moment, but the lack of sex is killing me.
And the lack of any physical contact at all is even worse. I want someone to cuddle with so badly. Sex would be nice too.
I miss the cuddling and long conversations, right now i'm looking for someone, cause I'm young and I don't need to be down life is there, to guide us to a new chapter in our lives
That's how I am right now too.
I don't honestly mind being single too terribly much, but I miss having physical contact.
I had a movie night with a female friend of mine about a week ago, and the whole time I was thinking about how much I wished we were cuddling....
Blergh, I might have complained about this before on this thread, but damn does it sting when they end up being taken.