Dang! I wanted the 1000th! haha
hello.
for all of you single ranters, perhaps i can make you feel better - misery loves company?
i am turning 28 shortly. i have never had a girlfriend. i have never kissed a girl. i am obviously still a virgin. i am not gay, or bi - i really am attracted to girls. the girls i have liked in the past have not felt the same way about me.
somehow, i am always giving advice to friends. they go through the trials and tribulations of love and i am there for them. i have been told that i am a good shoulder to cry on. but i never cry on anyone else's shoulder. in fact, i never used to cry. but i find myself crying often these days.
i am unemployed, and seemingly unable to find work. the only reason i am not living at home is because my parents have done well and bought me an apartment. but this only makes me feel worse - the stigma of living at home is pretty bad, but try being a spoiled loser? even sillier is feeling bad about feeling bad, because there are a lot of people who are plenty worse off in the world.
all of this makes me want to put myself out there even less. there are a billion red flags in there. but how can i find love if i can't step outside and look?
at least i can sit here and cheer you guys on.
Congrats! clapclap
>502
It must really suck to be unemployed.D: Your first goal should be to get a job. Baby steps, you know?
what 502 said was right,get a job;then maybe u'll find someone you like at your workplace =D
How can you not find work? If you need a job,you will work anywhere you can. Suck in your pride and flip them hamburgers. I rather work at a shitty job than be unemployed.
Hey everyone, I am back from my little holiday.
Saturday, my roommate and headed to the party around 10ish. Rather than ringing the doorbell, we just walked in and saw about 20 or so people just around the apartment in little groups talking. As we shyly entered, heads glanced over toward us as my roommate and I tried to make sense of all the faces. Immediately someone grabs me from behind and asks "Guess who?" It was quite obvious who it was and I just played along for a bit. I introduced to her to my roommate and then she took us along introducing us to people. As I said before, this was a birthday party and a house warming party. Most of the guest where Mona's friends since they were on or near campus. They had a few mutual friends, but there also a few guest from her hometown/old college there. They were in a little group in the corner just chatting away when she introduced us. There were two guys and two girls. the girls and one of the guys I have never met, and the other guy, well it was Greg.
I remember the advice you gave and rather feel threatened by him, I tried to be very friendly with him. I started to talk with him and he and his friends decided to spend the weekend there and just party. I asked him where he was staying and he pointed to the ground and said, "right here" I offered him and his friend to come over to our place, we have an extra bed and a futon and they were more than happy to stay with us for the night, and throwing in how he should let the girls have the place to themselves. They said they would consider it.
While I was talking to Greg, my girl, Allison (by the way, I am not using real names just in case someone I know finds out about this), was mingling, making sure everyone was comfortable. I was fine with that because me and Greg were just getting along. He is a pretty nice guy, smart too. I think I really did overreact my first meeting with him. Allison came back and sneaks her way underneath my arm and also gives a me a drink (I didn't ask for one). So any doubt of her liking me was quickly erased at that point. We chatted with Greg for a bit longer, and then we went over to my roommate and Mona (I thought my roommate needed my help, but he was quite fine on his own). I had dragged Allison away from the two and it took her a good while to figure out why. Me and Allison went around the room and talked a all the little groups, there was even a group out on the balcony.
Here when life gets great. We were talking to the group when midnight was strolling by. A few of them had to go home, while others went inside to talk to other people. So it was it was just me and Allison on the balcony, alone with a night sky in front of us. I also love my roommate, he saw us two alone and comes over and shuts the door say "man there are too many bugs getting in here." Then for a little bit, we just rested on the railing of the balcony and just talked. She made a comment about the stars being bright, which reminded me of The Beatles song "And I lover her" which has a line "bright are the stars that shine" and suddenly struck with the urge to kiss her. It was quite literally a primal grip of my soul. I gazed into her eyes and she stared back. With no words spoken on my part, I just leaned in and gave her a kiss on the lips.
God I have a pretty good rant.
Ok, so I have had a crush on this guy named Zac (not real name) for maybe the better half of two years. Not continually, but yeah pretty much on and off. So about 2 weeks ago I call it quits. I say to him, nonchalantly, that I am pretty much done with him. This was while I was over his house, and not surprisingly he was fine with it, since I was pretty sure he wasn't interested in me anyway. Well, that same week, we decided to go to a movie. We also went ice skating, both did with other friends present. It was an ok time, nothing special happened or anything. We then go see the movie, we talk about how awesome it is and all.
He then springs a question on me, asking if it's ok if he comes over that night. Well, of course I am thinking, great, we're just friends now. I invite another friend, he doesn't seem to care. We are all sitting in this pitch black room, and i am sitting with my legs kind open. I then feel someone lay in between them, and it is Zac. Of course I have no problem with this, though I am confused. We eventually get up, go to bed, next day comes. We slept in the same bed, turns out, but nothing seems to have happened. He asks to stay ANOTHER night. I am cool with this. That night was very odd. He lays down beside me, on the same bed, really close laying in the oppisite direction. Then he switches direction. Now we are laying right side by side sharing a small pillow. He then turns his body to match mine, and we are spooning. Out of nowhere. I put my arm around him and he doesn't say anything. I start kinda caressing his neck and all. We fall asleep like that, and it's one of the best nights I have ever had.
That sounds normal for a couple right? Well, this is right after I tell him that I don't like him anymore. I don't understand, and I have a feeling I am being fucked with. Long story short, I am confused and still single. Life sucks.
You live on your own already? Assuming you do and are around twenty but probably older.
Frigid Onanoko no see problem with you being together like this since you both appear to enjoy. However it problematic the way you communicate to each other. If you continue saying there is nothing between you, then the verity of your words will wear off. He and your friends will think you are talking nonsense and unable to understand your own situation. Better be cool about it and maintain that you still are close to each other, something like that. That way, you no need to keep up appearances.
All you did when saying you through with him is that you no feel obligations to stay with him. I.e. when you find another guy, there no problem to fall in love with him. Until then, why not enjoy company of Zac(s body)? However, don't get lazy, don't get complacent with the situation. If you no take proper distance from him, at least mentally, then perhaps you find it hard to fall in love with another guy since your heart is still anchored to Zac.
Finally, if you intend on finding new boyfriend, then most likely the closeness of Zac will turn him off, because usually boys look for girl only, not girl and competition attached. Letting Zac around you so closely will make it more difficult to get guys interested in you.
Frigid Onanoko, saying bye! (why don't you bite him? when you do, say its because he such bad boyfriend!)
He just wants to sleep with you. He is sleeping in your bed, it is just at matter of time before he whips his dick out. Create space with him and if you like him TAKE IT SLOWLY. So far he has only shown concerned with taking off your pants.
He is awesome. In all sense of the word.
Funny, good-looking, athletic, full of surprises.
You wouldn't know it from just looking at him.
I can't help but smile when I see his face.
He ticks literally all my boxes. Which is a first, because I'm such a picky bitch.
How can one person be so awesome?
usually when people are unemployed it is because they dont realize that they need to apply everywhere all at once and many times and call the places back. it shows that you are truely interested in working and it never hurts if you get more call backs after already having a job. if the call back is better then switch jobs and if it's not the people aren't going to get to upset if you say no. another issue is getting out of the rut of how much you want to be making and how much the job pays. anypay is better than no pay.
depression guys. IT ISN'T GOING AWAY. ( ' A ` ; )
Hi guys. 18 years old here.
My problem is I'm still madly in love with my ex-girlfriend. We broke up two years ago and I haven't been able to get over her.
I have friends that keep me company, but they can only do so much, and I feel awkward opening up to them about anything... Because it usually ends up with them not knowing what to say. They're not really compassionate guys, I guess.
So, I turn to the internet.
I just can't shake the feeling that she was the one for me. We both had a unique sense of humour that no one else around us really got. She's one of the very few people I've ever met that I could fully put my trust in. She's kind to most people around her, regardless of who they are. She may not be the most good-looking person to the average eye, but to me she is beautiful. She just has a radiance around her that makes everyone love her. Some of my happiest memories are of her.
I've looked and looked, but I can't seem to find anyone out there that even comes close to her level. It feels like she is irreplaceable, and I'd be better off trying to get back together with her than go looking for other girls.
Breaking up with her messed me up, but after 2 years I'm finally feeling better. I have a decent job, I'm a lot more outgoing(I used to waste my life on MMORPGs..) and I'm feeling quite better in general. The only thing missing is a relationship, and when I think about that, she's all I can think of.
I'm ready to try again. I'll lose the weight I put on while I was depressed over her. I want to do all the things we never did before and tell her all the things I never did before, but wanted to. I'm willing to do whatever it takes to make it work this time. I want to live without regretting at least trying.
Is this a good idea, 4ch? Is reigniting old love possible?
>>514
She dumped you, right? If you dumped her or it was mutual, you'd be over her by now. She isn't irreplacable. Billions of women out there. Why you're busy feeling sorry for yourself they're happily finding other partners and you're cold and lonely. You know what you have to do, so do it.
Hey everyone. I'm at sophomore year of college now. My problem isn't that I'm desperate for a girlfriend-- I'm feeling a little better this year, and I'm always meeting new people. My problem is that I don't really know what to say to people I met last year, and everything is either awkward on my part, or it seems like they want to get out of my presence! Consider this conversation, either way:
Just needed to let off some steam.
>>516
your just making the opposite person feel awkward as fuck...instead of just saying hi, why dont you say something like 'hey where the hell have you been?'.....a way lot easier to respond to than just a vague 'hi'
>>516
You got to search for a something in common and talk around that. Hard at first, but with a little practice this becomes really easy. Avoid cliches: "So what do you do in your spare time" because it sounds corny as hell. Don't say "Hey did you see Matrix 3!" because she might think it sucks. Avoid talking too much about you, talk about her. Openers like "hey, love your outfit" but whatever you say be genuine. If it sucks, don't tell her its great. Slickest stuff is when you get her talking about her hopes, dreams, what she wants to do and where she wants to go, but for starters be general about stuff you're both likely to have in common. If you haven't done much living, can be tough because you don't have much to talk about, but trust me: once you start, it gets much easier. Just relax.
>>518 I have a similar problem, I can't complement someone unless it's something I really respect and fashion is not one of them, in fact it's mostly "geeky" things that give my complements.
my problem is that my hobbies/interests aren't popular to discussing with others mostly because i like to keep parts of my life private (out of necessity not going to expand).
the main thing i share in common with most people is drugs and movies :\ and im not an artfag so i don't really get pretentious and start "analyzing" the film, etc. so i can't really hold a discussion with that. usually i have some sort of project im working on that is incredibly boring if you are not me (like figuring out how to setup a certain type of server).
idk i just don't click with most people i meet. tips?
I'm going to be in college this in few days as a freshmen. I know I will meet more new people, but I always seems to be not talkative. Like when I meet someone new, I can't be always the one to start a convo. Like what do you say when you meet someone new?
>>520
"Hi! What major are you in/are thinking about doing? How're classes going so far?" That's what I usually say to new people in college. It brings something to the table to talk about, and you can drift from there to other topics. It's a start at least.
well, I'm now a fresh man in university.
Thanks to my choice of being in Computer Engineering I only come in contact with males during my daily life (its like a 20 to 1 ratio m:f ), of course, I'm really happy to hang around my male friends, but man , I'm 20 and with the workload we got, I can already see myself getting my masters at the age 26 with the same life I have now, only with more white hair strands.
Meeting with girls, getting a girlfriend, or even in further future, marriage, I don't ever see myself in that picture.
sorry, I had to whine a little.
>>522 You'd have some serious problems if you had white hair strands at 26... You really shouldn't be having anything like that happen until many years later...
At 20, you should hardly worry, take it from personal experience... There are lots of chances and opportunities for you...
God damn it... I want a BF before I turn 20 and it's only a few months away!
Creepiest Thread on 4-ch.
...Seriously
Tell us more 467!! How is dating situation now!?
I don't know if I like being single or not. In a way, there's so much less to worry about. But being in a relationship is nice too.
There's a girl I like, I don't know though if I want to date her or anything. Last relationship I had was kinda pseudo, I think both the feelings of both of us were obvious but I never admitted how I felt to her.
Some of my friends think there's something going on, it's been a while since I last talked to her. I don't think she really sees anything going on other than us being friends. Thing is I'm very happy just being friends with her and I'd hate to break that up by making unwanted advances.
I'm not sure what to do 4-ch, I think wait and see if any stronger feelings develop.. how does that sound?
I think you should just go ahead and wait and see what happens, 529. There's no need to pursue anything more if you're not feeling totally up to it. If you don't know if you want to date her, then you shouldn't try and change the relationship right now.
I have noticed that a lot of engineering schools always has one or two schools near it with a large female student body and that they all go to your school for the parties. Try joining a fraternity it may help your situation.
Hey 4-ch! I don't think this needs a new thread, so I'm gonna say it here...
I'm a girly, a freshman in college. Everything's really fine and dandy. There just happens to be this one guy in class I have taken a fancy to. He's really cute, pretty sweet, and just all around a kind fellow.
The first time we really spoke to each other was when he let me borrow a paintbrush from him during a class. After that I've been trying to be friendly-- to, y'know, make friends and stuff-- and say hello to him everyday. Sometimes when I look around in class, I kinda look his way and he's looking back my way. No idea if he's really looking at me but... sometimes we smile at each other. Especially when I end up waving at him.
He started talking to me a bit more, like about m glasses and stuff. Saa. I kinda like how he says my name. Eheh. Last week after one class he asked if I wanted to get lunch so we went walking around together and got something to eat before heading to our next class. I wasn't sure what to think of it-- he's probably just being friendly too, but it made me feel a little giddy. He asked the same thing today so we ate lunch together again. I'm usually a bit shy at first-- and he seems rather quiet-- but I think we're talking pretty well so far. And when we get quiet we kinda just look at each other and smile.
He also came to me and asked if I wanted help making a canvas today and ended up doing most of it for me. Eheh, my hands can be pretty weak.
So, hm, I don't know. I can't deny I'm certainly getting (or already) have a crush on the dude. But it's nothing big.. especially since it's just been a few weeks since school's even started. But I'm just wondering if he's being friendship-friendly or maybe he might be a little interested, too? I don't recall seeing him really going to eat with anyone else before.. at least not with another girl. What do you guys think?
For the meantime, I think I'm just gonna do my best to go with the flow... Things are pretty fun right now.
>>528
Good to know people actually still interested. I know it has been a while, but if you can understand, my time was spent on more important things, namely her.
Everything between me and her have been going great, just absolutely wonderful. If it wasn't for her, I would be ranting on how bad life sucks. But just even thinking about her, I feel like a million bucks. I have a full course load and actually had to stop working in the lab because I don't have enough time in the day to get any actual work done. The band has been put on hiatus because everyone is busy (though we do jam the occasional weekend). But life is just awesome with her in it. I mean, no matter how bad my day has been I can pull her into my arms, and it is like nothing else exists. Sometimes I feel like I am dreaming because I still cannot believe this is all real. I have a girlfriend.
Crap, I didn't realize that I didn't fill in the time from when I first kissed her to now. I will let know what happened (I guess you know it went well), as for now I have an exam to study for.
I think it sounds like he's trying to be extra nice and make a good impression. Good chance he's interested I reckon.
Looks like I qualify for this thread again.
HOWCAN i get a girl???????? im soo shy. HELP ME GOD.
1 Hot or cute gf is all i ask for . T_T
>>537
Chloroform.
So after that first kiss, I left the party. I was able to time it right so that I had to leave when I kissed her. Leave her wanting more. I was so damn happy with that kiss, I felt like I swam to the moon and back. I left that week for my parents home. When I came back we started to date more. At first we met like twice a week, but soon enough it was 3-4 times a week. Dinners, ice skating, picnics, basically we started to spend more and more time together. Soon enough we are dating on a regular basis. I think it was about a month ago that we she was officially my girlfriend. She asked me if I considered her as my girlfriend. I never said yes, just kissed her on the lips, she got the message. But I do introduce her as my girlfriend to my friends and peers. So thank you all for advice, but for now, this single ranting thread is over for me.
Sorry about not having more detail, I have always been press for time and since she came into my life, I always had something to do. If you really want I can give more details, but don’t expect it anytime soon.
It's not official until it's on facebook.
How???!!!! WHY!!!!!!.......So......unfair....I wanna meet someone too! wahhhhhhh=(
>>539
Clap, clap
> I never said yes, just kissed her on the lips, she got the message.
Smooth operator.
>>532
It's me again! Since I wrote that, things have gotten more friendly. Or closer. Or something.
Me and the guy I'm crushing on have been going to lunch together almost every day so far. During our last art history class he's even sat on the side of the room I sit on for once, right in front of me. I dunno if it's because of me or another classmate that he did that.
Today we went to lunch again and since we had time before we had to get back to work I brought up a song he had wanted to show me last week. He asked me to sit out in the hallway with him while we watched and listened to a video on his iPod. I asked if he wanted to see a movie sometime and he said yes so... I believe we're going to tomorrow after class, so long as nothing changes.
Saa. I'm not sure what to think of this. I guess it's friends hanging out but.. it also does seem like he's interested, huh? But it feels kinda weird and very surprising if that's the case... I mean. Me? Haa.
Still trying not to get my hopes up but... I'm enjoying where this is going.
(ｷﾀ━━━━━━(ﾟ∀ﾟ)━━━━━━ !!!!!)
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>>544
It sounds like he is interested in you, but maybe just as a friend, give more details! how was the day did you go out with him? keep informing.
>>547
Ah~! Okay! I'll keep informing them >D
So last week Tuesday, when we were suppose to go to the movies, we didn't quite make it there. Turned out he didn't have enough money in his account, so we just spent some time downtown. We sat in the park watching people skateboard for a while, talking about one of the building's across the street, 'cause it had a really cool design... Then we went to a comic book store. After looking around downstairs I told him he wouldn't be interested going upstairs 'cause it just had anime stuff and he doesn't like anime. But he said if I wanted to go, we could go up. I hadn't cared either way, but went upstairs..and blah blah. Afterwards we went to Virgin records and it was pretty fun. Aside from the black dudes outside giving out CDs and swindling people for "donations" eek.
While crossing the street, sometmes I'd hurry him along when the light was about to change and I'd hook my arm around his. He didn't seem to mind that at all...
Anyway. We soon walked all the way back to where his dorm was and I hugged him before we split ways. And he hugged back, too, of course! Then he asked if I could meet him the next day so we could go to the museum together since our drawing class had a field trip. I wasn't sure at first since I had to figure out how to get to the museum in the first place and I live uptown to begin with, but I told him we'd talk later and figure somthing out.
Sooo. After I got home and got the directions to the museum, I called him and told him where to meet me. So the next day we met and..saa. He always looks so cute. I hooked my arm around his again as we walked to the next train and I could feel him holding onto mines too, erm. However you say it. We talked some but we were mostly quiet. I'm pretty shy..and I think he's shy too.. but I don't mind it much.
At the museum we split up into groups, so I was in a group with him and some of my other friends. We were all together for a while, but eventually we broke up and me and him were on our own. It was...really nice. We were pretty much together the rest of the trip, splitting off from the class again after everyone had to join up to watch a video. We had lunch, just the two of us, and soon went back to the train. I took a picture of us togethr and everything was pretty cool~
And then that Friday... he finally sat right next to me during art history. ^^ And after class was over...he pretty much jetted out, which I'm used to by now. But he said he was really tired (it seemed like everyone went to bed mad late or something) so I didn't expect to see him again until Monday. But after I got out my english class I realised he was trying to text me to know where the class was since it moved buildings. I called him and told him it was pretty much over anyway and that we were just taking an exam that he was gonna take the next day anyway, so he didn't need to be there. I asked where he was and he said he was at a starbucks near by, so I asked if he wanted me to go and meet him. He said yes so we met up and took a walk to the park and sat on a bench watching dogs for like an hour or so. When we were ready to go, I hooked my arm around his again as we walked (I swear, I'm too shy to grab his hand-- maybe he's too shy to do the same?) and this time it stayed like that.
We saw some people filming a few blocks away so went over to see if we could get a good peek. He said they were probably doing something for the Gossip Girl. It kinda looked like it. I think. Still cool regardless. He asked if I was going to the club meeting I usually go to (whee, he remembers~) I told him I was just going to meet up with a girl friend of mine since it was canceled this week. This time when we parted it looked like he wanted to iniciate the hug, but I think I had gotten out of his reach for that, so I backed up a bit and we hugged again.
And that's all I have to report back so far... We're...really quiet together most of the time, but..he keeps coming back to me so... I guess he doesn't mind it. He said he wanted to go back to Virgin Records with me some time.. and I'm gonna ask to set up another time to see that movie. Does it seem like it's still just friendliness?
You're a pathetic waste of skin.
I'm not so sad about being single, but it DOES get lonely sometimes. I like this guy, but he's way out of my league. I can't even help myself. Today, I wanted to ask him "Can I sex with you?" =_=" I'm not even that type of woman. He's just so dense and hard to understand. Plus, he keeps sending me mixed messages.
>>550
Giggerota the Wicked? Shouldn't you be performing your wifely duties?
I think the 1 thing that gets me depressed, is my height, i'm just below the average height, maybe even lower, but compared to many people, i am the shortest. I walk around the streets and such and i find that many couples, have tall guys. Which pretty much puts me down.
>>551
I totally hear you. I'm in the exact boat. Unfortunately for me, we kind of got into this awkward phase where we're just ignoring each other now. I think it was because he started talking to the last guy who liked me (and I naively confided in). It makes it easier to feel indifferent towards him when he ignores me. The mixed signal thing really messed up my head. Regardless, I still think that he's good looking, smart, charming, funny and interesting. But if it's not to be, it's not to be. I'm in no hurry.
Still lonely. The saddest part is, I think I might have to hook up with some guy at an anime convention.
shudder
But really, the person i am after is bi. Bi in highschool = HEY LOOK AT ALL THIS ATTENTION I AM GETTING. Despite my loneliness, should i go for it? y/n.
>>549
Arr, it's me again~
Just a little update. Me and the guy I like still hang out. We attempted to go to the movies again last week, but ended up just walking around. We're locking arms a lot now and sometimes hold hands. That's a good sign, right?
I can't seem to really say anything when his friends are around, but I guess that's okay. He still doesn't seem to mind sitting in silence, but he's very twitchy. He always has to drum at things, but eh.
When we hug now, he kinda pats my back. Does that mean anything? I still think it's a bit too soon to ask what he thinks of me or anything...but things are still going well.
Shucake
Frigid Onanoko wanna say a lot but not know enough to justify telling you off. The situation not seem bad but FO worried about lack of pace. More important, the physical contact is not proportional to the amount of 'feeling' you have for this guy. It is obvious that you want to be physical with him, but don't give hugs and especially holding hands for free. He'll get spoiled. Spoiled boys walk away because they fail to see their benefactor as such. They no thankful! They betray the giving girls nyah!
So you still have him and he show increasing affection. Make sure to require some of his own effort. You can give him hints but he'll have to figure out on his own that he loves you. (Probably he doesn't know it yet - assuming you two match in the first place.) Since for you this seem the first time you begin to love, go at your own pace, as long as you do keep a pace.
FO suggest you find a song with some suggestive lyrics. Find song that properly give the proper hints and then find stuff about song. Google for history, of band or whatever. Say that it your favourite (if it has a message you agree with, that become really easy) and just have plenty of things to say about. The goal is that when you recommend it, you give it so much significance that it'll have to finally get through his dumb head that he should listen to it carefully. When it come to picking up signals, disposable coffee cups can be more receptive than many guys. Nobody ever told them what to listen to, that's the problem. So it not may work. Worst case is if he ask whether you 'intend to give some message to him.' Normal reaction is to get pissed and negate, just because he such an idiot. Better to leave it open. Tell him, 'I like the song, so if you think it has some special meaning, please tell me.' Or whatever. He will have to bring up the theme of some closer relationship, never you.
Maybe a month after he crushed you under his kisses, you might confide how you had a crush on him for a long time. His ego cannot handle such a thing beforehand. So spare him.
Wish you luck, FO say bye now!
Shucake keep us updated!!
>>556
lie back, spread your legs and yell "stick it in me cowboy!"
no
no
no
what she should do is tell him "i heard you have cock and i love cock so give me cock"
>>557
Thank you, FO.
Haha, the guy isn't my first love, but he is probably the first guy I've gotten close to like this that I didn't meet online. We hug, but it's not everyday or anything.. just after we hung out together and we're heading home. Should I stop reaching for his hand when we hang out together? He really isn't the one to start things other than the hug. One of my friend's think he just might be shy.
As for what's been going on.. we haven't gotten around to doing anything after school this week. He still askes if I want to go to lunch with him. Yesterday one of my friends was with us and she doesn't like the guy at all. And he didn't seem too spiffy with her. So it was very awkward, especially since my friend didn't want him to know her name (she really hates it for some reason) so I was caught between her wanting me to keep quiet about it and him wanting me to say it. He found it out eventually after some hints.. and I quickly finished my lunch and went off with my friend to get them seperated.
It was all.. pretty silly, yeah. But it kinda helped me talk more openly to him. As open as I could when in a nervous, giggly, fit. -_-
I'm pretty much single and lonely. It's not that it is hard to talk to a girl, it's just that if you have one bad experience with a girl.. it tends to haunt you for life :/ Which happens to me on numerous occassions. how would I counter that?
>>562 look for the right girl next time... Theres gotta be at least one which you will find perfect for you :)
Thats also a problem I have although I am confident for the most part when talking to girls. However I think its espeicially hard when you have a bad experience with one girl in school, because she will probably tell her friends and then everyone in that girls social circle will develop some biased opinion of you.
I'm a fat, depressed, anxious chick with ED-NOS.
So yeah, lonely would be my middle name.
So to all you hikki's and partial hikki's, turn off the pc, get out of the house, and make some friends before you become like me.
>>529 here.
Well, I'm going to ask her out next time I see her.
We're already friends and all, so I don't think it makes sense to ask her on a date or something first off as so much it seems to confess my feelings to her.
Any suggestions on how to approach this?
I've been following this thread for a while, using it as a kind of real life soap opera. I thought I might de-lurk for a moment to give some people a view into this sad creature which is myself.
There's this girl I like (how original, but you have to start somehow.) I met her through the language school I attend; she's not my teacher (if that were the case I think I would give up instantly) but rather she's undertaking training to become one. The very first time I saw her, I was initially distracted by her looks (clothing style to be more precise), but what eventually got me was her amazing niceness. Genuinely good people are very rare around here and she's simply amazing.
We meet in a social setting (school-related but unofficial) once a week and in school once a week. We always say hi and often talk, whether it be at the weekly gatherings or around school. Over time I've been developing a crush, and as always, this is where the problems begin.
Due to past situations my fear of rejection is incredibly high. Rejections in high school were all really harsh. In university this one girl decided she would make me a stalker, and ruined my reputation. Anyway whatever the root cause, it had me in a situation where I was content to remain in this crush limbo and enjoy the fuzzy feelings inside every time I meet her. On another thread I probably remarked something to this effect, saying that I would never want to lose it.
But lately I'm not so sure. I wouldn't say I've been fantasising, but my feelings have been becoming somewhat stronger. It's at the point now where my brain is running simulations of asking her out, but still not actually letting me do it. For example, today there was a moment where the two of us were actually alone, which would usually be the right time to bring such things up. One part of me would say "here's the line, just say it", and the other part would throw that shit in the incinerator and crisp it up.
I get the feeling that if I manage to say half a confession, I will end up stuttering or saying something else for the second half due to this resistance. Really great comedic effect in romantic comedy, but not so fun if you're a victim of it. If I succeed in saying it and she turns me down, I'm sure she's the kind of person who won't do anything bad as I trust her a lot. But for some reason my brain won't let me get out of this situation, like it has a happiness filter designed to prevent me getting what I want.
Anyway I'll end it here as it's already a rant. Don't laugh too hard.
>>567 don't worry, no need to be insecure about this. Frigid Onanoko give you 100% guarantee if you confess, you will be turned down. Dropped like a brick. Maybe more like deceased animal? Something like that. Probably not so directly, more like the way you icky-eww walk around roadkill on the road.
Or maybe you would like to give a reason why she should be impressed by you. If you can convince FO that your target might want to be with you, then you have chance.
Not much more to say. FO say bye now!
>>567
Well, FO was harsh.
but his my view. Don't confess... or atleast don't say "I love you" or something similar.
that is too direct for a situation like this. Depending on how long both her and you known and talked to each other. You may have to try a more indirect or casual approach.
Instead of saying, I like you. Ask her out on a date. not just some friendly outing, but just a nice simple date.
If she refuses, move on, don't worry, I don't think she'll hate you for it is you don't come on too strong. And if she does, she's a bitch and getting involved with her would have been more trouble than it's worth. And there are plenty of other women out there that give alot less trouble out in the world.
Remember, after that, if you are rejected, you can still remain friends... except you HAVE to stop treating her like you like her and just treat her as a friend. If you can't do that, you can't be friends.
Just put that fish back in the ocean and wait for the next one to pull on your string.
But if you succeed. Thumbs up.
There's actually a movie I want to watch coming out this week. I'm going to watch it regardless but I will for the hell of it, try to invite her. It's horror though so refusal could mean a dislike of the genre. Then again if she really did like me, she would probably go unless she really, really, really had something against it.
And FO was harsh, yeah. Maybe even inaccurate too, as plenty of guys who have no redeeming qualities have girls.
you could ask her to go to A movie. not tell her what it is, kinda make her guess and see how willing she is to go see it with you before telling her what it is.
of course...you may end up going to 2 movies in that case- one by yourself and then whatever movie she wants to see as the 2nd. Especially if "what movies do you like' comes up in that conversation.
I will see if that strategy works. She may be able to guess what kind of movie it is actually, as I'm sure I've talked about horror when she was in the group. And two movies would be double the time with her, which is positive too.
Every additional day feels so much longer. Today this somehow translated to work; I was able to complete two day's worth of decent work in one seemingly long day. When I run the scenario through in my head my heart starts pounding and I can only imagine how much harder it's going to be with her standing in front of me. Times like this I start to think how inconvenient the human body is.
I just found this thread and wanted to vent, so here goes. I will try not to make it longer than it needs to be.
I'm single and I've never had a boyfriend or done anything with a guy besides danced and a kiss on the cheek. It bothers me and I've been lonely for a very long time.
I'm just transfered to a 4 year college after I got my Associates and I hardly know anybody. Problem is I'm more shy than I'd like to admit. I feel like I've made progress over the last few years with the help of some Zoloft and a therapist, but coming to a completely different situation has made me crawl back into my shell again. My therapist says that a huge change takes time to adjust, but everyday I still feel the loneliness of no real friends and no boyfriend.
Haha, it doesn't help that more than half of the guys that go to my college are gay and the girls outnumber the guys by a lot.
Still, I only hope that I will acquire some real friends soon, because I am trying even if my efforts may be in vain, and maybe a boyfriend later on. I just don't like how my long-bottled-up loneliness gets to me so often.
That's all.
My university was like that (only the opposite ratio.) When I would go to classes the ratio would be 10:1 and it would seem like the ratio was 5:1 when walking around campus. Then I joined a couple of clubs and discovered that some clubs had an unusually high female ratio. Not to mention the clubs were in general, good for making normal friends.
Still I didn't get a girl throughout my entire time in university, the depression from that probably contributed to my backing out before getting the second degree of my double degree.
My battle is tonight. My stomach is churning... I thought it was hunger but eating lunch hasn't stopped it at all. My mind is already trying to rationalise a way out of saying anything at all.
Can I post if I'm not technically single? :(
See, I'm seeing a guy (waves girl flag), and I don't exactly want to. He's a great guy, probably my best friend, but he's also an annoying clingy weeaboo b-tard who has NOT FUCKING LURKED. I think I'd be fine with the b-tard shit if it weren't for the fact that I know more about the memes he's always pointlessly spouting at the most inopportune moment. And I rarely if ever go on /b/.
Anyway, yeah, I'm being a total pussy about breaking up with him, because I'm scared of not having him as a friend any more.
Doesn't help that I have multiple others I'm interested in, none of who anything will ever happen with.
One is this guy I met a few months ago... he flirted with me, I flirted with him, things were progressing pretty well. Only problem was, he was only in my state for a short visit, then he went back home (~1000 miles away). We still IM each other sometimes, but it's not the same at all. Nothings going to happen unless he moves out here, and that's not going to happen any time soon.
The other is a girl I see about once a month. (Lol, bisexual attention whore.) Not likely that anything's going to happen there either, because I don't think she's interested in other girls.
Eh, it's an okay situation, I guess. Other than the occasional pangs of horniness, I'm not too interested in romance. Just wish I was better at meeting people in general.
>>575
is there a club or something at your university? like a gaming club or oragami? just attend the meetings and just sit there. you don't have to even talk to anyone. sit there long enough and either you'll become comfortable enough to talk to the guys there or the guys will talk to you. i mean come on, guys dig shy girls ~_^
I have to rant. The other day I realized that my standards are impossibly high, and that, not shyness, is the reason I've never seriously dated anyone. I can tick off a very long list of everything I want some potential girlfriend to be. Mainly I want someone who doesn't find me weird and would want to hang out with me a lot. But I make most of that judgement based on how they react to me when I talk to them as a friend. So far the only success I've had is when I go out on a blind date and the girl clearly wanted to end with something exciting, and even then I was thinking to myself "she probably won't last too long with me if we date."
I'm constantly imagining that there has to be someone else at my college who has the same problem. How would I ever meet someone like that? A dating site? I dunno.
Your standards are not high,... They are unrealistic.
Big difference.
Solution: develop a real interest for other people, instead of just searching someone to love yourself.
>I want someone who doesn't find me weird and would want to hang out with me a lot.
>Your standards are not high,... They are unrealistic.
Yes, that's absolutely unreasonable. I mean imagine, the thought of a girlfriend who actually likes you and enjoys your company. Talk about setting the bar too high.
Absolutely, your wishes are purely self referencial, and probably that is part of the problem.
I'm not saying you are setting the bar to high,... just handling it the wrong fashion
"When the tears come streaming down your face
When you lose something you can't replace
When you love someone but it goes to waste
Could it be worse?"
>>Yes, that's absolutely unreasonable. I mean imagine, the thought of a girlfriend who actually likes you and enjoys your company. Talk about setting the bar too high.
Remember: this is 4-ch. For any of us, that's setting the bar too high.
>>584
Hey, the blind date turned out pretty well... I just need to force myself to talk to people more, I think.
I need a mute woman so I wouldn't have to talk all the time.
Say any love story involving lonely nerdy engineers out there? I could use some good one.
>>587
love stories involving lonely nerds you say? alost EVERY one of them are related to this concept.
This man speaks the truth. Frankly, nerds are the only people who really need love stories. Everyone else lives it.
That's somewhat true, though I'm a nerd and I'm living a love story. Albeit an odd one.
Help my girlfriend found out I was asking for dating advice on here and dumped me.
What should I do?
All though this probably isn't the right thread explain to her what happened. That you had good intentions. Hopefully you did.
Your girlfriend is insecure and she sucks. And show her this post, too.
your girlfriend is narrow-minded - you were soliciting advice for both of your relationship's own good. unless she's hermes. kita!
She should have used the guy's furry porn collection. That's usually the first thing they find.
>>591 She probably assumed that everything you did was merely a product of strangers' advice. She probably feels that her privacy has been compromised and that you were insincere.
I feel the same way if my partner consults the horoscope. I mean what the shit is that? Taking advice from some columnist they don't even know... where do they get off?